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<title><![CDATA[Addiction to Death]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/20/addiction-to-death/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 20 Oct 2011 20:34:03 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/20/addiction-to-death/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[ This morning I received a devastating phone call from one of my close friend&#8217;s mother breakin]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> This morning I received a devastating phone call from one of my close friend&#8217;s mother breaking the news that she overdosed that morning. I thought to myself this is not happening to me  right now.  Her mother sobbing told me that four hours ago that she walked into her daughter&#8217;s room and found her lying in the bed with a needle in her arm and her eyes open.  She was dead.  I couldn&#8217;t even imagine what kind of trauma her mother was going through.  When I think about how close I was to losing my own life to drug addiction and what her mother was put through, I look back and I am grateful to be alive.  With drugs you&#8217;re playing with the devil because you can end up killing yourself or end up in jail or a mental hospital.  I have learned to make choices that will increase my health and happiness.   Drugs masked my pain but speaking out is freeing me.  Everytime someone writes or blogs or speaks out about their molestation it helps shine light on this dark and shameful crime. </p>
<p>~Zoie~</p>
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<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/photo.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-157" title="photo" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/photo.jpg?w=223&#038;h=300" alt="" width="223" height="300" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[Statistics of Abuse ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/18/statistics-of-abuse/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 18 Oct 2011 19:05:18 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/18/statistics-of-abuse/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[I see from doing research and reading statistics that my story is not unusual.  Molestors who are kn]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I see from doing research and reading statistics that my story is not unusual.  Molestors who are known by the family or the victim are the most common abusers.  What they call &#8220;the acquaintence&#8221; molestor counts for seventy to ninety percent of reported cases.  What is horrible about sexual molestation, is that one out of ten kids who are molested, never tell, even when they are asked.  What I am trying to do is bring this situation into the light, so that more kids speak up and more molesters  get charged.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/dscn03772.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-125" title="DSCN0377" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/dscn03772.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
<p>Zoie</p>
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<title><![CDATA[Innocent Michael Jackson Charged]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/17/innocent-michael-jackson-charged/</link>
<pubDate>Mon, 17 Oct 2011 18:49:24 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/17/innocent-michael-jackson-charged/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been thinking about Michael Jackson lately, and how horrible it must have been for him to]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been thinking about Michael Jackson lately, and how horrible it must have been for him to be tried as a sexual molester by the Santa Barbara D. A. I  can see that I get nervous when I speak out about my sexual molestation.  So I can&#8217;t imagine how it must have been for that sensitive loving man to be tried as a child molester.  My mom told me they even took pictures of his penis after they arrested him.   What the Santa Barbara D. A. put him through was hell.  I&#8217;m sure this contributed to his need for pain killers and ultimately to his death from dependency drugs to even sleep at night.  I don&#8217;t believe Michael Jackson was a child molester but I know my dad is, and I know that the average child molester will molest fifty girls before being caught and convicted.   Will you join me and let&#8217;s stop this horrifying crime.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/dscn0377.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-116" title="DSCN0377" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/dscn0377.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a>Zoie</p>
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<title><![CDATA[Feeling Stronger]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/11/feeling-stronger/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 11 Oct 2011 18:24:20 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/11/feeling-stronger/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[Today I feel strongly that I&#8217;m doing the right thing by standing up for myself. I turned to dr]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today I feel strongly that I&#8217;m doing the right thing by standing up for myself. I turned to drugs because I was silenced for so long but now I&#8217;m speaking out and it&#8217;s helping me to find my power.  Being molested was scary, I was constantly being threatened.  But now, I feel more energetic and powerful now that I&#8217;m speaking up.  I&#8217;m feeling more motivated, and I used to be on the track team in high school so I went out and bought a pair of running shoes and I&#8217;m starting to run again.</p>
<p>The truth of it is that I can find my power through my voice.  I feel great that other organizations are reaching out and helping me.  <a href="http://www.childhelp.org/">Childhelp</a> just sent me a messaging saying, &#8220;Thank you for being an inspiration.&#8221;   It made me feel good.</p>
<p>Zoie</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/zoie-for-blog11.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-88" title="zoie-for-blog1" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/zoie-for-blog11.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.change.org/petitions/help-zoie-find-justice">http://www.change.org/petitions/help-zoie-find-justice</a></p>
<p>Help me by signing my petition at the above link.  Let&#8217;s create a safe world for children.</p>
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<title><![CDATA[Taking Inventory ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/07/taking-inventory/</link>
<pubDate>Fri, 07 Oct 2011 22:09:56 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/07/taking-inventory/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[Today I am feeling relaxed and fit with my appearance.  I am saying positive things to myself, and a]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today I am feeling relaxed and fit with my appearance.  I am saying positive things to myself, and also looking at the things in my life that I like and that I dislike and how to change the bad habits.  You could call it evaluating my life and seeing what is working for me and what is not working for me.  The things that work I want to keep as part of my daily routine, and the things that don&#8217;t work, I&#8217;d like to eliminate.  This is advice I would give to others who are working on the same issues I am working through, and want to step up and really move forward in their lives.  I really believe that with looking at what happened to me and talking about it, I can heal.  They say that if you don&#8217;t talk about your emotions or feelings you can&#8217;t move forward, and you keep running into the same habits and mistakes, and I really want to move forward and lead the life I am meant to live. There is so much ahead of me on my journey.  I truly look forward to the journey and eventually the destination will be clear and bright.</p>
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<p>Inspirational quote today from: Sonia Choquette</p>
<p>Inner Child</p>
<p>&#8220;The door to your Inner Child is opening and he/she walks through bringing you gifts.  Trust your Inner Child&#8217;s willingness to share this gift with you so that you may benefit.  The message for you is: Trust&#8221;</p>
<p>Zoie</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/zoie-for-blog1.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-72" title="zoie-for-blog" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/zoie-for-blog1.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[I am a Survivor ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/06/i-am-a-survivor-2/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 06 Oct 2011 18:51:53 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/06/i-am-a-survivor-2/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  The whole month of October I would like to a]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>October is National <em>Domestic Violence</em> Awareness Month.  The whole month of October I would like to acknowledge every woman who has been brave and believed in themselves.   For this is what keeps us moving and alive, knowing that we believe in ourselves and that we are survivors, not victims.  We are the voice that speaks through, we are the women who listen and nurture, and we are survivors of domestic abuse, sexual molestation, and domestic violence.</p>
<p>I keep believing in myself and my future knowing that I will get through the pain, knowing that I will heal, and knowing that I am surviving.  I am so grateful to all the women in my life who have inspired me and helped me, my mother in particular has been an inspiration to me and my daily life.</p>
<p>I&#8217;d like to leave off with a little inspiration as a gift to you:</p>
<p>High Self</p>
<p>&#8220;Make the Space and time to stay in tune with your Higher Self:</p>
<p>Allow yourself the gift of space and time to connect with the deepest level of your highest potential.  We live in a world where being busy has become the norm.  The reality is that it&#8217;s a priority to give our mind that shower of inner peace where we can truly be at one with ourselves.&#8221;</p>
<p>Action:  Starting today, take time to be away from the noise of your daily life.  If only for a few minutes every day.  Breathe deeply and let your body relax.  Trust that your mind is working at the deepest level to give you the self-nurturing to grow your garden and bring your dreams to life.&#8221;  ~Plant seeds and Pick the Blossoms~</p>
<p>Zoie</p>
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<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/zoie-for-blog.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-69" title="zoie-for-blog" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/zoie-for-blog.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[Abuse Survivors Voice Day]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/05/abuse-survivors-voice-day/</link>
<pubDate>Wed, 05 Oct 2011 22:52:19 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/05/abuse-survivors-voice-day/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[I had the opportunity to speak up on Abuse Survivors Voice Day on Friday September 30 through a Face]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I had the opportunity to speak up on Abuse Survivors Voice Day on Friday September 30 through a <a href="http://www.facebook.com/groups/216097681765188/">Facebook awareness page</a>.  It was so incredible.  People had voiced their stories and their lives on Friday.  We all have a commonality and found the strength to speak up.  I wanted to share with you what I shared with them in hopes of inspiring you and those who have experienced the same thing.</p>
<p>&#8220;As everyone is reading this about abuse, I just wanted to mention how incredible it is to have so many people support this violence and sick disease that continues to spread throughout America.  Young teens suffer on a day to day basis with abuse because something or someone caused damage to the victim.  I believe in miracles always believe in yourself and never be afraid to say what&#8217;s right and what&#8217;s wrong.  Opinions are strong because they not only can affect you as an individual, but can affect peers.  I say what&#8217;s on my mind whenever I need to no matter what the problem or idea may be.  Don&#8217;t be afraid to show your inner self, screw all those people who try to make themselves into something they are not to fit in a certain crowd, it gets you nowhere.  I reached out to my biggest support system in my life (my mother) and told her about my sexual abuse.  It only takes one person who will stand by your side through thick and thin to support you in every way possible.  Start planning ahead with your challenging problems and take charge in each detail you start to change.  Don&#8217;t be afraid to show your true colors, no one deserves to be affiliated with a fake personality.  I know that it will be tough and disappointing, believe in yourself and always trust your first instinct in decisions.  Never think twice because if you have to think twice about it you probably shouldn&#8217;t be doing this action upon one&#8217;s self.  Be flexible and stay true to your highest power every day, don&#8217;t give up or think it&#8217;s all your fault because it&#8217;s not Stand up for what&#8217;s right and stick to your word all I have to say is never let yourself go.&#8221;</p>
<p>Thank you for everyone&#8217;s support.  Together we can help others speak up and speak out.</p>
<p>Zoie</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n21.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-64" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n21.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[The Facts ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/04/the-facts/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 04 Oct 2011 18:38:40 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/04/the-facts/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[As I learn more about this horrible crime, I see that 90% of child molestsers, molest someone they k]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As I learn more about this horrible crime, I see that 90% of child molestsers, molest someone they know, are friends with or related to the victim, which allows the victim to trust them.  One out of four girls are molested and I was one of them.  It&#8217;s horrible that our District Attorneys and our law inforcement are not prosecuting these men.  I don&#8217;t know the statistics, but I read somewhere that 15 out of 16 of these child molesters get away with their crime.  Wow, an alarming rate; that is roughly 90% get away with it without any child speaking up, and then the child has to live with this shame lurking over their shoulders.  We have to put a stop to these statistics and reach out and speak up.</p>
<p>Zoie</p>
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<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-61" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[New Playground  ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/new-playground/</link>
<pubDate>Mon, 03 Oct 2011 19:36:58 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/new-playground/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[One of the things they taught me in my AA and NA programs is that if you want to let go of your drug]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One of the things they taught me in my AA and NA programs is that if you want to let go of your drug addiction, you have to change your playground and playmates.  I&#8217;ve been doing just that and going through changes in relationships and friendships and learning how to take the right path.  The right path is in my heart and syncing my mind and my heart together is always the right choice but a difficult one to take.  My mind and body are aligning together with my heart and making the right decisions and choices yet there is always that shadow of doubt,  &#8221;Should I do this or shoud I do that?&#8221;  My heart always leads me in the right course of action so today I will honor my heart so my body and mind will follow. </p>
<p>Zoie</p>
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<title><![CDATA[It's up to me]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/09/30/i-am-a-survivor/</link>
<pubDate>Fri, 30 Sep 2011 19:11:10 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/09/30/i-am-a-survivor/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[Being abused was scary and disgusting and made me feel like my life wasn&#8217;t my own.  Now as I f]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Being abused was scary and disgusting and made me feel like my life wasn&#8217;t my own.  Now as I focus on being a survivor of sexual abuse, I realize its up to me to turn this all around.  I went and saw my therapist yesterday at the Rape Crisis Center and she helped me, so today when I woke up I shot out of bed wide awake having urges about cleaning my house. For me, having a clean slate every morning and night always makes me feel like I have accomplished my life goals. I took a few steps back to my childhood and noticed nothing felt &#8220;clean&#8221; in my world.  For instance, waking up to dirty thoughts, dirty laundry, dirty hygiene, a messy room, and feeling used and unsafe. I now focus on having cleanliness and order in my life. l also have  learned to look out for myself and my friends.  It&#8217;s about making myself feel safe and secure in all possible ways in my daily life. Some examples of coping skills I use on a day to day basis are ( telling myself I love myself, keeping  a journal, accepting myself for who I am.  And most importantly I am learning to  BE MYSELF so I can become a leader and not just a follower.</p>
<p>have a great day today and keep up the posts! <img src='http://s0.wp.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>~Zoie~</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/zoie-for-blog.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-52" title="zoie for blog" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/zoie-for-blog.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[Unpunished Bad People ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/unpunished-bad-people/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 18:57:54 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/unpunished-bad-people/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[It creeps me out that my adopted dad was on Facebook and my blog, he found a way through to my Faceb]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It creeps me out that my adopted dad was on Facebook and my blog, he found a way through to my Facebook page last night.   I blocked him again, but he put me down and tried to make me feel bad, but he did what he always did.  I realize now, he&#8217;s a bad person.  He always told me I was worthless and fat and stupid.  After he contacted me I felt depressed.  I know why rape victims get fat, because they don&#8217;t want to get raped again.  That&#8217;s why I kept dying my blond hair dark brown because when my dad molested he would always touch my blond hair and say how beautiful it was.  I couldn&#8217;t even stand to be a blond anymore.  So I&#8217;m putting a picture of my dad&#8217;s America&#8217;s Most Wanted symbol on the blog so if you want you can connect to the <a href="http://www.amw.com/fugitives/case.cfm?id=56499">link</a> and see others believe him to be a bad person as well.  Next blog, I&#8217;ll have a picture of my blond hair because I&#8217;m learning to love myself as I am.</p>
<p>~Zoie~</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/amw-logo.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39" title="amw logo" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/amw-logo.jpg?w=223&#038;h=226" alt="" width="223" height="226" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[Emotions ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/emotions/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:51:02 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/emotions/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[My thoughts and feelings about Dad are coming and going in different directions. Sometimes I want to]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My thoughts and feelings about Dad are coming and going in different<br />
directions. Sometimes I want to run and hide and other times I want to<br />
express my anger towards him. I think it&#8217;s so good for me to write and get my feelings out and let people know how really frustrating it is to have The District Attorney believe me and know I was molested but still do nothing to right this wrong.  I went to court yesterday and the date was moved to next Tuesday September 27.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n4.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-35" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n4.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a>~Zoie~</p>
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<title><![CDATA[My Stolen Childhood]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/my-stolen-childhood/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:48:36 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/my-stolen-childhood/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[I felt so much better when I went on the dead beat dad website to report my father. I saw he was alr]]></description>
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<div>I felt so much better when I went on the dead beat dad website to report my father. I saw he was already on there.  This man was allowed to plea bargain away my court ordered child support in order to get reduced prison time for himself.  I have never received one dime from the four years of the child support he owes me.   It really upsets me, that his molestation took away my innocence and also he was allowed to give away my child support.</div>
<div>~Zoie~</div>
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<title><![CDATA[My Feelings ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/my-feelings/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:44:17 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/my-feelings/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[Going to court on Thursday, I have mixed feelings about court and what I am up against.  I feel that]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Going to court on Thursday, I have mixed feelings about court and what I am up against.  I feel that the judge will not understand my feelings and why I have turned to drugs to help me with my pain.   The drugs have helped me cope, but its important that I deal with what happened to me without numbing myself out.   I&#8217;m trying what I learned in therapy to help express my feelings rather than just stuff them down.</p>
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<title><![CDATA[Staying Optimistic ]]></title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:42:56 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
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<description><![CDATA[Even with the estimated one out of three kids being molested in America today, I try to stay positiv]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Even with the estimated one out of three kids being molested in America today, I try to stay positive regardless of my feelings and emotions that surface from my own personal experience for the four years I remained quiet.  My quietness didn&#8217;t serve me, when I spoke up, that is what helped me find the courage to help myself heal and those who have ever been in a similar situation.</p>
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<title><![CDATA[Talking To Mom]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/talking-to-mom/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:40:20 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
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<description><![CDATA[My mom sat down with me and my boyfriend today and asked me if I felt strong enough to publically sp]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My mom sat down with me and my boyfriend today and asked me if I felt strong enough to publically speak about my sexual molestation.  I wouldn&#8217;t have survived everything that happened to me if I weren&#8217;t strong.  I need to find my voice and speaking out helps me express my feelings.  For too long I&#8217;ve suffered because people judged my behavior when I turned to drugs to numb myself but I didn&#8217;t know any other way.</p>
<p>Now I go to AA and NA meetings regularly.  I have a really strong boyfriend who supports me in speaking out.  It  made me feel good when he said to my mom, &#8220;I&#8217;m a hundred percent behind Zoie.  Child molester&#8217;s should be punished.  Justice has not been served.  She needs to stand up to this injustice.&#8221;</p>
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<title><![CDATA[Yearning for Justice ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/29/yearning-for-justice/</link>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 17:37:27 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
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<description><![CDATA[In December of 2008, Orson Mozes, identified as one of America’s Most Wanted ‘Dirty Dozen’, was capt]]></description>
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<p>In December of 2008, Orson Mozes, identified as one of <a href="http://www.amw.com/fugitives/case.cfm?id=56499">America’s Most Wanted ‘Dirty Dozen’</a>, was captured and taken into custody in Florida. Mozes, arrested for extorting money from innocent adopting parents, was transferred back to Santa Barbara, California where he was charged with 62 counts of international adoption fraud. But Mozes’s crimes were darker than they appeared. Days before Mozes disappeared from his Santa Barbara home, his adopted Russian daughter Zoie, fourteen, tearfully confided to her teacher that her father had been inappropriately touching her for the past several years. The teacher promptly reported Mozes to Child Protective Services.</p>
<p>Fearful that her father would return and act on his threats to kill her, it wasn’t until January of 2008 that Zoie found the courage to speak of her nightmare and asked the Sheriff to charge her father for the four years of sexual molestation she had endured. At this time the D.A. opened a case against Orson Mozes, only to drop it months later citing a lack of evidence.</p>
<p>A  local newpaper reporter wrote:</p>
<p>&#8220;He would later claim that the deteriorated relationship with his wife was why he ran away and disappeared for years.  But there&#8217;s plenty of evidence to suggest that Mozes left for other reasons, and it wasn&#8217;t only to run from the crimes of his company.  Just prior to his disappearance, a teacher of Moze&#8217;s daughter&#8211;who was adopted from Russia in 1994&#8211;filed a child abuse report with Child Welfare Services.  The child apparently told her teacher that Mozes had touched her inappropriately, a charge relayed to the Sheriff&#8217;s Department.  But, said investigator Norma Hansen in the District Attorney&#8217;s office, there was a &#8220;lack of enough evidence to do anything with it.&#8221;  <a href="http://www.independent.com/news/2009/sep/03/false-prophet-adoption/">~The Independent September 10, 2009~</a></p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/orson-mozes-laugh-pic.jpg"><img title="orson mozes laugh pic" src="http://zoiesstory.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/orson-mozes-laugh-pic.jpg?w=245&#038;h=300" alt="" width="245" height="300" /></a></p>
<p>Unable to cope with her feelings of abandonment by the judicial system, coupled with the pain and suffering of sexual molestation, Zoie turned to drugs as so often happens in these cases. Her mother, fearing for Zoie’s life, admitted her to a residential treatment program where she received two years of intensive counseling and drug treatment.</p>
<p>Her psychologists and therapists wrote letters asking the D.A. to re-open Zoie’s case.</p>
<p><em>“We work with Zoie day in and day out and during her therapeutic sessions listen to and work with the intense emotional pain she feels regarding her father and the sexual abuse she incurred while he was in the home with her. This child has discussed the particulars of this horrific abuse in detail, and as a team we are shocked that her father has not been charged for his demonstrative behaviors. Zoie repeatedly discusses how as a young child she feared that she would be smothered or crushed under the weight of her father when he would lay on top of her, how he kept a knife under the bed and threatened to kill her and her mother if she was ever to tell. Even more disturbing is the fact that her father would give her drugs to perform sexual acts on him. We listen to this child cry in fear that her father who is currently in prison for fraud will be released and come and fulfill his promise to kill her or her mother. It is difficult to explain to this child why he has never had to be held accountable for his actions while she is constantly being held accountable for hers.”</em></p>
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<p>To add to Zoie’s grievances, the Santa Barbara District Attorney used<a href="http://law.justia.com/cases/california/court-of-appeal/2011/b221020/"> California’s Freeze and Seize Law </a>to allow her father to plea bargain away Zoie’s $166,000 of court-awarded child support––– the only money she would ever hope to see from him. In offering Mozes a plea bargain deal, the D.A. informed him that his daughter, Zoie, had initiated a case against him for sexual molestation. Although he originally publically pled his innocence to 62 counts of adoption fraud adding up to 44 years of prison time; he now agreed to plead guilty to 17 counts of fraud in exchange for a prison sentence which resulted in less than two years of incarceration.</p>
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<p>In April of 2011, Zoie, now 18, asked two Santa Barbara District Attorneys to reopen her case. After interviewing her for an hour, they told her they believed she had been sexually molested by her father and would have their investigators search for corroborating evidence.</p>
<p>Sensing that the closure she was yearning for was near, on August 17<sup>th</sup>, 2011, Zoie and her mother were called into the Santa Barbara D.A.’s office, where the District Attorney informed them that Orson Mozes was not going to be charged. The D. A. stated that she believed Zoie was sexually molested, but despite finding some corroborating evidence; she would not charge Orson Mozes because she lacked physical evidence. Zoie’s mother, furiously responded, “This is why one out of three children in America are sexually molested––– because these men know they’re going to get away with it. You won’t charge them without physical evidence? How is a twelve-year-old in fear for her life going to provide you with that?”</p>
<p>Zoie walked out of the District Attorney’s office and said,</p>
<p>“Mom, she didn’t have him coming into her bed at night and she wasn’t afraid for her life and didn’t have to do what I had to do to survive. I can’t deal with this.”</p>
<p>Two days after meeting with the District Attorney–––on August 19, 2011 a distraught Zoie Brown, after having been sober for several years, was arrested for driving under the influence of a controlled substance. Charged with possession and transport of a controlled substance, Zoie now faces two felony charges while her father, Orson Mozes, walks free.</p>
<p>This beautiful 18 year-old girl feels she has been molested twice––– once by her father, and once by the judicial system. Unable to find justice, she has not been able to heal. Her arraignment is scheduled for September 22, 2011.</p>
<p>I provide this email and toll free number<a href="http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/crisis_hotlines.htm"> click here </a>for anyone who has ever been silent and too afraid to speak out.  Let your voice be heard.</p>
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<title><![CDATA[My Head Up High]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstory.wordpress.com/2011/09/28/my-head-up-high/</link>
<pubDate>Wed, 28 Sep 2011 18:59:33 +0000</pubDate>
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<description><![CDATA[Great morning, I&#8217;m feeling strong today.  I used my coping skills yesterday because I felt fat]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great morning, I&#8217;m feeling strong today.  I used my coping skills yesterday because I felt fat, even though everyone tells me I&#8217;m not; I believed my molester during the four years he was sexually molesting me  and kept telling me I was fat.  So I talked out my feelings with my Mom and my boyfriend and I went for a run this morning.  I&#8217;m taking care of my body and standing up for myself.  It really helps when you find someone you can trust to have a steady relationship with.  For me, it&#8217;s my Mom and my boyfriend.  I talk things through with them and it helps me keep my head up high.</p>
<p>~Zoie~</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-19" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[My Head Up High]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/28/my-head-up-high/</link>
<pubDate>Wed, 28 Sep 2011 18:59:33 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
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<description><![CDATA[Great morning, I&#8217;m feeling strong today.  I used my coping skills yesterday because I felt fat]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great morning, I&#8217;m feeling strong today.  I used my coping skills yesterday because I felt fat, even though everyone tells me I&#8217;m not; I believed my Dad during the four years he was sexually molesting me  and kept telling me I was fat.  So I talked out my feelings with my Mom and my boyfriend and I went for a run this morning.  I&#8217;m taking care of my body and standing up for myself.  It really helps when you find someone you can trust to have a steady relationship with.  For me, it&#8217;s my Mom and my boyfriend.  I talk things through with them and it helps me keep my head up high.</p>
<p>~Zoie~</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-19" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n2.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[Speaking Out ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/27/speaking-out/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
<guid>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/27/speaking-out/</guid>
<description><![CDATA[Today I went to court and met with my public defender.  I liked him and told him that I&#8217;m stan]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today I went to court and met with my public defender.  I liked him and told him that I&#8217;m standing up for justice by blogging and writing on Facebook, and he thought that was good for me to do. It was way too hard for me when the District Attorney refused to press charges at my Dad, and I turned to drugs, but speaking out is helping me.  I feel stronger now that I faced the fact that I didn&#8217;t get justice and  have still managed to be drug free for over one month.  I was very popular in high school because I was partying every night and doing drugs to push the past away and keep it behind me, but now that I am reaching out and telling people what&#8217;s really going on, it makes me feel much stronger.  And I am very grateful when you write me and tell me how you feel, because sometimes all you have to do is have the courage to tell one person.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n1.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-15" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n1.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<pubDate>Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
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<description><![CDATA[Today I went to court and met with my public defender.  I liked him and told him that I&#8217;m stan]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today I went to court and met with my public defender.  I liked him and told him that I&#8217;m standing up for justice by blogging and writing on Facebook, and he thought that was good for me to do. It was way too hard for me when the District Attorney refused to press charges at my molester, and I turned to drugs, but speaking out is helping me.  I feel stronger now that I faced the fact that I didn&#8217;t get justice and  have still managed to be drug free for over one month.  I was very popular in high school because I was partying every night and doing drugs to push the past away and keep it behind me, but now that I am reaching out and telling people what&#8217;s really going on, it makes me feel much stronger.  And I am very grateful when you write me and tell me how you feel, because sometimes all you have to do is have the courage to tell one person.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n1.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-15" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n1.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 21:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
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<description><![CDATA[Today it is Monday September 26th 2011 and I am feeling blessed to know my molester is a long ways a]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today it is Monday September 26th 2011 and I am feeling blessed to know my molester is a long ways away and can not get my attention in any way.  I believe that karma will chase him until he gives up his, &#8220;fast lane fake life&#8221; that he planned.  This to me is all in God&#8217;s hands now.  I know what he did to me; I know what happened and I know the truth.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-9" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 21:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
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<description><![CDATA[Today it is Monday September 26th 2011 and I am feeling blessed to know my father is a long ways awa]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today it is Monday September 26th 2011 and I am feeling blessed to know my father is a long ways away and can not get my attention in any way.  I believe that karma will chase him until he gives up his, &#8220;fast lane fake life&#8221; that he planned.  This to me is all in God&#8217;s hands now.  I know what he did to me; I know what happened and I know the truth.</p>
<p><a href="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-9" title="293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n" src="http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/293527_108198879287304_100002915782737_57780_1267485754_n.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="" width="300" height="225" /></a></p>
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<title><![CDATA[Moving Forward ]]></title>
<link>http://zoiesstoryunpunishedabuse.wordpress.com/2011/09/20/hello-world/</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Sep 2011 20:00:42 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Zoie's Story</dc:creator>
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<description><![CDATA[I feel better now that I&#8217;m standing up for myself and asking for justice.  There are too many]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>I feel better now that I&#8217;m standing up for myself and asking for justice.  There are too many children who are victims of molestation and carry this dark secret in their heart for their whole life.  I&#8217;m proud that I told my teacher after my dad left, I knew he wouldn&#8217;t hurt my mother and me, and that&#8217;s when I found the courage to tell my mother.  I hope my speaking out will be an inspiration to others to help them find the courage to step forward.</div>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Sep 2011 20:00:42 +0000</pubDate>
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<description><![CDATA[I feel better now that I&#8217;m standing up for myself and asking for justice.  There are too many]]></description>
<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div>I feel better now that I&#8217;m standing up for myself and asking for justice.  There are too many children who are victims of molestation and carry this dark secret in their heart for their whole life.  I&#8217;m proud that I told my teacher after my molester left, I knew he wouldn&#8217;t hurt my mother and me, and that&#8217;s when I found the courage to tell my mother.  I hope my speaking out will be an inspiration to others to help them find the courage to step forward.</div>
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