Who was the last person you offended?
Submitted by May.

To be honest, I am not sure if I actually offended anyone. Certainly this wasn't my intention either. But after thinking about it, I fear that perhaps I did. Who knows. Maybe I am over thinking.

For Mother's Day, B and I sent flowers to his sister and mother. Since his mother had gone to visit his sister, I figured one really nice bouquet would be better than two cheap bouquets. Plus there was a nice vase, so I figured B's sister could keep that and hopefully fill it with flowers on a regular basis. We also decided to sign B's other sister's name to the order, but didn't tell her (we wanted the flowers to be a surprise so didn't want to put her in a weird position since she would be with them when they were delivered).

I went back and forth on the last one. She does turn 37 tomorrow. And certainly could have done something to celebrate her mother and sister. But while she was here, she didn't get out much, and never alone. So we did it more so that she wouldn't feel left out. And in some ways I know this contradicts what I have been preaching. But I felt this was the better error, if you will.

The weird thing is B's sister (who is a mother) didn't acknowledge the flowers at all. Of course, that is typical of her. So again, hard to say. I am not sure I would want to share my mother's day flowers with my mother. And then I also realized that her husband was out of the country and I suspect he may have forgotten or decided to do something upon his return. So if he didn't do anything he might have looked bad. I know I over think these things.

As for the sister who is not a mother, no response either. B's mom sent an email thanking us for the flowers. She copied the sister in email (even though the sister is there with her). B and I talked about this and I guess if you mention someone you should copy them. But it felt like she really wanted us to know. So I don't really know what to make of it.

Of course then I ask myself how could we really have offended anyone by doing something nice? I mean, we didn't have to send flowers. We wanted to do something nice. If that isn't how it was received, well, that is not our fault. We tried. They don't make it easy.

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