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Advice file #8: don't read self-help books
I hate self-help books. I do my best to avoid reading them. But I was weak. I got sucked into one not too long ago, and darned if it isn’t making me second guess myself way too much as my lat… more →
Confessions of a Serial E-dater
edater don'ts.
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edater wrote 1 year ago: Don’t put 69, 666, or 420 in your username (unless your age clearly indicates you were *born* … more →
i finally caved.
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edater wrote 1 year ago: A couple of days ago I started a spreadsheet to keep all these “potential matches” strai … more →
you've got to be kidding me.
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edater wrote 1 year ago: Are people really this gullible?!? A couple of nice tips in the article, though, if you tend to beli … more →
humor on profiles.
edater wrote 1 year ago: One of the problems with putting too much funny on your profile is that it is really easy for your r … more →
edater's edating rules, part 3
edater wrote 1 year ago: 12- This next rule can be a really tough one, because, as a friend of mine pointed out recently, mos … more →
a bird in the hand is worth?
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edater wrote 1 year ago: The major problem with dating, according to a friend of mine, is that it’s like shopping for a … more →
advice file #6: learn to like getting lost
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edater wrote 1 year ago: One of the ways you can reduce the stress of online-dating in particular, and dating more generally, … more →
another of edater's pet peeves
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edater wrote 1 year ago: Just received. Email communication, initiated by “potential match” Subject line: hello! … more →
advice file #5: be vulnerable. don't be vulnerable.
edater wrote 1 year ago: Most people feel a certain amount of fear when facing the possibility of a new romantic relationship … more →
don't. don't. don't. (pretty please with sugar on it?)
edater wrote 1 year ago: Don’t lie as a trick to get matches to look at you. It’s a bad strategy. Just got the fo … more →
advice file #4: cultivate outlets for your obsessive tendencies
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edater wrote 1 year ago: Years ago, a friend of mine was suffering after a particularly heartbreaking break-up. How this mani … more →
edater's e-dating rules, cont.
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edater wrote 1 year ago: 6- Compliments are great, but only the ones that show you read my profile or listened to what I said … more →
does everyone deserve a 2nd date?
edater wrote 1 year ago: Uh, that one’s easy. The answer is absolutely, without a doubt, “no.” There are de … more →
a case for honesty, and for not taking this process personally
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edater wrote 1 year ago: So…I went on a date a couple of weeks ago with a guy that I really liked. (The first truly int … more →
edater's e-dating rules
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edater wrote 1 year ago: 1- If you’re not interested, let me know sooner, rather than later. 2- If I drive over an hour … more →
advice file #2: streamline and systematize
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edater wrote 1 year ago: Advice file #2 says: Have a standardized email that you can tweak to send to potential matches. As m … more →
advice file #1: don't get depressed, just run the numbers!
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edater wrote 1 year ago: I’ve watched a fair number of friends use online dating sites, and I’ve been through a c … more →
