Reaction posted at salom .com:

“Men’s rights” groups go mainstream

Why do father’s rights bloggers like Mark Godbey of Father’s Parental Rights continue to spread hate against women propaganda?  This is the mode of operation for abusive men…he even makes fun of me living in my car because I have so much child support going to my abuser.  And he says he wants to run to Glenn Sacks?  I am not sure Glenn would feel sorry for Mark.  Glenn did a pretty good article about individuals being hurt in this economy last week, having to pay onerous amounts for child support even though they have lost their jobs.  I almost reposted it.

How would he feel about you making fun of a mom living in a vehicle because of an onerous amount of child support?  Huh Mark?

You must be smoking crack in your car… (excuse me, your home?)

Comment by mkg4583 — September 8, 2009 @ 2:51 pm

You do have a history of being a hypocrite.  While you complain about me using Alpha Inventions, which you were doing first, you go waaaaaaaaah because you aren’t at the top of the Domestic Violence category in Word Press publishing anything misogynistic you can find.  Having nothing to do with domestic violence often:

So Mark (LOL…tigerman/LenFirewood) whines because he doesn’t hold the Domestic Violence category hostage anymore.  What is good for the father’s rights guys can’t be utilized by mothers screwed by the same system.  What a hypocrite.

Not all father’s rights guys are good…as pointed out by Fathers 4 Justice Nick Langford:

Stuart Showalter is clearly an idiot and a dangerous one at that, but, please, let’s not jump from an individual case to the general assumption that ‘dangerous individuals run groups like these’; it simply isn’t supported by the facts and seeks to disguise a huge social problem. It doesn’t help to present this issue as a fathers v mothers one: the real issue is parents against the state/government.

Nick
Fathers-4-Justice

Comment by Nick Langford — July 10, 2009 @ 1:13 pm

Of course it is not a father vs. mother thing, and nowhere on this site is that said.  Not all fathers are bad, and not all mothers are good.  It is about abusers getting custody of children, and if children mattered to these fathers, they would take more of a stand like Nick Langford did, than tease a mom about living in a car because she pays her abuser.

So, as Mark Godbey would put it, here is another hate-mongering story from a hateful feminazi from a New Jersey mangina.  Or as I would put it, what is really happening out there to the children.

Mark Godbey, get over yourself.

From NJ.com:

Seeing domestic violence does damage to children

BY FLOYD K. MORRIS JR.

Sixteen lives have come to violent ends in Trenton so far this year, and nearly half of the deaths are a result of the scourge of domestic violence. There’s no one reason for domestic violence, so there are no easy steps that can be taken to prevent future occurrences.

In a number of incidents, very young children are reported to be witnesses to the violence. In Trenton, of the approximately 971 domestic abuse calls in the first half of 2009, police report that there were nearly 450 children present. In the city’s most recent domestic violence homicide, three children ranging in age from 2 to 10 reportedly witnessed the brutal murder of their mother.

This grim and unacceptable reality demands more societal outrage and a greater appreciation of the potential for serious harm to children from this growing problem. Studies have found that the impact on children of witnessing parental domestic violence is strikingly similar to the consequences of being directly abused by a parent. Other studies have shown that domestic violence and child abuse are linked. A recent survey of more than 6,000 families found that 50 percent of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently assaulted their children.

Earlier this year, Children’s Futures, the Association for Children of New Jersey and Children’s Home Society of New Jersey hosted a forum in Trenton for nearly 200 medical, health and social service providers from throughout the region. It focused on the impact of abuse and neglect on the highly malleable brains of young children. During the forum, renowned neuroscientist and child psychiatrist Dr. Bruce Perry used the latest scientific research to show how developmental trauma alters brain network functioning. He warned about the consequences for lifelong behavior, learning and health. Specifically, Dr. Perry noted that those who experience altered regulation of networks in their brains from adverse childhood experiences manifest disease earlier in life. Moreover, as adults, they have three to 12 times the risk of dying from nine major causes of death.

For communities to address broad-scale public health problems like domestic violence, which have many root causes, there needs to be a coordinated response from the major sectors of society that are charged with improving the health, welfare and safety of families. They include policy makers, churches, schools, police, social service agencies, health-care providers and other civic leaders.

Recently, Children’s Futures and its citywide partnership of organizations and agencies (including Womanspace, which focuses on domestic violence and sexual assault) began discussions with the Trenton Police Department to determine how best to respond to the increase in domestic violence in Trenton. Because the coordination and development of this work is fairly new, there are no major results to report yet. However, an important change initiated by the Trenton Police Department, working with Children’s Futures, is worth noting. On newly revised incident reports, the police are now recording more details about children who are present or who witness acts of domestic violence. With that information, it will now be possible to document the number of children who need immediate assistance and to determine which agencies should respond. That information will also be helpful to provider agencies in designing prevention strategies for at-risk families before issues escalate, spiral out of control and end in more tragic deaths like the ones that have recently occurred.

Finally, armed with this data, child advocacy organizations that have long understood the problem will be in a better position to illustrate how funding for prevention will actually save the public money by reducing the need for foster care, hospital emergency room visits and other, more expensive associated services.

Beyond these advances, there are additional tangible steps that our community is taking. Children’s Futures is planning to convene a gathering of provider organizations this fall aimed specifically at addressing the challenge of domestic violence and its impact on children. Also, Womanspace will be expanding its support of intervention, counseling and emergency shelter services for victims of domestic violence with its recent award of nearly $500,000 in stimulus funds.

Together, we must create a culture in Trenton in which the public comes together to support our families while protecting our youngest residents from the violent circumstances that might touch them. We owe it to at-risk minors to have a well-coordinated safety net that catches and supports them in their most vulnerable hours. Predicting and responding to the needs of the children effectively will help ease their pain today and reduce the costs to society down the road.

Floyd K. Morris Jr. is president of Children’s Futures (childrensfutures.org), based in Trenton.

…Experts say there will never be an end to the epidemic of domestic violence until men begin to hold other men accountable for their actions…

Yes, but men’s rights advocates continue to scour the news for any inkling of women involved in domestic violence incidents.  Like Robert Franklin, Glenn Sack’s talking head on Men’s News Daily,  waiting for Bob Herbert to condemn the Kuwaiti massacre, how pathetic.  Did Robert cover anything dealing with the recent massacre by the Tennessee man who killed six family members?  This man had recently tried to get custody of his kids by calling his ex-wife unfit.  Yeah, really.   Someone needs to tell Robert this isn’t a juvenile tit-for-tat spat, that real women and men are hurt by domestic violence.  And by the way, women are victims of it far more than men, deal with it…

Until men like these, like Robert Franklin, Glenn Sacks, etc., etc., etc., own up to the fact that there really are violent men out there, and start doing something to help combat domestic violence, our country will continue to resemble a third world country.  We are now giving asylum to domestic violence victims from other countries, but we better start dealing with the carnage here.

This is a commentary about one such man that took a stand recently, Milwaukee Mayor Tom Barrett.  From mlive.com:

Column: Changing the face of domestic violence

by Susan Harrison Wolffis | Chronicle columnist

Sunday August 23, 2009, 6:21 AM

Chances are, we’d never have heard of Anthony J. Peters, a 20-year-old thug, if he hadn’t beaten up Milwaukee’s mayor last week outside the Wisconsin State Fairgrounds.

If Peters had pounded and pummeled and bullied his intended victim — the grandmother of his 1-year-old daughter — he’d have been just another assailant in a long list of men who terrorize women every day of the week.

But it was Milwaukee Mayor Tom Barrett who stepped into the fray when he heard the woman’s call for help. Peters had taken her cellphone, and she was crying out to people in the crowd, begging them to call police.

Barrett stepped forward, according to reports, and was asking Peters to calm down when Peters turned on him. Barrett, 55, used his body to shield the woman and baby. He took the blows, the punches, the unleashed violence in their stead.

When police arrived on the scene, the mayor was lying in a pool of blood. Peters had beaten him with a metal pipe, fracturing the mayor’s arm, cutting his face and head, hitting him with such force that he knocked out some of Barrett’s teeth.

Had the woman been the one beaten, the assault would have been one more line in a police log — time, date, domestic violence call — unless he’d killed her or the child. But because it was the mayor who bore the brunt of the violence, it made headlines.

And his actions forced a conversation about domestic violence this nation continues to avoid, at great cost.

Through the week, we heard these updates: Peters, who has an extensive record of violent behavior, was taken into police custody. His relationship with his ex-girlfriend, who is the mother of the 1-year-old at the fair, is complicated and messy. Neighbors report that he stalked her after their breakup, standing outside the house, watching her every move. Friends say he was “desperate.” Peters wrote on Facebook that “everyone has a story to tell” and his was going to end either in death or prison.

Barrett was released from the hospital after surgery and was back to work by midweek, issuing thanks to his niece for making the 911 call and praising the police for quick action. He deflected all praise. He said it was simply the right thing to do.

The rest of us were left asking ourselves a string of questions: What would we have done in Barrett’s situation? Would we have looked the other way when the woman begged for help? Figured it was none of our business? That whatever the dispute, it was between the man and the woman? That it appeared to be too dangerous to intercede?

All good questions, soul-searching questions, important questions. But the one that really begs to be asked is: How do we end domestic violence?

For years, the quest was seen as the exclusive domain of women, a cause borne out of the women’s movement — but lately, the tables have turned. Experts say there will never be an end to the epidemic of domestic violence until men begin to hold other men accountable for their actions.

Until, in effect, men say to one another: Knock it off. Violence is never the answer.

That’s what Tom Barrett did last week, if not in specific words, certainly by his action and intervention. And when he stood in front of the cameras a few days later at his first press conference, his face bruised and cut, his arm in a cast?

His image was a powerful reminder of the 5.3 million women who are the victims of domestic violence every year.

Glenn Sacks, Ned Holstein, Dr. Richard Gardner, Warren Farrell…just to name a few….are all a part of a group of men who insist that poor little them get discriminated against, abused and women are just downright mean to them….poor little fellas.     

Right Spanky?

The best part of their little club is that not all MEN feel as they do. They know  the reality IS that woman are abused more often than men….AND men do have many more advantages than that of a women.

Another former member of this group is George Sodini. George seethed with anger and frustration toward women. He couldn’t understand why they ignored him, despite his best efforts to look nice. He hadn’t had a girlfriend since 1984, hadn’t slept with a woman in 19 years.

“Women just don’t like me. There are 30 million desirable women in the US (my estimate) and I cannot find one. Not one of them finds me attractive,” the 48-year-old computer programmer lamented in a chilling diary he posted on the Internet.

For months, he also wrote vaguely about using guns to carry out his “exit plan” at his health club, where lots of young women worked out.

Yesterday his plan was executed.

He went to the sprawling L.A. Fitness Club in this Pittsburgh suburb, turned out the lights on a dance-aerobics class filled with women, and opened fire with three guns, letting loose with a fusillade of at least 36 bullets.

He killed three women and wounded nine others before committing suicide.

“He just had a lot of hatred in him and (was) hell-bent on committing this act, and no one was going to stop him,” Allegheny County Police Superintendent Charles Moffatt said Wednesday.

The 4,610-word Web diary appeared to be a nine-month chronology of his plans to end his misery with a shocking act of carnage at the health club. He portrayed himself as painfully and inexplicably lonely.

“Every evening I am alone, and then go to bed alone,” he wrote. “I see twenty something couples everywhere. I see a twenty something guy with a nice twentyish young women. I think those years slipped right by for me. Why should I continue another 20+ years alone?”

It was unclear when the Web diary was posted and whether it had been updated online repeatedly since November or posted in its entirety recently. Moffatt said investigators are trying to determine whether anyone saw it online before the rampage.

“If anyone knew of it, they would have a moral and ethical obligation and legal obligation to bring it forward,” the police superintendent said.

Killed were Heidi Overmier, 46, of Carnegie, a sales manager at an amusement park; Jody Billingsley, 37, of Mount Lebanon, who worked for a medical-supply company; and Elizabeth Gannon, 49, of Pittsburgh, an X-ray technician at Allegheny General Hospital.

“She can’t be gone,” said Gannon’s next-door neighbor and close friend, Carl Rady, who knew her for 35 years and said she loved to work out and pamper her dog. “It can’t happen that way.”

Sodini was a member of the health club and had been there two times Tuesday before he came back at night, police said. He did not have a relationship with any of his victims, according to police.

In his Web diary, Sodini wrote of planning the attack since at least November and said he tried to carry it out when the same Tuesday-night aerobics class met on Jan. 6. “I cannot wait for tomorrow!” he exulted the night before. But he backed out at the last moment.

“It is 8:45PM: I chickened out!” he wrote. “I brought the loaded guns, everything. Hell!”

In his diary, he complained that women “don’t even give me a second look ANYWHERE” even though he was tan and fit and claimed to dress well and smell nice. He listed his status as “Never married.” In a chilling addition, he recorded the date of his death as Aug. 4, 2009.

On that evening, he walked into the health club wearing black workout gear and a headband, and entered the “Latin impact” class with four guns.

Jordan Solomon, 14, said she thought it was weird when a man walked into the all-female class and put a black duffel bag on the ground and reached into it.

“All of a sudden all the lights went out and I turned around, he started firing. I turned around and I saw him holding a gun,” she said.

Solomon said the man was expressionless, and she didn’t hear him say anything as he sprayed bullets. The teenager ran out of the room and into the parking lot, bolting into a restaurant where she told the workers to call 911.

Lauren Dooley, 27, who was exercising on a treadmill on the second floor, ran down the fire escape and out the rear of the building, where bystanders were applying pressure to victims’ gunshot wounds.

“You just feel like you’re in a movie … a horrible movie where someone comes in and unleashes fire on everyone. You just don’t know what to do,” Dooley said.

She returned to the gym Wednesday morning to retrieve her purse and cell phone, but the doors were locked. A sign read: “Each of us in the LA Fitness family are shocked and saddened by the senseless acts of violence that took place at our Bridgeville club Tuesday evening.”

Sodini did not have a criminal record, and he legally bought the guns he used, police said. Sodini used his cell phone a few minutes before the shooting, but Moffatt would not say whom he called.

Sodini’s family issued a brief statement: “Our hearts and prayers are with the victims and their families and we pray for the full recovery of the survivors.”

Six patients remained hospitalized, including the aerobics instructor, Mary Primis, 26, who was listed in fair condition. Primis is pregnant but said doctors told her the baby is fine.

Authorities initially had difficulty identifying the victims because they had workout clothes on and weren’t carrying wallets.

Sodini graduated in 1992 from the University of Pittsburgh with a degree in computer science and had worked as a systems analyst at a Pittsburgh law firm since 1999.

A neighbor, Connie Fontanesi, said Sodini was so anti-social that “we really didn’t learn anything personal about him.”

Roberta Kozel, co-owner of Salon IAOMO, said Sodini was a regular at the tanning salon and last visited on Saturday.

The best line of all….“He was just pretty normal, a little quiet — like the classroom nerd,” Kozel said.

My predication from the He-Man Woman Haters Club? I’m sure they will blame women for not wanting to be with this psychopath….guess women saw more than a nerd.

Rest In Peace HEIDI, JODY and ELIZABETH

Glenn posted something on the father’s rights site, Men’s Daily News ……..*YAWN*.  He continues to hammer over Jennifer Collins in an obsessive-compulsive personality disorder-like fashion.  It is all gospel for the Glenn Sacks Cult Society (GSCS).  But even some of his supporters are sick of it:

Lisa KS Says:

December 29th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
Okay, this is it. Eww! I’m sorry, Glenn, but this is so gross, I can’t do this anymore. At all! You’ve printed many stories since I first started reading your blog about kids who talk about how their mother unfairly alienated them from their father, etc., and never once have you suggested that your readers investigate any of them to ascertain whether or not they were telling the “truth.” And yes, Jennifer Collins has every right to be offended–you’re running right over her by saying you have “no idea” what happened between her and her father, because she’s clearly willing to say what did, and she is twenty-three years old…not three, not thirteen–twenty-three…and you are acting as if she doesn’t exist–you pointedly did not contact her at all. You take the word of any other twenty-three-year-old…as long as that twenty-three-year-old is claiming that he or she was abused, abducted or kidnapped wrongly by his or her mother. And if the father is asking you to do this, you’ve been remarkably silent about that–it really appears that you personally just hate the existence of this story and are determined to crush it underfoot–putting up some diatribe from someone who is only willing to identify him or herself by initials who claims that during supervised visits, they got the real idea of what was going on..

One of his favorite attack targets is the Loeliger case.  Meet the daughter, Fatima Loeliger: 

College:
Harvard University

Fatima Busaat Loeliger was born on October 21, 1989 to her jubilant East African mother Sadiya Alilire in Salinas, California. Fatima’s mother knew that Fatima was born to shake the world: she’d been born in wake of an earthquake.

Fatima came to Davis in the 9th grade and has since begun to position herself to aid the world in which she lives. Five years ago, she co-founded the Courageous Kids Network, a non-profit advocacy group that fights for minor’s rights in the family court system. A victim of paternal abuse herself, she has used that hardship as a catalyst for her work. With the Courageous Kids Network, Fatima has traveled around the country giving lectures about the vices facing minors in the court system, lobbied for stricter penalties for domestic abusers and laws that promote greater minor autonomy in her home state of California, and even made a nationally-aired PBS documentary in October of 2005 called Breaking the Silence: Children’s Stories. Besides her national campaign, Fatima has also dedicated hours of free counseling services to abused children to help them deal with their issues and re-integrate back into normalcy.

Dedication to the voiceless and underrepresented is a true passion for Fatima. Wanting to uplift the African community in her predominantly white town, Fatima is a Senior Research Scholar in a community organization called Catalysts for Social Justice. Catalysts for Social Justice gather and collect data conduct surveys regarding racial disparities in education. By presenting her data to both the community and universities and centers of higher education research, Fatima and her group have been able to change many policies and break down some of the racist infrastructure that faces many Blacks students today.

Her social agenda full as it is, Fatima has made the most of her high school experience. Earning excellent grades, she is also a star athlete playing soccer for both her school and a club team. She was VP and current president of the Black Student Union at her high school, recently organizing a community applauded Black History Month Assembly. She is a National Forensic League Lifetime Member and the secretary of the Debate team.

In what free time is available, Fatima volunteers at the Emergency Room at the local hospital and coaches her brother’s soccer team. She has earned many awards including NCTE nominee, Student of the Month, Who’s Who Among American High School Students, AP Scholar, and Outstanding Participant by the National Merit Scholarship Program.

Fatima desires to become a doctor and service inner cities and third world countries. During her summers, she has participated in COSMOS program at UC Davis in the Biomedical Cluster, The National Youth Leadership Forum on Medicine at UCLA, Black Youth Leadership Day at the state capitol where she received highest honors as mock assemblywoman, and taken classes at the community college to better prepare her for college.

Fatima will be majoring in Molecular Biology with a minor in Spanish in the fall, hoping to pursue her dreams in Medicine.

The above information from The Ron Brown Scholarship Program.

I relate to a lot of what Fatima has to say about her nightmare growing up.  My siblings and I were all split apart to into various group homes and foster homes, spread as far as 100 miles apart to keep us away from our mother.  Our father was tired of taking care of us after a year or so after taking us from our mother, who he frequently abused in front of us.

Here is Fatima’s response to the attacks from the GSCS after Breaking the Silence was out.  A lot of the GSCS’s claims were debunked.  Again, the words of a child abuse survivor mean nothing to the GSCS, unless a mother was involved in the abuse, or can be blamed in some way even if it is made up:

Statement of Fatima Loeliger

November 10, 2005

The documentary Breaking the Silence: Children’s Stories is not about my mother. It’s about me. I want to clear up a few facts. 

First, I would think my father Scott Loeliger, MD would not want his name in public, since he ought to be worried it would ruin his reputation as a family practitioner (yes, he is a FAMILY practioner). The producer used another name for me, Amina, in the documentary to protect me and my parents from having our names out there.  However, he brought his own name up by sending information to a reporter and I actually am  happy to have my full name used. It is Fatima Busaat Alilire Loeliger. 

For the last three years I have been, with interruptions by my father, very happy at my mother’s  house. I have been excelling in school with a 4.2 GPA and, as the attachment states, a regular in  our city newspaper. My father, however, has made this transition increasingly difficult. Instead of  nurturing and supporting my development during these tumultuous teen years, he has been the cause of most of the anguish in my life and a continual source of stress and instability for me. 

Since I turned 13 three years ago, my father has placed me in voluntary foster care twice, called the cops on me five times, stolen 2 cell phones, repeatedly emotionally abused me by making derogatory comments towards my family and I, attempted to admit me to a psychiatric ward,  attempted to transport me to a cult program across the country for “emergency therapy”, harassed my school, harassed my sports teams, defamed me in my local newspaper, defamed me on the internet, sent a private investigator to track me and photograph me, stalked my friends, and, last but not least, denied me proper health care coverage. This man has accomplished all these things in my life in only three years. Prior to my teenage years, my father has committed such actions as coming to watch me take baths naked while he records our conversations (ages 6 to 8), cut me off from contact with my mother without contact for three years, and made me a prisoner in his own home. I cannot name all that my father has done to me because there are so many things that were I to dwell upon them, I would probably experience severe depression and a nervous breakdown. Yet, even after all this, my father still hounds me in court at the age of 16 and is defaming the accomplishments I have achieved through the PBS documentary, Breaking the Silence: Children’s Stories. All that I stated on the documentary was true; it was my life and first hand experiences, and nothing more, that I related to the American public. 

Though my father doesn’t like it because it exposes him for who he truly is, it is still unwaveringly valid. All I would  like for my last two years before high school is to finally experience a childhood that my father has denied me. Even after all this, the only thing I would ask of my father would be to withdraw from court and allow me this opportunity that he has previously thwarted. Seeing my sacrifices, I, as I assume all logical persons, would not consider this a fanatical request. To the contrary, it is the minimum that I deserve from the man who has wreaked so much damage upon my life. I am old enough to make this decision.

I want to answer a few questions you might have. 

1. Did my mother hit me?

No. A couple of times she spanked me on the butt. I talked about that in the documentary.

2. Did it upset me?

Yes. It always upsets children to be spanked. But for now it is legal to spank your kid on the butt.  My mother was not arrested or prosecuted for anything my father said she did. By the way, my father Scott Fredrick Loeliger is a wealthy doctor who had a lot of friends in our small town system. 

3. Was I put in the custody of my father when I was eight?

Yes. My father took me away from my mother when I was eight by using CPS. He took me to a CPS worker and to a therapist friend of his who claimed I told them that my mom abused me. I was very confused at the time because my father kept telling me that my mom was doing things to me. He wanted me to say that my mom was abusing me. I know I never told them that my mom abused me, but I ended up being taken away from her anyhow. I never understood what had happened, and why I couldn’t see my mom. Later, when I was 13, I ended up at CPS again, because I didn’t want to live with my Dad because of the way he was treating me. This time, when I told CPS worker Jennifer Mitchell and her CPS supervisor that my father was abusing both me and his adopted child they said I was lying and manipulative. Apparently, 8 year olds are more reliable than 13 year olds in processing information. At least they are easier to coach.

4. Did your father have any connections at CPS?

Yes, in Tehama County where he used to live, my father was close friends with the Director of CPS, Randi Gottlieb-Robinson. He has taken me on family vacations with her and her family.  Randi helped my father when he had me taken away from my mom when I was 8, and I believe she helped him again when I was 13 and he put me into foster care. 

5. Did my father tell me that my mother is a whore and a drug addict?

Yes. He alluded to it frequently. He told me that is why I had been taken away from her. Of course, that was a complete lie. My mother is a very clean woman and has never used drugs. 

6. Could I imagine a loving father saying such things about a mother?

Not a loving father. But my father has already shown that my well-being is not his main concern. If he were a loving father he wouldn’t have ruined my childhood like he did, and continues to. 

7. Did my father refuse to let me see my mother at all for three years?

Yes he said she wasn’t healthy for me. He said she could have seen me if she wanted to but she couldn’t stay “clean” long enough to make her necessary therapy. He said she was dangerous and unhealthy. Unknown to me, while he was telling me these things, my mom was actually filing for bankruptcy because of her legal bills, and still fighting to get me back. 

8. Would a loving father refuse to let his daughter see her mother?

No. A loving father would know how important mother/daughter relationships are in a child’s development and would not only sanction a child to see her mother but encourage their relationship. 

9. Did my father refuse to listen to me when I said I wanted to see my mother?

Yes. It was taboo to even mention her name in his household. Anytime I showed an interest in seeing my mom, I was treated badly, and was ignored and given the “cold shoulder” as a form of punishment. My father would also say that I wasn’t ready to see her and that I didn’t know her as well as he did. He said that she bruised me emotionally and that I didn’t know it. He said she was a recovering drug addict and was unreliable as a mother because “we know that she abused you”. 

10. Did my father throw his third wife against the hall wall?

Yes. They were fighting and yelling at each other in front of their adopted son. I came out of my room to see what was going on, and saw that my father, in a rage, had thrown his wife against the hall wall and knocked her down. Fights were routine in their household when I lived with them. 

11. Did that scare me to see my father throw his wife against a wall?

It scared me tremendously. He’s 6 foot 3 and big. I thought I was next. In fact, I was very afraid of him. 

12. Did I refuse to live with my father and his wife because they were rotten to me?

They were more than rotten. They were abusive. They called me horrible names and told me I was “evil” and “worthless”. I couldn’t handle that I had a healthy loving home with my mother that I couldn’t experience because my father was using me to hurt my mother. I was his trophy.  He felt he had “won” me in the custody battle. I was crushed and unhappy. 

13. Did my father put me into foster care instead of with my mother when I refused to live with him?

I ran away and when the police took me into custody I told them that I wanted to go live with my mom. They called my father and he ordered them to put me in foster care and if they called my mom he would sue them. He told me that I would have to stay in foster care until I was 18 unless I agreed to come back to his house. He told me I would never see my mom, sister or brother again. I was 13 years old at the time. I didn’t do anything other than initially running away. I have never threatened or harmed anyone, committed crimes of any sort, or anything else that could justify him putting me in foster care. My only apparent crime was wanting to live with my mom. 

14. Did I prefer to live in foster care rather than with him and his wife?

Yes. I had to choose between two evils. At least in foster care I wasn’t afraid for my safety. I was always scared in my dad’s house. There were times when I thought he might kill me. I knew if he did, he was so well-connected that nothing would probably happen. He could get away with anything in that remote county (Tehama) were he worked in the clinic as a doctor. 

15. Did my father promise me I could live with my mother after he got tired of paying for foster care?

He said that if I moved with him for three months and showed all his friends and family how “perfect” and “rehabilitated” his family was that I could go back to my mom. He just wanted to show everyone he got his trophy back. That is all I am to him. A symbol of his controlling superiority. 

16. Did my father trick me at the last minute and say I could not live with my mother?

He didn’t trick me. He just blatantly broke his promise. He said I didn’t deserve to go live with my mom. He said I was “treating him shitty” and I hadn’t treated him well enough and his wife didn’t like the way I acted. 

17. Did I feel betrayed by my father?

Yes. I felt beyond betrayed. It felt like salt in a wound because I trusted him against my better instincts and gave him a second chance to be a good father even though he didn’t deserve it. I was the “bigger man” in the relationship. I forgave everything. I was the one who suffered. It was beyond betrayal. 

18. Did he finally let me go to my mother’s house?

No. I ran away. He refused to keep his promise to allow me to peacefully visit her so he forced me to take drastic measures and endanger myself to travel through unsafe places in order to get to my mom. The District Attorney’s office saved me when they let me stay with my mom. 

19. Did my father go to the District Attorney’s office and pitch such a fit that he had to be removed?

Yes. According to written reports, he threatened to sue the man in charge of finding me and had to be asked to leave multiple times. It scared me to hear of my father losing control like that. He is usually a pathological liar who can always maintain his composure around important people, which is how he has convinced so many people to believe him. It was unsettling to have him lose his composure and made me wonder what he might do next? 

20. Did the District Attorney’s office write a letter to the judge saying that my father is out of control?

Yes. If I have a guardian angel, it is Rick Gore of the Yolo County District Attorney’s Office. He saw the truth of my situation and let me stay with my mom. Without his help, and the help of the late Assistant District Attorney Frank McGuire, I would have ended up on the streets. The reports they wrote about my father finally revealed the truth about him. Every day I wake up and in my heart thank Rick Gore for his help. 

21. Did the judge give my mother full custody of me?

Yes. In Yolo County I finally received the help that I needed and competent uncorrupt court officials who listened to me. The focus was finally upon me, rather than on what my father wanted. 

22. Did my father invite two people from the cult-like Rachel Foundation when I went to visit him?

Yes. When I went to visit him for a weekend, they were at his house and tried to “interview” me.  They hounded me outside my bedroom door for 3 days. I didn’t eat or drink or leave my room at all during this time. At the time I didn’t know their intentions but it just didn’t feel right. I was angry and scared at the same time, but I stood tall and strong. 

23. Did they try to get me to go to Maryland to their facility to be “treated”?

Yes. They were based in Maryland and later Texas. My father wanted to send me there to get “emergency” therapy to “cure” me from being alienated from him. My father had already purchased my ticket and had expected to transport me right away, as soon as he got the court’s permission. He wanted to send me away from my mom, my sister and brother, my step-dad and all my friends, without even a chance to say goodbye. I felt so betrayed by him that it was like he ripped my heart out and put it in a blender. Somehow I found the strength to say “No more.”  Even so, I was very scared, and refused to get in a car with my father because I thought he might try to send me to Maryland. 

24. Did my father call the police on me?

Yes. When he said that I wouldn’t see my mom again I lost it. I was so emotionally shaken that I broke dishes and I broke my door in so he couldn’t come after me. He called the cops on me. 

25. Did the police take me away in handcuffs?

Yes. They arrested me in handcuffs on a 5150 or suicide watch. I have never felt suicidal in my entire life. 

26. Did the police take me to a mental hospital at my father’s request?

Yes. I was taken to the hospital in Martinez, CA to the Psychiatric Ward. My father works in the same hospital. When I arrived, my father and the Rachel Foundation people were already there.  My father told them I was “psychotic” and pleaded with them to admit me into the psychiatric ward. 

27. Did the hospital say I wasn’t crazy, just mad, and let me go?

Yes. They couldn’t understand why I was there. They told me so. I was next to drug addicts and schizophrenics, some of whom had committed crimes. In fact, some of the hospital staff were upset that my father would want me there, especially when he demanded that I be admitted. 

28. When I finally got back to my father’s house, did he lock me out in the rain?

Yes. After I was in the psyche ward my dad signed me in for voluntary foster care again. From there, I ran away from the voluntary foster care back to his house. I was going to give in and live with him because I was broken and couldn’t fight anymore. I walked in the rain ten blocks uphill to his house and when I got there he wouldn’t let me in. I stood outside for 2 hours in the rain and wind crying because I had nowhere else to go (because he refused to let me go to my mom’s house). He called the cops on me again and they came and put me under house arrest because my dad said he feared for his family’s safety around me. The next morning, I packed my bags and took the train to Davis where I hid with friends. My mom didn’t know where I was because I didn’t want her to be arrested for kidnapping. 

29. Would a loving, protective, father lock his daughter out in the rain at night?

No. It’s disgusting. He intentionally left me and watched me from his windows. 

30. Did the judge put my father on therapeutic supervised visits?

Yes. We had counseling together. 

31. Did my father come regularly to the supervised visits?

No. I tried to schedule visits for every 3^rd week, even though I didn’t really want to even see him.  I thought…let’s at least give it a try. He would frequently cancel; one time he canceled 3 months in a row. He only made it consistently on the weeks prior to court appearances. I’ve always said my Dad is more lawyer than father. 

32. What do I want from my father?

I want to be allowed to enjoy the last 1 1/2 years of my childhood before I go off to college and the real world. I want to enjoy my life as a young adult. I want to worry about school, and shopping, and college and movies, and boys….not about court and my father harassing my mom. 

I want him to stop sending me to court. I want him to help support me financially without complaining about it. I want money for college. I want what all daughters want from a dad. I know I can’t expect real love and respect from him, but at least he can fulfill his basic responsibilities required with my conception. He wants to ruin me. It’s sad but true. All I want is to be out of court. 

My name is Fatima Busaat Alilire Loeliger and I am 16 years old. I think that is the least he owes me.

A friend passed along this observation of his column today:  “What an arrogant prick he is. He is starting to believe his own publicity now. It’s not hard being the top dog in a pile of uneducated, angry, family abusers.”

He calls us “opponents” but shouldn’t he give a damn about abused children?  We do.

This is from Jennifer Collins today on her site.  Why is this poor girl still going through this???

Glenn Sacks & his followers conceal child abuse

August 3 2009 – I just received this message a few minutes ago:

Jennifer Collins

“How do you explain that the fractured skull happened at an amusement park in 1987, and that Holly Collins sued the amusement park for the injury and obtained a $50,000 financial award from the park?”
FIRST OF ALL – GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT!

1996 - The amusement park accident was in 1996. The medical records clearly state “NO BROKEN BONES!” My mother and father didn’t have to sue the amusement park because they offered a settlement to the accident victims. There was a court appointed trustee who had to approve the settlement because it was an injury to a minor child caused by negligence on public property. You can be sure that if a child’s skull was fractured because of a defected amusement park ride, the settlement would have been extremely higher. The money was put into a trust fund for my brother. The money was his not my parents!

1997 - My father beat up my brother and my mother in July 1997. That is when he broke the bone in my brother’s skull! Because of this abuse Child Protection became involved and told my mother that if she didn’t take us and leave our father she could be charged with “failure to protect.”

This is a clear example of how my father, Glenn Sacks and other father’s rights groups are distorting the facts and trying to conceal the truth!

Lisa KS Says:

December 29th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
Okay, this is it. Eww! I’m sorry, Glenn, but this is so gross, I can’t do this anymore. At all! You’ve printed many stories since I first started reading your blog about kids who talk about how their mother unfairly alienated them from their father, etc., and never once have you suggested that your readers investigate any of them to ascertain whether or not they were telling the “truth.” And yes, Jennifer Collins has every right to be offended–you’re running right over her by saying you have “no idea” what happened between her and her father, because she’s clearly willing to say what did, and she is twenty-three years old…not three, not thirteen–twenty-three…and you are acting as if she doesn’t exist–you pointedly did not contact her at all. You take the word of any other twenty-three-year-old…as long as that twenty-three-year-old is claiming that he or she was abused, abducted or kidnapped wrongly by his or her mother. And if the father is asking you to do this, you’ve been remarkably silent about that–it really appears that you personally just hate the existence of this story and are determined to crush it underfoot–putting up some diatribe from someone who is only willing to identify him or herself by initials who claims that during supervised visits, they got the real idea of what was going on..

As I have previously complained about, when children are forced to be with an abuser, either through visitation or even worse (and more common) a change of custody to the abuser, the effect on the children is traumatic.  Courts, Evaluators, and Guardian ad Litem’s do not listen to children (if they even talk to them at all), and accounts of abuse are routinely ignored by the courts, thanks to the push by father’s right’s organizations like Fathers and Families, screaming about “false abuse claims” to protect members of their groups.  They are funded with our tax dollars to do this.

Children are routinely drugged into compliance to be with the abuser, treated for various problems associated with depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) among others.  Imagine having to be drugged to be compliant when your parent rapes you!  It happens.  Wouldn’t it be better for the organizations screaming about “false abuse claims” and so-called “parental alienation syndrome” to start dealing with the truth and advocate for the children in these situations?

I received this from a mother this morning.  It is so common unfortunately:

Oh I am sooo sad  and heart broken today. My daughter called yesterday and asked me if I got her email but I didn’t see an email. Anyway she told me they had put her on the prozac again (the same prozac that made her sick, the same prozac they took her off of). She told me her father went back to the doctor and told the doctor that she was doing fine on it and it wasn’t making her sick. So without saying anything bad about her father I simply told her to keep a daily log and write down everything she feels after she takes the medicine whether good or bad and give it to the doctor.
 
So then I hung up with her and checked the email she sent whereas she tells me her father grabbed her arm so hard it still hurts and told her “you treat me like crap.” She goes on to say she cried in her bed for 30 minutes and prayed that God would help her and told me she can’t take it there and he is making her do all this church stuff she doesn’t want to do and she is unhappy and then begged me to help her and save her. Both of them have also told me on audio tape recently that he has started pulling my son’s hair when he is mad. Now this is the way the abuse started with me. He would pull my hair and pull me by the arm and then it got bad. He is starting to lose it with them…

This is a real letter from a real mom, with a real daughter and son that are hurting.  Read this again…..this is a real letter from a real mom, with a real daughter and son that are hurting.

Yes, the church stuff….one of the tactics recommended by the father’s rights lawyers.  Makes the abuser look saintly and good…and the courts buy into it too.  This is very common for abusers to do.

Only when reality finally sinks into the family court system will children be safe.  I am sending my love and prayers to this mom that help will come for her children soon.

Actually the full title, which comes from Family Court Matters, is:

Male Supremacist Glenn Sacks, caught with his pants down, Re: Joyce Murphy case in San Diego, uses this occasion to backhand Shockome/Collins cases, and tries to regain his upright & righteous standing as expert on “false allegations”

Gotta love my friend, she is wordy sometimes but she speaks with great wisdom.  Most of us “feminists” as Glenn likes to call us, Feminazi’s to others, were taken aback by his column in Men’s Daily News.

As Glenn starts out: The Feminist Family Law Movement claims that abusive fathers often employ Parental Alienation as a way to wrest custody from protective mothers in family court. They push for reforms which will make it easier to deny fathers shared custody or visitation rights based on unsubstantiated abuse claims. They also push for laws to exclude evidence of Parental Alienation in family law proceedings.

Abusive fathers DO often employ this tactic…this is well know in the professional bodies that have come out against it, like the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges and the National District Attorneys Association.  This was testified to in Senate hearings by Catherine Pierce recently.  Personally I have had discussions with legislators and law professors on the subject.  I know it as an abused woman whose abuser has her children, and growing up as a child who was forced to be with my mother’s abuser until he got tired of taking care of us and put us in foster homes to keep us away from her.  I live it everyday as I wake up in my car to go to work to have my wages taken and given to my abuser who makes far, far more money than I do.   So I take it personally when someone goes on and on about “unsubstantiated abuse claims.”

Glenn’s spewing continues:  The FFLM has promoted several cause celebre cases in recent years as a way to garner public sympathy and political support for their agenda. I’ve investigated many of these cases and have found the FFLM’s claims about them to be very inaccurate. I detailed several of these, including the high-profile Genia Shockome and Sadia Loeliger cases, in a co-authored column here.

The most recent of the FFLM’s cause celebres cases is the Holly Collins case. Collins fled to Holland with her two children in 1993, claiming that her husband had abused the children and that she needed to flee to protect them. Last year I appeared on a Fox national TV show with Geraldo Rivera and Jennifer Collins, Holly’s 24-year-old daughter who supports her mother’s version of events. Jennifer Collins claims she’s a victim of her father’s false claims of Parental Alienation.

Yes, and it wasn’t one of your prouder moments, was it?  As you sat beside an “alienated father” with his supposedly alienated son who was smiling next to him (and one of the people brought up the fact he wasn’t paying child support then all hell broke loose).  You actually admitted to Dr. Silberg and Geraldo Rivera that some fathers probably do use so-called “parental alienation” as an excuse.  Then Jennifer spoke up, and the audience and moderators gasped when she told of her brother’s skull being broken by their custodial dad (who would violently beat their mother Holly).  After the show, you put out an All Points Bulletin to your cult to have people investigate Jennifer and Holly Collins, and even your supporters were sickened:

Lisa KS Says:

December 29th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
Okay, this is it. Eww! I’m sorry, Glenn, but this is so gross, I can’t do this anymore. At all! You’ve printed many stories since I first started reading your blog about kids who talk about how their mother unfairly alienated them from their father, etc., and never once have you suggested that your readers investigate any of them to ascertain whether or not they were telling the “truth.” And yes, Jennifer Collins has every right to be offended–you’re running right over her by saying you have “no idea” what happened between her and her father, because she’s clearly willing to say what did, and she is twenty-three years old…not three, not thirteen–twenty-three…and you are acting as if she doesn’t exist–you pointedly did not contact her at all. You take the word of any other twenty-three-year-old…as long as that twenty-three-year-old is claiming that he or she was abused, abducted or kidnapped wrongly by his or her mother. And if the father is asking you to do this, you’ve been remarkably silent about that–it really appears that you personally just hate the existence of this story and are determined to crush it underfoot–putting up some diatribe from someone who is only willing to identify him or herself by initials who claims that during supervised visits, they got the real idea of what was going on..

What the hell makes you an investigative expert?   What are your qualifications and methodology?  You are effectively calling people liars publicly, I hope you are insured against defamation.

There is financial incentive for you and Ned Holstein to whine about “false allegations” and your need to fight them.  Why do you ignore the statistics?

PAS Presupposes a High Rate of False Accusations in Custody Cases

The theory of PAS is based in part on the notion that, within custody disputes, there is a high incidence of false abuse allegations. Dr. Gardner theorized that allegations arising within the context of a custody dispute have a “high likelihood of being false,”5 and went so far as to state that he believed “the vast majority of allegations in this category [divorce cases with custody disputes] are false.” 6 To the contrary, the available research suggests that false allegation rates are not significantly high. For example, a 1990 study by Thoennes and Tjaden evaluated 9,000 divorces in 12 states7 and found that sexual abuse allegations were made in less than 2 percent of the contested divorces involving child custody. Within this group, it appears false allegations occurred in approximately 5% to 8% of cases.8 This study is one of the most comprehensive and least subject to bias and sampling problems, since its sample is so large and representative of the population of those divorcing with custodys.9

5 Gardner, 1991, p. 4.
6 See Kathleen Coulborn Faller, The Parental Alienation Syndrome: What is it and What Data Support it? Child Maltreatment, Vol. 3, No. 2, May 1998.
7 Thoennes & Tjaden, The Extent, Nature and Validity of Sexual Abuse Allegation in Custody/Visitation Disputes, Child Abuse and Neglect 1990, 14:151-163.
8 Id.
9 Kathleen Coulborn Faller, David L. Corwin & Erna Olafson, Literature Review: Research on False Allegations of Sexual Abuse in Divorce, APSAC Advisor 1993, 6(3), page 9.

But wait…Glenn comes to the rescue:  Stop Family Violence, to their credit, did get it right on Joyce Murphy–here’s their write-up.

In Murphy’s recent testimony to California legislators, she said the problem in her case was her ex-husband’s repeated claims of Parental Alienation. The real problem is that, in part because there are so many false accusations and unnecessarily contentious custody cases, courts don’t have the time to properly investigate charges of abuse. Often they simply default against the accused (usually the father). At other times, they suspect the mother’s allegations but don’t thoroughly investigate them, instead defaulting against her claims.

Lorna Alksne, the supervising judge of the San Diego County Family Court, told the reporter writing about the Murphy case that “each judge must juggle between 200 and 300 cases every month. She said the judges read before work, after work and during breaks to be prepared for their full day of hearings.”

What’s needed is a system which properly and impartially investigates claims, so that children like Murphy’s daughter are protected, but women like Shockome and Collins are unable to use false claims to drive their ex-husbands out of their children’s lives.

Organizations like Stop Family Violence could play a positive role here by actively counseling women not to make false claims–claims which can lead courts to suspect or not act on the accusations made by legitimately protective mothers like Joyce Murphy. And one way for Stop Family Violence to start would be to publicly disavow false accusers such as Collins, Loeliger, and Shockome.

So, what he is doing in this release here, is actually posing as moderate and balanced — because he conceded a mistake (AFTER the Joyce Murphy case was hit), but then goes after two other cases, and throws in the word “false allegations” over and over again.

Guess why there are so many cases in family law?  Not because of false allegations, but because batterers know WHERE to go to hide.   And the organizations that will support them.

Sorry Glenn, we just don’t buy it… 

Also see:  Glenn Sacks on the Warpath Again….YAWN and Glenn Sacks and His Cult Continue to Stalk Child Abuse Survivors

Hey Mark Godbey of “Father’s Parental Rights“, are you covering this since you hijacked the domestic violence category???

Violent, abusive fathers….no surprises here.  While Ned Holstein and Glenn Sacks are running around the country whining about “why didn’t Steve McNair’s murder get called domestic violence” and “women are so violent,” I DID call McNair’s murder domestic violence (even if it wasn’t by definition).  I haven’t seen them criss-cross the country about all the families being murdered.  It is these violent men that try and take the children from their moms (and are usually successful, thanks to stupid, corrupt judges).  But if that doesn’t work, just pull out the shotgun…or just keep beating them any way you can.

Hey, here’s an idea: let’s just stop calling all of this domestic violence and call it what it is….murder, assault, child rape, etc., etc., etc. 

From The Huntsville Times:

Suspect had called ex-wife unfit; has at least 3 children

Jacob Shaffer

The man accused of killing six people, including his wife and her 16-year-old son, once tried to take custody of his two children away from his ex-wife by claiming she was an unfit mother.

According to court records from August 2008, 30-year-old Jacob Shaffer claimed his ex-wife, Elizabeth Shaffer, was “neglectful in the welfare and well-being” of the couple’s two children, 9-year-old Arianna and 7-year-old Justin.

The case was promptly dismissed in December when Shaffer failed to pay the $382 in court costs, records show.

Shaffer has been charged with murder in Lincoln County, Tenn., in connection with the brutal slayings of his current wife, 38-year-old Tracie Shaffer, and the woman’s father, brother and son, along with the son’s friend and a Huntsville man.

Tennessee Bureau of Investigation officials said Shaffer spared his own 4-year-old daughter, who was in the home with his wife at the time of the killings. According to court records and family, Shaffer has at least three children – the two from his marriage to Elizabeth Shaffer, and the 4-year-old girl from his marriage to Tracie Shaffer.

Jacob Shaffer claimed less than a year ago that his oldest daughter thrived in his household, earning better grades and showing more involvement in Sunday school than when she lived with her mother.

Shaffer said his ex-wife had been living with her boyfriend and left the children in his sole custody for months, neglecting to pick them up at scheduled times, according to court records.

The claims went unanswered, and the case was closed in December after a Madison County judge denied Shaffer’s request for a waiver of fees based on financial hardship.

The 2008 civil case was the second chapter of a custody battle between Shaffer and his ex, who sued him three years earlier for $7,375 in back child support for their two children.

Shaffer teetered on the brink of a 110-day jail sentence for failing to pay 80 child support payments since the couple’s divorce in 2003. Shaffer put down a “large good-faith payment” after the civil court claim was filed, causing the judge to withdraw the order that could have sent him to jail.

Also see:  Man in custody in six slayings in Tennessee, Alabama

British scientists grow sperm in laboratory

GUESS SOMEONE JUST GOT DOWNSIZED

Women who say they don’t need a man may well be right – after human sperm was created in the lab.

I already know what is going to be said, I hate men and that is a lie, because there is one in particular I love very much. He is the man that I wished I could of made a father because he is the one that very much deserved to be one.

Still….I can’t help but wonder what it would be like if you took out the factor of the one thing allegedly women only want men for and the one thing that they are good at (impregnating their sperm). This could be an end of child support! This could be the start of something beautiful…..

CONFUSION

NEXT THING YOU KNOW MEN WILL WANT YEARLY PAP SMEARS AND MAMMOGRAMS……….yeah right.

I try not to get into the habit of giving any of the father rights idiots anymore attention, but then I think about all the people that need to be educated on the blatant misogyny that Glenn Sacks and his minions bathe in.

In a recent post on Glenn Sacks rag “Mens Daily News” he confesses that,

“I posed as a male victim of domestic violence and called every domestic violence shelter in all of Los Angeles and San Diego counties.”

Isn’t it illegal to prank call?

According to Sacks,

“Not a single one would accept me or offer assistance, with the exception of Valley Oasis. Most flatly refused any assistance at all, but a couple did offer me space in a homeless shelter.” Apparently Sacks cares not for the women that may be stalked there and an ex may pretend he’s abused to gain entrance? All those calls must have put all residents and staff on high alert, how awful to be stressed more.

Mr. Sacks must be confused about a lot of things, mainly his gender. Sacks goes on to say when he asks them “Am I supposed to take my children to a homeless shelter?”

If you TRULY are a abused man allegedly with children and you are escaping an abuser a homeless shelter seems like the safest place to be.

But this is the typical trash from a man that makes you wonder how he treats other women in his life, wife, mother, sister or child?

The world according to these father rights activists is that feminism destroyed their lives.

They want you to believe that men are abused equally if not MORE than women but yet they do NOTHING to get their OWN shelters for the throngs of men who get their ass whipped by their women. Women and men saw a need and they built shelters for women with their children a safe haven from abusers.

The intention was clear, if your men group needs to have some place to go after they get raped by their wives after a night of boozing it up….build a male sexual abuse shelter!

If one of your brethren gets his face shoved into the carpet because he didn’t do ALL the dishes…by all means build that man a place to live.

IF he gets a baby bottle “tossed” at his face (while he’s holding a baby) then I say build a SHELTER! Instead of blaming shelters and everyone else for your problems do something about it!

END YOUR CONFUSION

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CALLING ALL FATHER RIGHTS GROUP….WE’RE STILL KEEPING COUNT…..WHERE IS YOUR STATISTICS THAT WOMEN/MOTHERS KILL MORE THAN MEN/FATHERS? COME ON…..WE KNOW YOU CAN LIE SOME MORE…..JUST ASK MENS DAILY FUCKS

MURDERER

By Jim Staats

Marin Independent Journal

The 27-year-old son of the late pornography king Jim Mitchell was booked into Marin County Jail early Monday on suspicion of beating to death the Novato mother of his 1-year-old daughter.

James Raphael Mitchell, of Pittsburg, was detained late Sunday night in Citrus Heights, near Sacramento, after fleeing with the toddler, triggering a statewide Amber Alert.

James Mitchell is suspected of killing 29-year-old Danielle Keller, a Novato High School graduate who was living with her mother and the couple’s daughter, Samantha Mitchell, on Diablo Court in Novato. Police found Keller dead in the backyard when they responded to a call at 6:53 p.m. Sunday about a possible assault.

Mitchell was located using cell phone technology in Citrus Heights and arrested at 11:59 p.m. Sunday by local police. Samantha was recovered unharmed and was placed with child protective services in Sacramento, according to Novato police Capt. Jim Berg.

“They will most likely contact Marin County child protective services to coordinate the best location for the child,” Berg said.

Mitchell was booked in Marin County Jail at 6:50 a.m. Monday on suspicion of murder, child concealment, violation of court orders and domestic violence, according to police. He was due to be be arraigned in Marin Superior Court at 1:30 p.m. Tuesday. His attorney was reported to be former San Francisco district attorney Terence Hallinan.

Marin County Coroner Kenneth

Holmes said the cause of death was blunt force head trauma. Berg said police have a suspected weapon, though he declined further comment. There have been unconfirmed reports that a baseball bat was used.Keller’s mother, Claudia Stevens, spoke outside her home Monday morning as investigators searched for evidence on the property and yard behind her.

Stevens said she arrived home at about 5 p.m. Sunday after a Giants afternoon baseball game and was playing with Samantha, who was celebrating her first birthday. They had an ice cream cake ready for the young girl and Stevens went to visit some friends at 5:30 p.m. when she received a phone call from neighbors.

“They said I better get back over here right away,” said Stevens, a retired California Highway Patrol officer from Bakersfield. “I asked if Dani was OK and they told me she was dead and Samantha was missing.

“She was such a wonderful mother,” said Stevens of her daughter, who moved in with her six months ago after leaving the Pittsburg home she had shared with Mitchell.

Shaking with emotion as she spoke, Stevens said she saw Samantha on television Monday morning in the arms of a police officer.

“She seemed to be OK,” Stevens said. “She’s such a loving child.”

Stevens said her daughter, who worked in the cosmetics industry, had been interviewing for a new job and was trying to get her life back together after exiting an abusive relationship with Mitchell. She said the two had met two years ago at a club in San Francisco.

San Rafael attorney Charlotte Hideko Huggins represented Keller six months ago, helping her to gain a domestic violence restraining order against Mitchell.

Hideko Huggins said she had just mailed paperwork for a three-year restraining order Friday to Mitchell that he likely received Saturday.

Gina Stahl-Ricco of Novato was a fellow Novato High School graduate with Keller in 1998 who reconnected with “Dani” recently through Novato Mothers Club events.

“She moved back here six months ago to get away from this horrible person,” Stahl-Ricco said. “She always seemed bubbly and happy even though she was going through hard times. She was so committed to Sam. She was trying to get a support system here. She was trying to make a good life for Sam. She knew that’s what it was all about.”

Stahl-Ricco said although Mitchell had been abusive to her, Keller wavered in recent months about going back to him until she caught him doing drugs a month ago.

“She was sympathetic to his cause and would say ‘Oh, I hope he gets some help he’s had a tough past’ and I would tell her it doesn’t matter” and that she should stay away from him because he had allegedly hit her.

She said Keller was constantly having to ignore calls on her cell phone from Mitchell and had become increasingly scared of his recent messages.

“Sadly, it’s like you hear: You have a child together with somebody and you want it to work out and be ideal,” Stahl-Ricco said. “It didn’t seem like he wanted help.”

Hideko Huggins said Sunday was also the two-year anniversary of the death of porn king Jim Mitchell, the suspect’s father.

The elder Mitchell had developed a multimillion-dollar adult-film empire with his younger brother, Artie, and later was convicted of killing Artie in 1991 in Corte Madera. Jim Mitchell died on July 12, 2007 at his ranch near Petaluma at age 63 after serving three years of a six-year sentence for manslaughter in San Quentin State Prison.

Longtime Mitchell family friend Warren Hinckle, a veteran Bay Area author and journalist, said he saw Mitchell on July 5 at a party celebrating the 40th anniversary of the opening of the Mitchell brothers’ O’Farrell Theater. Hinckle said Mitchell had recently been doing well, having worked for a time at his family’s theater and serving in the Marines as a weekend reserve.

“He seemed in good shape to me, but a little tense,” he said. “I’m not sure how well domestic life suited him.”

A donation fund in the name of both Danielle Keller and Samantha Mitchell has been set up at Chase Bank, 1595 Grant Ave. in Novato.

Contact Jim Staats via e-mail at jstaats@marinij.com; IJ reporters Jim Welte and Brent Ainsworth contributed to this report.

What a bunch o’crap!  Glenn Sacks digs up a researcher to claim “over-reporting” by women and other associated BS. This “social scientist” has no clue (maybe she needs to read all the SCIENTIFIC RESEARCH we have on this site). Many inexperienced or bias (like is she a second wife, a stepparent, etc.) Ph.D.’s in social work will often create controversy just to get their name out there, without realizing the dangerous, inept statements they make .  Has she actually ever worked with battered women before…I have and what she reports is not true.    This researcher needs to go back to school…shame on you Glenn for digging up a “social science whore” to promote your agenda…

From The Huffington Post:

Researcher Says Women’s Initiation of Domestic Violence Predicts Risk to Women

How can we prevent Intimate Partner Violence and injury to women? IPV researcher Deborah Capaldi, Ph.D., a social scientist at the Oregon Social Learning Center, finds that the best way for women to be safe is to not initiate violence against their male partners. According to Dr. Capaldi, “The question of initiation of violence is a crucial one… much IPV is mutual, and initiations — even that seem minor — may lead to escalation.”

Dr. Capaldi recently presented her work at “From Ideology to Inclusion 2009: New Directions in Domestic Violence Research and Intervention,” an IPV conference in Los Angeles June 26-28 which was presented by the California Alliance for Families & Children and co-sponsored by The Family Violence Treatment & Education Association. While studies have consistently found that women initiate as much violence against their male partners as vice versa, two-thirds of domestic violence injuries are suffered by women.

Dr. Capaldi’s research examined the different relationship violence scenarios — violence by him only, violence by her only, violence by both with him initiating, and violence by both with her initiating. Of these, the most likely to result in future injury to women is when she initiates violence against him and he responds, although both mutually aggressive groups were close in danger levels.

Dr. Capaldi notes that in a study of women who were in a battered women’s shelter, “67% of the women reported severe violence toward their partner in the past year.” Others in the domestic violence field, including Erin Pizzey, founder of the first battered women’s shelter in England in the early 1970s, have had similar findings.

According to Dr. Capaldi, “Overall, young couples with unidirectional violence report fewer acts and forms of violence than bidirectional couples.”

Dr. Capaldi, who serves on the editorial boards of several academic journals related to family violence, is the Principal Investigator of the National Institute of Health’s Oregon Youth Study. The OYS, which began in 1983, is a longitudinal study of the etiology of antisocial behaviors in boys.

The OYS’ Couples Study followed the men in the study and their romantic partners from age 18 to 31-33, interacting with each other at seven different points in time during the 13-15 year period. The OYS studied physical aggression and psychological aggression among the men and women, using reports from men and women about their own violence, their reports of their partners’ violence, and observed aggression.

As a general rule, men tend to underreport both their violence against their female partners and their female partners’ violence against them. By contrast, women tend to over-report both the men’s violence against them and their own violence. The couples in the study were also given tasks by the study’s monitors, such as planning a party or discussing a problem with their partner, and were filmed and observed by the OYS during those tasks.

As in many studies of IPV, the OYS found that much IPV is bidirectional (meaning both are violent), and in unidirectional abusive relationships, the women were more likely to be abusive than the men.

The study found that a young woman’s IPV was just as predictive of her male partner’s future IPV as the man’s own past IPV. In other words, whereas we often think of men as the only abusers and also as serial abusers, the OYS found that a woman’s violence against her man was as predictive of his violence to her as his own history of violence.

Moreover, the study found that men’s physical aggression changes significantly when they find a new partner. Instead of a man being either a batterer or not, often it was his female partner’s violence or nonviolence which heavily influenced whether he would be violent to her.

Over time, the couples’ change in violence — generally reducing violence as they grow older — was highly associated, meaning that if one stopped violence, the other did, too.

Dr. Capaldi believes that current IPV programs are putting women in harm’s way. She says current batterer treatment programs are “ineffective… likely because they are not based on well-conducted research.” She explains:

“Since much IPV is mutual and women as well as men initiate IPV, prevention and treatment approaches should attempt to reduce women’s violence as well as men’s violence. Such an approach has a much higher chance of increasing women’s safety.”

“Father Rights” groups are gearing up in trying to get people to believe they are biased against in Family Courts, especially for “Father’s Day”

Their agenda is that they have no agenda…they mold their views to align with their views...or a as a fellow blogger succinctly put it..

“Child abuse doesn’t exist, or if it does exist, it’s for the good of the child (discipline you know), but if it’s not proper fatherly disclipline and it’s child abuse, only moms do it. Any questions? (Abandon logic all ye who enter here)”

The year 2009 hasn’t been too good for the Father Righters to get their point across since the countless of murders of children and estranged women.  One hell bent father has written about an Ol’ School deadbeat dad.

In 1927, Samuel W. Reid apparently refused to pay his child support a.k.a. alimony he stated he “would not pay to have HIS child with the evil ex wife”.

Which is how these men operate, the same as they did in the relationship, they are angry. They stalk their ex wives, girlfriends and even us bloggers who are mothers that tell the truth about Family Court. They call us nasty names, leave nasty comments and lie. But at the end of the day I laugh when I think of their little worlds crumbling with each murder, each arrest and each expose….Goodnight boys.