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Charlotte Allen Missed The Memo
The title is wrong, here. Since Allen is (In Amanda Marcotte’s words) a “professional concern troll,” she has no interest in the “memo,” as it were. She’s not int… more →
Charlotte Allen Missed The Memo
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wrote 7 months ago: The title is wrong, here. Since Allen is (In Amanda Marcotte’s words) a “professional c … more →
Power, Choice, and the Household Staff
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wrote 1 year ago: It is both stunningly obvious, and frequently ignored, that “yes” is not a choice where … more →
Domism: Role Essentialism and Sexism Intersectionality in the BDSM Scene
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wrote 1 year ago: Archimedes said that if he had a lever long enough, he could move the world. But where would he sta … more →
Going To Prison: Bagley's Wife Charged, Two Guilty Pleas
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wrote 1 year ago: I’m just catching up to the developments since my last update on the Bagley kidnapping/torture … more →
Time to get my umbrella out, its raining A**HOLES!
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wrote 1 year ago: 2 incidents of being molested in one week. One had to do with sex work. One had nothing to do with … more →
Mythcommunication: It's Not That They Don't Understand, They Just Don't Like The Answer
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wrote 1 year ago: I just read a paper from the discipline of conversation analysis. It dovetails nicely with what I w … more →
Clarisse's Communication Stories
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wrote 1 year ago: This is just awesome. If you do BDSM, you should read this. If you’ve ever thought about doi … more →
Sarah Prickett's Ambiguous Aside
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wrote 1 year ago: A lot of my friends really loved this piece, and as I read it I was agreeing with them — right … more →
Naomi Wolf And The Danger Of Universal Genius
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wrote 1 year ago: The world is full of smart people, but intelligence doesn’t help if they don’t know what … more →
Chicago Workshop on BDSM and Abuse
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wrote 1 year ago: Regular readers know that I think this issue needs as much sunshine as possible, that abuse within s … more →
The (Nonexistent) Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Consequences of Enthusiastic Consent
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wrote 1 year ago: Goodness. All you rape apologists really did love the Christmas present Naomi Wolf gave you, didn’t … more →
Growing: An Example
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wrote 1 year ago: We have got to be the change we seek. That’s why it saddens me so much to see folks who should … more →
Sleep and Negotiating Consent
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wrote 1 year ago: In the prior post I discussed Wolf’s incoherent defense of Assange, and I wanted to add someth … more →
Naomi Wolf Joins Team Roiphe
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wrote 1 year ago: Apparently, when she has a chance to curry favor with the sort of fauxgressive dude who is currently … more →
How To Jump Off A Cliff
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wrote 1 year ago: People do some extreme stuff. Consenting adults jump off of cliffs, and use experience and a few spe … more →
Typology of Apology
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wrote 1 year ago: Holly Pervocracy is usually really good and sometimes just downright brilliant, and I can’t im … more →
Things I Agree With The O'Donnell Campaign About
wrote 1 year ago: It’s a short list. The campaign said about the Gawker piece that every friend of mine has con … more →
A Shot At Agency
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wrote 1 year ago: A great deal has been said about what a Los Angeles judge did to Tila Tequila, and instead of recap … more →
I Can Never Tell
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wrote 1 year ago: I don’t buy porn from any of the big companies that make BDSM porn. It’s not that I have … more →
