Life Isn’t About Dying a Peaceful and Calm Death.  It’s About Skidding Sideways Into the Casket Yelling “YEE HAW!!!”

This Guy'll Definitely Be Skidding Sideways Into His Coffin. How About You?

Hey you,

It’s #2.

This post goes out to our loyal fan Tim Birch.

During these past 2 weeks I’ve been locking myself down taking notes and writing copy and hadn’t checked the comments on the blog since my last post, until today.

While doing so, I noticed Tim’s comment about one of his cousin’s passing away.  When I read it, my first reaction was to reply but then I remembered a story and I wanted to share it with you Tim, and everyone else here.

This is a story I used to listen to over and over again on my walkman while working for a commercial construction company.  At least a decade has passed since I’ve heard this but it touched me so deeply I knew you’d appreciate it too.  It’s told by one of the greatest transformational story tellers I know of, Tony Robbins.

It was one of the rare gems trapped inside on of his discussions on metaphors buried inside his Power Talk series.  The passage below is a gorgeous metaphor pertaining to the concept of death.

Here goes….

“My son Joshua came to me from school, and I think he was about six or seven at the time.

A child at school, a child he used to play with, one of his little friends was climbing on some of the playground equipment and fell off, broke his neck and died.

I came home and Josh was crying hysterically. And everything people tried to tell him and explain to him verbally about why it happened, what was going on, nothing would work.

So I sat down him and said ‘Honey, I know how you feel.  But you know, I think the challenge is that, while you know you miss him and you have the right to miss him, you should feel those feelings, you should also realize that the reason you feel the way you do is because you’re a caterpillar.’

He said, “What?” This broke his pattern a little bit.

I said, “Honey, you’re just a caterpillar.  And you’re thinking like a caterpillar.”

He said, “What do you mean?”

“Well, what happens to caterpillars at some point?  There’s a point where most caterpillars think they’ve died.  They think it’s over, they think life has ended.  When’s that?”  I said.

He said, “Oh yeah, when there’s that thing that starts wrapping around them.”

I said, “Yeah, that thing starts wrapping around them and pretty soon the caterpillar gets buried in all this mass of stuff. And you know what, if you were to open up that thing it’s buried under, the caterpillar’s no longer there.  It’s just all this mush and goo and stuff.

And most people including caterpillars, even the caterpillar that’s transforming there, is thinking it’s the end yet it’s not dying, it’s transforming, you understand, it’s going from one thing to something else.

Pretty soon, the caterpillar thinks that life is over and what happens is the caterpillar comes together and what does it become?”

He said, “A butterfly.”

I said, “And can other people see that?  Can the little caterpillars on the ground see that this caterpillar became a butterfly?”

He said, “No, they don’t see that.”

I said, “That’s right.  Funny, he breaks out of the cocoon and what does he do?”

He said, “He flies.”

And I said, “He doesn’t fly right away, he get’s out and the sunlight comes down and dries off his wings and then he goes out flies and he’s even more beautiful than when he was a caterpillar.

Is he more free or less free?  You tell me.”

He said, “Oh, he’s much more free.”

I said, “You think he has more fun?”

He said, “Yeah, he’s got less legs to get tired.”

“That’s right, he does.  He doesn’t need his legs any more, he’s got wings.  Honey, I think your friend’s got wings now.  It’s not for us to decide when someone becomes a butterfly.  We think it’s wrong but I think God has a better idea of when the right time is.

We think summer should be here now but you know right now it’s winter and you want it to be summer, right?  But God’s got a different plan.  Sometimes we just gotta trust that God knows how to make butterflies better than we do.

And when we’re caterpillars sometimes we don’t even realize that butterflies even exist because they’re up above us.  Maybe we should just remember that.”

He stopped crying, and was smiling and he gave me a big hug and said, “Yeah, I bet he’s a beautiful butterfly.”

Metaphors can transform.  Select them carefully.  Select them intelligently.  Select them in a way that deepens and enriches your life or the people you care about.  Become a student of metaphors and become sensitized to them and your whole life can change.

Wishing you and your family the best Tim,

Talk to you soon,

Note Taking Nerd #2

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What’s up people!

I am back again from China after making an urgent trip so thanks to everyone for their patience when it came to me responding to your e-mails and queries. I will be following up closely with all the enquiries that I have received since last week so check your mailboxes and Skype for my response soon.

In light of all my recent enquiries, I have received a few very ridiculous questions. If you are thinking of taking a program and you are still asking ridiculous questions, let me make one thing clear to you : The fact is, You want in.

Listen up.  If you think you can get a better program out there then by all means, sign-up with them, become a PUA today. You live your life being “safe” all the time, you are going to achieve only normal, “safely” results. This problem is bigger than you think it is. Not being good with women is only one small problem, the NEED to control an outcome by avoiding risk will make you move a lot less in life and that logically and naturally gives you less results.

If you haven’t already noticed by now, there might be something seriously wrong with you. What I teach is different from PUA stuff simply because I am not a PUA… and what I teach works. That’s why I have a blog and there is TDDReview that is constantly updated with real-life results from real people. The truth is, if you want what our successful clients have, you will have to take the plunge, the first step. No one can guarantee you anything. If you can find someone who can, please tell me so that I can sign-up with them too. As far as I’m concerned, no one in Singapore and Asia can even sniff the kind of success we have when it comes to training men (as proven, time and again). This is why we are plastered all over the media, from ChannelNewsAsia to MTV to Radio shows etc.

The last thing I wanna say is this : Manage your expectations. Believe me, I have the ability to train you to date almost all kinds of girls. Models, celebrities, socialites, you name it. But whether you can do it or not is another thing. I didn’t get to the point of dating 8-9 girls at one time immediately. It took time and a lot of discipline to improve. X = X, a quality man will date a quality girl and vice versa. You cannot expect to be that be-spectacled turd with bad hair and over-sized clothing and still expect to hold on to a quality girl. If you say other people can promise you that, go to them. But one thing is for sure, I can train you to make that happen, without a doubt.

Risk-takers win more by simply taking more chances.

Look what Masterclass Alumni "MILFton monster" got for taking risks

I don’t know about you but as the year draws to a close, I am eager to make this one of the best and most unforgettable festive seasons of my life and I know I can because I know how to. I have celebrated a lonely festive season before. It sucks immensely. I didn’t have someone to share my joy with. I sent text messages to girls at those happy moments, only to feel crushed within minutes when I didn’t get a reply back. And as much as I tried to deny it, watching others around me have that privilege really hurt me inside. Which is explains why Troy, Julian, Nash, all the TDD Instructors and myself are selling out programs months ahead. The choice to sit on your ass and waste more of your life away is yours. But so is the choice to step it up and make your life skyrocket from here and you know you can trust TDD to help you make that jump.

And your first step can begin next week. Allow me to present to you :

Triad Of Champions : Triad Thursdays

Oh boy, where do I even begin!

After months of discussion and audacious planning, I am excited to finally present to you readers of A Life To Love and Troy Dizon Dating, my passion project, Triad Of Champions. My draft plan for the project is ready and I am excited to realese a lot more info before the weekend begins.

Stay tuned for details coming up in the next post. The first Triad Thursday is scheduled for next week, 26th November 2009. Triad Thursdays is a FREE event for all TDD and A Life To Love enthusiasts. Feel free to bring your friends along.

If I were you, I would clear out my Thursday next week and come on down for this event to experience first-hand, a 24/7 Attractive Culture.

Until then, watch this space!

Live and Love,

Xavier

xav@troydizondating.com

http://alife2love.com/

Jonathan will be at the Melbourne Attraction Master Class Tour to explain the neurotechnology (brainwave entrainment and brainwave biofeedback) and its powerful use for inner game for PUAs at all levels of experience.

Come see more on 21st and 22nd November at Ultimate Man’s Man Event

Love Stinks

This guys non-loving feelings radiate at such a high level that he even incites the wrath of cute birds

Hey you,

It’s #2.

I just heard a story not too long ago and I’ve been dying to tell it to you.  Here it goes.  It’s all about…

The Man Who Didn’t Believe In Love

There’s a very old story about a man who didn’t believe in love.

This was an ordinary man just like you and me.  But what made this man special was his way of thinking.  He thought, ‘Love doesn’t exist.’

Of course he had a lot of experience trying to find love and he had observed the people around him.  This man was highly intelligent and very convincing.  He said that love is not real and that’s why no human being could ever find love.  Even though he might look for it.

“Love,” he said, “is just like a drug.  It makes you very high but it creates a strong need.  You can become addicted to love.  But what happens when you don’t receive your daily doses of love?  Just like a drug, you need your everyday fix.”

He used to say that most relationships between lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and the dope dealer.  The one who has the biggest need is the drug addict.  The one who has the little need is like the dealer and this is one who controls the whole relationship.

You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who doesn’t love.  Who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart.

The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next hit of love.  The drug addict thinks, “What am I going to do if she leaves me?”

That fear makes the addict very possessive.  “That’s mine.”  The addict becomes jealous and demanding because of the fear of not getting the next dosage.

He completely surrenders and moves to whatever he can to do to avoid being abandoned.  The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses or fewer doses.  Or, no doses at all.

The man went on explaining why love doesn’t exist.  “What humans call love is nothing is a fear relationship based on control.  Where’s the respect?  Where’s the love they claim to have?

Young couples make a lot of promises to each other, to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other through the good times and the bad.  They promise to love and honor each other and make promises and more promises.

What is amazing is that they really believe these promises.  But after the marriage, a week later, a month later, or a few months later, you can see that none of these promises are kept.

What you find is a war of control to see who can manipulate whom.  Who will be the provider and who will have the addiction.  You find that a few months later the respect they had for each other is gone.

You can see the resentment, the emotional poison, how they hurt each other little by little until they don’t know when the love stopped.  They stay together because they afraid to be alone. Afraid of the opinions and judgments of others and also afraid of their own judgments and opinions.  But where is the love?”

The man used to claim that he saw old couples who were so proud to have lived together 30-40-50 years or more.  But when they talked about their relationship, they said, “We survived the matrimony.”

That means one of them surrendered to the other at a certain time he or she gave up and decided to endure the suffering.  The one with the strongest will and less need won the war.  But where is that flame they called love?

The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn’t exist.  His arguments were quite logical and he convinced many people.

Then one day he was walking in a park and there on a bench sat a beautiful lady who was crying.  Feeling curious he decided to ask why she was crying.  You could imagine his surprise when she told him she was crying because love doesn’t exist.

Of course, he wanted to know more about her.

“Why do you say love doesn’t exist?”  he asked.

“Well, it’s a long story,” she replied. “I married when I was very young.  Full of hope that I would share my life with this man.  We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor.  So we created a family.

But soon everything changed.

I was the devoted wife who took care of the children at home.  My husband continued to develop his career and his success outside of home was more important to him than our family.  He lost respect for me and I lost respect for him.

We hurt each other.

And, at a certain point I discovered that I didn’t love him and he didn’t love me either.  But the children needed a father and that was my excuse to stay and do whatever I could to support him.

Now the children are grown and I now have no excuse to stay with him.  There’s no respect, there’s no kindness.  I know that even if I find someone else, he’s going to be the same because love doesn’t exist.  That’s why I’m crying.”

Understanding her very well, he embraced her and said, “You were right, love doesn’t exist.  We look for love, we open our heart and become vulnerable just to find selfishness.  It doesn’t matter how many relationships we have, the same thing happens again and again.

Why search for love any longer?

They were so much alike and they became best friends.

It was a wonderful relationship.  They respected each other and with every step they took together they were happy.  There was no envy or jealousy.  There was no control, there was no possessiveness.

They loved to be together because they always had a lot of fun.  When they were not together they missed each other.

One day when the man was out of town he had the weirdest idea.  He was thinking…

“Hhhmm, maybe what I feel for her is love.  But this is so different from what I’ve felt before.  I don’t feel responsible for her.  I don’t have the need for her to take care of me.  I don’t need to blame her for my difficulties.

We have the best time together.  I respect the way she thinks and feels.  She doesn’t embarrass me.  I don’t feel jealous when she’s with other people.  I don’t feel envy when she is successful.

Perhaps love does exist.

But it’s not what everyone thinks love is.”

He could hardly wait to go back home and let her know about his idea.  As soon as he told her, she said, “I know exactly what you’re talking about.  I had the same idea long ago but I didn’t want to share it with you because I know you don’t believe in love.  Perhaps love does exist but it isn’t what we thought it was.”

They decided to become lovers and live together and it was amazing that things didn’t change.  They still respected each other.  And the love grew more and more.

Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with love because they were so happy.

Then one night a great miracle happened.  The man was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one and his heart was so full of love that the star came down from the sky and soon it was in his hands.

Then, a second miracle happened and his soul merged with that star.  He was intensely happy and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put the star in her hands to prove his love to her.

And as soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt.  This love was overwhelming and in that moment the star fell from her hands and broke into a million pieces.

Now, there is an old man walking around the world swearing that love doesn’t exist.  And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that she once had in her hands but for one moment of doubt, she let it go.

This is the story about the man who didn’t believe in love.

Who made the mistake?  The mistake was on the mans part thinking he could give the woman his happiness.  The star was his happiness.

And his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands.  Happiness never comes from outside of us.  He was happy because of the love coming out of him.

She was happy because of the love coming out of her.  But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.

No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind.  She could never know what his expectations where.  She could not know his dreams.

“If you take your happiness and put it someone’s hands sooner or later that person is going to break it”

If you give your happiness to someone else, he or she can always take it away.

Then if happiness can only come from inside of you, and is the result of your love, you will be responsible for your happiness.

We can never make anyone responsible for our own happiness, not if we wish to be fulfilled.

I culled the story above from a book called “The Mastery of Love” by Don Miguel Ruiz and if you liked this stories message, I guarantee you’ll cherish the book.

Now, I’m not gonna profess to be marriage/relationship expert but I do know a thing or two about the relationship dynamics between a business owner and your clients or customers.

Some business owners, of course not you, but people you know, hope their customers don’t share the love in their wallet with their competitors.  They do everything from bad mouthing competitors to hiring ad agencies to selling at the lowest price in an effort hoard all of their attention and live in paranoia of losing it.

Bad idea.

It’s gonna happen.  Jay Abraham customers are gonna buy from Dan Kennedy.  Nordstrom’s customers are gonna buy from Zappos.com.  McDonald’s buyers are gonna give Burger King some of their money.

You’re never gonna stop people from exploring the variety that comes with the promise of shiny new options

Breakthroughs happen when you think the opposite way that losers do.

Losers have a scarcity mindset.  Losers focus on taking instead of giving.  Winners know there’s more than enough to go around so they focus on spreading the love.

Look at this little gem that was revealed by Martin Weiss, of Weiss Research fame, One of Clayton Makepeace’s Jillion dollar clients.  This was actually part of the interview Clayton did with Martin during his Info-marketing Superstars Series…

Martin Weiss: Most people know my dad as the man who predicted the stock market crash, as the man who helped Eisenhower balance the budget, as the man who – who was a, a very famous stock market analyst, but what people don’t know is he was a very big innovator in the field of direct marketing and information publishing.

For example, back in the old days, the major financial publishers, which were McGraw Hill, Dow Jones, Business Week, Forbes, Kiplingers, they did not allow anyone to get access to their active subscriber list.

It was taboo to let anyone else mail to your list, and my dad stepped in and created a group of about half a dozen of the leading publishers, and was trying to persuade them to – to swap their lists so that everyone could benefit.

And there was tremendous resistance to that, until one day he walked into a meeting and said, “Here, take my list, with no commitments.”

And sure enough, everyone began using each other’s lists and the whole industry grew.

Dow Jones grew it’s Wall Street Journal subscriptions, McGraw Hill grew it’s Business Week subscriptions, and so on. And that’s now the standard in the industry. You – if you have active subscribers, you typically will allow other publishers that meet certain ethical and other criteria to – to mail to your list.

Clayton Makepeace: For a rental fee, it’s a profit center for your company, right?

Martin Weiss: Exactly.

By the way, if you haven’t gotten a hold of the notes I took on Clayton Makepeace’s Online Profit Multiplier program, you’re missing out.  This is where he dissected the lead generating process he uses to rake in a shit load of prospects and millions of dollars for good old Martin.  Do yourself a favor and find out every step to take to do the same.  The product page isn’t finished for this program so just email the chief at mynotetakingnerd@gmail.com if you want to know what Clayton and Martin know about kicking ass.

I recognize the service the chief and I provide in taking notes on these programs such as Formula 5, Mass Control, or Simple Writing System as a method that increases the desire for you to go out and give Stompernet, Frank Kern and John Carlton more of your money.

Think about it…

A small minded person might hear about what we’re doing and think people  buying the notes takes money out of the guru’s pocketss.

The stats don’t lie…

What those people don’t understand is that most of our customers ALREADY own the programs for which they’re buying notes for. They’re just so “information OVERLOADED, that they haven’t allowed themselves to absorb into their business the outcome the product promised.

I completely and totally identify with this feeling.  There’s a shit load of books, audios and DVD’s sitting on my shelf I haven’t made time to study yet.  Opportunity waiting to be unleashed.

That’s the frustration that birthed this whole site.  I thought, “Shit, I can’t be the only guy feeling this way.”

The over-arching theme we hear repeated over and over again is…

“If I can do something in 4 hours instead 40 hours, I’m going the 4 hour route every single time.”

The thing is, it’s pretty fuckin’ hard for any guru to sell 75 page PDF of pure marketing gold for $2500.00.

For that kind of price, people need to see some physical bulk which lead to the introduction of the 4 days worth of DVD footage, hours and hours of bonus CD’s, workbooks, slides, follow up calls, mindmaps and fat & chunky continuity program to top it all off.

You buy four of these heavy duty packages in a year and you’ve just given yourself a part-time job.  That is, if you don’t get overwhelmed by everything you already have going on in your life.

Dan Kennedy talks about selling a single 45 minute audio tape for his theft-control client for $500.  What’s weird is that I’ve never seen him try to do it himself.  Doesn’t mean he hasn’t tried, just means I’ve never heard of him talk about making it work for him.

So while a few people choose to see us as the enemy of the guru, I don’t.

I see myself as an ally to not only the gurus, but also to you, the person who may or may not be beating themselves up for not taking full advantage of the resources they’ve already invested in.

I see myself as an ally to the guru for one of the primary reasons they teach to their clients…

When You Get People To Actually Consume Your Product And Then Implement… That’s When Retention Goes Through The Roof. This Is The Core Of Cultivating Raving Fans… And Every Guru Knows It

The short-sighted person looks at what the chief and I are doing here and think we’re taking love away from the guru’s.  The enlightened individual see’s that what we’re doing only deepens the love they get from their customers because they’re that much closer to receiving the full benefit of what’s laying dormant on their shelf.

A product never consumed is never fully appreciated therefore complete and total love is withheld.

In my estimation the quality of our notes or our brand isn’t the main reason people buy from us.  It is a reason, but I believe you already have a fascination with these guru’s and the topics we’ve put together guides for, not just us.

And guess what?  No major gurus have come at us wielding an axe screaming bloody murder.  And it’s not like they don’t know we’re here.

I assume they’ve risen to the top because they think big and they understand on some level what I just explained.

If anything, negative unconscious feelings could actually sabotage their future sales because people link pain to the marketer because of the embarrassing memory of plunking down $3,000.00 for the last product/seminar and never doing a damn thing with what they bought.

What we’re doing here can actually resuscitate dead customers.

The point I want to hammer home here is to beware who you see as an enemy.  Your competitors can be allies to you.  Your customers and clients can be your greatest allies if you stop putting all of your career happiness in all of their hands.

Realize approximately 20% of people who ever buy from you will get the full benefit your product or service promises.  If your product/service meets their needs, they’ll likely keep coming back to you over and over and over again.

Next, get comfortable knowing those same 20% are probably some of your competitors best customers also.  You’ll sleep a lot easier when you embrace these truths.

Talk to you soon,

Note Taking Nerd #2

In this two part post I discuss failure and how I relate to it.  In part one I discussed what failure is, what it is not and why I choose to make a distinction between a failure and a setback.  In part two I reveal the techniques I use to learn from and rapidly bounce back from any setbacks I have.

Sean’s six question process for learning from and bouncing back from setbacks:

Managing Emotions

Usually when I have a setback it is unexpected and I am affected by this in some way through disappointment, upset, confusion, etc.  I want to be able to think objectively about the setback I’ve had and in order to do so I need to remove the emotional reaction/attachment I have to it.  To do this, I use a nice new Microsoft Word document, but you can use anything that will allow you to get your thoughts out: a pen and paper, a word processor, the comment section of this post, or a friend who will listen (without commenting) all work well.

Next, I answer the following three questions.  It is important that you do not judge your answers and you keep answering until you have nothing left to say.  This is more of a feeling exercise than an exact science, so just keep writing or talking until you feel like you’ve said everything you have to say about the setback.  The three questions are:

Question 1:  What did I expect would happen that did not?

Question 2:  What did I intend to accomplish that I did not?

Question 3:  What would I like to say to [a person involved in the setback] that I did not?

Example

About six weeks ago I tried to refinance one of the properties I own.  The market has turned around in the neighborhood this property is in and at this point I have a fair amount of equity.  I went to my bank’s website and filled out a loan application.  The loan program I chose would have cut my interest rate in half and reduced my mortgage payments significantly.  Needless to say I was excited about the prospect of such a positive change in my finances.  Unfortunately, two days later I got a message from the bank stating that I had been denied due to insufficient income.  I was disappointed by this and would definitely consider it a setback.

Question 1:  What did I expect would happen that did not?

• I expected that I would be able to refinance my property.
• I expected to be seen as a good loan prospect for my bank.

Question 2:  What did I intend to accomplish that I did not?

• I intended to save a substantial amount of money each month.
• I intended to pay off my credit line as part of the refinance.
• I intended to be in a better financial position.

Question 3:  What would I like to say to my loan officer that I did not?

• To the bank:
  • Can’t you see that I will be better able to pay you if you allow me to refinance into a lower interest rate loan?

Depending on the setback, I may have much more to say.  For this setback, acknowledging each of the thoughts I made above was all I needed to get past the rejection and disappointment I felt.

Learning From The Setback

With my head cleared, I next ask myself the following three questions:

Question 4:  What did I learn from this setback?

Question 5:  What will I do differently if I am in the situation again?

Question 6:  What is the next step I will take to achieve my goal?

Example Continued

Question 4:  What did I learn from this setback?

• I learned that my debt to income ratio (DTI) is currently my biggest limiting factor in qualifying for a mortgage.

Question 5:  What will I do differently if I am in the situation again?

• If I am in this situation again, I will call the bank and ask how they calculated my income and what the maximum DTI I can have is.
• I will determine whether or not my DTI falls within the bank’s lending guidelines before applying for a refinance.

Question 6:  What are the next steps I will take to achieve my goal?

• Call the bank and determine the following:
  • How did you calculate my DTI? (I want to make sure we are working with the same numbers)
  • What is my DTI as you calculated it?
  • What is the maximum DTI I can have to qualify for this refinance? (It turns out I was over by 4%)

• Decrease my debt and/or increase my income to become eligible for the refinance.
• Check back with this bank and other banks regularly to see if their lending guidelines have changed.

Conclusion

Going through these six questions can help get you through a setback and refocus your energies on the achievement of your goal.  Answering these questions has helped me countless times and I hope they help you as well.

So…I have made it to Day 45 of my “90 meditations in 90 days” challenge.  So far, so good.  I’ve done 44 meditations, missing only one day (yet to be “made up”).

Here’s what I’ve learned – or, in some cases, remembered:

• Routine (aka structure) definitely helps.  On weekdays, doing a morning meditation is part of my routine.  I’ve made time for it and expect that I will do it, just like I expect to shower and eat breakfast.  On weekends, I sleep in, then spend time with my husband (he’s up), read the newspaper (it’s here), and then dive into my day – often without doing a morning meditation.  Then I have to make an effort to fit it in later in the day. 
• Planning ahead for deviations definitely helps (see “weekends,” above).  When I am traveling, I really have to think ahead to “how will I fit this in.”  It’s only 20 minutes, for pete’s sake – how hard could it be??  But when I’m coordinating my schedule with other people on the fly, it can in fact seem difficult.  It helps to have strategies in place ahead of time.
• Some days I’m “into it,” some days I’m not.
• Some days I feel a connection to God and the Universe, some days I don’t.
• My day goes better if I meditate early.  I am generally more patient, centered, and focused.  Generally…
• There’s a lot of junk in there.
• Routine is important, but flexibility and variety helps.  Usually I do a few stretches and a brief body scan, and then just focus on my breath and a word or phrase.  But on those days I want to move or need some fresh air, I get outside and walk (very mindfully) or just observe the garden and the birds (very mindfully).  And on those days my mind is particularly jumpy or the house is particularly noisy, I use a guided meditation recording (usually one of my own).
• Making a public commitment really helps.  First of all, I didn’t announce my commitment until I had thought long and hard about whether I was truly ready, willing and able to take on this commitment.   And once having made such a public commitment, and given my profession as a life coach and guided meditation leader, it would be really embarrassing to “fail” at this.

Looking forward to the next 45 days!

Jak wiesz wypuściłem niedawno darmowy raport nt. jednonocnych przygód. Pobrać go możesz zapisująć się na mój newsletter (klikasz na okładkę e-booka “Uwodzenie…” po prawej stronie ekranu).

Materiał trafił w ciągu pierwszych 24 h do kilku tysięcy osób. Ta liczba rośnie z dnia na dzień. Oto recenzja jednego z Czytelników tego raportu

“Według mnie raport Feniksa na temat ONS porusza wszystkie najważniejsze aspekty i problemy, z jakimi możemy się spotkać dążąc do jednonocnej relacji.

Istotne jest to, że Feniks porusza temat inner game, który jest absolutną podstawą.Osobiście, dla mnie jest to obecnie rzecz NAJWAŻNIEJSZA, ponieważ gdy ostatnio gdy mój IG (inner game – zestaw przekonań – przyp. Feniks) się znacznie rozwinął, naturalnie rozwinęły się też eskalacja dotyku, dominacja,leading czy bycie szczerym i bezpośrednim.
Feniks w swoim raporcie, chyba jako pierwszy trener omawia też ważny temat “znajomych kobiety”,tzn. co i jak zrobić żeby nasz target czuł sie komfortowo, zarówno przed jak i po ONS.
Fakt, że wszystkie porady i wskazówki były sprawdzone w polu, daje pewność, że jest to bardzo dobry poradnik.”

MP

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Dan Kennedy Speaks On Laziness

Are you dragging ass lately? The potent message in todays post will serve as a wake up call

Hey you,

It’s #2.

I’m currently going through my August 2009 “Look Over Dan’s Shoulder” newsletter for a client project and I came across a section of it I thought you’d love to read.

See what you think…

“There’s an entire cottage industry of anti-Obama bumper stickers, presumably employing writers.  One apropos to us all might be…

“Don’t re-distribute my wealth.  Re-distribute my work ethic.”

Writing, even writing bumper stickers, takes work.  I’m nearly done with a book about using humor and comedy in public speaking and in speaking to sell and I know it’s revelations about how much work goes into writing even one good humorous story to then use on the platform will be unwelcome.

This world rarely sees all the preparation invested in any sort of exceptional success – business and financial, or other, sports, entertainment, whatever.  Audiences tuning into Jay Leno’s nightly monologue on the Tonight Show didn’t know and wouldn’t have cared about the time spent almost every week testing new material on local comedy club audiences before using it on TV, and the long hours invested by Jay and his writers, writing hundreds of jokes vetoed, given up on and never used, to wind up with a dozen or so “Keepers” each night.

Most advertising copywriters are woefully unprepared for success in two ways…

First, they do not have enough on-going, eclectic input feeding their understanding of human behavior, psychology, consumer behavioral trends, politics, finance, pop-culture as well as advertising, marketing and sales, enough supply to their subconscious for it to produce great stuff.

Second, they don’t prepare for each project in sufficient depth.

The outstanding new autobiography of advertising legend David Ogilvy includes a description of all the preparatory work he put in before writing the now iconic ad for Rolls Royce with the headline he ended up swiping, after deciding it was superior to his 100 original attempts.

Halbert used to claim he wrote out at least 100 potential headlines for an ad before choosing one.  I never believed him – but I do believe he “wrote” 100 in his mind.

I am in the 2^nd month of mountain-sized project for a new client in the health field, but before writing copy for him, I met with him for a day and got our day’s discussion transcribed for my reference, I read three books, a gigantic 3 ring notebook of his previous materials, had somebody fetch about a hundred pages of material for me from websites, raided my archives and “Swipe files”, created piles of raw material sorted by purpose ie, the headlines, the opening, the personal mission story, presenting price and so forth.

Then I started writing.

As a result of my preparation, I am now quite knowledgeable about oxygen therapy, oxygen assisted exercise, anti-oxidant therapy, and a number of other related subjects, and about professionals’ attitudes, concerns, fears and skepticisms about using them.  I could certainly hold my own through dinner conversations with a bunch of doctors discussing these topics.

If you were actually here, present, shadowing me in person for days or weeks rather than looking over my shoulder from afar, you might be dis-pleased, maybe discouraged, maybe bored and undoubtedly fatigued with the amount of preparation I invest in each thing I do.

I could certainly get by with less, especially at this point – reputation ironically permits cheating and getting away with it.  Most do get by doing a lot less of this work behind whatever copywriting they do – but damn few earn 7-figures a year directly from their copywriting either.  I don’t really know what to tell you about this to make it more easily palatable.

If you can buy true top performance at a discount, I’m not the guy to tell you how.  I don’t know.  I sometimes wish I did.

LOS subscribers are a much more serious and intent lot than readers of all my other newsletters, or they don’t stay around here very long – fortunately, we enjoy a very high, 85%+ a year retention with over 50% as “Lifers.”

These folks, you, are pretty damn serious and seriously committed to “mastery” of copy that sells.  Still, I know the temptation is to chest the preparation, rush to the work itself, and hope to get by.

In many case, in many markets, you can get results good enough to get by with, without my level of investment of time and effort and preparation, and in recognition of that, I always hand you shortcuts and quick n’ dirty “pieces” you can lift, tweak and use.

But I want you to know what I devoutly believe about all this – that the work you see here is not the result of haste or ease, nor can any work consistently delivering exceptional results be.

By the time you read this, I will have conducted my 7-FIGURES ACADEMY, discussing the requirements of earning of 7-figures.

There are many requirements to meet and fit together in a matrix, it’s a complex topic deserving the 3 days it was given, and it required monumental investment in preparation.  But if you held a gun to my head and demanded I provide the single most important (and probably least understood) requirement for earning 7-figures, I could answer.

I could tell what it isn’t, that most think it is – such as: talent or genius or even extraordinary skill, or the finding or invention of a unique and extraordinary opportunity, or timing or luck.  Definitely not luck.

If required to cite but one thing, I would tell you: exceptionally high tolerance for what most view as pain and suffering. There, I said it.  What the elite few top copywriters know.

So… what’d you think?

When I read it, I instantly thought of a couple of things.  The first, being my sister who lives in a plush condo in New York City.  I’m exceptionally proud of her for numerous reasons, but specific to business building, I beam knowing she put herself in a position to run her office from home where she can dote and fawn over her 11 month old daughter.

6-7 years ago she’d have never dreamt this was possible.

Back then times were tough as dry beef jerky.  Her little up-start business’s office was in a not so nice section of Brooklyn, an area where she actually had a NYC full deluxe jumbo rat crawl across her foot one time at the threshold of her door to the office.  And that office was her home too.

She and her husband slept there, ate out and showered at a local gym.

And during this period while trying to get their business off the ground they were pounding out 16-17 hour workdays.

Finally the work paid off.  I won’t go into details about her company but a little conglomerate called Warner Brothers Music Group snatched them off the market and made sure they worked exclusively for them.

Some of my family might look at them today, see or hear about the $650,000.00 cabin they just bought and say they’re lucky.  Right place, right time.  I say bullshit.

They made their own luck while sleeping on futons, laden with bedbugs, hearing rodents in the walls all night, and then logging brutal hours to produce an outstanding service despite their future being uncertain.

She and her husband have done such a magnificent job for Warner that an English competitor tried to come in and under bid their services after my sister wouldn’t sell to them.  Warner told them to shove it and take their ass back across the big pond.

My sister has indirectly been a mentor to me.  She’s a business woman who has zero to mild interest in talking business because her life outside of the company is so fascinating.  In my eyes, she sees business a necessary evil that allows her to live the lifestyle she wants to.

It seems to me that because she has a life outside of business and she takes pride in her work, she can pour herself into her career while not being burnt to a crisp because she takes the business home with her.

And guess what?  She built this multi-million dollar business without the help of any guru’s.  No Kennedy, No Abraham, No books, seminars or programs at all.

They wouldn’t even know their names if you brought them up to them.

The biggest contributing factor to she and her husband building a 7-figure income was what Kennedy hammered at above…

“Exceptionally high tolerance for what most view as pain and suffering.”

Is there a situation in your life or business that you’re being a wuss about right now?  One you might be whining to others about?  If so, you might want to see your challenges as blessings because overcoming them is what separates the boys from the men, the girls from the women.

Defying the odds in your life is what forges pride.

If you’ve got a story like my sisters, please feel free to share it with everyone here by posting below.  You’ll be giving a gift of immense value to someone who really resonates with your experience and sees possibility for themselves as a result of your contribution.

Talk to you soon,

Note Taking Nerd #2

P.S. It goes without saying, that if you’re serious about marketing, you should highly consider buying any and all of Dan Kennedy’s newsletters.  Today’s post gave you an excellent sample of prolific writing you can’t get just through his books.  As well, you get a prime example of how to write to influence.  If you look at just the small sample I gave you today you’d find almost every one of the 31 principles he tries to inject into every communication with his list so he can keep them fascinated about hearing from him.  CLICK HERE to discover what those 31 principles are and what they can do for you…

This guy seems to be doing pretty good with one of man's top fears of having a razor sharp beak anywhere within 5 feet of Captain Winky and The Boys

Do You Take A Fearless Approach To Life?

Hey you,

It’s #2.

Quick question.  How much do you let fear control your life?  A smidge or a lot?

For me, I was wired up real young to be afraid of everything from what people thought of me to confrontation all the way to physical pain.

As I’ve evolved directly/indirectly under the wing of mentors like the Chief, Tony Robbins, Dan Kennedy, Larry Crane, Robert Dilts and other geniuses, I’ve slowly but surely began living life freer and freer of fears that rob you of a life where you’re comfortable in your own skin.

“I Was Born Alone And I Will Die Alone.  I’ve Got To Do What’s Right For Me And Not Live My Life The Way Anybody Else Wants It.”

-50 Cent

The quote above comes directly from the book, “The 50^th Law” written by Robert Greene, the author of “The 48 Laws of Power”, “The Art of Seduction”, and “Strategies of War”.

Robert Greene is a shining example of a writer who “gets” the power of story.

Every one of the books he’s written are teaching the principles historic figures used to become icons and he does it by telling concise tales, giving you snap shots of how they embodied this principle in their life.

Everyone from Genghis Khan to Marilyn Monroe, Napoleon Bonaparte to Elvis, George Washington to Miles Davis, Barack Obama to 50 Cent.

World Famous Author Meets Thugged Out Rapper?

I’m pretty embarrassed to say that Robert’s book was on the front shelf at my local Barnes and Noble and I completely shunned it once I saw 50 Cent’s name as the co-author.

I enjoy some rap but not 50 Cent.  On top of this I think I thought Robert was out of his mind joint venturing with a gangsta rapper.  After hearing CD 1 of this program I knew I had behaved as an idiot.

My prejudice kept me from this magnificent resource.  This book should’ve been in my library as soon as it came out.  Thanks to the chief, it is now.

Robert had his radar open to what he could learn from anyone and so when 50 Cent approached him to do a book together, he at least heard him out.  As they got to talking, they found that even though they were raised in complete opposite surroundings, they saw the world in similar ways.

“How Open Are You To Wisdom?”

Today, I want to share with you a piece of a particular chapter directly from “The 50^th Law” that grabbed me based on the idea of living fearlessly.  You be the judge on how valuable this information will be for you…

“You came into this life with the only real possessions that ever matter – your body, the time you have to live, your energy, the thoughts and ideas unique to you and your autonomy.

But over the years you tend to give all of this away.

You spend years working for others – they own you during that period.  You get needlessly caught up in people’s games and battles, wasting energy and time that you will never get back.

You come to respect you own ideas less and less, listening to experts, conforming to conventional opinions.  Without realizing it, you squander your independence, everything that makes you a creative individual.

Before it’s too late, you must reassess your entire concept of ownership.

It’s not about possessing things, money or titles.  You may have all of that in abundance but if you’re someone who still looks to others for help and guidance, if you depend on your money or resources, then you will eventually lose what you have when people let you down, adversity strikes, or you reach for some foolish scheme out of impatience.

“True ownership can come only from within”

It comes from a disdain for anything or anybody that impinges upon your mobility, from a confidence in your own decisions, and from the use of your time in constant pursuit of education and improvement.

Only from this inner position of strength and self-reliance will you be able to truly work for yourself and never turn back.  If situations arise in which you must take in partners or fit within another organization, you are mentally preparing yourself for the moment when you will move beyond these momentary entanglements.

If you do not own yourself first, you will continually be at the mercy of people and circumstance, looking outward instead of relying on yourself and your wits.

Understand:  we are living though an entrepreneurial revolution, on a global scale.

The old power centers are breaking up.  Individuals everywhere want more control over their destiny and have much less respect for an authority that is not based on merit but on mere power.

“We Have All Naturally Come To Question Why Someone Should Rule Over Us, Why Our Source Of Information Should Depend On The Mainstream Media, and On, and On”

We do not accept what we accepted in the past.

Where we are naturally headed with all of this is the right and capacity to run our own enterprise, in whatever shape or form, to experience that freedom.  We are all corner hustlers in a new economic environment and to thrive in it we must cultivate the kind of self-reliance that helped push Fifty past all the dangerous dependencies that threatened him along the way.

For Fifty it was very clear – he was alone in the house he grew up and on the streets.  He lacked the usual supports and so he was forced to become self-sufficient.

The consequences of being dependent on people were so much more severe in his case – it would mean constant disappointment and urgent needs that went unmet.  It’s harder for us to realize that we’re essentially alone in this world and in need of the skills that Fifty had to develop for himself on the streets.

“We Have Layers Of Support That Seem To Prop Us Up.  But These Supports Are Illusions In The End.”

Everyone in the world is governed by self interest.

People naturally think first of themselves and their agendas.  An occasional affectionate or helpful gesture from people you know tends to cloud this reality and make you expect more of this support – until you’re disappointed, again and again.

You are more alone than you imagine.  This should not be a source of fear but of freedom.  When you prove to yourself that you can get things on your own, then you experience a sense of liberation.

You are no longer waiting for people to do this and that for you (a frustrating and infuriating experience).  You have confidence that you can manage any adverse situation on your own.

Prime Example of This…

You think you’ve got problems?

Look at a man like Rubin “Hurricane” Carter – a successful middleweight boxer who found himself arrested in 1966 at the height of his career and charged with a triple murder.

The following year he was convicted and sentenced to three consecutive life terms.  Through it all Carter vehemently maintained his innocence, and in 1986 he was finally exonerated of the crimes and set free.

But for those nineteen years, he had to endure one of the most brutal environments known to man, one designed to break down every last vestige of autonomy.

Carter knew he would be freed at some point.  But on the day of his release, would he walk the streets with a spirit crushed by years in prison?  Would he be the kind of prisoner who keeps coming back into the system because he can no longer do anything for himself?

He Decided That He Would Defeat The System

He would use the years in prison to develop his self-reliance so that when he was free it would mean something.

For this purpose he devised the following strategy:  He would act like a free man while surrounded by walls.  He would not wear their uniform or carry an ID badge.  He was an individual, not a number.  He would not eat with the other prisoners, do the assigned tasks, or go to his parole hearings.

He was placed in solitary confinement for these transgressions but he was not afraid of the punishment, nor of being alone.

“He was afraid only of losing his dignity and sense of ownership”

As part of this strategy, he refused to have the usual entertainments in his cell – television, radio, pornographic magazines.  He knew he would grow dependent on these weak pleasures and this would give the wardens something to take away from him.

Also, such diversions were merely attempts to kill time.  Instead he became a voracious reader of books that would toughen his mind.  He wrote an autobiography that helped gain sympathy for his cause.

He taught himself law, determined to get his conviction overturned by himself.  He tutored other prisoners in the ideas that he had learned through his reading.  In this way he re-claimed the dead time of prison for his own purposes.

“When He Was Eventually Freed, He Refused To Take Civil Action Against The State – That Would Acknowledge He Had Been In Prison And Needed Compensation”

He needed nothing.

He was now a free man with the essential skills to get power in the world.  After prison he became a successful advocate for prisoners’ rights and was awarded several honorary law degrees.

Think of it this way: dependency is a habit that is so easy to acquire.  We live in a culture that offers you all kinds of crutches – experts to turn to, drugs to cure any psychological unease, mild pleasures to help pass or kill time, jobs to keep you just above water.  It is hard to resist.

But once you give in, it is like a prison you enter that you cannot ever leave.

You continually look outward for help and this severely limits your options and maneuverability.

“When The Time Comes, As It Inevitably Does, When You Must Make An Important Decision, You Have Nothing Inside Yourself To Depend On”

Before it’s too late, you must move in the opposite direction.

You cannot get this requisite inner strength from books or a guru or pills of any kind.  It can only come from you.  It is a kind of exercise you must practice on a daily basis – weaning yourself from dependencies, listening less to others’ voices and more to your own, cultivating new skills.

***One of the most important skills and entrepreneur or business owner could ever cultivate is the ability to communicate influentially…in all formats, verbally, in print, pixel, on video, on stage.  CLICK HERE and you’ll have direct access to what I learned from Dan Kennedy’s Influential Writing seminar about and how he mastered this…

As happened with Carter and Fifty, you will find that self-reliance becomes the habit and that anything that smacks of depending on others will horrify you.

Do you agree or not?

Talk to me.

Talk soon,

Note Taking Nerd #2

In this two part post I discuss failure and how I relate to it.  In part one I discuss what failure is, what it is not and why I choose to make a distinction between a failure and a setback.  In part two I will reveal the techniques I use to learn from and rapidly bounce back from any setbacks I have.

What is Failure?

If you ask the average person to define failure they might describe it as the opposite of success, a flaw or the inability to accomplish what they set out to do.  However, if you ask a highly successful person to define failure you would hear something very different.  Here are a few of my favorite quotes on failure from some notable people:

Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

- Sir Winston Churchill, Prime Minister of the United Kingdom and Nobel Prize Winner

The only failure is not to try.

– George Clooney, Academy Award Winning Actor

Success represents the 1% of your work which results from the 99% that is called failure.

- Soichiro Honda, Founder of Honda Motor Company

Failure happens all the time. It happens every day in practice. What makes you better is how you react to it.

- Mia Hamm, 2 time Olympic Gold Medalist and All-time Highest Soccer Goal Scorer

If you search for the word “failure” on any quotation website you will see many more quotes like these from other highly successful people.  These people don’t see failure as something to be avoided; they see failure as a prerequisite to success.

The fact is, we can define failure as anything we want.  The more empowering our relationship to failure is, the more powerful, effective and successful we can become.  The goal of this post is to define my own empowering relationship to failure.  Before doing so I want to distinguish the difference between experiencing a failure and being a failure.

Having a Failure vs Being a Failure

For much of my life I attempted to avoid failure by not attempting things far outside my comfort zone.  I did this because I thought if I failed at something it would make me a failure.  At the time, I did not see a difference between failing at something, which is a temporary occurrence, and being a failure, which is an intrinsic quality.

To clarify, this post is about having failures (verb) which is distinct from being a failure (noun).  You can fail as many times as you want and never be a failure.  The only times you are a failure is when you give up or refuse to try.

Defining a Setback

If separating having a failure from being a failure is difficult for you, that’s OK… it is difficult for me too.  Because of this I have redefined failing and being a failure for myself.  In doing so, I no longer use the word “failure” to describe what happens when I don’t achieve the outcome I desire.  Instead, I call this a setback and describe it as follows:

• A setback occurs when my understanding of something is inconsistent with what that thing is.
• Anytime I try something new I will experience setbacks.
• A setbacks only become a failure when:
  • I refuse to learn from it.
  • I stop pursuing my goal. (A.K.A. quit)
• Setbacks are a good thing and I welcome them.
  • The more setbacks I overcome, the closer I am to achieving my goal.

I will always have setbacks, particularly when I am learning a new skill.  However, I will never give up and I will never quit.  Therefore, I will never be a failure.

This game is all about taking action. There are a million things you could do, but you can’t worry about all of that. You can only do what you can with what you’ve got at the moment, so you just have to get in there and make something happen — then adjust as you go, add to it as you go, expand your arsenal as you go.

More important than trying to line everything up perfectly is to simply MOVE. Not next week, not next month — but TODAY. On something, some tangible part of your plan in getting actual campaigns running (and improving the ones you’re already watching).

I tend to analyze stuff to death before getting around to actually doing anything with it. I go through all the courses, I buy all of the software, I watch all of the videos. I make endless lists and plans. But in the end, the only way to actually move forward is to dive in and start learning by doing.

A certain amount of study is essential, unavoidable even. But after a point, action becomes the key to making real progress. Exponential progress. Because by getting in there and doing it, you are going to learn so much faster, and you are going to have real-world feedback. You’re not watching videos anymore; you’re watching real dollars moving through the mechanisms you have put in place.

And that’s where the excitement is.

Halloween is upon us and children everywhere are donning costumes and going trick-or-treating.  

Are you dressing up for Halloween, or do you know someone who is?  Halloween costumes are great fun –  for children and for adults.  They let us try on different identities, even identities that scare us.  Put on a costume and you can be a firefighter, action hero, fairy princess, NASCAR driver, witch, master chef, doctor, or demon.  You can be frightening or adorable.  You can be saucy, nerdy, scary or just plain weird.  AND, people give you candy!

Costumes can be fun – but they can also be limiting.  What “costumes” do you wear every day? If your job requires you to wear a uniform, you know that people react to that uniform as much as to what you do and who you are.  But what about uniforms and costumes that are less obvious – the “uniforms” of the corporate manager, soccer mom, socialite, or trendsetter?  Or the “non-uniform” – the sloppy, I-don’t-care-how-I-look-or-what-you-think-of-me look? 

And what about the mental “costumes” we wear?  The masks we create that sometimes limit our vision?  The ideals we picture that then turn into habits and beliefs that limit our ability to be ourselves.  Like “I am a manager, so I have to keep my decorum at all times.”  Or, “I have to maintain a sense of authority in order to be an effective parent.”  Or “Good girls don’t cause a stir”?

But costumes can also serve us.  You often can “fake it till you make it” by putting on the right physical and mental costume and starting to play the part, even if you don’t feel fully prepared.  And costumes make us – and others –  feel more comfortable in social interactions.  Imagine if you turned up at a PTA meeting in a ballet leotard or went to dance class in your blazer, skirt and heels.

The point is to become aware of the costumes you are wearing, and that you have a choice when getting dressed – physically AND mentally. Choose costumes that make you feel comfortable, confident and in charge. Pay attention to the other costumes you change into throughout your day and be willing to discard them when they no longer serve you.  And don’t be afraid to try on a new costume every once in a while, just to see how it feels!

How To Impress Any Woman

I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that I’m going to share with you in this newsletter. It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…

I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women.

If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you’ve been there yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact. The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T
SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to:

1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.

2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal.”

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward.”

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE.”

And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle”
level:

1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.

2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.

3) I don’t have a lot of experience with  attractive women.

4) I’m insecure.

5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

But it’s the truth.
Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying.”

The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first  talking to a woman that they “like.” Are you ready for a profound insight?

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.

It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…

She asks you what you do for a living. Should you answer with:

1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three  years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”

2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”

Well, it all depends on what your outcome is.

If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2.

Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question
like “What do you do?”. If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.

She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.

Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive.”

There are MANY reasons for this.

MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman… and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS.

The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.

And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

What’s the best way to do this?

Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.

In a moment, I’m going to share how you can literally “program” yourself to succeed with women – so you AUTOMATICALLY do and say the right things in every situation with women.

Best of all, you won’t even have to THINK about what you’re doing…

But first, let me ask you this……have you ever been in an important situation with a woman, but you didn’t know what to do next? Or you knew what you should do, but you couldn’t get yourself to DO IT? Maybe you see a woman you’d like to meet, but you don’t know what to say to start the conversion. Or you’re talking to a female friend of yours, but you don’t know what to do to become MORE than “just friends.”
Or here’s another one: Have you ever read somewhere what you’re supposed to do to attract a woman, but in the moment, you freeze and you can’t “execute” on what you learned?

I know, it’s frustrating…

And what makes situations like these worse – is that it’s not until AFTER the opportunity has passed that you get a grip and come back to your senses…

But by then, of course, it’s too late.

Moments like these prove that “learning” something… and APPLYING it in the real world are two completely different things. You may not know this, but a very good friend of mine happens to be one of the world’s leading experts on LEARNING. He has a formula for learning that is unique I’ve never seen anyone explain it quite like he does, and I think it’s very profound.

Here’s his formula:

LEARNING = BEHAVIOR CHANGE.

Simple, I know, but he’s one of the world’s leaders in learning technologies… and this is
what he boils it all down to…

Learning is about changing behavior.

If you don’t change your behavior, then you haven’t really learned.

You can read DOZENS of books on a topic… but unless you see a concrete change in your behavior… YOU HAVEN’T LEARNED.

And get this:

The smarter and more educated you are, the more frustrating this is.

Here in the U.S., we grow up in a culture where the education system focuses on “grades”.

Not practical results, but GRADES.

Then we get out in the real world, and we see that the people who are massively successful are typically NOT the ones who were obsessed with getting good grades.

They were focused on BEHAVIOR CHANGE… on RESULTS.

Think of all the billionaires who are college drop outs…

Bill Gates probably tops the list… but there are plenty of others. The world is full of examples of extremely
successfully people who executed on my friend’s formula for learning. They know the “proof is in the pudding,” or said another way, “the proof is in your new behavior…in the ACTION you take.”

After witnessing this for myself over and over, I decided I would take this lesson and create an entire program around it, on how to be successful with women and dating.

And that’s exactly what I did.

Because it’s not enough to STUDY how to be successful with women… unless you can EXECUTE in the moment. After a ton of thought and preparation, I finished a program that is designed to help you literally
“program” and “re-wire” yourself to AUTOMATICALLY change your behavior… so you do and say the right things, at the right times, with the women in your life.

Tym razem o tym co może zrobić mężczyzna, aby być dobrym w łóżku i czuć się komfortowo z własną seksualnością.

Pytanie od czytelnika mojego e-booka “Uwodzenie dotykiem”

Czy jesteś gotowy na seks – swoją drogą bardzo dobry kawałek tekstu, takiego czegoś jeszcze nikt nie napisał. Ale pytanie: “Czy jesteś mężczyzną otwartym seksualnie?” do mnie jakoś nie trafia – tzn. jakim ? Czy nie każdy jest otwarty seksualnie ? Ten kawałek Twojego ebooka jest w ogóle ciekawy i czasem mam wrażenie, że pod niego mocno podchodzę – myślę, że jeszcze bardziej powinieneś go rozwinąć jak sobie z tym poradzić, jak wyćwiczyć swój umysł by się ego zgrało z podświadomością i zlikwidować te konflikty ?

Paweł

Mężczyzna otwarty seksualnie to taki, który kocha fakt bycia mężczyzną i całą seksualność z nią związaną. Który jest skory do odkrywania tajemnic swojego ciała, który żyje bez kompleksów na tle seksualnym. Wie, że posiada więcej stref erogennych, niż tylko jego penis. Jednocześnie rozumie i akceptuje seksualność kobiet. Potrafi odnaleźć się w ich fantazjach seksualnych, nawet tych najbardziej perwersyjnych, bez oceniania kobiet czy siebie. Taki mężczyzna jest wolny do wyrzutów sumienia po seksie, czy dylematów, bo wie jak dobierać partnerki. To przeciwieństwo mężczyzn którzy mówią innym, że chcą „bzykać” na hektary i kim oni to nie są, ale gdy trafią na kobietę, która chce się kochać to coś zawsze psują po drodze, wycofują się albo plotkują, że ona była łatwa (albo co gorsze mówią tak o kobiecie, z którą się przespali).

Pomyśl przez chwilą jakby to było gdyby wszyscy mieli świadomość tego, że wchodząc w związki intymne darzą się czymś dobrym.

To czego chcesz jest dobre. Chcesz, aby kobiecie, też było dobrze. Chcesz, aby chwile spędzone z Tobą, były jednym z jej najlepszych wspomnień. Zastanów się czy mając takie nastawienie bałbyś się, że zrobisz lub powiesz coś co nie spodoba się kobiecie.

Czy uważasz, że zasługujesz na najlepsze kobiety? „Zasługujesz” jest w tym pytaniu słowem – kluczem. Psychika ma masę mechanizmów obrony przed zranieniem. Pomyśl przez chwilę, czy to co naprawdę myślisz jest klarownym obrazem rzeczywistości.

Dlaczego myślę w ten sposób?

Czy to mi pomaga?

Czy to ma odzwierciedlenie w rzeczywistości?

Czy to o czym myślę opiera się na miłość i akceptacji samego siebie?

Czy to o czym myślę pozwala mi być lepszym człowiekiem?

Zwłaszcza w kontekście relacji damsko-męskich.

W momencie, w którym stajesz przed nią i powiesz – „Oto ja. Ze wszystkimi moimi zaletami, wadami, przyzwyczajeniami, poglądami. Podobasz mi się i chcę, świetnie spędzić z Tobą czas. Jeżeli Ty również tego chcesz to zacznijmy się świetnie bawić, jeżeli nie. Ok, szanuję to i życzę Ci wszystkiego najlepszego”. – to wszelkie techniki nie są Ci potrzebne. Takie wyznanie to dla mnie manifestacja miłości i szacunku do samego siebie. To jest gra w otwarte karty.

Ona jest takim samym człowiekiem jak Ty. Wiem, kiedy wygląda tak pięknie, ciężko się skupić, ale to nadal jest człowiek. Kobiety świetnie potrafią nadawać sobie wartość, więć możesz robić to Ty.

Ćwiczenia:

1) rozbierz się, stań nago przed lustrem, obejrzyj swoje nagie ciało, bardzo dokładnie i powiedz sobie „Kocham Cię”

W NLP Magazine był świetny artykuł odnośnie tego jak emocje oddziaływują na wodę i rośliny. Negatywne myśli, niszczą je, vide eksperyment gdzie dwie szklanki z wodą oznaczoną napisami „Nienawidzę Cię” i „Kocham Cię”. W momencie, w którym zaakceptujesz swoje ciało, będziesz bardziej atrakcyjnym partnerem seksualnym, Twoje samopoczucie się poprawi, nawet jeżeli nie masz ciała greckiego Boga. Jeżeli chcesz aby Twoje ciało wyglądało lepiej to zrób to, to też jest wyraz miłości do samego siebie. Ćwiczenie może wydać się dziwne, ale jest skutczne. Nie wiem czy ktoś w społeczności uwodzicieli proponował tego typu praktyki. Zaniechanie ich tylko spowolni proces swoistej reedukacji seksualnej i pojmowania swojej seksualności. Seks to ciało. Nie zastąpisz seksu głową.

Credit by focus – Warto jest również poznawać nagość kobiety tak po prostu, poza seksualnymi czynnościami. Iść pod prysznic z nią, przespać się na golasa, zrobić sobie wspólny masaż, przebywać ze sobą nago nie tylko się bzykając itp. Znika jakakolwiek krępacja.

2) przeczytaj erotyczną autobiografię autorstwa kobiety lub inne opowiadania erotyczne autorstwa kobiet. To co mogę szczerze polecić to książkę Arundati „Terapia narodu za pomocą seksu grupowego”. Autorka jest Polką, więc książka jest świetnie osadzona w polskiej kulturze, czyli tłumaczenia w stylu, że takie rzeczy robią kobiety tylko na libertyńskim Zachodzie odpadają. Książka jest bogata w wiele praktycznych wskazówek odnośnie seksu. Bardzo pobudza do myślenia. Na pewno sprowokuje do re-definicji pewnych pojęć mężczyzn o konserwatywnym podejściu do seksu.

Dlaczego autorka musi być kobietą? Chcę, abyś przestał bać się kobiecej seksualności, bo gdy przyjmiesz kobiecą seksualnością z pełną dozą akceptacji to czekają Cię doznania ekstazy i seksu, którego nie odwzoruje nawet najlepszy film.

3) rozmawiaj z kobietami i mężczyznami o seksie, o fantazjach, o potrzebach seksualnych. Wyjdź poza schemat. Dokop się do głębi, pytaj, pytaj i jeszcze raz pytaj. A gdybyś potrafił rozmawiać otwarcie o seksie o i dzięki temu lepiej komunikował swoje potrzeby kobietom, z którymi sypiasz to jak myślisz, czy więcej czy mniej Twoich fantazji seksualnych, by się urzeczywistniło?

Co najważniejsze rozmawiaj ze SWOJĄ partnerką o WASZYM seksie. Pytanie – Jak było? – tuż po jest zakazane. Czy gdybyś był kobietą to jakbyś spojrzał na swojego mężczyznę, który szczerze interesuje się, aby Ci z nim było dobrze. Na pewno lepiej, niż Twoje koleżanki narzekające, że „za szybko, za wolno, nie w tym rytmie, a jemu się wydaje, że jest wszystko ok”.

4) posiądź sztukę wstrzymywania wytrysku nasienia podczas orgazmu.Taka umiejętność pozwoli dłużej cieszyć się seksem, zachować lepszą kondycję ciała i mieć więcej energii. Tutaj polecam publikację autorstwa Mantak Chia „Miłosny potencjał mężczyzny”. Jest napisana prostym językiem, mimo taoistycznej genezy opisywanych praktyk i wielu historii zaczerpniętych z kultury Chin.

5) uważnie dobieraj partnerki seksualne i zdecydowanie przestań zadawać się z tymi, które traktują Twoją chwilową niemoc seksualną jako powód do drwin, lub nie rozumieją tego, że chcesz być mężczyzną otwartym seksualnie i pracujesz nad techniczną stroną seksu.

6) czytaj dużo o samej fizjologii, anatomii, motoryce seksu. Tutaj polecam „nieśmiertelną” pozycję książkową – Michalina Wisłocka „Sztuka kochania”. Jest to bardzo przystępna pozycja i wręcz obowiązkowa dla mężczyzn, którzy jeszcze nie zaczeli współżycia seksualnego. Zresztą pisałem już o tym w tekście pt. „Pierwszy raz”

7) bądź otwarty na propozycje nowości w łóżku ze strony kobiet. Czasy „Tylko przez prześcieradło” dawno odeszły do lamusa. Mamy XXI wiek.

8 ) Polub kobiety. Przestań dzielić je na „łatwe i trudne”. O tym jak to zrobić pisałem już w tekście „Ona jest napalona, a Ty nazywasz ją dziwką”.

Koncept otwartości seksualnej zmierza do tego, abyś:

- cieszył się seksem, który Ci odpowiada

- dzielił go z partnerkami, które Ci odpowiadają

- Twoja kobieta, również była z niego zadowolona.

Jestem ciekaw Twoich spostrzeżeń po zrobieniu opisanych powyżej ćwiczeń. Opisz je jako komentarz do tego tekstu lub wyślij mi je na mail: feniks.pua@gmail.com.

Z chęcią odpowiem na wszystkie pytania.

Ps. Opisane pozycje książkowe, posiadam tylko w wersji papierowej. Więc nie pytaj mnie o pliki pdf etc.

My name is Sean Diviney.  I am 32 years old and I started this blog to discuss the successes, failures and lessons I have learned in my journey to financial independence and success as a real estate developer.

How I got here

When I was 29, I spent 3 months in Barcelona, Spain.  It was the last year of my 20’s and I wanted to commence this decade of my life knowing I hadn’t left anything on the table.  I went out a lot, I drank a lot and I met and became friends with many amazing people from all over the world.  I had an absolute blast there and while I have fewer brain cells to show for it, those three months are how I remember my 20’s: carefree, energetic and yearning to experience as much of the world as I could.

While I was in Barcelona, I reflected on what I wanted the next decade of my life to be like.  I had spent most of my professional life working in IT, providing desktop and network support to companies in the Washington, DC area.  While the IT field is lucrative, I don’t have a passion for it like I have a passion for other things in my life such as travel, martial arts and dessert… I can’t pass up a good piece chocolate cake!  I knew I wanted my work life to be filled with the same passion I have for the other things I love.

At this point I realized there is a field that I have been interested in for as long as I can remember… real estate.  I love seeing new buildings sprout up out of the ground and take shape.  All the aspects of real estate development including construction, financing, negotiation and business fascinate me.  With this realization I decided I would pursue real estate investing and development as a career when I returned to the US.

Why Momentum?

When I returned to DC, I had a conversation with my friend David Groemping from Gemini Executive Coaching in which we discussed my plans to get started investing in real estate.  David told me that in any new undertaking there are three phases we go through as we move from beginner to expert.  These phases are formulation, concentration and momentum.

In formulation, we are learning the basics and getting a feel for what this new undertaking is going to be like.  In this phase every 10 units of effort we put towards furthering our progress yields about 1 unit of result.

In concentration, we have moved beyond learning the basics and are experimenting with our new knowledge of the field.  This phase is filled with setbacks and with personal growth.  In concentration, every 1 unit of effort we put towards furthering our progress yields about 1 unit of result.

In momentum, we understand the field and our specialties within it.  Who we are is consistent with what we want to accomplish in the field.  In this phase every 1 unit of effort we put towards furthering our progress yields about 10 units of result.

Currently, I am somewhere between formulation and concentration.  I have purchased two residential investment properties and I am aware, now more than ever, how much I still have to learn.  The reason for calling this blog momentum is because it is about my journey to the momentum phase of becoming a real estate developer.  I hope you enjoy reading it and you find the posts helpful in whatever you are trying to accomplish in your life.

Everything comes down to action. In this business, if it’s about anything, it’s about taking action every day — real action that moves you forward.

First you have to drive yourself through the learning curve, and as quickly as possible you need to get up and running, putting real campaigns together, learning the ropes.

I realized right away that behind all of the serious success stories in the CPA marketing world were about 100 campaigns … just flat out kicking through about 100 campaigns. It’s going to take that in order to figure out how it’s done, and you have to expect to take that long. Otherwise you are going to quit. But go into it expecting to hammer out 100 campaigns before you really get the hang of it, and you will be able to build up your skill set in such a way that you will be able to start turning 3 or 4 out of every 10 campaigns into a winner.

Once you have some campaigns bringing in money, you move into the ramp-up phase: Test, track, tweak. Continuously.

And throughout, you hold yourself to the goal of maintaining a 50% margin on all of your campaigns, and you make sure you are diversifying, putting no more than 20% of your eggs in one basket.

In the end, it all comes down to taking action. You will never build the winning campaigns unless you are willing to persist and fight your way through those first 100. You have to refuse to quit. Just do the small things every day, build up your skills, find the offers that convert and launch campaigns around them, drop the ones that aren’t working, and continue to improve on the winners. If you persist, you will reach a point where you have a portfolio of winners, and that’s the real goal.

But it starts with focused effort. Daily, actionable objectives — hammered out. Day in, day out. Over time.

Vor ziemlich genau einem Jahr hab ich mir meine (PU-bezogenen, die anderen interessieren hier wohl keinen) Ziele für das kommende Jahr aufgeschrieben. Da ich diese Ziele nur sehr umregelmäßig kontrolliert habe dachte ich mir, stelle ich sie mal online und gucke was so geklappt hat, und was nicht. Hier also erstmal die Ziele und dann ein kleines Review. Viel Spaß dabei…

Ziele: 25.10.2008

täglich kontrollierbar:

- jeden Tag mindestens 1 Set (egal ob direct oder indirect)
- jeden Tag mindestens 5 verschiedene Sorten Obst bzw. Gemüse essen
- jeden Tag mindestens 2x eine Affirmation wiederholen
- jeden Tag darauf achten, im Hier und Jetzt zu sein und die innere Stimme auszuschalten
(ich weiß, ist etwas schwammig formuliert, aber nunja )

wöchentlich kontrollierbar:

- jede Woche mindestens einen soliden Streetgame #close
- jede Woche mindestens ein Date mit einer “Neuen”
- jede Woche mindestens 3x streetsargen (mit mehr als 5 Sets)
- jede Woche mindestens 1x in Fitness-Studio
- jede Woche mindestens 3x jeweils 30 Minuten meditieren

Ziele bis Silvester:

- mindestens 1 Lay einer Frau, die ich im Moment des Verfassens dieser Zeilen noch nicht kenne

Ziele bis Silvester nächstes Jahr:

- jeden Monat mindestens ein HB layen

Das sind jetzt meine Pickup-bezogenen Ziele die mir schon seit einiger Zeit im Kopf herumschwirren. Habe das die letzten Wochen (bis auf dieses fiese 1 Approach am Tag-Ding:) ) auch einigermaßen so durchgezogen. Jetzt hab ichs hier nochmal ordentlich formuliert. Mal schauen was ich im Neuen Jahr dazu sagen kann.
Zu Purpose, also was will ich durch diese Ziele erreichen, kann ich nur sagen,

• Inner-game Verbesserung,
• Outer-game Verbesserung
• Verbesserung des Wohlbefindens und Selbstwertgefühls
• Glücklicher-sein
• besseres Körpergefühl

Das ist natürlich alles nicht messbar, aber für mich fühlbar. Also…bis zum Neuen Jahr mit Report!

Gut, was habe ich davon eingehalten. Das Ding mit jeden Tag ein Set hat so definitiv nicht geklappt. Das war wohl noch ne Nummer zu groß für mich wobei es auf jeden Fall ne richtig coole Sache ist wenn man es durchzieht. Den Rest der täglich kontrollierbaren Sachen habe ich ziemlich exakt und gut umgesetzt. Ich achte sehr auf meine Ernährung, treibe ne Menge Sport(sogar mehr als geplant) und versuche so meinen Körper ausgewogen zu trainieren. Ich vermische Herz-Kreislauftraining im aeroben und anaeroben Bereich mit ein wenig Kraft- und Beweglichkeitstraining und gehe hin und wieder schwimmen. Ich fühl mich 100% öfters fit als früher und habe ein gutes Körpergefühl. Auch trinke ich nur noch sehr selten Alkohol was dem ganzen auch recht zuträglich ist(Wobei manchmal muss man sich halt mal besaufen;)).

Soviel zum Sport. Spirituell habe ich auch einiges gemacht, ich meditiere (im Moment leider nur fast) jedem morgen und jeden Abend eine Mischung aus Yoga-Übungen und Meditation(wer interesse an mehr Infos hat kann mich gerne kontaktieren, gibts umsonst im Internet). Die Übung geben einem Entspannung und Energie zugleich und man lernt die innere Stimme im Kopf ein wenig zu kontrollieren bzw. einzuschätzen. Die Sache mit den Affirmationen hab ich sein lassen, hat mir irgendwie nicht allzu sehr gefallen, wobei ich vielleicht ein wenig länger hätte probieren sollen. Affirmationen werd ich jetzt hier nicht veröffentlichen ,was wäre mir peinlich

So, nun zu den wöchtenlichen Zielen. Da ich mich seit geraumer Zeit mehr aufs Clubgame konzentrieren möchte hat das mit der close-rate auf der Straße natürlich nichtmehr hingehauen. Die Closerate im Club ist aber nicht schlecht. Wenn man mal nachrechnet was alleine in der Zeit von dem Blog hier ging kann ich schon ganz zufrieden sein. Sport und Spiritualität kommen wie gesagt auch nicht zu kurz. Ich mache hin und wieder mal eine Trance von dem Mulzer-Homo wenn mir danach ist oder die progressive Muskelentspannung von der TK die ihr euch–HIER– runterladen könnt. Das wirkt auf mich in den meisten Fällen sehr entspannend wobei man sich auch wieder einmal etwas dran gewöhnen muss.

Okay, es ist schon sehr interessant was man vor einem Jahr so aufgeschrieben und gedacht hat. Im Grunde unterscheiden sich die Dinge garnicht soviel von meinem heutigen Standpunkt, ich halte nur heute die Erfahrungen, die man im Field macht ne Ecke wichtiger als das Inner-Game. Damals hab ich mich noch etwas mehr darauf gestützt. Ich denke heute dass Inner-Game krass wichtig ist, es gibt einem eine sehr angenehme innere Ruhe (wobei ich bei diesen ganzen Sachen erst ganz am Anfang stehe und ich denke, dass wird alles PU bei weitem überdauern, nur so am Rande) Jedoch für das Frauen-Aufreißen, um das es ja nunmal hier geht, sind die Erfahrungen, die man durch die Stunden im Field macht, ungleich wichtiger. Heute konzentriere ich mich nochmehr auf das rausgehen und Sets approachen…Am Ende des Jahres schreibe ich mal meine Ziele für 2010 auf. Das wird mit Sicherheit das bestes Jahr meines Lebens bisher. Ich freu mich sooooo. Das Leben ist schön!