What is happiness anyway?
View from Wit's End 1 day ago More from this authorIt hit me across the back of the head like an angry parent. There I was, minding my own business, wallowing about in a mopey state of woe at my dissatisfaction with my own life, when reality bit me fair on the butt. Hard. I regularly bang on (and on, and on) about the importance of independence, that is, not seeking a partner to complete ones-self, but rather, ones who complements us. I rant on about the importance of goals, incremental personal improvement and such like… so why am I so damned miserable? My life has entered into a holding pattern. I’ve fallen into the WAITING trap. Perhaps you’re familiar with it? “When I’ve got X job – I’ll be happy”. “When I buy X, my life will change”. “When I weigh X, I’ll like myself”… I’ve been expecting to wake up one morning and miraculously find that I’m living the life I want. Why? Because I’ve been valuing short-term gain over long-term happiness. That’s important, let me say it again: When we value short-term pleasure over










