I’m so frustrated! It seems like EVERYTHING is bothering me! If it’s not this person, it’s that person…if it isn’t one thing, it’s another. When does it end? When do I get a break?

I’m tired of people taking their frustrations out on me. If you’re mad about something, keep your anger to yourself. Don’t take it out on others and don’t project either. It’s true what they say…misery loves company. I’m just overwhelmed with frustration and I need a break!!

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Why do people tend to avoid feeling their feelings? It has everything to do with our early experience in life – what we learned and what we didn’t learn. As I talk to people across the nation, most people agree that they didn’t really learn how to make good use of their feelings when they were growing up. What they did learn was how to avoid certain feelings.

• “It’s not okay to be angry.”
• “Don’t feel excited about yourself.”

These are the some of the common messages that we heard about our feelings.  But, what about how to make good use of our feelings?  Unfortunately, we didn’t get that primer.

In recent years, through the field of affective neuroscience and child development, we have learned a lot about how the brain grows, develops, and changes. We’ve discovered that  the first three years of our lives is a critical period in which our brains are growing at an extremely rapid pace. It’s also a time where emotions are our only form of communication.

When we’re infants we don’t have words.  Our main form of communication is through our emotions. We’re happy, we’re sad, we cry. It’s how we let our caregivers know how we’re feeling. We’re also extremely attuned to our caregivers reactions and learn so much about our emotions through our experiences with them.

Many of us grew up with caregivers who themselves weren’t comfortable with the full range of feelings: theirs as well as others. As infants, we pick up on their discomfort, it feels scary to us, and this sense of danger gets associated with our feelings, and, ultimately, wired into our brains.   Remember, our brains are developing at a rapid rate during this time.

The consequence is that, based on the reactions and the experience we have with our caregivers, we end up feeling uncomfortable around certain feelings, feeling fearful of them. That whole experience gets laid down in our neuro-circuitry. It’s wired into our brains. We end up carrying that experience forward into our adulthood.

We also then have all the cultural messages which serve to reinforce those early experiences that we had:

• “You need to be strong.”
• “It’s not okay for women to be angry.”
• “It’s not okay for men to be vulnerable or to show fear.”

We end up responding to our world in a fearful way based on early experiences and cultural reinforcement.

We have a feelings phobia. Think about the other more obvious phobias and how we respond– whether it’s a fear of heights or being in close quarters – we tend to avoid the things that we’re afraid of. As a consequence, we never get the experience to overcome our fears.

Pretend for a moment that you have a fear of walking over bridges. You can think about crossing over that bridge as much as you want, but change doesn’t really happen until you confront your fear and find a way to cross the bridge.  If we can find a way to reduce our anxiety and take the risk to move forward, we can begin to overcome our fear.   The more we’re able to cross the bridge, or confront whatever we’re afraid of, the more our fears melt away.

Change doesn’t always happen merely by trying to think differently.  Due to the way that the brain is wired, our feelings can be much stronger than our thoughts. If you’re wired to feel afraid of something, trying to think your way through it is not as effective. When we have new experiences and we’re able to open up and regulate our anxiety, we begin to change on a physiological level.

Opening up to our feelings and learning how to regulate and tame our anxiety changes us. By taking small steps to open up, we can build the capacity to be with our feelings. It’s like you’re developing a new skill; and just like any other skill, you need to do it, practice it, and work at it in order for you it to develop, become second nature, and to feel good about it.

Try that with one fear that you have this week. Take some small steps to get a new experience around that fear. It will give you the courage to move past obstacles that may have been stopping you for years.

Learn how to live like you mean it, even when times are tough. Reserve your free copy of the 30 minute audio program, Optimal Living in Challenging Times at www.cfcliving.com/optimalliving

Dr. Ron Frederick helps people all over the world to use the wisdom and power of their emotions to get the lives they really want.

Giving life to a blog.  The wordpress creators must see it every minute, if not, every second.

But yet.. for every human behind the keyboard wanting to express their mind and feelings on the internet, whether this is anonymous or just out of the sky, it remains special.

This blog is just as special for me, as yours is probably for you.

What makes it different? Nothing.
I am just a lesbian woman wanting to express my thoughts, feelings and views.  Who are you?

If you pass by, feel free to answer this simple question: “Who are you?”

Welcome to selerato.

About a month ago I did that radical thing (well for a gay guy anyway). I deleted myself from all the gay social networks I was linked to. Out went Fit Lads, LadsLads, Thingbox, Grindr and the most famous of them all…..Gaydar.

As I said in my previous post, I have been on one or all of these services on and off since I came out. So for me, disconnecting my self from this was hard, but to be honest I don’t really miss it.

If I look back I could tell you about the many nights I spent on these sites, searching and replying to messages. Worrying about whether I was going to get a message back, If I fitted their criteria or even if my pictures were ok. Then the anticipation of going on these blind dates with these guys and find out that its just not meant to be….their is only so much rejection a man can take.

But I’m not going to say it’s been easy. I’m enjoying the single life and sorting out all those little bits on my to-do list that I never get done. It does get hard thought when you realise that there are is no one that you know of on the horizon, especially when your single friends start hooking up and finding partners. For me its been hard this past week, I began to realise how long its been since I got a good snog and in turn how long its been since I had some good sex or even those feelings of when you meet the right person for the first time.

Once these thoughts start creeping into your head its tough to not let it affect you. I started to question if I have been doing the right thing. Whether it would make me happier to see what’s about and get back to my old ways. But I haven’t and I’m not going to. I’m just putting it down to a hard and bad week that everyone goes through every so often. I know things will get better and easier. I’m building a great and solid friendship group now, I’ve got a job that I am happy with and once life gets a bit more settled the right man will come along who will be an amazing kisser and great in the bedroom department….fingers crossed!

It’s all about confidence, self belief and sticking by your guns knowing that you are doing what is right for you at this moment in time.

LDNGay

X

@LDNgay

This week I finally finished something. For years I’ve been reminded to put together my vision board. To practice seeing what it is I really want.

The first time I heard of creative visualization was in 2002. I was reading, Tony & Tina Color Energy: How Color Can Transform Your Life. In the book they referenced Shakti Gawain’s book, Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life as a source of inspiration for their success. After reading both books, I was inspired to take what I saw in my mind (and what I say & think) more seriously. A few years later my brother introduced me to the Abraham-Hicks teachings, they sounded very similar to creative visualization. Then several years after that, The Secret came out. Everyone was talking about the book & buying into visualizing success. Seven years passed by and I never put what I learned about vision boards to use. Even being a visual person & always happy to do creative projects, I never completed a vision board or  vision journal. Well, I felt inspired again after talking to Shirley Calkins Smith  at Lily Dale Assembly this year. She told me that I should use my creative abilities & trained eye to really see what it is I want and to make it happen. The tough part was, I don’t know what I really ‘want’. I’m not into buying the ‘dream house’, I don’t believe in ’soul mates’, I don’t play lotto hoping to win a million bucks (or think that money will solve my problems), etc, etc.. So what is it that I want? What I want is what makes me happy. Those things became very clear to me when my health coach asked me what makes me happy. Her question was, “What makes you smile & get happy as soon as you think about it? Tell me 10 things.” My answer was,

1. Beautiful fruits & beautiful colors
2. Sex & sexy things
3. Getting my hands dirty in an art or painting project
4. Dancing to music that moves me
5. Getting paid to be myself
6. Feeling light & free
7. Making people happy
8. Laughing & laughter
9. Moments of being ‘in the flow’
10. Someone enjoying me or my work

This was an ‘ah ha’ moment for me. Nowhere on that list was, having a ‘tight’ body, making millions, falling in love, buying a big house, becoming famous, driving a fancy car, getting a Ph.D., retiring in the South of France, none of that made the list. (In my opinion it’s just marketing. I don’t think anyone thinks these things will make them happy until society teaches them that.) The list was simple. It was made up of mostly feelings. How come I don’t focus all my efforts in this area? Why am I not making laughing, dancing  & getting my hands dirty the priority? After getting in touch with this, I started to save images I clipped from magazines. I didn’t think about it, I just clipped. If anything caught my eye or made me smile, I saved it. I now have over 30 collages in this book. Looking at all of them makes me feel good. My goal is to keep looking at the pages & to keep feeling good. To also be aware of were I am focusing my attention. Am I seeing, thinking & saying what makes me happy, inspired & content? If not, why? Thoughts create reality. Let’s create the most awesome, motivating, helpful, loving & beautiful life we can imagine. For ourselves & others. Why not?

[For more information on how to make a vision board or book, you can check out this link. I just found it by Googling the topic.]

[All photographs in this post are of my personal collages. Most of them have my face somewhere on the page. Feel free to print them out for your own personal use. If you use them in your personal blog, please link it back to this post & give proper credit. All other usage, especially in print or professional websites must ask for permission. -Thank you. Xo!]

My six-year-old granddaughter doesn’t really want to see ‘Where the Wild Things Are.” She’s afraid the monsters will be too scary. Should I try to talk her out of her fears by poo-pooing them and telling her it’s only a movie? No, not right away.

There are two reasons for not negating your child’s fears.

1. Simply saying “Don’t be afraid” only makes your kids begin to mistrust themselves and their own little “box of wisdom” that resides deep within them. When they start to doubt their gut instincts, it leaves them floundering and unsure of themselves. The ultimate goal for parents is to help kids learn to discriminate between what’s foolish, risky and even dangerous and what is not. There are so many things our kids need to learn about the world in order to stay safe because there are a lot of manipulators, abusers and predators out there. The more we embrace our kids’ feelings and help them stay in touch with their natural instincts, the better they will be at protecting themselves when we’re not around.

2. If you treat your kids’ feelings with respect, they will continue to share with you. But if you make them feel silly or wrong, they’ll gradually close off from you and you’ll lose the opportunity to talk with them about what’s really important. Remember, our feelings are the deepest and most tender part of who we are. When you acknowledge and accept your children’s feeling, you are accepting them, and it opens the door to developing a close bond with them.

So instead of telling my granddaughter there was nothing to be afraid of with the “Wild Things” monsters, I agreed that they looked sort of scary because they’re green and so big. Then I asked her what about them frightened her, and if she thought they could hurt her. I asked her if she’d noticed the smiles on their faces and what she thought that meant. I wanted her to engage her brain and move from pure emotion to reason.

I’m hoping that, if I respect her now when she’s only six and if I treat her feelings gently, she’s trust me when the issues in her life become more significant than monsters on a movie screen. I want her to feel comfortable sharing what she thinks and how she feels as she grows older and faces difficult challenges. I know we’re setting the stage for that relationship now.

The real monsters aren’t the ones in the movies. Tragically and all too often, they’re lurking about on the playgrounds, the streets, the sidelines of your children’s lives—even in their computers—waiting for an opportune moment to lure or pounce upon unsuspecting, innocent young people. As parents you need to have the listening ear of your kids so you can teach them to be watchful without being paranoid, careful without being afraid, discriminating without being prejudiced because there are real dangers they need to know about. Honor their feelings, treat them with dignity, and you’ll earn the privilege of being their mentor and coach.

By Kelly Mahan Jaramillo, Nov. 22nd, 2009

I am serious, I would like whomever is on this blog to watch the video below all the way through, and tell me how you felt after it.  Thanks.

Till mina vackraste vänner:

Tack för att ni finns. Ni är helt fantastiska.

Vreau un urs Koala de ziua mea! Strângeți bani pentru asta – adică pentru un drum dus-întors între România și Australia (Ana, s-ar putea să-ți convină) și pentru ursul propriu-zis. Și probabil și pentru ceva de mâncare pe drumuri

…………….on some of the old comments and posts I have shared.  You know, not much has changed when it comes to the mister and me.  We are still in the same spot we have been in for going on 4 or 5 years now.  Hell, it has been long enough for me not to remember exactly HOW long.  Take that back February 19, 2005.  That is the day that I confronted him and her.  The day that my life changed. 

Actually, my life changed before that.  Going through my recovery I know that now.  Those 2 1/2 years of popping pills…. I was using those for an excuse for the menopause and the stresss, the menopause was the excuse for the pills.  It was all just an excuse for a time in my life where everything to me in my mind was changing.  But, I was the only one changing.  Had I not gotten so lost and so distant to him…to everyone…. no one, I mean NO ONE could have ever penatrated our marriage.  That is how close we were. How much he loved me and I loved him.  But, it happened, and it was for a reason.  Not really sure what that reason was, maybe I will never know.  I do know that mentally I am a little better.  Time has a way of taking care of a few issues.  But, I still cry or get teary eyed at least once a day.  I still have that gut wrenching feeling when I know he has talked to her.  Do I think they were what the were back then? No, but then again I don’t really know for sure.  I know he has said it and I have said it, until he totally shuts her out that he and I can never have anything.  And, of course as he always says…. it wasn’t all just her.  She wasn’t the only reason this happened.  She was the end result.  Maybe if it wasn’t her it would have been someone else.  Who knows.

I have heard the past year or so he has gotten a little crazy and has turned into Mr. Pimp.  I don’t know if those are true statements or just rumors. Do I think he has an addiction to sex or had one?  Yes, for sure.  He is a functional alcoholic.  He is not the same man I married. This man is cold.  Hard.  Almost like he is empty inside. He has no memory.  He sems to remember what he wants to remember.  But, half the time he can’t remember one of his own childrens birthday.  And, so many other things.  I still think that the surgery and the meds had something to do with that.  He acted so strange those first few weeks.  I mean hallicunating in the hospital.  Saying “bring me the secret phone, I know at work they are doing wrong things”.  Called work and told them that he can see them and he knows they are screwing him around.  Things that were for sure not him.

I started this post just to say that looking back and reading not much in that area of my life has changed other than I have accepted certain things.  I am trying to move forward .. somewhere.  Make some improvements in my life.  Some changes. 

In other areas there has been much change.  My job.  We now have a suboxone clinic and I went and got certified to work with the patients and counsel them.  Of course ultimately the doctor gives the ok, to proceed with the induction and then stablization period, but she trusts my judgement and I pretty much do that and she just pops in to give the ok to proceed. 

Honestly, I wanted this so bad for our office.  But, these past 7 months since we started has been a real eye opener.  I mean we are only allowed 30 patients the first year.  We have a list a mile long for people needing help.  And, in our small rural area there is not much options for these poor people.  We have the methadone clinic that also does suboxone but, it is an arm and a leg.  We have a huge clinic about 40 minutes from us but there is a waiting list a mile long unless you go in inpatient.  So, the need in this area for suboxone doctors is very high.  I am hoping more will get certified.  I understand though why they are scared to.  The diversion with suboxone has grown to an all time high.  Hell, just in our clinic I have dismissed 2 for selling their meds.  And, it is always the young ones.  The 19-24 age group.  Us old foggies won’t let go of our meds.  No way!  The young ones.  They get stabilized and then no matter what dose have them on they adjust down to where they can sell at least 1 pill per day at 25.00 per pop.  It is sickening.  Everything about narcotics makes me sick.  It doesn’t matter what side of the fence you are on when it comes to pills, it is bad.

So, in my career that is where I stand.

My family.  Wow.  Well, It is just me and Josh here at home, with my sister and her 19 year old daughter who moved back here last year and have been living here with us.  And, let me just say…. once you have lived on your own, it doesn’t matter who it is you can’t go back to your childhood or another time and live with them.  I am surprised either of us has hair left on our heads.

She has Hep C.  yep, found that out after I got her a job in one of our other offices. She was an LPN but of course lost her license due to, you got it…..narcotic pills.  That is another entry.  She is doing the treatments.  And, she has been sick and mean and grouchy and just a bitch.  I have caught her stealing from me.  I hate to not be able to leave things in my home..MY HOME and them not be safe.  It makes me sick.

My oldest son is driving me nuts.  He has since he was conceived.  Honestly.  He has one whiney issue after another.  He has passed out twice this past couple weeks…why?  Drugs…drugs..drugs….and I told him up front…..you know where you need to go and who you need to call.  It is a little of this and that.  Xanax, pot, alittle pain pills.  I don’t know.  He is the only one of all them with that issue.  My second born is doing fantastic.  He got a promotion at work, had to move 3 hours from me, but he is doing very well for himself.  He came home this weekend with his new woman.  He came home because Friday is when the youngest was suppose to have his surgery, but the doctor had to go out of town and changed it till Monday and now he can’t be here.  He has to leave tonight and that is killing me.  I needed him so bad here with me.  He is my rock.  My third born is still living with his woman and working.  They are doing good.  He will be with me tomorrow.  My step son is doing good for himself.  He is making money in the coal mines and loving it.  LOL  Money is the only thing that moves that boy.  As long as he is happy I don’t care.

Now, my baby…my 13 year old.  If anyone out there reads this today or tonight.   I beg of you to say a prayer for him.  I am trusting in God with this.  I am learning to trust in God more and more.  Amazing how your life will change when you do that.  BUT, I still get that little stubborn block and try to take back the problems and get all nervous and whine and moan.  He has scolosis and he has to have it corrected.  I am praying for a nice easy surgery, for God the ultimate surgeon and physician to guide the doctors hands tomorrow and the healing process for him to be swift and wonderful.  I know he is going to hurt.  But, I am hoping he can with stand it and just do what they tell him to do and he will be up and moving along in his life.  After this surgery and him healing is when I need to start working more on my life.  I need to come to a place where I put my foot down and not allow him to still direct my life. 

He says…HE DOESN’T WANT A DIVORCE.  Ok, he doesn’t want a divorce, he doesn’t want to live here right now, he still wants me.  In all since of the word.  But, where do we go from that? How can anyone move on with the way we are right now?  We can’t.  He might beable to go on with his life still legally married to me and doing whatever, but I can’t do that.  I need something more.  Either we work on us or we forget us.  I guess I am one of those “non grey area” people.

I am off to get a bath and get dinner moving.  I will take my lap top to the hospital with me and while he is mending I hope I can continue with my posting.  I am hoping this time around this writing will be more productive.  It will teach me to let out the fears and problems, not keep them inside.  They arn’t going to go away.  I have to learn to deal with them.  Right?

Hugs

Ich bette mich in Novembernebel
samtweiß, watteweich, grau

Haucht er mir frische Worte ins Ohr
mit der Weisheit eines goldenen Herbstes
atemrein klar und bleich

Sanft, so sanft umhüllt er
die grellen Lichter dieser Stadt
verschluckt Blitzlichtgewitter

deckt mich ein
mit Sanftmut

that’s just exactly what I need right now. I so need to clear my head and actually realize and know ‘What I really want?’ How much ever time it takes, I need to know this. I don’t care, if I spend 5 years trying to know it. Actually that’s too much time, but considering it took me 2 years to get over the hangover of a 3years serious relationship and sometimes I still ask myself that ‘Am I over it totally? How can I be sure?’, so I think I don’t mind 5 years. What I mind is ‘not knowing?’ , the confusion in your head, the analysis, the million questions and no answers. I mind that, I don’t want that. I’m not the person who can live in doubts, I’m clear as a crystal, here or there, I am what you see, I will tell you what I am, I am not, not at all ‘what I’m not’. I can’t be that, I can’t keep thinking ’is this me?’ about everything I do, I can’t keep questioning my wants and likes, it will bruise my soul, my beliefs, my heart. And somewhere I feel that it already has, a little bit.

I need to stop here.

Breathe! Be with myself and know myself and love every bit of it. I can’t move ahead without it, not even one step, maybe a few steps back if it takes, but not ahead.

I’m talking about matters of the heart and relationships.

I thought I was okay with this dating, but its all so uncomfortable. Maybe its just the wrong person I’ve met, but I really don’t know what I want. And how do I know this? well, listen to read more if you’re not tired of my ranting yet.

I have no feelings for him, yet I talk to him early mornings and late nights and message him through the day.

I like to spend time with him, I like the feeling, but I don’t like it later. later if I check his pics on facebook I don’t feel nice, I’m like ‘really? with this guy?’

I hate that he is dominating, but I go along with it. I don’t stop him. i talk when i don’t want to. Yesterday, I had a bad cold and headache and he kept talking till 4am and I mentioned couple of times that I got a bad headache and he’s like ‘aww baby’ and would start again. He knows I  go to work early 7am and when I remind him he says 5 min more and then being inconsiderate as ever, he goes on till another hour. I talk too, but hello? what about a little consideration? I’ve been sleeping  4-5 hours average over the past few weeks. Fuck man! and all this is when I don’t even feel for him. He’s bloody manipulative. I hate manipulative.

I always feel he has that temperament of keeping the balance equal on both sides. He can’t go and do something and not expect anything from me. I get that feeling. can’t think of anything particularly, but you know na, when there’s this feeling of there has to be a give for every take. What if we’re not in a relationship? Can’t you just not expect so much. it’s pressurizing now. and I’m taking all this . Shit man!

Then there’s this whole thing about how he wants to get into my pants. Well I might have started the flirting and maybe also little stuff, but hello wait for the girl to get comfortable. He keeps talking about it on the phone and then I’m like I don’t want to say much so i listen and he’s like you don’t respond. What? How can you expect me to get into the same place that you are at? and if not then you’re annoyed and i explain. no! Not at all! I won’t ! I don’t owe you any explanation!

I think he just doesn’t posses any basic mannerism and I’m not going to teach him. Coz I care a damn!

Even if we’re being just dating type, you need to respect and behave and not make me feel like I’m here for something that is not decent and that you can persist me into anything.

I need to stop here. And know what I want. BUt this isn’t anywhere close to what I want i know for sure. Am just going to talk to him now. hope I’m not screaming and he understands and we can be friends. if not the F*** it all.

phew! that feels good now. I know too much personal stuff, but hey thats why this space exists. It’s global, yet personal to me.

Házasodunk.

Az esküvő-blogok mindig érdekesek. Legalábbis az ismerősök számára. Vagy legalábbis a szűk család és a legközelebbi barátok számára. Vagy legalábbis a menyasszonyok ezt hiszik. (Érdekes módon a vőlegények ritkábban esnek ebbe a tévedésbe.)

Nemzetközi páros vagyunk, “Two worlds, one family”, és még én magam sem tudom, mi fog ebből kisülni. De hogy érdekes élmény lesz, az nagyjából borítékolható. Igyekszem gyilkos őszinteséggel finoman és nőiesen kifejezni magam…

Nem gondolom, hogy ez a beszámoló lesz Nyuszi rokonainak, barátainak és üzletfeleinek a kedvenc lefekvés előtti olvasmánya, de cserébe nem muszáj udvariasan végighallgatni, mint a szóbeli értekezéseket, és bármikor abba lehet hagyni, ellentétben a “Hogyan jártam végig Dél-Amerika 50 legnagyobb nevezetességét tavaly nyáron” című egész estés, multimédiás prezentációval egybekötött baráti élménybeszámolóval, ahonnan a jó viszony kockáztatása nélkül nem lehet megszökni.

Plusz akkor iszol kávét, amikor csak akarsz.

This is my blog.  If the feelings or thoughts upset you, don’t read it. I have the right to feel and think what I want to.  I have the right to wish want I want to…you can’t begin to understand me.

Reporting me because I FEEL suicidal is not helpful.  Reporting me without reading the entire blog where I clearly state that I would not harm myself while my pets are alive is not helpful.  Reporting me because I own firearms is not helpful (I live in the USA and have the right to bare arms).  Reporting me without recognizing that all the authorities do is hospitalize a person is actually thoughtless…when I don’t have health insurance to pay for it–which makes things 100% worse because who is going to pay that bill when they release me after trying to medicate my pain away.  That short-lived hospital stay does not take the feelings away (and I can’t afford the continuation of the meds anyway).  NOTHING can take the feelings away.

I have felt this way for most of my life and with the exception of the help from one therapist, no-one has helped me; and at this point, I don’t think anyone can.

If you had read the blog, it is clear that my pets are more important to me than anything in this world.  I would not risk hurting them to take my pain away (through suicide).  And clearly I have NO ONE to give them to.  I would not be so selfish to leave them alone.

The day I pull that trigger and take the action won’t be announced for people to read.  It will happen in a place where noone will find me like in the woods by a stream, not in my kitchen near the computer, and NOT while I have 2 dogs and a cat who need me.

The blog you folks reported was about a reason to survive.

for myself, to not loose out on what all I need want to write about:

‘The bloody list of  Should’s ’

‘My style/ my type Hot’

‘Dating don’ts for guys’

‘Stop beating around the bush’ (next post after this one)

‘What you’re looking for?’

Have you ever seen yourself like that?

Then look into my eyes…

It is only recently that I have realized how much I have been Stuck in the Thought Zone. We all go there from time to time thinking the Mind can solve all the problems. My experience over the past 2 years leads me to believe that it can’t. We need a balanced Mind, Body and Spirit in order to resolve our issues.

I have used too much of my time, in my head, hoping to cure my business needs and personal needs. The only outcome was total exhaustion from the Think Syndrome and the conclusion for a cure was to Stop, Let Go and Rest. I released all the pressing Thoughts that fed on my energy and left me struggling with daily tasks, expecting to pass out on the sofa for a few days and only move when I had to.

The first few days were mostly taken up by closing business and claiming benefits for now, so I was still weary Thinking about what happens next. My next step was 2 days of feeling unwell and hugging the toilet a few times (say no more!). I can honestly feel that I have let go of everything, especially the Thought Zone which in turn cleansed Mind, Body and Spirit.

Today the sofa isn’t calling me as I had expected, the daily tasks seem more achievable and I barely sit down as I have so much to do. I was Stuck in the Thought  Zone due to my own stubbornness believing I could Think it Through, yet I have done more by my thoughts, Feelings and Actions working together in a balanced manner.

If you are heavy in Thoughts, take time off and don’t get Stuck in the Thought Zone.

Use Thoughts, Feelings and Actions, together.