Sage is doing fine. I think being with Toby to the end was good for her. We watched her carefully, as did the vet, during the whole procedure to ensure it wasn’t too much for her. (Lots of treats helped.) I think dogs process death a bit better than humans, and hopefully this gave her a sense of why Toby is no longer here. She seems to miss him, but we are staying busy.

Sage will be back with all her adventures really soon. She’s miffed that I’m taking the ‘puter away with me to San Francisco. She’ll be home with Dad though, cooking up some new schemes to find the nearest mud-puddle!

]]> http://sagechronicles.wordpress.com/2012/04/17/the-final-battle/ Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:27:43 +0000 Sage http://sagechronicles.wordpress.com/2012/04/17/the-final-battle/ Toby here: The battle has raged for almost two years now. I’m tired and pretty battle-scared. My special vet gave me lots of potions, but that evil spinal myleopathy dragon has mortally wounded me. Sage has been at my side all the way and has been licking my ears lately…I think she secretly hopes there’s some magic that will help. I tell her it’s time to go over the Rainbow Bridge.

I’ve seen Maggie beckoning on the other side, so I know it’s time.

She told me my legs will work again and I’ll be able to run and play with her.

Don’t be sad, Sage. I’ll be there for you when you see something new and it scares you. I’ve taught you a lot and it’s time for me to go. 

So, in my regal status as Sir Pantsalot of the Round Bowl, I now bequeath you my sword, and all my worldly goods. Be strong, little one. I love you.
Mom here: Toby went over the Rainbow Bridge today. He fought a valiant fight, but yesterday could no longer stand on his own and progressively got worse. We knew it was time. The vet came to the house and his struggles are now over. Sage was with him to the end.

Run free, Toby. We will miss you. A lot.

By Bob Shaw

bshaw@pioneerpress.com Updated: 11/07/2011 12:08:35 AM CST

Sid Korpi shows off clay paw prints of her pets, two of which were euthanized at her Minneapolis home. (Pioneer Press: Richard Marshall)

Undated photo of Sid Korpi’s cat Giles, who was euthanized at home by Minnesota Pets in August. (Courtesy to Pioneer Press: Sid Korpi)

Sid Korpi is glad that death makes house calls. When her cat, Giles, approached the end of his life in August, Korpi called on a unique in-home euthanasia service. Called Minnesota Pets, the St. Paul business does euthanasia—and only euthanasia. It has no clinic to treat animals, just four veterinarians who make about 20 house calls a week, each one ending an animal’s life. Customers say their pets die more peacefully at home. Korpi said that instead of dying in a clinic, her cat died in her lap, surrounded by love, peace and candlelight.

“There was no stress from cramming him into a carrier. I didn’t want to have to drive him somewhere with tears streaming down my face,” she said.

The idea for the business first dawned on Dr. Rebecca McComas four years ago, as her two beagles aged. Being a vet, she always planned to euthanize them at home. “I would never consider doing it in a clinical setting,” McComas said. “Then I started talking to other vets, and they said they wouldn’t do that in a clinic, either.” So, she asked, why would anyone? She knew that other clinics performed in-home euthanasias but wanted to have the first Minnesota business to specialize in them.

But the business does more than stick needles into dying animals. The vets are expert grief counselors. They dispose of the body afterward. And they offer mementos of the pet, such as a clay imprint of a paw. The basic visit costs $225, up to $375 for cremating the body and Advertisement returning the ashes. McComas helps customers deal with a form of grief that is misunderstood—and underestimated. When someone’s mother dies, friends and family share the grief. Everyone understands it. But when a pet dies, it’s not the same. “A lot of clients report that the loss of an animal, for people with a primary bond, is worse than that of a mother, father, sister or friend,” said Lisa Havelin, a grief support specialist with Minnesota Pets. “It’s incomparable. It’s much worse.”

That’s because pets spend an enormous amount of time with their owners. “We get used to them. They go in the car with us. We are with them all day,” said Havelin. “We do not spend that much quality time with other people.” That makes the loss of a pet hard to explain to others. “It’s disenfranchised grief,” Havelin said. But can’t a person who loses a pet just get a replacement? “For some people who do not have a connection with the animal, they can say, ‘Fine, I will replace a black lab with another black lab,’ ” Havelin said. In other cases, the animal-human bond is very strong.

“It’s just like with people. You may have a lot of people in the course of your life, but some stand out,” Havelin said. “I have had animals my whole life, but two or three of them have been especially difficult to lose.”

Sid Korpi holds a clay mold with paw prints of her 15-year-old cat Giles, who was euthanized at her home in August. (Pioneer Press: Richard Marshall)

Linda and Allen Anderson of St. Louis Park realized last summer that their 19-year-old cat, Speedy, was no longer living up to his name. “He was falling down,” Linda Anderson said. The cat stopped eating and drinking, and death seemed imminent. But McComas said cats are very hardy – and can sometimes live for weeks without food. That means that an owner determined to let nature take its course will watch the cat deteriorate—painfully.

For the Andersons, euthanasia in a clinic seemed too cold, too impersonal. “Speedy hated vets,” Anderson said. McComas showed up at the house, dressed in surgical scrubs and carrying a bag with the equipment. Together, they talked about Speedy’s life. “She was very kind,” Anderson said. The experience was perfect, she said. “To be able to do that, with him on my lap and my husband there, to give him that last dose of love—it was a remarkable experience.”

Korpi is a Minneapolis author of the book “Good Grief: Finding Peace After Pet Loss,” and an expert on grieving over lost pets. So when her own cat, Giles, was near death in August, she liked the idea of a peaceful death at home. When the vet arrived, Korpi lit a candle and dimmed the lights in the room. “Giles came right up to her. He knew what was happening—and he was grateful,” Korpi said.

She has been through euthanasias of 16 of her other pets. “Every single time,” she said, “I say that when I go, I want to go like that.”

Bob Shaw can be reached at 651-228-5433. Follow him on twitter.com/BshawPP.