We at The Courant considered closing this site recently and in fact did so, for 2 days. Not having posted anything new in months, some of our authors having to take time to heal themselves, and at times feeling disheartened and discouraged in the knowledge that Christopher Hansard and others like him continue to practice, continue to gain credibility and continue to be enabled by fans and followers despite having committed a myriad of abusive acts against clients in their care, former students and workshop participants.

It was also brought to our attention that Christopher Hansard is now counseling and advising others who have been cyber-stalked or harassed online as he claims to have been so “wrongfully” accused and defamed through the internet.

No matter how many people this man has abused, no matter how many ethical and moral boundaries he has crossed, lives he has ruined, Christopher Hansard will always, without fail, present himself as the helpless victim. There will always be those who support him, and there will always be those who believe him because they want to believe.

We cannot change that, nor would we want to attempt to change the minds of those who would choose to believe despite the sheer number of legitimate victims that have come forward, whether online or have simply found the courage to open up to others enough to carry their story, so that others would not share their fate.

Many of us are grateful to those who came forward and shared their stories in an atmosphere of love and healing. Thank you.

There are still ongoing discussions on the Rick Ross Cult Education Forum, and while those discussions are not nearly as frequent, they latter posts are becoming more and more helpful and the site is becoming more a resource and even a comfort to those who were harmed in Christopher’s care, to know they are not alone, and do not have to be alone in their grief, and they CAN have a voice if they wish it.

The Courant wants to take this opportunity to all those who have written in, who have shared, though remained anonymous, and some who simply wanted to tell their stories, and not have them published as well.

We also wish to acknowledge the many great healers and teachers that remain ethical and respectful of personal space, adhere to boundaries, and bring real healing to those in their care. One such teacher is His Holiness the Dalai Lama, and it is a quote by him that brought us to the decision to continue to keep this resource open.

“When teachers break the precepts,
behaving in ways that are clearly damaging to themselves and others, students must face the situation,
even though this can be challenging, criticize openly, that’s the only way.”
His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Thank you to the latest poster on Rick Ross by the name of Rudy – rudyh01. We send you ongoing encouragement and support.

Please check out the ongoing discussion at RRCEF and View On Buddhism

The Courant

]]> http://jugendhilfedisaster.wordpress.com/2009/11/27/das-verleumdungs-kaschperle/ Fri, 27 Nov 2009 19:18:22 +0000 jugendhilfedisaster http://jugendhilfedisaster.wordpress.com/2009/11/27/das-verleumdungs-kaschperle/

kommt einfach nicht zu mir.
Wenn manch einer eine Verleumdung tut,dann kann er was erleben.
Erleben müssen das schon längere Zeit betroffene Ex-Klienten aus der TG Wilschenbruch,deren öffentliche Kritik nicht nur als Verleumdung bezeichnet wird,sondern auch noch mit dem spacigen Ausdruck ,,Cyber-Stalking” betitelt wird.Ach so,wegen Beleidigung werden einige auch noch angezeigt.Ein Verfahren wurde übrigens eingestellt.
Siehe dazu auch-http://familiensteller.blogspot.com/2009/06/intro.html
Verleumdung ist schon echt beschissen,wenn man sich hat nichts zu Schulden kommen lassen!
Verleumdung ist eigentlich wann Verleumdung?
Wenn nachweisbare Äußerungen öffentlich gemacht werden,die evtl.jemanden dazu bewegen könnten,seinen Kurs zu ändern?
Dem das aber überhaupt nicht passt,weil rufschädigend.
Da frage ich mich doch um welchen Ruf es hier geht.
Es ruft doch kein Mensch nach derartigen Therapie-Methoden,wie sie in der TG Wilschenbruch vollzogen wurden.
Das Problem steckt im Wesentlichen:Es weiß kaum jemand was dort,in der TG-Wilschenbruch tatsächlich ablief.
Nur eine gescheiterte Minderheit weiß das?
Wer hier wohl zum Scheitern verurteilt ist!
Das darf ich hier aber nicht erzählen,sonst gibt es Ärger……., das Verleumdungs-Kaschperle könnte auch mich besuchen!!
Mir fällt gerade noch was ein:
Ein Mann begegnet einer Frau,sie war mal ein Junkie,ist aber schon neun Jahre drüber weg.Ihr geht es jetzt gut und sie lebt mit ihren Kindern wieder zusammen.Der Mann allerdings hat es jetzt nicht leicht,er hat jetzt eine Frau MIT zwei Kindern zu Hause und muß sich jetzt mit drei ,kranken’ Menschen befassen!!
Neeiin,muß er nicht,er tut es freiwillig,seit knapp 4 Jahren übrigens,denn er stellte schon früh fest:Die Frau ist nicht krank,sie hat nur Angst gehabt.Die Kinder haben heute noch Angst(das kommt auch noch näher zur Sprache).
Aber wer weiß,evtl.ist der Mann ja auf dem falschen Dampfer,da er ja einen Hang zu kranken Personen haben soll!
Dazu noch eine Mitteilung:
Der Mann ist nicht auf dem falschen Dampfer,der Dampfer auf dem er untergebracht werden sollte ist falsch!!
Ich denke,auch diese Botschaft wird an der richtigen Stelle ankommen.

You’ve got a Twitter account and you’ve read all the blogs about expressing your personal brand, you even have a healthy following but what do you do now ?

Well, there comes a point in every Twitter journey when quantity has got to be sacrificed to quality.  At the start you may have decided to follow a whole bunch of people because they followed you, but now their random thoughts are clogging up your  Twitter stream and you can’t see the quality for the trash. It’s time to take action.

If you want to make intelligent connections with people who can help you then you need to track them down and follow them.

Blimey ! go back and read that sentence again. It sounds like a cyber-stalkers charter. I am English and the whole idea of using people in such a calculated way makes us feel very uncomfortable. Am I really going to find someone who I admire and then be-friend them ?  Send them messages and post stuff on their blog in the hope that they notice me ?

It sounds blatant but I think the Twitterverse can handle it. Those less reserved than ourselves have shown that it can work. There is something about social media that makes it OK to seek out those connections and most people are delighted to be of help. If someone sees you as a mentor  and looks to you for your expertise and help that’s flattering, right ?

So track down the people who can help and make a start on building trust. Don’t over do it though,  the spectre of the Cyber-stalker is out there !

If you disagree with my thoughts do let me know or simply post your comments, I’d really love to hear from you .

Lucy

"I only drink a little bit your honor".....yeah, one bucket at a time

Once again “Father of the Year” in Wisconsin, Craig Hensberger, lies under oath to the Judge that he only drinks a “little”. Apparently ONE bucket at a time. After lying again under oath Craig Hensberger insists that his one time girlfriend and mother to his only child be jailed as he didn’t have visitation with his child…the reason….he was “busy” or at “work”. Should be interesting how this father who puts his child up to LYING, CHEATING and STEALING in THREE separate fishing tournaments comes up with next…wonder if he ever got that fish mounted?

Great father that CPS also substantiated sexual abuse against this degenerate….he shouldn’t be around any child (or women) including his own.

http://www.fox11online.com/dpp/news/local_oconto_county_same_fish_different_derby_20090313_rev1

http://www.nbc26.com/Global/story.asp?S=10005532

I don’t think I will ever understand men.

No, seriously.

I have been married for twelve years so you would think by now that I would have them pretty much figured out…

Nope.

For example, what makes a man, who is a complete stranger to you, decide to pick up a phone and start sending you racy, suggestive texts knowing FULL well that you are not just married, but TOTALLY married…and he is married, too?

Welcome to the hell that is the online world, you say?

Four years ago, I would not have believed that.

After two weeks ago, I do.

A little history: I left MySpace.com for many reasons. One of those reasons, as I stated before, was because I had picked up a cyber stalker. I decided that I was going to use FaceBook much differently than I had MySpace in that my profile would be private and I wouldn’t let it get as out of control.

It worked for awhile…

For those of you who are as deeply entrenched (but not obsessed! Nope!) into the online world/social networking/social media as I am, you probably have a Twitter account as well. I use Twitter mainly for promotion of my blog or whatever writing project I want to promote while my FaceBook is more intimate with about 80% of the people I am friends with being people I know in real life/family/etc. while Twitter is pretty much wide open like my MySpace account had been…

Then, I opened up my FaceBook a little more a few months ago and started accepting friend requests from people I knew on Twitter and/or sending out requests to those I know from around the blog-o-sphere/online/websites/etc.

I truly didn’t think it would be a problem. I was cautious. I was careful. I wouldn’t make that mistake, again.

Or so I told myself, anyway.

Because most of the people I had on my FaceBook likely already had my phone number, I thought nothing of putting it on there.

And here is where the madness begins.

Now, before you start thinking that I am this conceited, full of herself, egomaniac, I will have you know that I don’t even think of myself as even marginally attractive. I have been married since the beginning of time, practically and sometimes, I forget that people do come online to date, or find dates, or whatever.

I am a gigantic information junkie so those kind of activities are not at the forefront of my mind when I come online. I have a tendency to assume (yes, I know when you do that it makes an ass out of U and ME) that this is what everyone else uses the inturdweb for…information gathering. Knowledge.

Ok, and sometimes shopping, too.

But, I digress.

About two months ago, I started getting these texts from a number I did not recognize. I ignored them at first thinking it was some kind of marketing company and I wasn’t falling for that trick, thankyouverymuch.

Then, they started to get more personal.

So, I answered back with a “Who is this?” text thinking it was an old school friend I had reconnected with on FaceBook or something to that effect.

It turned out to be a man I had conversed with briefly on Twitter, who then friend requested me on FaceBook and I accepted.

I started to get a very, VERY bad feeling in my gut.

What did I do? I ignored it. Why? Because I didn’t want to be accused of being an egotistical, conceited, BITCH that’s why.

Yeah.

So, the texts were innocent enough at first, I suppose. A “good morning” here and a “what are you up to, today?” there…

Yet, I became more and more weirded out.

Then, about two weeks ago, the other shoe dropped.

I get a text from him telling me how unhappy in his marriage he is and if he had a “funny, sarcastic, gorgeous redhead” things would be ever so much better.

DANGER! DANGER STEPHANIE STEBBINS! DANGER!!

I responded by telling him that I was VERY married and tried to laugh it off.

Didn’t work.

He spent the next twenty minutes texting me back to back explaining that he was married too and that is how he just jokes with his friends.

Riiiiight.

I am not buying that for a dollar. Not even half a penny.

He kept on with this story until finally he texted me and called me a few choice names and said that I was just like “the rest of them.”

I have a feeling that I don’t even WANT to know what he meant by, “the rest of them.”

I was very shaken by the whole thing.

But the worst thing, the very worst thing, is how it made me FEEL inside.

I felt very small.

I hated that I had let someone make me feel this way.

I KNEW, I just KNEW, that there was something wrong right from the beginning and I ignored my gut instincts when they were screaming at me and practically banging me over the head with a cast iron skillet that he was a creep.

Yet, there I went, AGAIN, trying to be the “nice” girl.

Oh, I am just thinking too hard about it, I said.

Oh, he might have a job offer or something, I said.

Oh, and don’t we think a little too much about ourselves Miss I Am The Most Gorgeous Thing On The Planet. You really need to get over yourself, I said.

Oh, he really is acting creepy but maybe there is some other reason he is contacting me, I said.

I’m pretty stupid when it comes to these things, clearly.

So, of course, I talked it over with a guy friend whom I trust very much and he basically confirmed that the guy is a grade A, first class, online creepo.

He said, and I quote: “Some guys truly get off on talking to women like that and making them feel inferior and small. He is a certified jackass and you should stop worrying about it and do NOT feel bad. He’s a DIRTBAG!”

I felt much better after talking to him about it, as I often do.

I had started to withdraw away from the inturdweb and my friends because of the actions of some stupid creepy stalker jerk online. After talking to my friend, I now feel much better and almost laugh at how I let someone else, once again, dictate how I feel about myself.

And, of course, I am being MUCH more careful.

What are your thoughts on this kind of behavior, online or in real life? Have you ever witnessed it? Had it happen to you? How did you deal with it? What kind of solutions would you have used?

For everyone and anyone that is reading this, you use the Internet. I recently watch the most compelling and disturbing documentary. I almost feel like Oprah when I say – you have to watch this! I have never been so moved to anger, rage, and other emotions that we are now confronted with because of monsters that lurk online.

My recent book, Google Bomb, is the tip of the iceberg after watching this film. The victims, and now crusaders, in this film contacted me after hearing about my book and my own experiences.

Many people that have read my book say they have nightmares if they read it before going to bed. I never really understood that. Until I watched this documentary and lived it through other’s lives. My story is horrible, what I endured, however since I was so enmeshed in surviving on a daily basis, I didn’t realize how traumatic it was.

I know many of you have limited time. Watch this 50 minute film in segments if you have to, but watch it.

The title is “Stalkers” however I would prefer to use a phrase that was recently introduced to me – “criminals with a keyboard.”

This film shares two stories with you. One with Graham Brown-Martin (pictured above) and his lovely wife, Ren as well as their toddler daughter and the other with a man, Chay, who in one weak moment had a one night stand that takes obsession to a new level. If there was ever a “Fatal Attraction” through the Internet, we have found it. However, unlike the Hollywood movie, Chay literally only had a one night stand, no strings attached. He never heard again from her until months later, and it would be the worse next years of his life.

Are you ready to watch? http://www.digitalsafety.com/cyberstalking

Don’t miss a minute of it! Visit Digital Safety for more information.

Let me count the ways…..

It has now come the stand off between my child and the county putting me in jail.

If my crime is protecting my child when she says she’s scared to go to her fathers because he drinks and so does grandma.

When my child told me that she is made to sleep on grandmas living room floor or  if she does not like that, she may chose to sleep in the unfinished basement.

She tells me of both her father and grandmother taking her to the bar, drinking and then when they left the bar, grandma got into the wrong car. There was even a witness, several of them that watched as two drunks left a bar with a worried looking girl.

When the child that wet the bed constantly stopped since she refused to go back to him. The child that tells me she doesn’t believe they will put me in jail, that says she would go instead of me. If I have gotten this far and put in jail by the same county that did nothing to protect my daughter from her drunk driving sexual abusive father in 2006. You know who you are and I know what you are and if you think I have contempt for you, you are correct.

I have NOTHING BUT CONTEMPT, DISDAIN AND DISGUST FOR ALL OF YOU

Hon. Frank M. Calvert, Oconto County Family Court Commissioner

Hon. David G. Miron, Marinette County Circuit Court Judge

Attorney/GAL Aaron Krzewinski, Oconto County

Child Protection Worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke Oconto County

Hon. Francis Boyle, Marinette County Family Court Commissioner

Psychologist, Michael Mervilde, Green Bay WI

Counselor, Jennifer Werner, Green Bay WI

and my daughter also feels contempt when she grows up and she will thank you for making her who she will become…..your worst nightmare….a child out for revenge for jailing her mother and not protecting either of us when we needed it most. See the wheels of abuse do go round and round. Our bond will never be broken she and I are the same and you can try but you will never succeed.

Do you keep tabs on ex-boyfriends and -girlfriends over social networking sites? Do you think it’s emotionally healthy or dangerous? Amusing or painful?

Interesting question, oh where oh where should I start? I suppose I’ll just start with the honest truth, after all, that’s what this place is here for, right? Well I did when we were friends on FB together.  I would read through, check updates, etc.  I had tried once we unfriended each other – but I think he either made himself completely unsearchable, or deleted it… there was only one I ever bothered to check on or follow up on.  It’s emotionally unhealthy, but I don’t think that makes it any easier to stop doing….

My husband is actually friends with my ex on FB but he didn’t request me (they were NEVER friends in HS, which is strange to me…).

WTF number 2? What is up with that grill?

Bengals wide receiver Chad Ochocinco has a new iPhone application, created with the help of Bengals backup quarterback Jordan Palmer. The app breaks new ground for the media-savvy receiver.

“If you can’t fly here to chill with me you can with this app,” Ochocinco told fans via his Twitter account.

A cyber stalking worthy ass?

For $4.99, Ochocinco fans can follow his daily routine in photos, videos and tweets. They can ask his advice on dating, sex, physics, hardcore porno or anything else, send their own (dirty)  photos for posting, and track where he is each day when he’s on the road. Basically it’s a cyber stalking app.

There are sound bites in English and Spanish; a “What Would Ochocinco Do?” section; a place to post fan pictures; videos; a “Where’s Ocho?” section that tracks his travels; a place for news and more. Does anyone really care?

One Ocho's cyber stalkers getting creative...

In order to market its then-new Matrix model, Saatchi & Saatchi proposed and Toyota OK’d a campaign whereby people who “opted-in” would get “e-mails for five days from a fictitious man called Sebastian Bowler, from England, who said he was on the run from the law, knew [the person] and where [he/she lived] and was coming to [his/her] home to hide from the police.” And oh, by the way, the participants were entered into the event by people who wanted to set up friends to be "punked."

What could possibly go wrong with that?

Plenty. So much that Amber Duick of LA has filed suit against the carmaker over emotional distress caused by being on the receiving end of the stunt.

Although Bowler did not have Duick’s current address, he sent her links to his My Space page as well as links to video clips of him causing trouble all over the country on his way to her former house in Los Angeles, according to the lawsuit.  "Amber mate! Coming 2 Los Angeles. Gonna lay low at your place for a bit till it all blows over," the man wrote in one e-mail.

You may not have thought it possible, but it gets even stupider.

Duick’s attorney said the marketing company went so far as to send Duick a bill for damages the fictitious man supposedly made to a hotel room. "Amber, ran into a little problem at the hotel," a note with the invoice stated. "After I’m done visiting you, I’m going to go back and sort out that front desk Muppet."

The company’s defense? “Well, she did agree to the opt-in.” Said opt-in was buried in an emailed “personality test” which contained a link to a web page allegedly explaining what was going to happen. Duick’s lawyer characterizes the explanatory note as “indecipherable.” This point seems reasonable as you could hardly expect to punk someone who knows what’s coming.

The entire thing begs two questions:

• WTF was someone smoking when he/she OK’d this?
• What the hell was the campaign supposed to accomplish?

Saatchi & Saatchi told the marketing magazine OMMA last year that it had developed the campaign to target men under 35 who hate advertising. The prank campaign, Saatchi creative director Alex Flint told the magazine, should gain the appreciation from "even the most cynical, anti-advertising guy.

HUH? How the hell does this actually sell the product? It sure as hell isn’t going to make anyone less cynical or anti-advertising. I want to ask did it ever once occur to anyone that even “men under 35” have been known to have problematic people in their lives – but we already know the answer.

Sadly this campaign is excluded for this year’s list of Top 10 (or so) marketing blunders as it took place in 2008. However, I suspect it may receive a special citation from a certain special interest group.

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Please don’t commit these hideous Facebook crimes. If you are currently guilty, stop now before the whole world becomes aware of your apparent lack of Facebook etiquette.

Remember, these aren’t mere suggestions, they are warnings. Stop now or be judged later by the Facebook Gods – they are fierce, unforgiving and may sentence you to eternity on MYSPACE!!!

Facebook Don’tS:

1. Couples, DON’T put cutesy “No, I love you more!” posts on each other’s walls. ESPECIALLY when you live together. It screams desperate and just makes others jealous…like me. Cuz I can’t even get my boyfriend to put ‘In a Relationship’ on his profile. But I’m totally fine with it. I mean we’ve only been dating 7 years so it’s like totally NOT a big deal. Okay, moving on…

2. Don’t send notices out for ALL CAUSES. Be selective. Pick and choose. If you are already a part of the cause to stop animal cruelty, stop crimes against children, eat vegetarian and adopt a fugly person to date – that’s enough. Stop there. If you’re for all the causes – you’re really for none of the causes and everyone will nickname you FAKEY McFakerson with a capital F!

3. Learn how to flip your pics. Nothing says “I’m a total internet granny” like posting pics that are sideways or upside down. Seriously, you can do it. There is a flipping option under the pic after you upload it.  It’s just plain unfair because we all know that everyone looks hotter sideways and/or upside down. Show us your TRUE SELF~

4. TMI! There is a such thing as TOO MUCH INFORMATION. Your Facebook friends don’t need to know about your last bowel movement, what it looked like, smelled like or what it took to create it.

5. Depressing status updates. Quit bumming us out with depressing status updates where you say “my life sucks” or “this is the worst day EVER” or “I’ll be dead by the morning.” Seriously! At first I liked this because it made me feel better about my life, but after seeing people post these depressors daily – Facebook friends no longer want to empathize with you. Instead, they want you to start lying. Facebook is not your therapist or BFF. It’s time to face the reality that some of your friends got stuck befriending you in hopes that this would deter you from stabbing them one day.

6. OVERLY HAPPY STATUS UPDATES WITH TOO MANY EXCLAMATION POINTS THAT ARE IN ALL CAPS!!!!! Okay, so you may think you have the best husband, boyfriend,wife, mistress, kid, cat, or disease EVER, but guess what, you don’t and no one agrees with you. Our selfish minds won’t let us because all we think when you proclaim your “bests” is  - “Ours are better!”

7. Excessive status updates about how much good stuff you do like volunteer, work out, eat vegetables and feed the elderly.  GOOD FOR YOU! Now keep that stuff to yourself, FACEBRAGGER!

8. Taking more than 2 quizzes a day is UNACCEPTABLE. Get a life! Not like I have one, but I know others that do have a life and it doesn’t involve finding out what Hoggwarts character you are and when you are going to get married. It’s just nonsense, especially when guess what, you are already married!

9. If you receive event invitations the WORST reply is ‘Maybe.’ This is okay if you really are on the fence and plan on making up your mind and posting yes or no before the event. However, always being the ‘Maybe’ person doesn’t go unnoticed and infuriates the Facebook Gods. You don’t want your FaceRights taken away from you now, do you?

10. If you beat my Farkle score, under no circumstance is it okay for you to post your win to my wall. Since I play Farkle obsessivelyoften, I already know. Braggers don’t make for good FB friends and sometimes Farkle just feels bad for people and gives them a really high score, which coincidently puts them ahead of me on the scoreboard. So it’s not about talent or good luck, it’s just about pity, but not when it happens to me.

Now get a sense of humor and follow these tips AND you will have the best social networking life EVER!

Cyber-criminals have developed sophisticated ways to remain undetected, a new report finds.The report, from security firm Finjan, describes how one gang, based in the Ukraine, stole 300,000 euros (£269,000) in 22 days.

It used a sophisticated piece of malicious software which fooled banks’ anti-fraud systems as well as forging bank statements to hide the thefts.

It also recruited innocent job-seekers as so-called money mules.

Such mules were needed to prevent a direct money trail being traced back to the gang.

The specific attack, monitored during the month of August, was aimed at the customers of several German online banks.

The German police have been informed.

The server used by the gang has been frozen although it is not known whether gang members have actually been caught.

Specific criteria

The gang used infected and fake websites to spread the trojan, a piece of malicious code which, once installed, can access all the data on the infected machine.

From a command and control server hosted in the Ukraine, the code was installed on the computers of bank account holders.

The trojan received specific instructions about how much money to steal from each account as well as the details of the money mule’s account into which the money was transferred.

Finjan’s chief technology officer Yuval Ben-Itzhak said he was surprised at the level of sophistication employed by the gang.

The code included very specific criteria to make sure the bank accounts of victims were not completely emptied and to ensure the amount being stolen was not so high that it would be detected by banks’ anti-fraud systems.

To further obfuscate their crimes, the code used by the gang was able to generate a forged screen showing the transfer of a small amount of money.

The real amount stolen would only be obvious to the victim if they logged into their account from an uninfected computer.

They wanted to make sure the victim would not find out from their statements. In some cases they deleted transactions completely,” said Mr Ben-Itzhak.

Anti-fraud systems are designed to detect unusual money transfers, as well as strange behaviour on customers accounts.

Money-making schemes

Money mules are increasingly being recruited by cybercriminals as a way of preventing police finding a direct link to them.

We have spotted money mules being used in the last six months or so,” said Mr Ben-Itzhak.

The recession has made it easier to recruit people, he thinks.

There are more people looking for jobs and if an attractive job offer drops into their inbox, they are going to take it,” he said.

The Ukrainian cyber-criminals hired its “mules” by falsely telling them they would be working for a legitimate business.

These “mules” were unaware that they are being sent stolen money, but believed that they are being paid for working from home or other moneymaking schemes.

The money mules in this particular case are being treated as innocent victims and, although they will be questioned, will not face prosecution.

“Hey! My name’s Tony and I wanted to to let you in on a how you can make your child a mess and get back at the kids mother, all you got to do is accuse them of PAS…that’s right Parental Alienation Syndrome, a.k.a. “brainwashing”.

Don’t worry that it was invented by a total loon and pro-pedophile, Dr. Richard Gardner, who wound up offing himself by stabbing himself…a lot.

Don’t even fuss about the fact that PAS is not even accepted by any mental health care provider worth their salt anyways….hehehe If you think you might be a victim of PAS or your kids were or are a victim of PAS, or wait a minute, you’re the victim, but then the kids are the victim too, no, okay, you’re the victim but the child is the TRUE victim…yeah…that’s the ticket….fool me twice, shame on you…ah, you get it.

Please take the below quiz to find out if one of yous guys is a victim.

Question 1 Are you an Asshole?

Question 2 Does or did more than one person have a restraining order against you?

Question 3 Do/did you hit your wife/girlfriend?

Question 4 Do/did you hit your wife/girlfriend?

If you answered yes to any of these questions…then congratulations!

You have PAS or your kid does…doesn’t matter….somebody has it and your lawyer, the judge, the guardian ad litem and other court whores are going to profit from it and your kids are seriously going to hate you for accusing their mother of it, but they already do anyways don’t they?

BTW….if you can’t spell “brainwashing” or use the word “brainsmashing” instead of using the correct word…you probably shouldn’t use it at all.

“Children say that people are hung sometimes for speaking the truth.” St. Joan of Arc

“I AM NOT AFRAID, I WAS BORN TO DO THIS”

St. Joan of Arc & Mama Liberty

“My child and I have been threatened and intimidated by the possibility that I may go to jail and be held in contempt due to my child refusing to have visitation with her abusive father and she may go to foster care.” Her father has told her this over and over again, as well as Judge David Miron.

This is not the first time that this mother has had to protect her child from the father. Oconto County CPS did substantiate sexual abuse allegations against the the father, he found a loop hole and had the recused Family Court Commissioner, Frank M. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations.

The system has failed my child, from Oconto County and its CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke to Marinette County Circuit Court Judge, David Miron.

This father does not have the means to care for her. She has no bed or a bedroom due to the fact he lives with his mother who only has two bedrooms.

The 11 yr old child is given the choice to sleep either on the floor in the living room or down in the basement. She has no privacy or space to call her own while she is in her fathers care. She is continually tormented and tortured by both her paternal grandmother and father, this is nothing new.

This child has been exposed to domestic violence by her father towards her mother several times. She was also a passenger in his car when he was arrested for driving drunk in the middle of the day. The CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke told the mother:

“drinking and driving with his daughter did not make him a bad father, he made a bad choice.”

This was nothing compared to the sexual abuse my child endured and other court ordered abuse.

My child has taken her stand against her abuser, the court ordered abuse and threats of foster care by Judge David Miron.

My child is not an empty vessel, she KNOWS where she is safe. She has not lied to social workers, even with her father prodding her to.

All her needs are provided by her loving Mother and she knows that

“I am not going to shut up, give up or go away!”

“My only wish is for my daughter to be safe and sane.”

If this mother is jailed for doing what any mother would do for her child

the consequences to my accusers and judges will be as follows.

There will be a hunger strike (Troscadh), and all the battles up until now were training for we intend to win the war and expose the dirty little secrets of family court and the criminals that run it.

Change
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights, battles have begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is nowChange
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights and battles ‘ve begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead

 

Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now

Don’t
Let yourself down
Don’t let yourself go
Your last chance has arrived

Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now

Silk Flowers for the centerpiece, hand-crafted to perfection!

Who was it that said I’m too old for a slumber party? “KILLJOY”!

I am clearly in jeopardy of being dubbed as “Party Girl” and well since I’m ACTUALLY a twirty-something (You know going on 29 and have been for five years age-of-all-ages). I’ll throw down any chance (or is that throw up- not in a literal sense of course) to have a partay! I’ll admit I get all warm and tingly inside just thinking about “decorations” as it serves to patronize my interior MOTIVES. What are those exactly, UM, hm, let’s see, mailing out invites, (picking them out), figuring out the decor for the night at hand, and picking out the best frock I can find, AND of course practicing a little retail therapy resisTANCE. I have been having slumber parties since I was 8 and have not stopped, but as I got older I prefer the word “Soirée”!

As much as I like a chic throw down, I am the most down-to-earth-gal, if I may say so myself. However, there is a slight snag to things when you are an expat, that is, FRIENDS are spread all over the place (I mean your native-tongue-speaking-friends). I find it frustrating and it’s on the top of my “I hate being in Japan” list of all-LISTS!

I was hoping to see and meet a few new gals from Osaka but it had slipped my mind that it was “Silver Week”, and that meant for a horrendous-traffic-induced-drive. Normally it is just a hop-skip-and-jump away but not on a National Holiday. Think of Christmas for example or “The Holidays” on steroids, that is what Japan is like, weekends even, if you are out and about shopping (and I mean simple supermarkets).

We have plans to reschedule so I’m looking forward to that. I had two friends come from the Tokyo area, one from Mie, and 6 from my area (Honda, Nagoya, and Ichinomiya). All in all, 9 girls, thank goodness the extra bed arrived (the blow up bed) or air mattress. The bed is brand new, and I was blown away but its fabulousness and then we sent the dogs to the sitters. I couldn’t have Madison-the-thumper-humper humping my guests! My girlfriend also from Tokyo came Friday and helped me set up for the party, setting up the pom decorations, total-fun overload! She and hubs decided to help out on the cupcakes too-FABULOUS.

Having a full night and day chilling out with friends tied summer up perfectly. I am already gearing up the the “Halloween Soirée”!

Mean Girls

“Mean Girls” or perhaps one in particular. Some of you asked in private “why did I delete my flickr account”, and “where are all my photos”? My friends and family who have followed me here I still have my “other blog” where I did and will soon continue to do gratuitous-outfit posts. I have been blogging and journaling for over 12 years now but I have recently in the past year been sharing my blog with my Japan friends and my life in Japan with my expat friends, etc. I had a male stalker from my work place two years ago, and he found me AGAIN, although I don’t think he is dangerous he is just persistent that I leave my husband and marry him!

So that at first prompted me to take down some of my personal photos, my outfit posts, etc, and then even more recently, the comments on the photos that I let stay in the blog. The comments were more geared toward me and then they went on to picking apart my life, how I live, etc.

So, that is WHY I deleted my flickr account a few months ago, and most recently why I took down all our family photos and am very leery to post photos of my family (the Mr. and I). I want to begin to do some outfit posts in the near future but I am afraid and can’t be bothered by this cyber bitch, and have gotten to the point where I won’t let my picture be taken, I shun the camera, this just bought back horrible memories of when yet ANOTHER guy where I used to teach “saw” my picture hanging up in the Administrations office (they used me for a commercial once) and he followed me around.

But more than anything else, is the comments that I have to delete day after day, after day. There is a difference between lurking and cyber stalking. I am thinking of having to have my outfit posts password protected, even my photos! Any advice?

This is the same reason I closed the blog before and I’m not going to do it this time, bully or not! You can kiss my ass!!!! The foul comments started August 18th, exactly, I have a feeling who it is, could be, it stopped a week ago, but then started up again, and I am not sure if it is one person or two?

Here are the links to the comments in question below: It stopped and then started back again this week, and I have been deleting and sending certain phrases or strings to the spam alert.

http://www.aprilmarieclaire.com/?p=237#comments and here http://girljapan.wordpress.com/2009/01/13/donald-brookto-not-sewvintagemodseed-clothingsolanahs-shop-modern-vintagelasagna-recipe/#comments

and here…

http://girljapan.wordpress.com/2009/06/22/happy-birthday-okinawan-cake-bling-shopping-favorite-vintage-jeans-manju/#comments

I don’t have the time to either track that person down or spend time doing my own investigative work so I am leaving it up to my friend (a guy that I used to date, we are great friends now) who is an “Agent” for the “Agency” and he works in security, so I’ll know exactly who it is by Tuesday, even if they think they are sly using a computer at a net cafe or using a free proxy, you will be found, I can choose to

A. Go after them for cyber stalking

B. Let the “Agency” give them a scare

C. Give the person an opportunity to admit it now and apologize and I’ll let things be- but will bid them farewell and wish the person mental happiness and that you get the fucking help you so desperately need.

Frankly, I am just so fucking tired of having to delete the foul comments day after day, and it is taking up my time, this person is invading my SPACE.

On a lighter note, back to some of the decor used for the party! These are silk, so I can use them for the next pink and white gathering.

Guest Towels for the living, kitchen and powder room.

Another Pom (tissue pom) and centerpiece for the Genkan (Entrance)

Black and White cup cake wrappers

Cookies Served Frap Vanilla Cookies

Lemon Lime Cheesecake Cookies

Macaroons

Party Favors for the guests!

The Swag Bag for guests consisted of:

• Lychee Soap
• Pumpkin Shea Butter Lotion
• Coconut Soy Candle
• and Goodies (edible)

The Fun

• I had a playlist playing and using my Airport express I was able to pipe this into the stereo system, no need to change cds, etc.
• Table Topics
• FUN TV was playing in the background on both Flat screen sets which also served as some disco light.

What the “Father Rights” Joke about? Below is a joke found on FR group…..how appropos….since they’re always complaining about how much child support they have to pay.

Tired of constantly being broke & stuck in an unhappy marriage, a young husband decided to solve both problems by taking out a large insurance policy on his wife with himself as the beneficiary, and then arranging to have her killed.

A ‘friend of a friend’ put him in touch with a nefarious dark-side underworld figure who went by the name of ‘Artie.’ Artie then explained to the husband that his going price for snuffing out a spouse was $5,000. The husband said he was willing to pay that amount, but that he wouldn’t have any cash on hand until he could collect his wife’s insurance money.

Artie insisted on being paid at least something up front, so the man opened his wallet, displaying the single dollar bill that rested inside.  Artie sighed, rolled his eyes, & reluctantly agreed to accept the dollar as down payment for the dirty deed.

A few days later, Artie followed the man’s wife to the local Super Wal-Mart store. There, he surprised her in the produce department & proceeded to strangle her with his gloved hands. As the poor unsuspecting woman drew her last breath & slumped to
the floor ……. The manager of the produce department stumbled unexpectedly onto the murder scene Unwilling to leave any living witnesses behind, ol’ Artie had no choice but to strangle the produce manager as well.

However, unknown to Artie, the entire proceedings were captured by the hidden security cameras & observed by the store’s security guard, who immediately called the police. Artie was caught and arrested before he could even leave the store.

Under intense questioning at the police station, Artie revealed the whole sordid plan, including his unusual financial arrangements with the hapless husband who was also quickly arrested.

The next day in the newspaper, the headline declared…

*’ARTIE CHOKES 2 for $1.00 @ WAL-MART!’*

Why doesn’t Family Court get “it” that there is no such thing as joint/shared parenting when mothers have to deal with this type of a man?

Then this today…

Northfield man gets 15 years for killing mother of his five children

MAYS LANDING – Friday used to be the day Louis Ceresa took his five children out for pizza.

But this Friday, instead of picking them up, the Northfield man was sentenced to 15 years in prison for killing their mother.

Ceresa admitted in July that he strangled Amanda Carmen, 34, while the two sat in her minivan outside his Revere Avenue home during a scheduled custody exchange Jan. 11.

Superior Court Judge Bernard DeLury called the plea agreement’s recommended 15-year sentence “lenient,” but said that Ceresa’s willingness to admit his guilt spared his children from a painful trial and his eldest from having to testify in court.

The couple’s 11-year-old son witnessed the killing.

“I can’t tell you what I did that night or why I did it,” Ceresa, 33, told the judge Friday. “I don’t know what happened.”

When he pleaded to aggravated manslaughter in July, Ceresa said “I exploded” after Carmen told him she was moving away with their children.

“I didn’t mean for this to happen,” he said at the time.

“To lose a child, at any age, from illness or accident is horrific,” Carmen’s mother, Margaret, said in a statement read in court by victim counselor Trisha Hayek. “But to lose her because someone was angry and just ‘didn’t mean to kill her’ is unbearable.”

Now, Carmen’s children will not have their mother with them for all the important things in life, she said: “What Louis did will have an effect on our family not just now, but also for generations to come.”

“I have no excuse for what I did,” Ceresa said.

He apologized to his children – who were not in court – as well as the dozen family members there to support him. He also apologized to the Carmens, explaining, “they were my family for many years.”

And once again, as he had when he pleaded, Ceresa professed his love for Carmen.

“Louis claims he loved Amanda,” Margaret Carmen wrote. “How do you put your hands around the throat of someone you love and watch them take their last breath of life? How is his defense, ‘I didn’t mean to’?”

But defense attorney Anthony Previti said the killing was an anomaly, and Ceresa is a good man who has shown consistent remorse since the killing.

Previti said Ceresa asked that nothing positive be said about him in court, “but I am compelled to say it.”

“I don’t feel like a good person,” Ceresa said. “I do feel rotten. I do feel like crap, and I should. I’ll make sure I come down on myself for the rest of my life.”

For at least the next 12 years, that life will be in prison. He must serve 85 percent of the imposed sentence before he is eligible for parole.

By that time, the victim’s mother said, the children “will have the time to grow up and understand the situation and how they feel about it.”

She said she would like to see Ceresa spend the rest of his life in jail, but the family accepted the plea deal to spare her 11-year-old grandson “the agony of having seen his mother strangled to death by his father and then have to testify and put his father in prison.”

It is more time than the nine years Millville police Sgt. Robert Vanaman received after admitting during jury selection for his murder trial in March that he killed his wife and tried to cover up the crime in 2006.

In August, DeLury sentenced Rosina McKinnie to nine years in prison under a plea agreement in which she admitted to fatally stabbing her live-in boyfriend Aramis Smith during a 2008 party at the couple’s Pleasantville home. There was a history of domestic violence against McKinnie in that case.

Previti told DeLury on Friday how the judge often said domestic violence cases are one step away from homicide. But in this case, “there was no warning,” Previti said.

Police had not broken up fights between the two. Ceresa had no criminal background.

“I don’t believe he’s even had a parking ticket,” Previti said.

But there was daily alcohol consumption and a history of cocaine use, DeLury pointed out.

“This defendant was not entirely a law-abiding person, as evidence by his frequent (drug) abuse.”

Ceresa relinquished his parental rights. The children, ages 5 to 11, now live with their maternal grandmother in Egg Harbor Township.

“I lost my children. I lost Amanda. I lost everything over something stupid,” Ceresa told the judge. “When I die, I’ll pay for this again. I’ll be judged again.”

So I was cyber stalking Jason Schwartzman and he said that this is is favorite music video of all time, and the inspiration behind the Coconut Records video for “Any Fun.” Which features Chloe Sevigny. Who I lurve.

We lost our green land, we lost our clean air ,

We lost our true wisdom and we live in despair.

O sisters, o sisters, lets stand up right now,

Its never too late to start from the start.

O wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,

And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to ask.

Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,

Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.

Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,

Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.

O sisters, o sisters, lets wake up right now,

Its never too late to shout from our hearts.

O freedom, o freedom, thats what we fight for,

And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to fight.

Freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,

Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.

O freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,

Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.

O sisters, o sisters, lets give up no more,

Its never too late to build a new world .

O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,

And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to live.

New world, O new world, thats what we live for,

Thats what we must now learn to build.

O new world , o new world, thats what we live for,

Thats what we must now learn to build.

New world, o new world, thats what we live for,

Thats what we must now learn to build.

O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,

Thats what we must now learn to build.

lyrics by Yoko Ono

Dedicated to my abusers…J— and C—-….you might have tried to break me but I’m not broken….my life is better than ever…..you never had me.

Dedicated to my loving husband, best friend, soul mate, Chad

DEAD

Taken away forever

Gone

Not one day goes by that a murder-suicide has NOT occurred.

The ‘father/men rights’ activists try to say that women, not men, commit more acts of violence and also murder.

These men are becoming so entrenched with hating women that they are seriously losing the plot. I say to all women that are in an abusive relationship and are thinking of finally getting out…please be EXTRA careful! The precautions that were previously taken when leaving an abusive relationship should be upped an notch or two. If you think you cannot do it on your own, know you can! If you think your abuser will change, no he will not! Or if you fear for your children’s safety you definitely should! The following is an abstract from a publication regarding murder-suicide from 2005…

I am sure nothing has changed since then except that the rate is probably higher for 2009

From Murder-Suicide: An Overview by Roger W. Byard M.D.

Murder-suicide is an act in which the perpetrator of a homicide kills him or herself after killing the victim(s). Rates of murder-suicide are fairly consistent across communities and are much lower than rates for homicide or suicide. The most common murder-suicide scenario involves a White male perpetrator in his 40s who kills his estranged spouse and perhaps his children before killing himself. The three most common categories of murder-suicide are cases in which (1) the act is caused by jealously or concern about age or illness; (2) the act is perpetrated by a parent who kills all of the children and then themselves; and (3) the act involves disgruntled employees, cult members, or members of religious or political groups who target a large number of victims before committing suicide. Aspects of the investigation are reviewed, international rates of murder-suicide are presented, and the possible motivations for murder-suicide are briefly considered. forever young