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Charlotte Allen Missed The Memo8 comments

Thomas wrote 7 months ago: The title is wrong, here.  Since Allen is (In Amanda Marcotte’s words) a “professional c … more →

Tags: Media Matters, sexual assault, rape, Sex-negativity

Power, Choice, and the Household Staff7 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: It is both stunningly obvious, and frequently ignored, that “yes” is not a choice where … more →

Tags: Media Matters, sexual assault, media

Domism: Role Essentialism and Sexism Intersectionality in the BDSM Scene88 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: Archimedes said that if he had a lever long enough, he could move the world.  But where would he sta … more →

Tags: Manliness, bdsm, Sex-negativity, Theory

Going To Prison: Bagley's Wife Charged, Two Guilty Pleas1 comment

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: I’m just catching up to the developments since my last update on the Bagley kidnapping/torture … more →

Tags: sexual assault, sex work, rape, Domestic Violence, bdsm

Time to get my umbrella out, its raining A**HOLES!14 comments

marikopassion wrote 1 year ago: 2 incidents of being molested in one week.  One had to do with sex work.  One had nothing to do with … more →

Tags: Manliness, Sexual Healing, Abuse of Power, crotchgrabs, Martial Arts, molested, ptsd, relationshipviolence, self destruction

Mythcommunication: It's Not That They Don't Understand, They Just Don't Like The Answer54 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: I just read a paper from the discipline of conversation analysis.  It dovetails nicely with what I w … more →

Tags: rape, sexual assault

Clarisse's Communication Stories1 comment

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: This is just awesome.  If you do BDSM, you should read this.  If you’ve ever thought about doi … more →

Tags: bdsm, Sex Positivity

Sarah Prickett's Ambiguous Aside24 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: A lot of my friends really loved this piece, and as I read it I was agreeing with them — right … more →

Tags: sex work, bdsm, Sex Positivity

Naomi Wolf And The Danger Of Universal Genius5 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: The world is full of smart people, but intelligence doesn’t help if they don’t know what … more →

Tags: Media Matters, sexual assault, rape

Chicago Workshop on BDSM and Abuse2 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: Regular readers know that I think this issue needs as much sunshine as possible, that abuse within s … more →

Tags: sexual assault, rape, Domestic Violence, bdsm

The (Nonexistent) Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Consequences of Enthusiastic Consent104 comments

jaclynfriedman wrote 1 year ago: Goodness. All you rape apologists really did love the Christmas present Naomi Wolf gave you, didn’t … more →

Tags: Fight The Power, Media Matters, Sexual Healing

Growing: An Example3 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: We have got to be the change we seek. That’s why it saddens me so much to see folks who should … more →

Tags: Manliness, Media Matters, sexual assault, rape

Sleep and Negotiating Consent21 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: In the prior post I discussed Wolf’s incoherent defense of Assange, and I wanted to add someth … more →

Tags: sexual assault, rape, bdsm

Naomi Wolf Joins Team Roiphe7 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: Apparently, when she has a chance to curry favor with the sort of fauxgressive dude who is currently … more →

Tags: Fight The Power, Media Matters, sexual assault, rape

How To Jump Off A Cliff12 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: People do some extreme stuff. Consenting adults jump off of cliffs, and use experience and a few spe … more →

Tags: bdsm

Typology of Apology16 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: Holly Pervocracy is usually really good and sometimes just downright brilliant, and I can’t im … more →

Tags: sexual assault, rape

Things I Agree With The O'Donnell Campaign About

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: It’s a short list.  The campaign said about the Gawker piece that every friend of mine has con … more →

Tags: Politics, Sex Positivity, Sex-negativity, O'Donnell, Virginity, boundaries

A Shot At Agency3 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: A great deal has been said about what a Los Angeles judge did to Tila Tequila, and instead of recap … more →

Tags: Media Matters, media, Sex-negativity

I Can Never Tell11 comments

Thomas wrote 1 year ago: I don’t buy porn from any of the big companies that make BDSM porn. It’s not that I have … more →

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