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In Bruges: Colin Farrell returns to form in a hilariously rude yet moving piece

Despite appearing in films by some heavy-hitters (Terrence Malick, Michael Mann, Woody Allen) Colin Farrell had been off-radar for a bit by the time the wrappers were taken off the 2008 calendars, and the celeb-o-meter was cooling, as the world’s media adopted James McAvoy as their new celluloid golden boy. 405 more words

Saving Mr. Banks

****

Winds in the east
Mist coming in
Like something is brewing
About to begin
Can’t put me finger
On what lies in store
But I feel what’s to happen… 639 more words

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Ondine (2009)

There seems to be something like a consensus among the “haters” of this film. Almost all of them whine about harsh reality coming into play in third act which, supposedly, breaks the carefully crafted illusion which was in play for the first two parts of the movie. 706 more words

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[Movie] In Bruges

Rating: 8/10 (breakdown: 2+3+2+1, see scoring guideline here; the last bonus point is for how hilarious its script is)

I’ve heard a lot of good stuff about this movie from my boyfriend so I checked it out. 466 more words

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'True Detective' Season 2 Rumor Rundown and Supernerd Reviews 'Galveston' By 'True Detective' Creator Nic Pizzolatto!

True Detective season 2 rumors/news have really been heating up the past couple weeks. Here’s the latest rundown of what’s out there currently:

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Why do we like bad boys?

Colin Farrell. Jude Law. Brad Pitt. 

Mmmmm…Bad Boys.

There’s no denying there is something very appealing about a bad boy, my personal favourite being the man himself, Mr John Mayer (ironically as I write this I am listening to his music. Pure magic!)

BUT why? Why do we opt for the bad boy over the good guy?

With that question plaguing me the last week, it finally hit me.

1.  We are attracted to those similar to us, or who we perceive ourselves similar too.

I’ll chuck the candy right out there and say:

We go for the bad boys because we don’t feel good enough for a ‘good guy’.

And by good guy I mean the one who will open your door, meet you parents (even though it’ll scare the bejesus out of him) and consider your needs over his own. We find it hard to date the ‘good guy’ because they actually see us higher than we see ourselves. We reject and hurt the good guy because we feel unworthy of what he brings. Whereas, although a bad boy is ‘exciting and tests the boundaries’, he’s also been known to treat women below ‘par’ because they think it’s all they deserve.

As a woman who has hefty track record of being attracted to the ‘bad boy’, it wasn’t until recently when I started going out with my (now) boyfriend when it hit me. I thought I knew my worth, but didn’t think it was possible for someone else to ever value me in the same way. Because of that I was willing to give whoever I dated the benefit of the doubt, and accept them even if they treated me wrong.

As you can imagine, with this kind of thinking it was hard at the start and sometimes still is, to accept my boyfriend’s kind words and selfless gestures, because I didn’t expect someone to actually value me for me.

The Truth:

Men and women think VERY differently; when a woman looks in the mirror she sees imperfections, whereas a man finds the good thing and focuses on that. This thinking isn’t exclusive to just appearance either, but across various areas of life.

Apply this to dating:

And men and women are going to look at it through two different sets of eyes. Men see the positives/good things in the other person, whereas us women tend to beat up ourselves about feeling inadequate compared to our ‘good guy’ partner.

2. We like to fix things/others

And…what better challenge than a bad boy; the “I’ll convert the bad boy to a good guy” thinking is one we like to entertain. *Guilty as charged. I’ve always thought if John Mayer and I ever ended up together I’d be the woman to finally tame him.*

But ladies, let’s be honest and frank:

a)      Chances of that ACTUALLY happening are very slim (both John Mayer and taming bad boys in general).

b)      If it does work out and we ‘convert’ the bad boy, although it feels amazing, at what cost does it come at? A man losing himself to appease us?

The Truth:

Men and women live VERY differently. Men compartmentize things, whereas women try to be equal at everything.

Ever heard of the Nothing box?

Well, studies prove men do in fact have a place in their brain which literally means they don’t think about anything…at all. So when we ask, “Babe what are you thinking about?” and they say “Nothing” and we roll eyes at their lies, they genuinely aren’t thinking about anything.

Because of this, there’s no surprise why guys excel at what they put their mind too. When they pick something (eg: music, sport) they will work on it until they have mastered that field before moving on to something else.

On the other hand ladies, we like to be more of a ‘jack of all trades’; alright-ish in at a lot of different areas. This is probably what instigates our crazy amounts of stress/cry sess’s and overdose on daily coffee limits (BIG generalisation!)

Applying this to dating:

You can see how some guys can be massive players, but somehow still manage to have a girl on his hip. He has mastered the ‘girls’ compartment.

And us women, we like the idea of having the ‘okay’ relationship if it means everything else in our lives is all good. Once we’ve reached this and waters of imbalance have settled, it is there where we are content.

Takeaway Titbits:

  • It’s not our job to change anyone, especially not the person we are dating. True love is accepting that person’s imperfections and saying I still think you’re an incredible person.
  • We find it harder to accept the fact that a good guy MIGHT actually like us, because they see/value us higher than we see/value ourselves, so we justify it as expectation and reject them.
  • We go for bad boys because they are what we perceive our worth as.
  • We find value in changing others. If we want to change someone, that’s a good indicator to step back and look at ourselves. Are we content with ourselves? Why do we want to change this person? If it frustrates you that much, why are you still with that person?
  • Our value can’t be determined by another person because regardless of who, at some point they will let us down. Being secure in ourselves means we have the capacity to truly love someone else.
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Major Plot Details Emerge About 'True Detective' Season Two

Last week, we got word that Colin Farrell was in negotiations for one of the (four) leads in True Detective season two, while HBO and Nic Pizzolatto wanted Taylor Kitsch for one of the other leads. 454 more words

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