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I came back from walking the dog in a blue funk. I was feeling worthless, I couldn’t believe my husband loves me, that I deserve his respect, he just does the dishes, laundry, walks dogs, buys groceries, works on the house, fixes things, etc. 1,067 more words

Family Relations

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

The Clash, an English punk rock band sang a song about this topic: ” Should I stay or should I go now?  If I go there will be trouble.   846 more words


Once a Cheater ALWAYS a Cheater?

Well, is this true?

How could we know?

It would be so good to know if this were true wouldn’t it.  However there is no simple answer to this.   908 more words


The Other Woman

I don’t know how normal this is, but I have developed a morbid fascination with the woman who chose to have sex with my husband.  I suspect some wives may handle the situation by not wanting to know, but for me and my inquisitive nature I have felt compelled to find out more about her.  2,700 more words


Is agreeing to work on my marriage after my husband’s infidelity an act of generosity, self preserving behaviour or sado-masochism?

I have been asking myself a version of this question since the disclosure of my husband’s infidelity (August 3rd 2012) and our subsequent decision to attempt to repair our marriage rather than seek a divorce.  1,075 more words


Turning an ugly affair into a beautiful repaired marriage

I have recently come across a beautiful Japanese concept that has helped me to visualise and articulate what has been happening in my marriage following the disclosure of my husband’s affair.  525 more words

Marriage Recovery

Healer, Not Whipping Boy

If you have read much of my blog, you know that one of my areas of specialization is treating sexual addiction.  Whether addiction is involved or not, if there has been sexual infidelity or other betrayals of trust in the relationship, the partner is often traumatized.  1,066 more words