Dont' miss your target !

Anybody is dreaming about something, a goal, a project; but sometimes, the dream stays a dream and do not become reality. Are we afraid to realize our dreams because they are too extraordinary for ordinary people? They are many reasons why dreams are staying dreams. It is first a question of temper. Some people are followers, others with strong personalities are leaders, actors of their own live, always moved by a project.

The only question of temper does not explain why we are scared to transform a dream to reality. We often put barriers on a subconscious way, between us and the goal we want to reach. We are afraid sometimes by the constraints which could abort our goal, our project. By doing this, we are in fact not focused on our goal, but on the constraints of our goal, and it is for sure we will miss the goal by acting like this. It is exactly the same when you are walking on the street on a Saturday, when everybody is shopping. If you are fixing the person walking front of you, it is for sure you will collide with other. If you are looking just near her, where you have to go, then you will escape the collision.

But is it enough to fix only your goal? No, of course. In order to cover the distance between the place you are and the place you want to be, it means your goal, you will have to develop a strategy. This strategy will include all the components you will have to deal with, the advantages and the constraints

Let assume you want to start a business of IT consultant. Your goal is to provide IT services you defined. In order to succeed in your project, you analyzed if there is a matching between the competences you want to offer and the market. Then you will have to make prospection in order to develop your commercial portfolio, to make some marketing, to develop a commercial pitch. Of course, it takes time to gain reputation and customers, and at the beginning, your turnover will not be sufficient to balance your financial results.

Here is another important point of your strategy: your business plan. A good business plan includes normally different scenarios, from the pessimistic to the optimistic one. The key question is what I really need as goods and services to work and what are the ones of secondary importance. As IT consultant, computer material, internet connection, software, technical books, ..and your brain, are the most important things you need to work. The nice luxurious car you are dreaming of, is not essential. Do only with what you have. Could you imagine being able to work, if you have a car, but no computer, no phone, no internet connection? In my case, and for a lot of people, the answer is no ! And if you do so, as an IT professional, it is obvious that you will not be credible at all, and you will surely miss your goal…because you forgot your goal.

And we are back to the goal. If you create a company, it is not to buy a nice car or the last smart phone, but to create and develop an activity you like to do. Do not make confusions between the constraints and the advantages linked to your project and the final goal. By staying focused on your goal and developing the appropriate strategy, you maximize your chance to reach it and make it sustainable.

Never before this moment have I thought so much about a current goal. Every morning when I wake up I am online looking at blog page views and Facebook fans. I am definitely happy with our decision to make our goal public and share our journey with everyone. I know that our success will be in part attributed to how much we keep this goal in our mind.

The other week Camber wrote this post outlining what she had done mentally that helped her bring our family one of the greatest blessings of our life. In her post, she discusses how she memorized and repeated to herself daily five things that she wanted in our life. In a way that is what we are doing every day with this goal. Every time we see it, talk about or read about it, we are thinking about our goal. I truly believe that the more we have our goal on our mind, the more we will notice opportunities shape themselves in our lives that will bring us closer to where we want to be. I have not ever been this mentally aware of a goal. I am very excited for what the future will bring.

-Scott

Quite the just-like-old-times performance for the Sharks in their 4-2 win over the Vancouver Canucks. The Sharks roster finally looked like it should be with a couple exceptions. And with the added aspect of facing former Sharks, Christian Ehrhoff and Steve Bernier, it was a reunion of sorts.

Got to mention the injuries, returns and transactions. Devin Setoguchi and Rob Blake returned to the lineup tonight; Benn Ferriero and Jason Demers were sent down to Worcester because of that. Of course this was Torrey Mitchell’s second game back so he’s still getting used to NHL-level speed.

Jody Shelley and Brad Staubitz are still out with injuries, so Frazer McLaren played on the fourth line. Derek Joslin retained his spot on the defense upon Demers’ reassignment.

OK so the game — a slow back-and-forth game. One team would control for 10 minutes, then things would switch. Vancouver got on the board early in the first and controlled the play. McLaren scored his first NHL goal to tie things up before the first ended. He took a big hit behind the goal-line but stayed on his feet and kept his stick on the ice. Joe Pavelski found him and it was an easy tip-in. Glad to see Frazer add his name to the list of first-time scorers this season; Ferriero, McLaren, Demers, Logan Couture and Ryan Vesce all have scored their first NHL goal so far this season.

The Sharks dominated the second period, outshooting Vancouver 15-4; however, they only managed one goal, which came from Dan Boyle on the power play. It was a cool goal to watch on the replay because you saw how much Boyle moves on the man-advantage. One second he would be up high at the point, five seconds later he was down low. Always keeps his skates moving in a very fluid motion.

Captain Rob Blake made his return against Vancouver (From SJSHARKS.com)

San Jose backed off during the last frame but withstood a fierce Canucks forecheck. The Sharks capitalized on a counterattack, as Manny Malhotra deked — yes deked — goalie Roberto Luongo fairly easily. Thirteen seconds later Jamie McGinn notched his fourth goal of the season after Jed Ortmeyer battled beyond the goal line and sent the puck to the crease.

Let’s go back to the decision to send Demers down to Worcester. Coach Todd McClellan cited bad play in the defensive zone as the reason for the reassignment. Demers and Joslin were battling for the final defenseman spot with Rob Blake returning and T-Mac said Joslin played better over the last 10 games. Demers has definitely not played up to par lately. I think back to last game where Demers attempted a stretch pass only to have it intercepted and turned into an Edmonton goal.

T-Mac said before he likes how Demers takes risks, and now he’s going back on that? I don’t get it. Demers is clearly learning from Boyle how to be an offensive threat and doing a pretty good job at it. He has one goal and 12 assists in 27 games. He’s been one of the league’s most surprising rookies and you choose Joslin over Demers? I’m sorry, but this is a dumb move by T-Mac. Joslin is a joke of a player and isn’t going to amount to anything.

Perhaps it will help Demers not to play with Kent Huskins and actually someone good down in Worcester. Huskins was on the power play tonight again. Stop doing that T-Mac. Just stop. Demers needs to be on the power play and Huskins needs to be sent down. No one will claim him off waivers.

Other Notes

Hit-O-Meter: SJ 16  VAN 14; Jamie McGinn (4) and Devin Setoguchi (3) led the team.

The Sharks wrap up November with a 9-2-3 record and are the first team to reach 40 points.

All eyes will be on San Jose on Tuesday when the Sharks battle the Ottawa Senators. Dany Heatley versus his ex-girlfriend. Should be good.

–Ray

Just over 2 months ago, we set our goal of reaching millionaire status within a 22 month time frame. Over the last 2 months we have shared our thoughts and feelings with you regarding many subjects. Our purpose for doing this has been to document where we are mentally as we take the initial steps toward our goal. As we progress from this point forward we will attempt to journal more of a day to day progress report regarding events that are occurring during our journey. We will continue to offer our thoughts on specific subjects as they occur in our life, but we will focus more on the transformation that is going to take place in the near future.
Sometime in the next few days we will also be posting a list of other short term goals that we have a desire to accomplish over the next 20 months. Our reason for doing this is twofold; one, we would like to establish a routine of accomplishing all of our goals so that our millionaire goal becomes a natural habit engrained in our subconscious minds, and two, we would like to keep our audience excited and entertained. We want to have fresh and exciting accomplishments to post that will keep you motivated in reaching your own goals, and excited to continue following us. The more goals you see us reach, the more drive you will have to reach your own.
We are very grateful for all of your support, and we urge you to continue commenting on our posts and giving us feedback. We have some very exciting things happening here and we will continue to share them with you. Good luck in your own personal journey; we wish you the absolute best.

-Scott

My interm goal is to submit my picture for the transformations feature of my coaching program. My transformation until this point has been pretty dramatic but I really want to put some umph into it! So the second week of January I will be submitting my pics… until then I will be sweating up a storm and hitting intense doubles. ADRIIIAAAANNNNNNNNN!!!!!

Personalities have always been interesting to me. Myers-Briggs and similar profiles are fascinating. I’m pretty sure my mother passed this interest along to me. Some of those assessment tools are more accurate and helpful than others, but they fascinate me nonetheless. One particular aspect of personality I’ve been thinking about lately relates to focus and activity . . .

Some people are created to focus. They can spend countless hours working on, studying, and driving toward a specific goal.

Other people are ADD. I personally think the term “ADD” is sickeningly overused, but for this discussion, we all understand the terminology enough to move on . . . ADD folks can’t stick to a single idea or task for any length of time without taking a break, being distracted by a noise, or whatever rabbit that can be chased.

Over the years, I personally have found that my ability to focus on a task is directly related to the amount of stuff I have to do. For some people, being busy means ADD to the extreme, where you flitter from task to task and never really get anything done.

This is not the way I roll. If I have a lot on my plate, I can focus and knock out task after task . . . especially as deadlines loom. The more I have to do, the more I focus and get things done.  In college, I took 19 and 20 quarter-hours a few times, and got the best grades those quarters, with the exception of the 4.0 my last quarter . . .

This year has been hard. I have a ton of little things to do, but very few “real” deadlines. I have had a real hard time focusing. Right now, I need to buckle down and get my brain wrapped back around the Architecture Registration Examination information so I can retake the last section on December 9.  I’m having a hard time picking up a book to read, let alone study.

Sometime in the next few days I will probably be starting a job selling wireless phones. It’s not going to make us rich. Probably won’t even keep us from dipping into savings. But it will be productive and get us off unemployment. I’ve been asking myself how I am going to get anything else done if I have to work 40+ hours a week in retail during the Holiday season . . . but to be honest, it will probably be great for me. I’m probably going to get a lot more done. Right now, I feel lazy, and probably am. I’m looking forward to genuine, productive activity, not matter how strange or menial.

How about you? How does workload relate to your ability to focus?

So now that I’m 29 I figured I’d make a list of 29 goals that I’d like to accomplish by the much dreaded 30th birthday. I think my 29th has been my last milestone. I do not wish to be “officially” a 30 something. Not quite for some time. I still want to play in my 20’s. Time. Le sigh.

1. Return to college Spring 09.
2. Decide on my major: English or History.
3. Buy and ride a bicycle. (I’m looking at a baby blue beach cruiser.)
4. Join a gym. (My target goal is to lose 80 pounds.)
5. Open a new Etsy which will include quilted projects.
6. Go to Magic Mountain with Shawn for Valentine’s Day, I’ll even go on all the rides.
7. Get a new hair cut color. (This is going to be a suprise.)
8. Get a new tattoo.
9. Replace our old loveseat with a recliner.
10. Upgrade the computer with Windows 7 and Photoshop.
11. Train for a marathon. (Marathon is in October I believe.)
12. Read all the books in my 2010 challenge.
13. Knit something for my grandmother.
14. Knit a pair of socks, “that don’t slouch”, for my mom.
15. Sew Scout’s Easter dress.
16. Paint the living room.
17. Put together all of the art work that we want to hang in the living room, hall way and master bedroom.
18. Finish the blouse I started six months ago.
19. Go back to Chicago with my mom.
20. Learn to eat healthy.
21. Complete the NaKniSweMoDo sweaters within the year.
22. Make a quilt for our bedroom. (Teal and dark brown.)
23. Learn how to crochet, beyond single crochet.
24. Write a book.
25. Make new friends.
26. Get the entire house organized.
27. Buy a new bed. (We really need a box spring and frame.)
28. Buy a new Blythe, either Urban Cowgirl or Ice Rune.
29. Enjoy the year before I’ll have to say that I’m. thirty. years. old.

Are you making great choices?

What choices have you made today that will affect your future?

We get to make hundreds of choices each week. Some are simple: What color shirt will I wear? Others are more significant: Should I call the doctor about this pain in my chest? All are part of our life.

Becoming deliberate about the choices we make is the first step to gaining control over the results we can expect in the future. All of our daily choices define who we currently are and who we desire to become. We get to make other choices that are significant in our life each day. These choices make us grow into who we will become. We can chose our outcomes by carefully making our choices.

Significant choices that can affect our future are:

• Control over our money
• Making a decision to exercise
• Opening a business
• Spending more time with your family
• Making one more sales call each day

The most important part of our choices each day is the choice to become deliberate. Become deliberate in your choices and the future is determined by you!

Consider your future: Make it real today!

Jack

www.defineyourpath.com

I have not written in this blog since July this year. Unsurprisingly, I’ve not lost any weight, I’ve in fact gained some more.

I’ve also been focusing in baking, eating and overfeeding my ‘temple’ in general.

In this blog, I will detail everything I eat, any exercise I do and any special diets I try. My goal? I want to lose 15kg.

This is day zero, so I’m eating Buenos in bed, this is after I’ve had three slices of Hell Pizza – chicken w pineapple and Camembert (best gluten free pizza I’ve had), vanilla butter cake with salted butter cream, Singapore noodles, rice w Thai curry and that was only dinner!

Tomorrow will (hopefully) be a different story – may be hard though, I have brunch plans of Yum Cha.

You may want to visit my food blog which details how I got to my sorry, blubby state. Bury Me In Food – yeeshin.wordpress.com

لعل بعض النصائح في تحقيق الأهداف تفيد   :

في ترتيب الأهداف إجعل الهدف الأكثر أهمية أولوية (تعلم الأنجليزية أهم من تعلم البرمجة)

لا تشتت وقتك في متابعة أخبار العالم وأخبار التكنولوجيا وأخبار ……. أي جفف منابع تشتيت الوقت وركز على الأولويات

لا تستعجل النتيجة فالتقدم دائما موجود ولكنه بطيء تماما كما تنمو الشجرة

الإرادة هي المفتاح لتحقيق الهدف ومن دون الإرادة لا يمكن تحقيق أي هدف فلسفتي أن يكون رضا الله ومحبة الله وطاعة الله سببا وجيهيا لعلو الهمة .

انتقي أفضل وأمتع وأسهل طريقة للوصول للهدف وطور استراتيجيتك في تحقيق أهدافك.

لا تقرأ كتابا دون أن تعرف لمن هو موجه هل هو موجه لمختص أو للإنسان العادي الذي لا يعرف أي شيء في مجال الكتاب.

Decide what you want and the Universe will help.

By Judy Oldmeadow, Owner & Master Horsewoman, Samaria Creek Morgan Horses

Dark days

Last day of school holidays. It’s nearly dark as I push a heavy barrow round the horse yards. Forcing my overworked 53-year-old body to pick up the last of the manure.

Vaguely, I wonder if I could analyse people by their shit, as I can horses.

Calico dumped her piles by the gate as she looked for someone to take her back to her paddock.

Holly, the fiery Arab, spread hers fast and loose along the fence as she impatiently paced, neighing for attention.

Banjo, the slow-thinking beginner’s horse, deposited his huge pile under the tree where he patiently waited for something to happen.

Barrow empty at last. A final check for brushes and tack in their correct places.

I limp inside. Happy I’m alone at last, but sad I’ve only enough energy to shower and collapse into bed without eating.

For ten years I’ve been running children’s riding camps on my 22 acre property.

I know I can’t sustain this life of one camp after another, with ten kids in my one bathroom, no partner and only a teenage assistant and daily cook to help me.

At the end of each camp, no matter how tired I am, I always give each parent an encouraging report on their child’s particular skills.

Today I advised a mother to tell her nagging, blaming, attention-seeking daughter to forget horses and take up acting.

Time to stop.

A place in the sun

I lie under a walnut tree on a stunning 240 acre property, surrounded by contented Morgan mares and their foals while my imported stallion stands watch.

I smile as I watch lead mare Tanjil and her filly Yve. Tanjil’s mothering skills never cease to amaze me. Within three hours of Eve’s birth, Tanjil pushed her over to my LandCruiser to let her investigate it. Next, she nudged Yve to me and kept her there with her body, letting me touch her all over.

For three weeks Tanjil did this with all new human visitors, occasionally pushing Yve away if a person wasn’t to her liking. Now Yve is allowed to make her own choices. She’s curious, confident, friendly and respectful.

Horses could teach people a lot about parenting.

I hear my husband Miles slashing the paddock ready for the fire season. I allow myself a moment of pride for our achievements.

Our Morgan herd comprises a stallion, five purebred mares, two partbred mares and three other breed mares in foal. This year we have five foals at foot, seven yearlings and one two-year-old running in the hill paddock with the nanna mares. All but one sold.

We provide agistment for the horses we breed until they’re two. This gives them the best environment for sound hoof and bone growth in a herd that develops confident personalities.

We’re succeeding beyond all expectations.

Our cottage lets owners get to know their new horse in a safe environment. This month, our first two-year-olds have gone to new homes in three states – well mannered, confident, barefoot and sound.

I work with my horses to teach communication, assertiveness and self awareness while having fun.

I’m living my dream.

How did I do it?

All my life I’ve not made changes until things got bad enough. I saw myself as tough – nothing could make me cry.

Then my closest friend fought a long, heartbreaking struggle with cancer. One of her coping mechanisms was to plan her own funeral.

She designed an amazing mural for her coffin, chose the music and asked mourners to walk to the cemetery. She asked me to ride beside the hearse leading her mare Tinto – saddled, with her boots backwards in the stirrups, military style.

I agreed, thinking it’d be a lovely way to say the inevitable goodbye. At the cemetery I tied my horse to a tree and led Tinto to the grave. In the silence after the service, Tinto called and my horse answered.

A huge wail rose in me. I cried for weeks. In the supermarket. At the doctor. With visitors. Alone. Years of suppressed tears.

Worried for my sanity, a friend suggested internet dating. I didn’t even own a PC! She set me up on a hand-me-down.

After three months, I was over my depression and happy to live alone. Then I got an email from Miles Oldmeadow. My deceased friend had worked with his mum and we’d met several times.

We had much in common and many mutual friends. Two years later we married. I sold my farm and began building my new teaching facility at Samaria.

I was used to aching knees; they’d both been dislocated and lacked medial cartilage. But in our second year of marriage, my pain was everywhere. I tried to work through it, but sometimes I spent days in bed – exhausted by an hour’s work.

After a merry-go-round of tests, specialists and medication, a rheumatologist finally diagnosed fibromyalgia.

My research into managing this condition included meditation and reading about post traumatic stress. I noticed I was almost pain free when relating to horses.

Early one morning, with pain preventing sleep, I decided I’d breed safe, friendly, comfortable-to ride Morgan horses for families.

I was thrilled when Miles embraced my idea. In November 2006 we began our journey by purchasing two purebred mares.

I no longer have fibromyalgia symptoms. My depression has lifted and I’m breeding sensational horses while coaching animals and humans into harmonious relationships.

Life got bad enough.

I did something about it.

The way to make the Lideta Boys here happy simply involves a ball and a field.  Once we get there teams are made, rocks are placed as goal posts, red and yellow cards are ready for use by us, and the game begins.

Getting there to this field is always the challenge.  Cramming 31 bodies into a Mini Bus, (which is a little bigger than the average minivan) can take a few minutes of strategic planning on where everyone is going to fit, as the basic “cram until overflow” technique does not apply when this many boys are involved.  In moments like this all I can do is yell for them to open a window and laugh at how there is no where else i would rather be than crammed in with these boys.

Of course, since we are in Ethiopia, we never have a normal game of futbol. This week the game was cut short when the ball was launched over the back wall and down into this river of open sewage.  Even from the field the smell was rank, but as soon as the ball bounced over the wall boys were following right behind it before we could stop them.  Down they went to retrieve the ball, as we stood on top of the wall disgusted trying not to think about all the diseases these boys could catch.  We learned an important lesson: always bring an extra ball if you are planning to continue with the headers after the sewage retrieval.

How to build a portfolio:

• When starting out, do some work for free to get experience.
• Record important information, such as the dates of the job, parties involved, and your hours worked.
• List the project’s goals, show before and afters, and list your accomplishments during the project.
• Get recommendations from those you worked with.

Keep all this on file, and branch into two versions: one that has every detail of every project and another with just the summary and your accomplishments.

When applying for a position, you will need to tailor your portfolio to the job description. It’s worth it.

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The worst goal drought in the history of the modern game is over! I’m not too proud as it was against a team a man down with rush goalie, but nevertheless a goal is a goal, and a brace is a brace (a brace is actually two, for those who don’t know).

My first saw me find some pace from nowhere and dink the ball around my man while running the other side of him.I poked the ball into the empty net.

The second saw me pounce (pounce!? I haven’t pounced on anything since I was 23!) on a poor pass across the back line and shield the ball before again, firing into a keeperless net.

This may seem like little to most of you, but bear in mind  during last Super Thursday’s match I missed two similar open goal chances so this is progress.

Knee is still playing up but I feel noticeably fitter and am finding that despite my injury and calorie-control issues my body is coping well with two games in a week. (Cue dropping a ketchup bottle on my foot and breaking a metatarsal).

Before we get too far into this process I have to write about Goal.

I have lots of “goals,” and then I have Goal, which is my own brain’s shorthand for what is, right now, the largest goal of them all:

To have twenty percent of this year’s income stored away, in a savings account, by December 31, 2009.

I set this goal at the beginning of the year and tracked it carefully.  All was going well until, at the beginning of October, I had the opportunity to take a trip which I didn’t want to turn down.  All in all the trip cost about $700, which is relatively inexpensive as far as vacations go, but it meant that in October I didn’t put the full 20% in my savings account.

Then, in an unfortunate twist of fate, I ended up getting swine flu and spent the entire trip coughing and aching in a hotel room.  $700 with nothing to show for it except, perhaps, the relative freedom to spend the entire day in bed.

It would have been one thing if the trip had been as fun as planned, and I could have told myself “okay, so I’m $700 under my goal savings, but I had this experience which is also valuable.”

Instead I came back home determined to make up the money.

So $700 over 20% divided over two months—and at this point I know that there are people reading this who are instantly shaking their heads that I’m writing so casually about saving an extra $700 when many people can’t afford to put away an extra $50, and so I should stop and say that this is not casual, at least not for me.  I have been there.  I’ve been on food stamps.  I’ve spent the entire year carefully setting aside $1000 for a savings account only to have the entire sum wiped out with one unpredicted expense.  This year was the first time in six years that I was able to visit the dentist.  So, yes, it may sound cavalier to say “I’ll just set aside an extra $350 for two months,” but my experience with money has taught me that it’s important to save while the saving’s good; hence the Goal.

I should also add that it is not at all cavalier to scrape an additional $700 out of November and December’s budgets.  Right now I am on a strict-strict-strict spending allowance (essentially, for the next two months, the only things I’m buying are food and Christmas presents), but the end is tantalizingly in sight.  I’m not actually sure I’ll make it.  It’s practically down to the dollar, and if something happens, I could end up $50 or $100 (or worse) under Goal.  And yes, that is not The End Of The World, but still… it’s interesting.  It’s like playing the odds against myself.

And I want to win.