As some of you know, I have been studying to body therapist the last two years and of course, due to economical reasons I were obliged to give up my life as a car owner during that time, something that I am NOT regretting at all. Few advantages with a life as a train taker:

• you walk a lot
• your immune system get stronger
• you can sleep on your way to school/jobb
• you hear a lot of funny stories

… and the last one is what gonna entertain you in this blogg today.

OMG at which age do we start owing these gadgets around us? and what are our gadgets? seems like EVERYTHING can be considered as gadget nowdays? So may be a good explanation why many of us knows more about their bank adviser than their own children /wife/ brother… etc

So was it today: I boarded Öresundståg in Landskrona on my way to Lund. Two young girls were standing near me and after a couple of minute I get to understand that one of them were in a relationship with one of the boys standing in another group at the other end of the wagon- the train was as usual full so we had to stand

She walked twice to that other group to define her territory, by kissing him passionately and returning to her friend. Then the greatest thing happened, suddenly she and her friend started a conversation about him: She started “asking” her friend what she thought about his brown leather jacket- notice she had a brown leather jacket too. Her friend agreed that the jacket was ” snygg på honom”. She then confess, that she was the one that get that for him as he ? needed? a new one So going on she confessed then that he slept over at her place tonight and she asked him to put on the jacket. He did not want it first but she managed to convince him

Then while both were looking at him like any other object in a store, they went on: the girl friend “asking” and her friend ” agreeing” about all changes that had to be made to get him fashionable or …? Saknar ord typ :-O A total makeover were rolling on, without him being involved.

So now back to him: he looked just great the way he was, and really was no candidate for any makeover, but she now OWNS him, so it is obviously all about WHAT SHE WANTS to have and not him?

Believe me, I do not know, but I recognized MY OWN SELF there. At age 22 I met that wonderful norwegian boy,farmer of status but an educated economist… I did the same: I bought his clothes, decided for almost 12 years daily what he had to put on: and he HATED it believe me

I can still hear it from him today, 8 years after divorce…

Vi måste göra fel för att lära oss: I wish I could tell her, but IT WOULD just kill her enthusiasm about “building” the man she wants

So came the train to Lund, they all get off, me too. She walked toward her trophy, kissed him passionately, and looked proud of her project…

I wish them good luck indeed: it works at the beginning and whatever… the most important is the good years they might get to share

Love and shalom to the world

Happy I am getting toward my 50, and today DO NOT NEED TO USE TIME ON SUCH PROJECTS indeed: have funnier project to spend time on… I love you, I take you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE… I AM the change I wanna see in this world, it seems much more easier to deal with

Einige Minuten später

Ben und Kathi sitzen im Wohnzimmer. Isa kommt rein.
Isa:                        Und?
Ben:                      Perfekt.
Isa:                        Was sagst du?
Kathi:                    Passt.
Kathi sieht Ben an.
Kathi:                    Hilfst du mir auch?
Ben:                      Wobei?
Kathi grinst Ben verlegen an. Ben sieht Kathi etwas komisch an.
Ben:                      Sag nicht, dass du auch ein Date hast?
Kathi:                    Doch.
Ben sieht Kathi böse an.
Kathi:                    Was ist denn?
Ben ist sauer.
Ben:                      Kannst du mir das nicht früher sagen?
Kathi:                    Sorry, hab wohl irgendwie vergessen, es zu erwähnen.
Ben:                      Vergessen. Ja, klar.

Betrachte die Welt als dein Selbst,
habe Vertrauen zum Sosein der Dinge,
liebe die Welt als dein Selbst;
dann kannst du dich um alle Dinge kümmern.
Laotse, Tao Te King, Peter Kobbe (Übers.)

Love in German is not as simple as love in Portuguese, Italian or English. Amor, amore, love, liebe can have the same meaning when we translated them literally. Liebe is a natural feeling and an stronger affection that we feel for another person. Amor has multiple meanings. In portuguese can mean affection, compassion, attraction, appetite, passion, wishing well, satisfaction, achievement, desire. You have to be very carefully before use the word Liebe.

I learned that the German language and the Germans are very, very carefully on they way to express themselves. This accuracy helps the communication, it is not as common to have something with two meanings, except when they want it. In Portuguese it is normal to say that we love someone, a friend, family or even a love, our partner. We love the sun, love swimming, love a food or love to travel … and there are those people who call everyone amor and not really feel something so strong, only use the word in a loving way.

In Germany it is difficult to hear someone saying I love you (Ich liebe dich). This phrase even between couples still means a lot. If you hear Ich liebe dich  tell me how it was (hehehe) And … congratulations, you seduced him or her is clear that for every rule there is an exception … but I have not I heard of it… yet

When someone is very close, all they can say is: Ich habe dich lieb or Ich habe dich gerne, which literally translated would be, I have love with love and I got you with pleasure. Those expressions are also not so common. Yes, the Germans don’t express their feelings in public and not for everyone. We must stay for a long period with them and be close to having the freedom to say something or hear it.

Oh, these Germans… (?) But you know, I understand their side. I don’t say that I like or do not like, just understand … All they need to say, really make sense. The word liebe must only be used with someone really special.

Wow, love in German is not so simple

The most important thing I learned in Germany was to give value to these small details. Recognition it is not something normal and phrases like: you are beautiful today,  you did a nice job and I love your company, are not as common to hear as in Brazil. * – * When you get a compliment, a demonstration of affection directed to you … will see how it will be a very special moment and you will never forget.

After 3 months of work, just got used to not receiving compliments. If my job was being fulfilled, there was no need for compliments. Compliments are given when we do something exceptional, beyond expectations. One day, I received an SMS thanking, praising me and I think it was one of the happiest moments I lived in Germany

It is for these and others I fell in love with the German language, the words bring a very strong symbolism, a story, a custom, a value and we must be very careful using each one of them.

Amar em alemão não é tão simples como amar em português, italiano ou em inglês. Amor, amore, love, liebe podem ter o mesmo significado quando traduzidos de forma literal. Liebe é sentimento mais singular e o afeto mais forte que um a pessoa é capaz de sentir por outra. O amor tem múltiplos significados na língua portuguesa, podendo significar afeição, compaixão, misericórdia, ou ainda, inclinação, atração, apetite, paixão, querer bem, satisfação, conquista, desejo. Na hora de utilizar a palavra liebe é preciso ser bem cauteloso.

Eu aprendi que o idioma alemão e os próprios alemaes são muito, mas muito precisos no que dizem. Isso ajuda na comunicação, pois não  é tão comum algo ter dois sentidos, a não ser quando eles querem. Em português  é normal dizermos que amamos alguém, seja um amigo, família ou um amor mesmo, o nosso parceiro. Podemos amar o sol, amar nadar, amar uma comida ou amar viajar… também há aquelas pessoas que chamam todo mundo de amor e, nem por isso sentem algo tão forte, só usam a palavra de forma carinhosa.

Na Alemanha é difícil ouvir alguém dizer um eu te amo ( Ich liebe dich). Essa frase  émais usada entre casais e mesmo assim significa muito. Se você ouvir um Ich liebe dich de um alemão venha me contar como foi (hehehe) E… parabéns, você seduziu ele ou ela  é claro que para toda regra existe uma exceção… mas eu ainda não tomei conhecimento da mesma :P

Quando alguém  é muito próximo, o máximo que podem dizer  é: Ich habe dich lieb ou Ich habe dich gerne, que traduzidos de forma literal seriam, eu tenho você com amor e eu tenho você com gosto. Essas expressões também não sao tão comuns. Sim, os alemães não expressam seus sentimentos em publico e nem para todo mundo.  é preciso conviver muito tempo com algum e ser próximo para ter a liberdade de dizer algo assim e/ou ouvir isso.

Ai, como esses alemães são heim? Mas sabe, eu entendi o lado deles, não digo que gosto nem que não gosto, só entendo… Tudo o que eles dizem precisa realmente fazer sentido, então liebe só deve ser usada com alguém realmente especial.

Nossa, amar em alemão não  é tão simples

A coisa mais importante que eu aprendi na Alemanha foi a dar valor a esses pequenos detalhes. Reconhecimento la não é algo normal e frases como: você esta bonita hoje, que trabalho legal você fez e eu adoro sua companhia, não são tão comuns de se ouvir como no Brasil. *-* Quando um elogio chegar, uma demonstração de afeto ser direcionada a você… ira perceber como será um momento muito especial que jamais poderá esquecer.

Depois de 3 meses de trabalho, acostumada a não receber elogios já que eu estava fazendo o que deveria ser feito. Se minha tarefa estava sendo cumprida, não precisava de elogios. Elogios são dados quando fazemos algo excepcional, fora do esperado. Um dia, recebi um SMS me elogiando e agradecendo e eu acho que foi um dos momentos mais felizes que eu vivi na Alemanha

E é por essas e outras que eu me apaixonei pela língua alemã, as palavras trazem um simbolismo muito forte, uma historia, um costume, um valor e é preciso tomar muito cuidado quando for utilizar cada uma delas.

Zeitblende

Kathi und Ben sind fertig gestylt und stehen in der Küche vor einem leeren Kühlschrank. Das Einzige das in dem Kühlschrank ist, sind zwei Dosen Coke.
Ben:                      Sorry, hab vergessen einzukaufen.
Kathi:                    Typisch Ben.
Ben:                      Willst du ’ne Coke?
Kathi:                    Ne, danke.
Ben nimmt sich eine Dose und trinkt einen Schluck.
Ben:                      Ich hab Hunger.
Kathi:                    Wenn du mich nach Hause bringst, können wir bei uns frühstücken.
Ben:                      Wir könnten auch ins OCPS was essen gehen.
Kathi:                    Wenn du zahlst.
Ben:                      Denkst du echt ich würd meine Kleine zahlen lassen?
Kathi:                    Wie oft denn noch? Ich bin NICHT klein!
Ben geht vom Kühlschrank weg zu Kathi.
Ben:                      Sorry, Sweety. Ich hab’s nicht so…..
Ben stolpert über seine eigenen Füße und somit bekommt Kathi die Coladose über ihre Klamotten.
Kathi:                    BEN!
Ben liegt am Boden der Küche.
Ben:                      AU!
Kathi kniet sich zu Ben. Die beiden sehen sich an und beginnen lauthals zu lachen. Kathi beruhigt sich als Erste wieder.
Kathi:                    So…..
Kathi zeigt an sich hinunter.
Kathi:                    ….. geh ich aber nicht ins OCPS.
Ben:                      Dann zieh dir doch was anderes an.
Kathi:                    Toll und was?
Ben:                      Ach ja.
Ben überlegt kurz, geht dann aus der Küche. Kur darauf komm er kommt mit einer Jeans und einem Shirt von sich in die Küche.
Ben:                      Das hier.
Kathi:                    Ist nicht dein Ernst, oder?

… und alles zu Fuß, mit dem Fahrrad, mit Bus und Bahn

Wie ich das Pendeln lernen kann!!!

Mein Pendel ist auf folgende Richtungen programmiert.

Ja =  eine senkrechte Bewegung (vor-zurück)

Nein = eine waagerechte Bewegung (links-rechts)

Positiv = kreisende Bewegung nach Links

Negativ = Kreisende Bewegung nach rechts

Stillstand = Keine Antwort

Nehm dir einen Stift und ein Stück Papier, notier Dir für den Anfang deine Fragen,

was ich für sehr wichtig halte frage bei jedem Pendeln ( nicht bei jeder Frage)

ob dein Pendel heute mit dir arbeiten möchte.

Pendel Amethyst

Bedanke dich stets für jede Antwort! Ich zünde wie beim Kartenlegen eine weiße Kerze an.

Wahl des Pendels bleibt eigentlich jedem selbst überlassen.

Meine Vorlieben sind Edelsteinpendel in Kugelform oder Zylinderform.

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http://www.spirit-of-love.jimbo.com/

I cannot recommend it enough. It’s unique. It’s European at its best.
Prepare for innocence and decandence put together masterfully.

Other films like Jesus, You Know, 2003 (Jesus, Du weisst) or Models, 1999 are also amazing.