Apparently while I was away, a large proportion of the women on my floor have developed a stupid gene and kept bothering me all blasted day about silly shit I had no interest in at all and really wasn’t my problem. I get shitty about this kind of thing because if it is genuinely a specialist thing you are asking me to do, such as reconfigure an atomic bomb or hack into the company mainframe, then by all means, come ask and we’ll see what we can do. But PowerPoint presentations? Researching basic stuff and god help me, writing your sales plan for you… piss off you lazy sod! This is stuff that you can teach yourself – yes it may take some time and you make break a sweat from the effort, but it’s your job.

What mortified me the most though was there wasn’t a single man bothering me. Oh no, just the chicks. To be fair though, had it been any other day, I may have been more accommodating but today I woke up ready to fight. Don’t ask me why, it was literally like waking up with your fists in the air ready for action. I conclude that I must have had a dream about being back in school with the entire class picking on me or something because this was just a new level of tension.

So first up was ‘please think I’m posh because I talk posh’ brunette.

“Phaaaaaantom,” (that’s right, you stretch that A) “I’ve done this presentaaaaaation, so would you mind aaaaaaaaawfully having a look and just tarting it up a bit? You’re sooooooo good at this sort of thing”

“Let me see it,” I sighed. She proceeded to show me a PowerPoint presentation with some words and randomly scattered pictures on it. What a lazy tit!

“So in actual fact,” I said, “what you have done here is sweet fuck all and now you think you are going to dump it on me with some lame ass flattery and because I have nothing better to do I’m just going to roll over and do your work for you?” I paused. “Unless I’ve misunderstood.”

“What? No!” she feigned horror, “That’s not what I meant, I just thought if you had a couple of minutes spare you could take a look at it and see if there is anything you can do.” A colleague sniggered in the background. Wannabe Posh Brunette buggered off.

Next on the agenda was the Blond Bitch. She has inferiority issues and is resentful that she isn’t of a higher rank than she is, and constantly tries to get me to do what she wants. She came storming up. Oh goody, bring it on!

“This email went out without my approval and it’s just all wrong. Why did you not show it to me first?”

“Well first off, I don’t think that there is anything wrong with it and secondly I only deal with directors.” That didn’t go down well at all.

“In future you must run this sort of thing past me!” Don’t be ridiculous woman, like that is ever going to happen..

“No” I said. “If you don’t like the way things are done, I suggest you go to your director and have a whinge at him. Right now, I have other things to do.”

And lastly came Mini-me. I call her Mini-me, because she is a little carbon copy of her manager. It’s hilarious. She dresses, talks, and walks like her. Styles her hair the same and occasionally forgets she isn’t a manager and tries it on with her colleagues. It never works.

“Hiya!” she chirped obviously hyped on drugs, “do you remember that thing I asked you to do? You know, like a couple of weeks back? Did you do it because I’m being asked for it”

“Is this the same thing I said I wasn’t going to do because it was a stupid idea? That thing? No, I’ve done nothing with it. Mainly because it was a stupid idea.”

“Ha ha ha ha,” she said nervously. The penny dropped “you’re serious?” As serious as your complete lack of identity, sister.

So thus ended my day. What on earth was all that about?

Anger is a feeling of displeasure, which usually shows itself in a desire to fight back at the supposed cause. It is accompained by physical changes in the body. When we are angry, our pulse may become more rapid, our blood pressure may rise, adrenaline will enter the bloodstream, and muscles may become tense. The combination of angry feelings and physical arousal often propel people into action. All too often, people act out violently or aggressively as a result of their anger. Hence, in anger management/executive coaching sessions, we encourage the client to talk about his or her angry feelings rather than acting upon them.

Come to me….

Heaven is Here

Fire ball gaining energy….this is hOT.

I think therefore I am….

Hello Zorro, how is your health and water?

Wish you were here….

What’s all this about Harry – my harry actually?

And William – Where art thou?

I’m looking for you?

exsquueze me – THE TRUTH PLEASE?

Anger is one emotion we all have experienced.  It is part of the collective human experience.  Anger can be both an asset and a detriment, depending on how it is felt, used and experienced.  Anger is powerful and usually tells us that we have an unmet need.  While anger can be a “first responder” emotion, it is usually takes the back seat to other more less acknowledged emotions.  For example, while crossing the street you may have almost been hit by a driver not paying attention.  You may have responded with anger by gesturing wildly, but the first emotion may have been fear, panic or worry.

What many people fail to realize is that their anger is more likely an indicator of other emotions that are not being expressed as well as needs that have not been communicated to a specified recipient(s).  By stopping for a moment when angry and asking yourself, “how was I feeling before I got angry?”  The answer to this question can usually be answered with some thought.  Most people will say that before they got angry they felt blamed, minimized, worried, scared, anxious, or criticized.  By learning to express our first responder emotions we are better able to let other know what is really going on inside our hearts and minds.  It also allows us to better communicate our needs because the true emotion is clear.

An effective way to learn how to improve this skill would be to take an anger management class from a qualified provider and/or program.  Anger management classes teach effective skills in emotional awareness and communication.  By practicing these skills, one can better learn how to master one of life’s most misunderstood and difficult emotions, anger.

For anger management classes in southern California or for online anger management classes that can be taken anywhere in the nation click on the above links or call our office at 949 715-2694

Ari Novick, Ph.D.
AJ Novick Group, Inc. Anger Management

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Why did this happen children?

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Hello Children…what is this about?

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Get a load of these apples…..

Stairstep Thinking Examples

Click on CONFLICT RESOLUTION to read the entire article.

Why Hypnosis Can Change Your Life For The Better
Believe the hype or think for yourself
For too long hypnosis has had ‘difficult’ press. If a person doesn’t understand something they have 3 options open to them.
1) They might be sceptical and therefore save the trouble of looking further and possibly benefiting. 2) They may conclude it is dangerous and to be avoided at all costs. 3) They may spend time discovering the truth behind the hype.
If you don’t know much about a topic it’s easy to be suspicious. Some people assume hypnosis is akin to a carnival side show, others consider it mystic mumbo jumbo or ‘mind control.’ For those who look beyond the hype the truth is far more illuminating.
The most powerful tool you possess
There are potentially huge benefits for those who use hypnosis as part of everyday life. When you understand hypnosis you start to see its potential to improve human performance in the physical, emotional and intellectual realms. For me, rumour, gossip and suspicion weren’t good enough.
I determined to learn all I could about hypnosis – I learned every fact and practised every technique under the sun. I took several training courses – some good, some terrible. I invested thousands of hours of devoted study to hypnosis and discovered just what is possible. I hypnotised friends, neighbours and work colleagues. Hypnosis greatly changed things for me on a personal level
How hypnosis helped me
I used to be shy. Thanks to hypnosis I can now talk to thousands at a time and can approach anybody calmly and confidently.
I used to have poor concentration and procrastinate; thanks to hypnosis I can instantly motivate myself.
I used to find physical work outs and exercise exhausting but because of hypnosis I am now in the best shape of my life.
Incidentally I also stopped myself blushing with hypnosis. Now if ever I have a difficult call or conversation coming up, something I may naturally feel reluctant to do (you know the kind of thing) I spontaneously self hypnotise and rehearse the upcoming situation feeling good, with myself remaining calm. In this way I habitually set my own emotional ‘blue prints’ for up coming situations. Having said that it’s naturally that some people have concerns or half digested ‘hand me down’ ideas regarding hypnosis. A common one is the one about ‘mind control.’ However what does this really mean?
Why you are more in control of yourself in hypnosis
If someone expresses concerns about being ‘controlled’ in hypnosis what they mean is they don’t want to be like a robot, an automaton that is forced to obey the every whim of the hypnotist. We can’t help but influence others but we don’t control them. To understand why you need to understand hypnosis better.
So what is hypnosis like?
Hypnosis isn’t like a coma. It’s not unconsciousness – more a subtle shifting of consciousness. In hypnosis, you can still think logically but you also have access to the ’software’ of your mind so that you can update instinctive emotional and physical responses. In fact the hypnotised subject (not the hypnotist) calls the shots. When I hypnotise someone I need to go at their speed and respond to their needs and expectations. Hypnosis will give you more control in your own life because of what it enables you to do.
How can I be so sure?
Because over the decades I’ve seen all kinds of people, all ages and from all backgrounds turn their lives around thanks to hypnosis. When you use hypnosis for yourself it improves confidence in all kinds of ways. When you use it to change other’s lives it just blows you away. This is what I mean.
When I first hypnotised someone to feel no sensation in a painful arthritic arm it was an incredible feeling. When I first cured life long phobias quickly and comfortably I was astounded. When I stopped hardened alcoholics from drinking and even got a heroin addict off the stuff and back into mainstream life again I started to feel angry that people could just associate hypnosis with entertainment.
With the aid of hypnosis I (and many people I have trained and worked with) have helped severely depressed people feel strong and positive again. The rewards and satisfactions are hard to describe. I’m going to take a stand against ignorance and short sightedness around hypnosis and here’s why.
Why you need to reclaim hypnosis for yourself
Hypnosis is your birthright. It’s nature’s optimum learning tool. In fact to learn and perform anything well you need to experience a natural focussing of attention, a natural kind of hypnosis. To be successful hypnosis needs to be your companion and friend.
Successful people use it naturally all the time because hypnosis is natural. It’s the way we learn new responses. Unlike medications its side effects are purely positive – one expectant mother I worked with to feel relaxed during child birth later reported that she was also more relaxed when flying!
Hypnosis is easy to learn and every body can benefit. Hypnosis is a safe environment to ‘try out’ new behaviours and emotional patterns before you experience them for real. So the young man can ask a woman out for a date many times in calm relaxed hypnosis so that by the time he does it for real it feels real and natural and relaxed. Sports people who use hypnosis learn new quicker and more accurately. So hypnosis gives you more control of yourself and your life, it’s natural and gives you instant benefits and it’s a way of ‘trying on’ and establishing new patterns of emotional response and behaviour, Hypnosis enables you to develop yourself as a human being.
HypnosisDownloads.com offer a free course called ‘Learn Hypnosis in 5 Days’.
Article by Mark Tyrrell of Hypnosis Downloads.com.
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How are you?

I’m going for a drink over the next few weeks here.

So please leave me alone.

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There are a few shops down our road.

from the little swallow…little lark….little birdie num num.. ie paki. heh heh

I’ve been barred from them.   Ask them why I don’t come down, if you’ve seen me there.  I do hand out my card.

Just to say, being rich doesn’t grant you all privillages.  ie Silver spoon mouths lack something that comes with crowning the true kings of england.  You have to have been poor to deserve any respect from me.

Have you heard of the, charming I’m sure.   Alternatively this is very compelling viewing…. if you care to watch it chaps.

adios

Anger Management Role-Play

Click ANGER MANAGEMENT ROLE-PLAY to read the entire article and get the PDF download to use in your classroom.

Anger Management Story

Please note that SPAM is an acronym: S.P.A.M. = Stop-Ponder-Appreciate-Moment

Links to all 3 chapters for SPAM and Stairstep Thinking

Read Chapter 1 – Jason’s terrible day all started with Blake’s bullying

Read Chapter 2 – Lee helps turn Jason’s day around

Read Chapter 3 – How do you handle being put-down?

I want to thank you first and foremost for being who you are. It is funny to consider how there are so many people from so many walks of life and in each and every one of us, is ‘you’. I wanted to bring that individual tree in a forest of trees aspect forward first because I will write this to no one in particular. This blog is not intended for any single person specifically and is not being written with anyone in mind.

It is for all, intended for the masses, it is a message for the tree and written in such a manner that we can all use it. It is written so that it sounds like it is written with you in mind even though it is not you specifically. As you read it and if it sounds like it is for you, it probably it is. So here goes.

Dear You,

GET OVER IT ALREADY!! For too many years you have been asked to take others into consideration when you fly off of the handle but you don’t. You continue to put yourself and your needs before others. Get over it already. Anger has only isolated you.

Do you remember all those people that I spoke of at the beginning of this blog? Every person on the planet living today, every person that has lived on this planet before you, we all make up the forest and we have all grown and stood up like you have, like you are doing. Now here is the part that you might ignore when those around you are trying to help you but your problems that you might think are your problems alone? We have all gone through it at some point or we will all go through it at some point as well. You are not alone no matter how much you want to be, no matter how much you don’t like who you are or what part of society you belong to, you are not alone.

The fucking world and Universe do not revolve around you. Get over yourself already.  You have qualities worthy of being recognizable but you disregard those qualities and dishonor yourself as soon as you let your anger get the better of you. It does not do a body good at all to let anger and stress be the governing forces in your life. You are hurting yourself whether you believe it or not.

Now I am sure that your loved ones, those around you and in most cases, that one person who will never give up on you has been trying to tell you this but you are set in your ways and you won’t listen. You need to hear this. You need to give up on your anger. You need to get over yourself, get over what ever the hell it is that causing you to be so fucking miserable. You need to get out more. You need exercise. You need a lot of stuff and honestly, what you really need is to just accept that shit happens, that it will happen and regardless of shit happening, you need to recognize that you have people in your life that want nothing but the best for you.

So You, I hope you have taken my words to heart. If you were sent to this blog via a hyperlink, do not be upset with the person that sent it to you. That person is probably one of those that will not give up on you. You are blessed to have someone in your life that will not give up on you.

Now of course that brings me to someone else who I feel I need to say something to before I get back to you, someone who might use that guise of being the person that doesn’t want to give up on you but is actually just looking for another way to boss you around…

Hey bossy person,

GET OVER YOURSELF! [now start over at the top and every time I speak of anger, change the wording to reflect being bossy and controlling. There are other people in the world and your controlling nature is not doing anyone any favors, least of all is you]

Okay back you You again. As I said, if you are here because someone wanted you to read this, you are blessed and lucky to have someone like that in your life. There are people who are truly alone and have no one in their lives at all. Well guess what, they are most likely people who have never given up on their conviction to make everyone around them miserable. If you want to be left alone, if you want nothing to do with people that want to help you then you are truly missing the point. You need to talk to a professional perhaps and try to regain that part of your life that was happy. For some and I am guessing most, that is supposed to be your childhood and I know that there are parts of your childhood that are truly memorable and happy just as there are unhappy parts.

This is true for each and every person that you know or are aware of. Our childhoods do shape who we can become as adults. “…who we CAN become…” I wanted to emphasize that CAN part because while it seems like your issue is so large that you can never get over it, you are not alone and I don’t know why you resist that knowledge. What is it that makes your problems more important that those who love you? Sorry, I got a bit carried away there for a second. I was talking about our childhoods and how they shape our lives as adults. How they have the potential to shape our lives.

No matter what happened in our childhoods we have the choice as adults to let that govern our lives and hold us down or we can choose to get over it and be free in the knowledge that no matter what, you have the choice to be happy and that it is possible.

So You. I want to thank you for being you. I want to thank you for reading this and if you feel I wrote this for you in particular? I didn’t. It was written for each and every person that has had a bad day or a bad decade. Okay, more so for the people who have had a bad decade because truly you need get over it.

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c’est incredible – good ole oldies!!

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hip hip hooray!!!

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