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S-a incheiat etapa a 7-a si a 8-a CNVC Dunlop 2009 Campulung Muscel. Vineri cel mai rapid a fost Silviu Dumitrescu, iar duminica pe prima pozitie a Clasamentului Open s-a clasat Lucien Hora.

CNVC Dunlop – Etapa a II-a – Memorialul Ludovic Balint

Clasament final:                        mansa1    |    mansa2     |   cel mai bun
1. 319 Horatiu Ionescu Cristea  | 2:04.304 | 2:03.987 | 2:03.987

2. 41 Onoriu Daniel           | 2:04.168 | 2:16.583 | 2:04.168

3. 112 Constantin Aur       | 2:14.711 | 2:11.704 | 2:11.704

Last year was a somewhat weird one. On the outside things were seemingly progressing perfectly, but I was struggling on the inside. Not really in a heavy-duty manner, but I was facing certain void that I have briefly described in my personal history.

As Fromm has beautifully explained in his book The Fear of Freedom, there seem to be two types of freedom that we individuals struggle with and try to obtain; namely the freedom from (external or inner pressures) and the freedom to (do, create, move, be…). I guess a large portion of my life was about attempting to finally become free from – mainly personal and cultural patterns of thinking, neurotic feelings etc. In the course of all those years I somehow got used to live with these inner companions and felt quite comfortable and natural not feeling free from…

In the last few years this has shifted and I have started to not only feel free from, but also to feel free to. Now, the problem was that I did not really know what to use this new freedom for, so to say. What did I want – besides all that I already had? About 20 years ago a palm-reader somewhere in South India assured me (and so this must be 100 % certain) that I would live 80 years. Sharp! So last year I was a bit horrified about the fact that there were still roughly 38 years ahead of me – of being free to not know what to do and why to do it.

So I guess I was making everybody around me rather depressive last year, talking about this lack of motivation and meaning etc. I have noticed that friends actually ceased asking me how I was. However, in August things started to unfold and I feel in a completely different shape nowadays.

I have attended an International Intensive Training in Switzerland, lead by Marshall Rosenberg and the Centre for Nonviolent Communication. I guess if I haven’t had 12 years of experience of practicing psychotherapy, this could have been just another communication training, an excellent one of course, but I doubt it would have sparked inside of me what it actually did. Somehow things came together – what I have experienced as a psychotherapist as being the eternal and always present core of all our psychological and relational problems, namely our inability to realize and express our true inner feelings and needs to each other, proved to be the very core of Marshall Rosenberg method of Nonviolent Communication. If you are not familiar with the NVC approach, I am very much inviting you to have look at a short film (in three parts) of Marshall describing it and to therefore hear some of it from the source.

It took me couple of months to realize what actually happened there. At first I was completely overwhelmed with all the beautiful people I have met there and all the great things I have realized about communication and about my life and about, you know, everything… And than, just a month or two ago, I started to realize the depth of it, the dimension of the breakthrough. Many things got together and the void was just not there anymore. The meaning was coming back and now I feel if I can devote my energy to teach people to speak this language, the true language of heart, if I can mediate and use that language to help people relate in a more pristine way, get together, commune…, well than I am back on the track again. On the track of my life.

And, after 38 years, while entering the tunnel and looking back, I will feel content.

I found this list on http://cnvc.org/tensteps.htm and I found it very helpful to remind myself how I communicate and relate to others – to be more conscious about it. After all it is an exchange of energy with another being, right?

10 things we can do to contribute to internal, interpersonal, and organizational peace:

(1) Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would like to relate to ourselves and others.

(2) Remember that all human beings have the same needs.

(3) Check our intention to see if we are as interested in others getting their needs met as our own.

(4) When asking someone to do something, check first to see if we are making a request or a demand.

(5) Instead of saying what we DON’T want someone to do, say what we DO want the person to do.

(6) Instead of saying what we want someone to BE, say what action we’d like the person to take that we hope will help the person be that way.

(7) Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone’s opinions, try to tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.

(8) Instead of saying “No,” say what need of ours prevents us from saying “Yes.”

(9) If we are feeling upset, think about what need of ours is not being met, and what we could do to meet it, instead of thinking about what’s wrong with others or ourselves.

(10) Instead of praising someone who did something we like, express our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours that action met.

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) would like there to be a critical mass of people using Nonviolent Communication language so all people will get their needs met and resolve their conflicts peacefully.

© 2001, revised 2004 Gary Baran & CNVC
The right to freely duplicate this document is hereby granted.

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