Kory McFarren, 37, of Ness City, Kansas has been charged with the mistreatment of a dependent adult after calling the police for help with his 35-year-old girlfriend Pam Babcock who, according to reports has spent the last 2 years in his bathroom. She was found stuck to the toilet seat so firmly that she was taken to hospital with the seat still attached to her body.

At the urging of Sheriff Bryan Whipple, who responded to the call and had to use a pry bar to remove the seat from the toilet to get Babcock out of the bathroom, Ness County Attorney Craig Crosswhite accused Kory McFarren of criminally mistreating his girlfriend. Crosswhite said McFarren’s first court appearance would be sometime in April.

“I looked at the statutes and spoke to the Attorney General’s Office,” he said. “This was a very unusual set of circumstances and this is the law that most closely applied.”

When officers arrived at the couple’s home, they found Pam Babcock, 35, had developed open sores that adhered her to the toilet seat. They believed she’d been sitting on the toilet for about a month. McFarren told authorities that Babcock feared leaving the bathroom and may not have left it in two years. He said she was afraid of seeing her relatives.

“I don’t know how long she was in the bathroom she has a fear of coming out, most of that fear of coming out is her relatives she don’t want to see them, she’s afraid if she comes out she will see them,” McFarren said.

Well, one of Babcock’s relatives has come forward to talk about the case. Carmen McNamara is Pam Babcock’s cousin. McNamera says Pamela was close to her family until 15 years ago when she went to live with McFarren. She fears McFarren manipulated Pamela and perhaps hid her. She points out that “His neighbors don’t even know she exists how sickening is that, they didn’t even know he had a girlfriend what does that say?”

Neighbors agree they didn’t know she was there. “I’ve never even seen a female there, it’s disturbing something like this could happen,” neighbors said after finding out what happened there.

She also asks one important question that so far has not been answered: “How in the world could someone let her stay there for 2 years and not get help of some kind from somewhere?” Click here to see the interview and video clip.

“We love Pamela to death.,” says McNamara. “Her family loves her very, very much. I, like a lot of others right now, think there’s more to this story that Mr. McFarren isn’t telling.” McNamara continues, “We would send letters and telephone and anything to get in touch with her. We’d physically go to her residence and he would tell us that she doesn’t want to see or talk to her family. And eventually, SHE would tell us that.”

McNamara says her family has been worried sick about Babcock for years. They had no clue what she was enduring. McNamera says Pamela had no history of mental illness and as far as she knows, there was no family abuse.

“Do you call it brainwashing?” McNamara asks. “What do you call it when you have a family member who’s now an adult and they used to always love their family, love spending time with you. Now, all of a sudden, she’s moved in with someone and won’t see us.”

Meanwhile, Pam Babcock continues to refuse an interview with police. Whipple said doctors have been able to conduct a mental evaluation, although he has not received the results. Barring an interview with Babcock, the sheriff’s office has completed its investigation after interviewing McFarren, medical personnel and relatives of both Babcock and McFarren. The case now is in the hands of Ness County Attorney Craig Crosswhite.