Je fais partie d’une catégorie de femmes dont je ne sais pas si elle est répandue ou non. La catégorie des filles uniques dont 90% des cousins vivaient sous d’autres latitudes et qui a réussi à se rendre à l’âge de 32 ans non seulement sans avoir de bébé elle-même mais sans qu’aucune de ses amies proches ne devienne mère non-plus. Au résultat je fais partie de la catégorie de femmes de 32 ans qui n’a jamais eu à s’occuper d’un tout petit bébé, jamais.

Mais une des données de mes statistiques a changé le mois dernier. Une amie a accouché de son premier enfant. Eh oui.
Gros bouleversements dans ma tête à l’annonce de sa grossesse ansi qu’à l’annonce de l’arrivée du petit nouveau. C’était effectivement la première amie qui soit de ma génération qui attire mon attention sur le fait que j’ai 32 ans et que je n’ai toujours pas d’enfant. Inutile d’en dire plus vous imaginez bien la petite crise existentielle que j’ai traversée.

Il y a deux jours je dînais chez mon amie et elle m’expliquait ses craintes quant à prendre une babysitter qu’elle ne connaît pas pour garder son petit chou. Je lui ai répondu, en pensant sincèrement chaque mot de ce que je disais: “C’est dommage que je n’aie aucune expérience avec les bébés, je t’aurais offert de le garder.”

Sachant donc la catégorie dans laquelle je me trouve, vous imaginez bien ma surprise mon effroi quand la maman personne complètement inconsciente me répond qu’elle non-plus il y a un mois n’avait jamais eu d’expérience avec les bébés, que ça venait tout seul, et qu’elle aurait vraiment confiance si je le gardais. J’ai souri me suis étouffée avant d’accepter, me disant que de toutes façons, à cette idée saugrenue, c’est le papa qui allait s’étouffer et remettre les choses à leur place. Mais non.

Le lendemain, je suis donc partie à 22H00, nounou apprentie, pour prendre mon poste et apprendre en moins de quinze minutes ce que j’aurais aimé pouvoir étudier pendant trois semaines, avant de me retrouver toute seule dans une maison avec un petit être qui, à moins que je m’en occupe bien, ne survivra pas.

J’apprends donc à changer une couche, à chauffer les biberons, à ne pas m’inquiéter systématiquement parce qu’il fait “iii” ou “aaa”, et voilà, l’aventure est lancée. Mon amie croyait avoir le temps de lui donner son biberon avant de partir, mais le petit rigolo a décidé de se réveiller alors que le taxi attendait déjà devant la maison. Je me suis donc retrouvée avec le petit être dans les bras et le biberon à la main. Quand la porte s’est refermée derrière mon amie je peux vous dire… je crois que je ne me suis jamais sentie aussi seule au monde. La première idée qui me soit venue doit vaguement ressembler à quelque chose comme: “Ne meurs pas dans mes bras s’il-te-plaît.”

Alors je dois dire que de passer quatre heures comme ça, ce fut un événement. Un événement au cours duquel j’ai dû faire face à de nombreuses et différentes angoisses. Des angoisses comme:
Est-ce que cette tête ça veut dire qu’il est en pleine dépression ou il ne se rend pas compte de ce qu’il fait? Est-ce que cette tête ça veut dire qu’il est en train d’avoir la peur de sa vie ou est-ce que le fait qu’il enchaîne sur une grimace comique ça annule tout? Alors qu’il est en train de téter le biberon et qu’il s’arrête net et ne bouge plus, c’est qu’il s’est subitement endormi en mangeant ou bien qu’il est mort? Pourquoi il sourit en coin comme ça? Qu’est-ce qu’il regarde juste derrière moi fixement alors qu’il n’y a personne ici? Pourquoi il m’observe comme ça il ne m’aime pas? EST-CE QUE LE HOQUET ÇA PEUT TUER UN NOURRISSON? Quand il fait une bulle est-ce que la prochaine étape c’est l’étouffement? Devenir tout rouge c’est synonyme d’agonie? Est-ce qu’il se rend compte qu’il est mon premier bébé et qu’il se dit “Je suis pas dans la merde..”?  Est-ce que je dois changer le film à la télé parce qu’il y a des coups de feux dedans? Je vais baisser le son quand même. Ah ben j’entends plus rien. Au moment du rot, quand on le met vertical et que la tête s’enfonce dans les épaules, est-ce que ça arrête de s’enfoncer à un moment? Quand je change sa couche, le temps qu’il a les fesses à l’air et qu’il éternue, est-ce que ça veut dire qu’il va attraper une pneumonie? Bon je le rhabille ou cas où.

Voyez…

Mais bon. Bien évidemment, au-delà de tout ça, ce que je retiens surtout c’est une impression extraordinaire d’être tout d’un coup assez grande pour vivre ça. Assez grande pour être responsable de la survie d’un petit être démuni. Assez grande pour m’occuper à 100% de quelqu’un d’autre que de moi-même – au moins pendant quatre heures, c’est déjà un début

Puis il y a eu le fait d’être face au plus grand des possibles. Face à quelqu’un qui n’a encore jamais rien dit, jamais rien fait, qui n’a pas encore fait d’erreurs, qui n’a pas encore perdu de temps… quelqu’un qui a encore une chance de devenir quelqu’un de parfait et de faire les choses bien. Je sais bien qu’il deviendra aussi quelqu’un avec ses défauts et ses qualités, mais c’est juste le fait d’être là, à ce moment précis où cette théorie de perfection potentielle  existe encore. J’ai trouvé ça magique.

Et pour finir le sentiment de joie immense quand on se rend compte que ce petit être décide qu’à tel moment, il se sent mieux dans vos bras que tout seul dans son petit lit; qu’il pleure quand il est allongé mais qu’il cesse de pleurer et s’endort dès que vous le prenez. Ça rassure sur soi-même. On se dit que si on arrive à faire ça, un petit truc qui semble aussi simple mais qui au final est si énorme, c’est qu’on doit avoir du bon en soi…
Sans compter la confiance témoignée par les deux parents en me laissant ce à quoi ils tiennent le plus au monde…

Oui. Je dois dire que grâce à cette petite soirée pouponnage,  je me suis levée un peu plus grande et un peu plus fière de moi ce matin.

Memilih Baby Sitter atau Pengasuh Anak

Saat ini, terutama di kota-kota besar, banyak Yayasan Baby Sitter atau pengasuh anak. Anda bisa saja mendatangi atau menelepon agen penyalur dari yayasan baby sitter untuk mencari pengasuh anak. Cara ini tidak selamanya mudah. Bisa timbul ketidakcocokkan antara Anda dengan calon pengasuh. Seorang pengasuh sebaiknya mencintai anak-anak. Tetapi ini bukan jaminan ia cocok dengan anak. Sebelum menentukan, Anda sebaiknya melakukan proses seleksi untuk melihat kecocokan si kecil dengan pengasuh. Jika si kecil cepat berinteraksi dengan pengasuhnya berarti ada kecocokan awal.

Yang harus diperhatikan dalam memilih pengasuh:

* Calon pengasuh memiliki kontrak kerja yang jelas dan resmi.
* Pilih calon pengasuh dari yayasan baby sitter yang memiliki kontrak kerja yang resmi.
* Pertimbangkan pengalaman dan rekomendasi dari orang lain yang pernah memakai jasa pengasuh dari yayasan baby sitter.
* Lakukan wawancara dan pendekatan secara pribadi untuk mengetahui kedekatan calon pengasuh dengan anak kecil.
* Carilah calon pengasuh yang pernah dan sudah memiliki anak.
* Cara dan nada bicara calon pengasuh. Ini akan membantu Anda mengetahui cara pengasuh memberi respon terhadap anak.
* Minta dan duplikasi surat tanda pengenal calon baby sitter, catat nomer telepon yayasan penyedia jasa atau yayasan baby sitter, keluarga dan tempat tinggal calon pengasuh. Bila perlu, lakukan pengecekan terlebih dahulu untuk memastikan kebenarannya.

Sekalipun Anda telah mendapat pengasuh yang tepat untuk anak, jangan menyerahkan semua perawatan dan pola asuh kepadanya. Anda sebaiknya tetap memiliki andil dalam pengasuhan dan perawatan anak karena fungsi pengasuh/ baby sitter hanya membantu Anda untuk memenuhi kebutuhan anak, bukan mengganti pengasuhan orangtua.

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By far, my favorite thing about the National Youth Workers Convention in Atlanta was Perry Noble’s message to youth workers. Perry spoke on Saturday morning and left most people in the room feeling encouraged, energized, and pumped up for youth ministry. Perry Noble is a 6’ 6” 230 lb. Senior Pastor from New Spring Church in South Carolina. He started off by making a joke about his southern drawl. He said that in heaven, everyone will have a southern drawl, if you don’t believe that, you may not be going to heaven!

Perry’s message was based out of Acts 20:7-12. I’ve spoken to a few different youth workers at the convention and have heard mixed reviews/feelings about this message. The reviews/feelings ranged from “he nailed it,” to “he took the passage and made it apply to his topic!” When someone takes a passage and make sit say what they want it to say, it is known as “eisegesis.” Eisegesis is when you put your own ideas into the text to make it mean whatever you want it to.

For the record, I do not know where I stand on this matter! I loved what Perry had to say but I am not a Bible scholar so I don’t know if it was eisegesis or not.

Anyway, regardless of how you interpret the passage and the message he gave us, it’s time to move on. Perry went on to tell us that he believes there is a breakdown in communication with youth pastors and the church in general. He and many others believe that youth pastors are viewed as glorified babysitters in that we are supposed to watch the kids, teach them a few things, and when they are old enough to attend big people church and tithe; then they matter to the church. This is not the case and it should never be viewed as such. Perry was not saying that this is the case in all churches, but it is definitely something that he has seen happen occasionally. But regardless of whether your church falls into either of these categories, an alarming statistic is that around 80% of students are walking out the door when they turn 18, and many of them are never going to come back!

Youth ministry is a hard and vital job. Most people will disagree with that, but that is because they have no idea what it means to be a youth pastor. They think we get paid to hang out and play video games all day, but that is 100% inaccurate. There are days when we go home from youth ministry and it isn’t “Thank you Jesus!” it’s “Help me Jesus!” Rest assured…there is hope! Perry said that we, as youth workers, are game changers. We work in the ripest harvest in the world and if we can get our minds (senior pastors, youth pastors, volunteers) around several of these soon to be mentioned concepts, we could see a revolution in youth ministry and the local church. When youth ministry catches on fire through the local church, nothing can stop it!!!!

Perry and many of the other speakers who were senior pastors were very much in support of youth workers. Perry has four prayers that he is praying for youth ministry. Those prayers are: For Attention, For Submission, For a Biblical Foundation, and For Stewardship.

For Attention:

In the Bible passage that Perry spoke from (Acts 20:7-12), Paul was speaking to a group of people late into the night (because he intended to leave the next day) and basically had a long message planned for them. There was a young man (a youth) sitting in a window seal in the back of the room who fell into a deep sleep as Paul was preaching. Eutychus fell to the ground from the third story and died. Yikes! Perry said that in this story, Eutychus fell out of the window because no one was paying attention to the youth ministry of that church. When a church refuses to pay attention to the youth ministry, kids fall out of the window and die (a.k.a. – leave the church and never look back) each and every day.

Youth ministry is important, not just for the teenagers but for also for the church as a whole. The youth aren’t the church of tomorrow, THEY MATTER TODAY! Perry said “The kids that we are called to ministry to matter today and the church better wake up and smell the Starbucks because if not, the kids will fall out of the back window and die.” Perry’s philosophy is that you can tell if a church is paying attention to the youth by looking at how much money they spend on them. He says that you can never spend too much on your youth and children. I understand the premise of what he was saying, but I don’t know if it applies to every circumstance. Some churches simply can’t afford to put a lot of money in the youth fund, and they could be the church that supports their youth way more than the church with the large youth fund. Money shouldn’t matter and shouldn’t be a deciding factor on whether or not a church is paying attention to their youth (my thoughts).

Perry does something cool in his church. I don’t think it would work at every church, but it is something to hope for I guess. Perry believes that a youth group should never be asked to do a fundraiser for anything. He doesn’t allow the youth group at his church to do fundraising because he believes that the church and the older people should support them to show that they care.

If we want attention in our youth ministries, we need to start reaching kids for Jesus and seeing lives change! If the adults come into the sanctuary and have no place to sit because of the youth, the older people will pay attention and take them seriously. The last thing that Perry said about this first prayer for youth is that we need to not bang the budget drum, but we need to bang the kids need Jesus drum and change their lives!

For Submission:

The way a youth group gets noticed in the church is when they are completely submitted and sold out to Jesus! Perry says that we need less strategy and more spirit in our youth ministries, and I couldn’t agree more! Not only do we need submitted and sold out youth, but we need leaders who are as well. When God asks us to do something unbelievable, we need to say “Yes Lord!” In the Bible passage, Paul was so submitted to Jesus that he was willing to declare the impossible (that Eutychus was alive). We need to have complete submission.

In order to be completely submitted to God, according to Perry, “you have to be you!” We shouldn’t have the desire to be someone else or do ministry as they do it because you think they’re better than you. When you do this, it is known as ministry envy. You can read a post of mine about ministry envy by clicking here. Perry says that the problem with churches today is that there is too much imitation and no more revelation. He also said that youth pastors have a disease that he invented called “destination disease.” Destination disease is when people in ministry want to be over there (at the other church/ministry) because they think it’ll be better there. This is not true though because you take you with you and it will be exactly the same. You are you!

When we get to the point where we get it all figured out in our ministry, God will say “you don’t need me? Fine…go ahead!” We need to be in complete submission to God. When we do this, it is unbelievable. Leadership is as easy as listening to God and doing what He says! Perry’s prayer is to have a generation of youth pastors and workers completely sold out for Jesus. We are the ones who set the pace for what youth ministry will look like in 10-20 years!

For a Biblical Foundation:

After Paul (with God’s help) brought Eutychus back to life, they went upstairs again and broke bread. Paul got carried away preaching, the youth died, Paul declared something supernatural and brings the kid to life, and then comes back up to keep the focus on Jesus. Paul never stopped focusing on Jesus or teaching about him. This is an example to us. We need to never quite proclaiming who Jesus is to students. They need to know who He is and it is our job to tell them. Some people think that if we focus on only Jesus, then we won’t be relevant. Perry says that we won’t be irrelevant, we will be impotent! We’ve watered our youth ministries down with these next three things and the kids don’t even know who Jesus is when they graduate from or leave our youth groups. 1. Morality – we teach our kids to be good…problem is, if we teach our kids not to watch rated R movies or listen to “bad” music, they can become morally superior to everyone and no one likes them…we can’t teach them to be moral without Jesus. 2. Compromise – Everyone gets caught up in this game. We think that if a lot of kids come to our group and we do all kinds of fun things, we have a great ministry. But in reality, we are compromising who Jesus is to have a great crowd show up. Sometimes, youth ministries let kids show up and say it’s ok to do what you are doing and not repent. When they do this, they are leaving Jesus out of the picture…allowing compromise to creep into that ministry. 3. Personal Agendas – Don’t ever let your personal agenda trump the Gospel! We make our own personal agendas the agenda of the youth group. If we put anything in front of the cross, it becomes an idol in our ministry. Let’s worship God in splendor and majesty rather than trying to boil him down to fit into our social agendas.

For stewardship:

Perry’s prayer is that our prayer would be that we look at God and say “give me the ball…I’ll be hurt and play hurt, but I’ll do whatever it takes to push the ball down the field…I want the ball!” Perry said that in Acts 20:12, the youth ministry got brought back up and the church embraced stewardship…they said they want the ball.

We can do it, no matter how small our budget is. But if our attitude is that we want the ball, money doesn’t matter. It doesn’t happen because of lights, sound systems, looks, but because there is a sold out man and team saying give us the ball…and they are sold out for Jesus. Perry says that the senior pastor needs to make sure the youth ministry has everything they need and the youth pastor needs to sit down with his senior pastor and find out what his vision is…and then line up with that.

God’s plan is that youth ministry will thrive in the context of the local church to make a difference. When the church gets that right, it is on fire and is an unstoppable force!

Perry closed with the following comments:

“It’s always hard when we do what Jesus calls us to do. When we think it’s hard, may we think of Jesus hanging on the cross and bleeding! If no one else tells you this, I (Perry Noble) believe that you are the difference makers. Out of your ministries will be the next Billy Graham and other amazing church leaders! We will not fall…we want the ball!”

-          paulg

Memilih Baby Sitter

Memilih baby sitter untuk anak anda memerlukan ketelitian dan banyak pertimbangan. Salah-salah anak anda bisa terjebak dalam pengasuhan yang salah dari si baby sitter. Apalagi jika anda seorang wanita pekerja, dimana waktu anda setiap harinya lebih banyak dihabiskan di kantor, mau tidak mau baby sitter lah yang mengasuh anak anda. Berikut beberapa tips dalam memilih baby sitter yang baik untuk anda anda.

Cari rekomendasi

sebelum anda memutuskan mengambil baby sitter dari penyalur baby sitter atau penyalur pembantu rumah tangga, ada baiknya anda terlebih dahulu meminta rekomendasi dari teman-teman dan saudara-saudara anda tentang seseorang yang mungkin bisa menjadi baby sitter yang baik dan bisa di percaya untuk anda anda. Hal tersebut lebih baik ketimbang anda mengambil baby sitter yang sama sekali asing bagi anda. Jika memungkinkan, anda bisa meminta keponakan, adik, atau saudara anda lainnya untuk menjad baby sitter si kecil, siapa tahu mereka bersedia menjaga si kecil selama anda di kantor. Selain lebih aman bagi anak anda, cara ini juga bisa membuat anda lebih tenang bekerja di kantor.

Kenali calon baby sitter

sebelum anda menerima seseorang untuk menjadi baby sitter anak anda dari penyalur baby sitter atau penyalur pembantu rumah tangga. Terlebih dahulu lakukan interview dengan calon baby sitter anak anda. Lakukan juga pengenalan antara calon baby sitter dengan anak anda dengan membiarkan mereka mengahabiskan waktu bersama selama beberapa saat. Perhatikan cara calon baby sitter menghadapi anak anda, dan perhatikan pula bagaimana anak anda merespon calon baby sitternya. Lihatlah adakah chemistry diantara mereka.

Masa percobaan

buatlah masa percobaan terlebih dahulu sebelum anda benar-benar menerima baby sitter bekerja di rumah anda. Hal ini untuk lebih memastikan bahwa pilihan anda 100% tepat. Perhatikan semua hal yang dilakukan calon baby sitter anda dalam menghadapi anak anda, perhatikan nada suaranya, ekspresi wajahnya, serta bagaimana anak anda merespon sikapnya. Waktu terbaik untuk melakukan masa percobaan yaitu saat anda sedang berada dirumah, selain anda lebih leluasa memberi penilaian, si kecil juga akan melihat calon baby sitternya sebagai sahabat keluarga anda, dan bukan mengasosiakan kehadiran baby sitter sebagai penanda kepergian anda.

Baby sitter laki-laki

memilih baby sitter atau pembantu laki-laki mungkin tak pernah ada  dalam pikiran anda sebalum nya. Namun ternyata baby sitter laki-laki merupakan pilihan tepat bagi anak laki-laki anda. Hal tersebut dikarenakan adalanya kecenderungan pada anak laki-laki untuk menjadi panutan dari orang yang lebih tua sekaligus teman bermain. Jika anda berminat menggunakan anak laki-laki sebagai baby sitter untuk anak anda, pastikan baby sitter tersebut punya sikap yang baik serta layak dijadikan panutan anak anda. Lebih baik lagi jika ia masih ada hubungan keluarga dengan anda, sehingga anda bisa mempercayai asuhan anak anda padanya. Namun, biasanya baby sitter atau pembantu laki-laki hanya cocok bagi anak yang yang sudah lebih mandiri.

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Prima di trovare la tata che tata c’è stata una dura selezione.

Passiamo all’azione battendo al tappeto, amiche, conoscenti, parenti e vicini di casa. Premetto che durante i colloqui stava spesso a casa una ragazza ucraina, Gianna, a mio dire molto brava, ho cercato di corromperla per venire da noi ma aveva già un altro lavoro e “io abita troppo lontano io sveglia troppo presto per essere qui da signora alle 8.00”

Ok la corruzione non è andata quindi via alle selezioni.

 Iniziano ad arrivare le prime candidate

Prima Silvia Italiana, signora sulla quarantina andate :

“Io amo i bambini, sono mamma di due bambini, ho lavorato per anni in un ufficio che poi si è trasferito e non potendo allontanarmi ho perso il lavoro.

“A mi dispiace , Simona ma quanto vuoi?”

 La tariffa giornaliera e di dieci euro l’ora, la notturna di 15

Ho fatto un rapido conto e la tariffa mensile sarebbe stata di soli 1.120 euro

I soldi li tieni in Italia o all’estero? 

Seconda Fé (almeno così ho capito) Filippina.

Dopo un breve preambolo di presentazioni di Cippa Lippa le chiedo se mi deve dire qualcosa. “

E’ un lavoro fisso per almeno un anno?” “Tu paga contributi? Inscrive Inps? Io già iscritta da signora prima di te.”

 “Tu paga ferie?”

“Tu paga se un giorno io non viene?”

 “Ok. Ti faccio sapere”

 Terza candidata Olga ucraina.

Parliamo mi sembra carina gentile Cippa Lippa le va quasi in braccio da sola, mi sembra di indole serena. Il colloquio va bene e le do buone possibilità.

Come esce Gianna mi dice

“Mica voi prendere quella”

“Perché no? E’ carina”

 “Troppo giovane non esperienza”

 “A me non sembra.”

Gianna Bofonchia

“Che c’è Gianna?”

“Niente “

 “Dai dimmi”

“Io visto lei tutta truccata”

 “E allora”

 “E allora no buona per bambino!”

 Sig. Sig.

Many individuals want to know how to find a baby sitter they can trust. There are some steps you can take to ensure the sitter you hire is reliable and trustworthy, however do not be too trusting off the bat. Trust is something that needs to be earned by an individual, especially one that is caring for your child.

Here are some tips to help you find a baby sitter that you can trust and weed out ones that you should not trust:

Run a background check on the individual you are considering bringing into your home to care for your child. A criminal check will cost, however you can do them right from your computer for a small amount of money. The results are usually in within a few minutes.

Call all references that are given to you. Especially past employers. You should make a brief checklist of questions to ask the past employers about their job performance, their reliability, reason for termination of employment etc.

Ask as many questions as you need to about the person, their past, even their plans for the future.
If your heart is telling you that this person is just not “the one” listen to it. Never second guess what your heart tells you. It is usually right.

Once you have hired a sitter for your child/children you should periodically come home early or throughout the day to check on the situation at home. This will keep your sitter on his/her toes while you are gone. Make sure your “pop in” time is different. One week come home briefly at lunch time, another week come home early from work, another you can decided to stop home after a doctors appointment.

You should also pay close attention to your child or children’s behavior. If you begin to notice changes in their behavior you should begin looking for another sitter. This does not mean your child is being mistreated, but children are just like adults, some people just can not get along no matter what.

Also, listen to your child and become more involved in the way they play and talk after they have a new sitter. Children pick things up quickly, so you should be able to tell if inappropriate things (smoking, friends over, cussing etc.) are going on with the sitter while you are not home.

As long as you are aware and involved you can find a baby sitter that will be great for your child.children and have the long term relationship you want. Your child will thrive with the right sitter, and you will see this on a daily basis.

We all live lives that are never always the same. Even if you have decided to become a stay at home parent, your family or personal situation may still change unexpectedly. There comes a time when every parent faces the fact that he or she needs a babysitter. Even if these parents are surrounded by friends and family who are more than happy to care for the child in question on a regular basis, there will come a day when everyone is busy or otherwise engaged and he realizes that a there is a babysitter needed. What should you do in times like this? What do you do when you’ve asked your friends for recommendations and nobody is available? How can you find a babysitter when you are in desperate need of one?

It is always best to take the safest route when picking a sitter. If you plan to conduct your own search, you have to be extremely meticulous. Take the time to interview your applicants. You also have to ask them to give you the right to check their backgrounds.

Not every parent may have the time to search for a sitter on their own. If this is true for you too, then you would do well to look for a trusted and reputable agency or referral site instead. Agencies and referral sites can help make your life a whole lot easier. Depending on the company you are with, you may be able to expect them to have applicants who already have proof of their clean records. All you would have to do would be to interview prospective applicants and find out if anyone among them matches your needs.

One of the best ways to do this, when you find that you are in a “babysitter needed” situation is to start contacting your local babysitting or nanny placing agencies. A lot of these businesses advertise online and have websites and, most importantly, some specialize in always having a sitter or nanny available to help out parents who need a babysitter on a last minute basis.

The nice thing about utilizing one of these companies is your ability to thoroughly check it out. You can make sure that the company is registered with your local governmental authorities. You can do a check through the Better Business Bureau to see if any complaints have been filed. You can even do a search for reviews of these companies that have been made on personal blogs and websites.

It is far easier to check out a babysitting or nanny placing agency than it is to do a background check on a single individual applying to fill your “babysitter needed” position. Single entities can lie about their personal information and catching them in that lie can be almost impossible. Of course not every person who answers a “babysitter needed” ad is out to get you but in this day and age when danger seems to be everywhere, it is a good idea to thoroughly check out all of your prospects.

Ask every babysitter you are considering hiring for resumes, personal and professional references and, if you are so inclined, permission to do a background or criminal records check. If the babysitter is offended or refuses to give permission simply move on to someone who does not refuse. Any babysitter who is worth hiring will understand why you are being so thorough and will be happy to comply.

It wasn’t that long ago that people felt comfortable leaving their kids with the neighbors when they couldn’t find a sitter or even leaving them at home alone if the kids were old enough. Now, when parents find that they need a babysitter, they need to be much more careful about whom they hire.

Babysitter Agency – Do You Really Need Their Help to Find a Good Babysitter?

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ANIMAZIONE PSICOPEDAGOGICA –I° e II° Livello

rivolto agli INSEGNANTI ( Scuola Asilo Nido,Infanzia, Primaria di I° e II° grado, Secondaria,  con schede didattiche operative sulla nuova disciplina della Riforma Scolastica: Identità corporea, Identità affettiva), GENITORI, EDUCATORI SOCIALI, ANIMATORI TURISTICI, BABY SITTER, STUDENTI e LAUREATI IN SCIENZE UMANISTICHE .

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COACHING

Rivolto al PERSONALE delle AZIENDE, ISTITUTI SCOLASTICI, COOPERATIVE,  SOCIETA’, ASSOCIAZIONI in particolare riferimento a quelle SPORTIVE (ALLENATORI). “ In generale si definisce coaching il processo attraverso il quale si aiutano individui e gruppi di persone a raggiungere il massimo livello delle proprie capacità di performance..” ( R.Dilts).

Il coach promuove in primo luogo la crescita della persona per favorire, poi, quella del professionista. Inoltre, aiuta a prevenire fenomeni di MOBBING e BURN-OUT. Il Mobbing è una Comunicazione di “violenza” psicologica esercitata nell’ambiente di lavoro tra gli stessi dipendenti o tra figure autorevoli e dipendenti al fine di  “costringere” la persona che subisce il mobbing a lasciare inevitabilmente il posto di lavoro, dimettersi. Il Burn-out viene comunemente identificato nello Stress da superlavoro con conseguenze di malattie psicosomatiche.

Il programma comprende esercizi, simulate di psicologia umanistica di gruppo e tecniche PNL ( Programmazione Neurolinguistica..” Non esistono fallimenti ma, solo risultati) T.A  (Training Autogeno, respirazione,rilassamento).

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PSICOLOGIA DEL BENESSERE

Rivolto a LAUREANDI/LAUREATI IN SCIENZE UMANISTICHE, FISIOTERAPISTI, INFERMIERI, ESTETISTI, BADANTI. Il programma comprende tecniche di Massaggio Bioenergetico con l’Aromacologia degli Olii Essenziali, Educazione Alimentare con l’uso della centrifuga, tecniche di rilassamento respiratorie, tecniche espressive creative.

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OBIETTIVI DEI CORSI –Qualificare figure professionali richieste dal mercato del lavoro e ottimizzare le proprie capacità lavorative

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Il signor Leandro Aletti, figuro di Comunione e Liberazione, ha gridato “assassine” a tre donne andate ad abortire nell’ospedale nel quale lui è primario di Ostetricia e ginecologia.

Ora, caro dottor Aletti, se vuole portare avanti la sua battaglia faccia pure. Non è il primo e non sarà l’ultimo. Ma lei – e chi la pensa come lei – dovreste agire in altro modo: la battaglia che volete portare avanti è certo culturale e politica ma - se credete davvero a quello che dite – la vostra dovrebbe essere una battaglia che fa tesoro dei casi singoli.

Se credete davvero a quello che dite, le condizioni di salute psicofisica delle donne saranno al di là del vostro raggio d’azione ma, se credete a quello che dite, dovreste concentrarvi, caso per caso, sulla rimozione degli ostacoli di ordine sociale ed economico: lì sì che si può intervenire. Se credete a quello che dite, dovreste spendere tutto il vostro impegno nel garantire un sostegno continuativo durante la gravidanza e i primi anni di vita, e fare pressione sullo Stato in questo senso. Se credete a quello che dite, dovreste aprire asili nido gratuiti per donne e famigli indigenti. Se credete a quello che dite, dovreste organizzare un servizio di volontariato che garantisca baby sitting gratuito per le donne che lavorano. Se credete a quello che dite, sono queste le battaglie che dovrebbero portare avanti, nella società e con lo Stato, perché queste, a mio modo di vedere, sono le uniche battaglie pro-life. E per ogni donna che si sentirà protetta e garantita nel tempo da questi loro servizi, da Messina a Trento, beh, avrete salvato una vita umana.

Cara CL, ci spieghereste, di grazia, qual è la vostra battaglia?

Perché a me pare che inveire contro le poverette che una mattina hanno avuto la sfortuna di trovarsi nel corridoio di un ospedale con un primario ciellino, non solo non sia né cultura né politica, né che abbia qualcosa a che vedere – pace don Milani – con l’obiezione di coscienza, ma soprattutto che non c’entri niente con il rispetto della vita umana. Dov’è il rispetto? Dov’è l’umano? Ancora di più, scusate, avrei perso di vista anche la vita. Inveire contro quelle donne è stata imposizione, disprezzo delle loro ragioni e della loro vita, pura violenza contro donne indifese. Ma il punto che vi sottopongo è questo: questa azione, e azioni simili, non conquistano nulla a favore della vita umana prenatale. Questo vi interessa?

Lloyd

Jake Ryan

Duckie

Bisoux,

la fille de poche

(original posted on: 12/06/06 – modified on 14/10/09)

Memilih baby sitter untuk anak anda memerlukan ketelitian dan banyak pertimbangan. Bisa-bisa anak anda bisa terjebak dalam pengasuhan yang salah dari si baby sitter. Apalagi jika anda seorang wanita pekerja, dimana waktu anda setiap harinya lebih banyak dihabiskan di kantor, mau tidak mau baby sitter lah yang mengasuh anak Anda. Berikut beberapa tips dalam memilih baby sitter yang baik untuk anda anda.

Cari Rekomendasi
sebelum anda memutuskan mengambil baby sitter dari agen atau Yayasan Baby Sitter, ada baiknya anda terlebih dahulu meminta rekomendasi dari teman-teman dan saudara-saudara anda tentang seseorang yang mungkin bisa menjadi baby sitter yang baik dan bisa dipercaya untuk anda Anda. Hal tersebut lebih baik ketimbang anda mengambil baby sitter yang sama sekali asing bagi anda. Jika memungkinkan, anda bisa meminta keponakan, adik, atau saudara anda lainnya untuk menjadi baby sitter si kecil, siapa tahu mereka bersedia menjaga si kecil selama anda di kantor. Selain lebih aman bagi anak Anda, cara ini juga bisa membuat anda lebih tenang bekerja di kantor.

Kenali calon baby sitter
Sebelum anda menerima seseorang untuk menjadi baby sitter anak anda. Terlebih dahulu lakukan interview dengan calon baby sitter dari Yayasan Baby Sitter anak anda. Lakukan juga pengenalan antara calon baby sitter dengan anak anda dengan membiarkan mereka menghabiskan waktu bersama selama beberapa saat. Perhatikan cara calon baby sitter menghadapi anak anda, dan perhatikan pula bagaimana anak anda merespon calon baby sitternya. Lihatlah adakah chemistry diantara mereka.

Masa Percobaan
Buatlah masa percobaan terlebih dahulu sebelum anda benar-benar menerima baby sitter bekerja di rumah Anda. Hal ini untuk lebih memastikan bahwa pilihan anda 100% tepat. Perhatikan semua hal yang dilakukan calon dari yayasan baby sitter anda dalam menghadapi anak anda, perhatikan nada suaranya, ekspresi wajahnya, serta bagaimana anak anda merespon sikapnya. Waktu terbaik untuk melakukan masa percobaan yaitu saat anda sedang berada di rumah, selain anda lebih leluasa memberi penilaian, si kecil juga akan melihat calon baby sitternya sebagai sahabat keluarga anda, dan bukan mengasosiasikan kehadiran baby sitter sebagai penanda kepergian anda.

Baby Sitter Laki-laki
Memilih baby sitter laki-laki mungkin tak pernah ada  dalam pikiran anda sebalumnya. Namun ternyata baby sitter laki-laki merupakan pilihan tepat bagi anak laki-laki anda. Karena adanya kecenderungan pada anak laki-laki untuk mencari panutan dari orang yang lebih tua sekaligus teman bermain. Jika anda berminat menggunakan anak laki-laki sebagai baby sitter untuk anak anda, pastikan baby sitter tersebut punya sikap yang baik serta layak dijadikan panutan anak anda. Lebih baik lagi jika ia masih ada hubungan keluarga dengan anda, sehingga anda bisa mempercayai asuhan anak anda padanya. Namun, biasanya baby sitter laki-laki hanya cocok bagi anak yang yang sudah lebih mandiri.

Percayakan insting anda
Seberapa besarpun anda mengenal calon baby sitter anda dari rekomendasi teman anda, namun jika anda merasa orang tersebut bukanlah orang tepat bagi anak anda, jangan ragu untuk mencari yang lain baik dari saudara atau yayasan baby sitter. Karena kadang chemistry yang anda rasakan antara si kecil dan calon baby sitternya  tidak sreg buat anda. Pastikan juga calon baby sitter anda cukup dewasa dan cerdas dalam bersikap. Dan yang terpenting ia piawai merawat anak anda dan bisa cekatan menghubungi anda atau nomor-nomor penting lainnya jika tejadi keadaan darurat.

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Programme du jour : Ecole et Audrey.

 

Début de matinée classique et nous arrivons à l’école de bonne heure et de bonne humeur à l’école. Nous avons le temps de nous promener dans les bâtiments.

A 7h45, c’est l’heure d’entrée en classe. Je donne à Amélie ma maitresse un beau dessin que j’ai spécialement fait pour elle ce week-end. Je lui montre aussi un de mes livres de peinture avec une reproduction d’une œuvre de Jackson Pollock dont nous avons parlé en classe la semaine dernière. Un bisou, un câlin et Papa s’en va.

Ce matin, premier cours d’allemand pour moi. Ce sera comme ça tous les lundis matin pendant une heure. J’ai également un cours de luxembourgeois le vendredi après-midi. Comme je parle déjà couramment le français et l’anglais à bientôt 4 ans, dans quelques années j’aurai 4 langues à mon actif. Rien de bien exceptionnel ici au Luxembourg.

Papa revient me chercher vers 17h. Nous rentrons à la maison où Audrey nous attend. Elle sera ma baby-sitter ce soir, mes parents sont conviés au conseil de classe de mon école.

Je pleure un peu quand Papa me quitte, mais je passe tout de même une très agréable soirée avec Audrey. Repas, douche, lecture et chanson sont au programme avant que je ne sois au lit pour 19h30.

Mes parents quant à eux participent à une réunion d’information avec la directrice, puis passe 2 h avec ma maitresse et les autres parents. Un petit entretien individuel avec Amélie avant de partir, leur confirme qu’effectivement, je suis une petite fille qui comprend vite, qui participe beaucoup, mais qui est un peu la meneuse et la “petite chef” de la classe. Je pourrai faire Manager plus tard… ou chef de gang !  Rédacteur : Patrick-Robin, mon Papa.

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Pertanyaan sederhana yang kadang luput dari perhatian kita. Terkadang saya suka sedih melihat desain rumah yang tidak terlalu memperdulikan kamar pembantu. Kamar pembantu seperti dipaksakan “ada”, tanpa memperhatikan aspek-aspek kesehatan bagi si penghuni kamar. Masalah yang sering muncul adalah kamar pembantu jarang yang memiliki jendela ataupun ventilasi yang mencukupi sebagai pertukaran udara dan masuknya sinar matahari. Lalu, bagaimana solusi masalah tersebut?

1. Usahakan mempunyai rencana jangka panjang pada penataan ruang rumah anda, seiring dengan bertambahnya anggota keluarga, baik itu semakin besarnya anak-anak, saudara atau orang tua yang ikut tinggal bersama ataupun seorang pembantu rumah tangga, yang tentunya memerlukan ruang-ruang tambahan. Rencana itu akan memudahkan anda jika suatu saat ingin menambah ruang, sehingga anda tidak perlu merenovasi total. Mengatur rumah lebih baik daripada memikirkan jasa pindahan terus.

2. Usahakan untuk memiliki ruang kosong yang suatu saat bisa digunakan sebagai kamar pembantu rumah. Seandainya anda belum berencana menggunakan jasa pembantu, ruangan itu bisa digunakan sebagai ruang penyimpanan (gudang bersih) yang bisa anda gunakan untuk menyimpan mainan anak, buku-buku, perabot pecah belah ataupun penyimpanan kain-kain sprei, gorden, dsb.

3. Perhatikan aspek kesehatan pada kamar pembantu. Perhatikan juga luasannya, setidaknya bisa untuk menempatkan sebuah ranjang, lemari pakaian dan sebuah meja kecil.

4. Jika keadaan keuangan tidak memungkinkan untuk menambah ruang ataupun keterbatasan lahan, sedangkan anda memerlukan jasa pembantu, anda bisa menggunakan jasa pembantu yang tidak perlu menginap (pagi-sore), anda cukup menyediakan ruang untuk istirahat dengan menggunakan ruangan apa saja di rumah anda yang cukup memadai untuk sekedar melepas lelah pembantu anda.

Letak kamar pembantu disamping garasi memudahkan pembantu untuk membuka pagar depan, selain itu letaknya juga tidak terlalu jauh dengan area servis yaitu : dapur, ruang cuci dan ruang setrika. Selain itu pembantu juga masih memiliki privasi karena kamarnya yang terpisah dengan rumah inti. Namun, aspek kesehatan juga terjaga karena kamarnya berhadapan langsung dengan taman kecil sebagai arah bukaan.

Untuk rumah memang perlu bikin kunci duplikat untuk mengantisipasi kehilangan kunci. Tapi jumlah duplikatnya harus jeli & dibatasi.

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a sors nem fintorog. a sors jön. Mint ahogy Isten keze sem ver. meg ahogy a nagy véletlenek meg a sors kockája, meg egyszer fent egyszer lent.

Szarok a délelőtti intérnettilalomra. feljöttem msnre beszéélni a legjobb bnőmmel.  Ő meg becsábított Ausztriás váltásra. És tényleg… Októbeertől, hogy menjek oda a közelébe és tud is csalládot. (helytelenül kell írnoom… üldözésimánia még mindig.) Hát beleéltem magam. és úgy tűnik így is lesz. mert ma mi történt???:) Hát a sors idemosolygott:)

Szóval eltelt a nap, hazajöttt a száménerv-bosszorkány, már csak így híívom. Egyből elmentünk a suli 100. évfordulójából megrendezett gyerekprogramra (nemtudom én miért kelllek oda?) de azért csak menntem. ő, én meg a gyerekek. De minden jó ha jó a vége.

szóval ott állt az egyik feladatnál a híresneves helyi magyarcsalád. az anyuka. Bemutatott minekt egymásnak, bár valszeg nem volt ínyére. de akkormár elkezdtünk beszélgetni.

kb a második kérdése: hogy bírod?… pedig még kertelgettem mikor elkezdtünk beszélgetni. Nagyon szarokat mesélt. fel fogom még őt keresni. meg akarom tudni azigazságot. mert sztem nagyonis h elfoogok menni. kész nincs szükségem arra, hogy a regresszió tegyen tönkre, és azért klljen mennem.

a sors olyan mint egy bakter. Most rendezte a síneket. valahova szalad ez a vonat, és most inkább egy okos méhecske lettem. virágről virágra szállok, és a végén csak összeáll vmi. ugye n??? és ma délután mosolyogtam és nevettem ok nélkül. mert minden jó lesz úgy ahogymegbeszéltük

lehúztam egy pááleszt. három volt najó. este van és vidám vagyok. a szülőkelmentek vahova.

Jon Gosselin has another headache this mornoing…the one time babysitter , Stephanie Santoro, has gone on record confirming their fling, after the divorce papers were filed……..which led to the confrtation at the Gosslin’s home, in which Kate was sent to spent the night in a hotel, after the police were involved in a hot argumenet, at their home……

The only good thing seems to be that Jon has got a lawyer to try calm things down for the soon to be divorced dad…..good luck with that…….

** Disclaimer: Our mini we is nearly 15 months old.  So the below commentary is based on his age range.  However, the observations below will be able to help guide parents of all age ranges to make a decision on nanny v. day care.  IM or e-mail me directly with more questions or just comment on the post.**

We had a nanny lined up.  Then we get a call that a spot opened up at a great day school.  Thus, my husband and I started debating the merits of nanny v. day care. After pondering for this for over a week and doing A LOT of external research (reading articles, studies, talking with lots of other moms and dads), we decided the best option for our mini we is day school (aka: day care).

Here’s how we came to that decision:

Nanny

• Personalized attention.  A positive because we know that all of mini we’s needs will be immediately taken care of (that is one of the key element’s of the nanny’s job).  A negative as mini we is already self-enamoured.  We’d love for him to learn patience and that there are others besides him that have needs.
• Familiar setting: Mini we has his own bed, his own high chair, his own toys, pictures of mom and dad, thus making it an easier transition. However, mini we may feel like a prisoner in his own house unless you make the nanny make it a priority to take mini we out of the house to explore other surroundings (parents: these outings will cost you additional $ and in most cases, the nanny will have to drive your mini we).  We, personally, didn’t want our nanny driving mini we around so much and the additional costs add up quickly when you sit down and do the calculations.
• Easier on Mom & Dad: The nanny comes and leaves our house.  A logistic dream. Enough said!
• Greater Chance for Drama: With a nanny, you’re welcoming a new member into your family.  A member that has his/her own baggage to deal with outside your walls.  With that, there’s a greater possibility of having to deal with the nanny’s drama.  We’ve all heard the horror stories.

Day School

• Socialization: A day school setting with the right quantity of kids is a prime opportunity to hone mini we’s socialization skills.
• Self-Confidence: Mini we will start to trust himself more.  Thus, building his self-confidence.  It will not just help with separation issues that are often the case in toddlerhood, but also with building self-confidence.
• Possibility of adapting some behavioral problems: This concern correlates with having a high-quality staff as we tend to learn from our environment and the staff will be the regulators of the environment.  A high quality day care staff will minimize or eliminate this concern as will worthwhile parent/child interaction.
• Structure: Many studies show the young children thrive in a structured environment.  They are creatures of routine and prefer to know what’s coming next.  Day care’s offered structured routines – which is a benefit; whereas, nannies offer a greater degree of flexibility.
• Regulated: We especially liked this aspect v. a nanny.  The fact that day care’s are regulated by the government.  They are required by the state to follow certain protocol such as change diapers at a minimum of every 2 hours.

Keys to finding the right day care:

• Ratio of Teacher to Kids: (Our max for our 14 month mini we was 1 Teacher to 5 Kids)
• Kids’ Appearance: Are the kids messy, dirty, look like no one really has been taken good care of them?  Trust me, I toured a few day care’s and this aspect stood out negatively to me in a couple of places.  Be observant of all of your surroundings when touring day cares.
• Staff Qualification: Make sure that the staff is qualified at least to state regulations and also trust your instincts if the day care is in it for the money or if they are really caring individuals who love children and love what they do.
• Menu: Ask to see the menu from the last 2 weeks. We prefer to feed mini we homemade organic food so this element made a significant difference to us.
• Outdoor Time: How often and for how long are the kids outdoors?  What do they do when they are outdoors?  Are the minimum and maximum temperatures of when they’re not allowed outdoors?  What do they do then?
• Reputation: Ask other moms and dads!  This is a great way to find out the dirt.  Post a question to a local parent group online.  I found our local online yahoo parent group through a customer service representative that I ended up chatting with. You may have success just do a search online “X City Yahoo Parent Group” or “X City Parent Group.
• Structure & Curriculum: A structured environment and a stimulating curriculum are key.  Make sure to look for both.  In regards to “stimulating” curriculum, remember the age of your little one and that most of what they learn will come from engaging conversation and socialization.
• Clean, Safe Facilities
• Current License

If you select the day school route, remember that it is essential that when you are with your mini we, you give him or her the right amount of loving attention and affection.  You must make it a priority to keep a tight bond with your mini we.  However, the risk of a weaker child/parent bond is present in both nanny and day school scenarios so parents please make sure to stay connected with your mini we by really listening and paying attention to them, reading books with them, spending time exploring the backyard or playground, creating new designs with blocks or just playing a Fisher Price toy with your mini we.  Whatever you do, stay tight.

Likewise, according to a WSJ article “the best rule of thumb is to keep time in child care at the lowest level that makes sense for your family — and below the 45-hour mark.”

And lastly remember (quote taken from the same WSJ article), “One big factor is the quality of care — whether the child is compelled to “fit in” and adapt to a group schedule, or is free to pursue his or her own needs and desires with the support of caring, engaged adults…The best route for parents is to keep a close eye on their child, monitor quality of care closely and be prepared to alter the child-care setup if it becomes too stressful, for either the child or the family.”

Good luck and trust your gut.

Anda kesulitan mencari pembantu rumah tangga (PRT) dan baby sitter usai lebaran? Anda tidak sendirian. Stok PRT dan Baby Sitter Pembantu memang sedang langka. Sejumlah yayasan Penyalur Pembantu mengaku tidak bisa menyediakan PRT.

Alasannya para PRT dan Baby Sitter Pembantu ini pada mudik ke masing-masing kampungnya. Sejumlah Yayasan Baby Sitter penyalur PRT dan baby sitter di Jakarta pun tidak bisa menjanjikan kepastian mereka balik ke Jakarta.

“Pada pulang kampung. Belum tahu kapan pulangnya. Kemungkinan minggu depan. Tetapi belum bisa dipastikan,” ujar salah satu staf penyalur Kasih Bunda, Sundari, Rabu (8/10/2008).

Hal yang sama juga ***tarakan Ismail, staf dari Penyalur Baby Sitter Karya Mandiri. “Sekali ini agak lambat karena banyak hajatan di kampung. Belum tahu kapan pulangnya,” katanya.

Begitu juga dengan Yayasan Baby Sitter penyalur Ya Cera di daerah Cipete, Jakarta Selatan. Stok baby sitter masih belum ada. Namun mereka menjanjikan dalam 1-2 hari ini bisa ***payakan.

“Lagi pada pulang kampung. Belum balik lagi ke Jakarta. Mungkin dalam 1-2 hari ini ada,” ujar staf penyalur Ya Cera, Indah.

Menurut Indah, usai Lebaran biasanya akan banyak stok buat Baby Sitter Pembantu. Baik itu yang pemula maupun yang berpengalaman

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Depending on which parent you talk to the one-eyed baby sitter is:
a) the cause of all evil in children today;
b) a great educational tool when appropriate programs are chosen;
c) a useful timeout for parents and children;
d) another source of entertainment;
e) not worth putting that much thought into.

The three year old was still wondering what happened to our families intense 3 week dedication to the 6pm Tour De France highlights on SBS when the World Athletics Championships rolled around. To a toddler it must be confusing and at the same time fascinating  the way these things fade in and out of the consciousness. She is still talking about going in a plane and a “holiday house” from a holiday two months ago.

Back to the television and the Athletics. Every so often the 3 year old and I have a “Ready, Setty, Go” race. She wins, I win, everybody wins. Up until the World Athletics Championships she did what is officially called a “standing” start like a distance runner. In the week after the Championships she started doing a “crouch” start like a sprinter. This change was completely inspired by watching the Jamaicans and Americans putting their backsides in the air for a week.

Thanks to the wonders of the one-eyed baby sitter I don’t need a Microsoft Excel spreadsheet to budget for sprinting lessons. She already has it worked out and I can probably start planning on being an ugly parent and penciling in the 2028 100m Olympic final (and 2032 for the baby).

még mindig itt vagyok a svájcban.

Basszus, nehezen megy az, hogy felfogjam, hogy még mennyi ideig itt leszek. Hogy nem mehetek haza hétvégén. Még nem érzem a mardosó honvágyat, de bennem van a félsz, hogy egyszer csak elborít, és szorítja a mellkasomat, és mintha az agyam egy giliszta-hosszú fénylő csíkká keskenyedne, és folyna szépen le, mint a méz a hátamon…

De N mondta, nagyon jó hogy mondta, ne attól a rossztól féljek, ami még nem jött, mert milyen igaz, akkor félhtnék egész életemben. Ha meg majd rossz lesz, lesz időm szenvedni.

Hogy fogok bulizni? Mikor eljön az első hétvégém, amikor egyedül leszek?!

Szegény barátom pedig rosszul vieseli a távollétemet. Remélem nem fogok egyszer emiatt is nagyon sírni.

mert akkor ölelgethetem a pénzemet, de nem fog viszontszeretni.

Memilih pengasuh berhubungan erat dengan perkembangan buah hati. Karena itu, perhatikan juga unsur keselamatan jika hendak memilih pengasuh.

Sudah berselang seminggu pengasuh chita pulang kampung. Terpaksa untuk sementara maya tinggal di rumah orangtuanya. Maya menyadari bahwa ketergantungan kepada sang nenek ini harus segera diakhiri. Hanya saja hingga kini solusi untuk mendapatkan pengasuh yang tepat, tak kunjung didapat.

Mencari pengasuh di yayasan baby sitter memang menjadi pilihan sebagian besar keluarga indonesia. Pilihan ini ternyata disetujui oleh para ahli. Jika ibu tidak bisa bersama dengan anak  sepanjang waktu karena bekerja, atau karena komitmen lain, mencari pengganti ibu alias pengasuh adalah pilihan terbaik seperti di penyalur baby sitter.

Banyak yayasan baby sitter bertebaran di kota-kota besar. Tinggal angkat telepon dan memesan pengasuh anak. Namun cara ini tidak selamanya mudah. Biasanya dikarenakan antara anda dan pengasuh tidak ditemukan kecocokan. Idealnya seorang pengasuh harus mencintai anak-anak. Ini pun belum jaminan bahwa ia akan cocok dengan anak-anak. Proses seleksi di penyalur baby sitter yang ketat harus diterapkan. Ibaratnya, jangan membeli kucing dalam karung. Proses seleksi di yayasan pembantu dan penyalur pembantu ini juga bertujuan untuk melihat kecocokan si kecil dengan pengasuh. Jika anak cepat berinteraksi dengan calon pengasuh, berarti sudah ada benih-benih kecocokan awal.

Nah, jika ingin memiliki pengasuh yang sesuai dengan keinginan kita, berikut beberapa tips tahapan proses seleksi secara singkat yang bisa anda lakukan:

1.    Lihat apakah calon pengasuh memiliki kontrak kerja yang jelas dan resmi
2.    Pilih calon pengasuh dari yayasan yang memiliki reputasi dan etika serta mau bertanggung jawab terhadap calon yang diajukan.
3.    Pertimbangkan pengalaman dan rekomendasi dari orang lain yang pernah memakai jasa baby sitter pembantu.
4.    Lakukan wawancara dan pendekatan secara pribadi dengan baby sitter pembantu. Hal ini diperlukan untuk mengetahui kedekatan calon pengasuh dengan anak kecil.
5.    Carilah calon pengasuh yang sudah dan pernah memiliki anak
6.    Perhatikan cara dan nada bicara calon pengasuh. Ini  akan membantu anda mengetahui cara pengasuh memberi respon kepada anak.
7.    Minta dan duplikasi surat tanda pengenal baby sitter, catat nomor telepon yayasan, keluarga dan tempat tinggal calon pengasuh.
8.    Bila perlu, lakukan pengecekan terlebih dahulu untuk memastikan kebenarannya.

Nah, kalau sudah dapat yang tepat di yayasan pembantu dan penyalur pembantu, jangan menyerahkan semua perawatan dan pola asuh kepadanya. Orangtua tetap berperan utama pengasuhan dan perawatan si kecil. Pengasuh hanya sekadar membantu, bukan pengganti orangtua. Sudah siap mencari?

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