It was a great read detailing what to do when, following a disaster, the world descends into chaos. It’s not so much a “how to” book as it is one mans journey of discovery through a sea of red herrings.

With Strauss’ prior release,”The Game” he infiltrates the secret society of pick-up artists, eventually becoming one himself.  That book is often misunderstood as being a seedy step-by-step guide to seduction. It would be more accurately described as a cautionary tale about power and excess, one that should be examined rather than put into practice. Throughout “Emergency” you are educated and informed and it certainly causes you to wonder… what would I do in that situation?

Notable Quotable

Perhaps survival, like success, is just a matter of talent, luck and timing… Neil Strauss

A more thorough review can be found at the blog of Dana M Richardson.

Let me guess. You’re a guy who searched for dating tips that would help you in getting a date. Or maybe you like this girl and wants to date her but you don’t know how to ask her. A lot of guys have the same problem and they conveniently search for the answer sitting in front of their computers surfing the net. Then they would find a lot of dating tips that will tell them what to do, what to say, how to act, etc. I have to admit they can be quite effective.

You may have learned about the “cocky comedy” from David DeAngelo, the mystery method from Mystery, or the Inner Game From Neil Strauss. But I guess the best dating tip could be this:

Take Action.

You may have heard it from anybody so I wouldn’t take credit for it. The thing here is that all those tips and advices you got from David DeAngelo or other famous dating gurus will be nothing if you just spend your time reading all the theories and not taking action. Some guys would actually make those research an excuse in delaying the action.

After reading some tips, you don’t actually have to memorize all the steps on what you should do. You just need to have an idea on how things actually work in dating. Then you should go out and practice what you have learned. Don’t worry about failure or rejection because it happens to everyone. According to PUA, Julian Foxx, you have to know how to deal with rejection and you should not fear it.

I know its never easy. So taking action could mean that you may also have to really TAKE ACTION by going to the next level. Not by directly applying the theories you’ve learned but by attending trainings and bootcamps wherein you can be more exposed in the dating community and be trained by real experts.

Reading all those theories will be useless if you don’t take action. So go out and start having fun!

Half way there! Pick up artists are half way there!

What if they spent all that time they allocate to manipulating women to create a better world with that fundamental understanding?

Its not just women that are susceptible to manipulation…we all are. Fuck, I bet he made a million bucks off this stuff…….whos the sucker?

If there was anything I’d learned, it’s that a man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him.

–Neil Strauss, The Game, pg. 434

i’m not so sure i agree with this. it’s one of the few statements in Strauss’s book that made me pause, re-read, and think, “i just don’t know about that.” you take two people—male/female, female/female, male/male—and sure you could say that person A gave person B the option to choose them. but person B could also see it that way. that statement gives entirely too much power to one person. both parties in a relationship have an equal chance to choose or refuse the other, at any point in the relationship. i mean, neil chose lisa but lisa also chose him. he chose her to try the whole monogamous-make-a-real-relationship-work thing; not isabel or jennifer 1 or jennifer 2 or hailey or any other of the 1000s of girls he met. he chose lisa to try it with. and lisa eventually reciprocated that feeling. she gave him an opportunity to chose her just like he gave her an opportunity to chose him. but its not as simple as the woman always chooses the man in a heterosexual relationship. both parties choose each other and both parties present the opportunity to choose to the other person. i think that that statement stems partially from the AFC mentality Strauss talks about—or widespread human mentality in my opinion—that basically says “Of course i’d choose her/him, but i am not good enough to be chosen so all i can do is hope that she/he chooses me, all i can do is present her/him with the opportunity to choose me.” that whole line of thinking is completely opposite of the mentality PUA supposedly develop, completely opposite of all the best things Strauss learned from the Seduction Sub-culture.

for me personally, you could say that frankie only presented me with an opportunity to choose him in february. but i see it as him picking me, choosing me, opening my eyes to the possibility of my life with him in it. you could see it either way. but i just don’t think its as simple as one person choosing the other. people choose each other and continue choosing each other, whether its for a day, a night, a weekend, months, years, or a lifetime.

(alone-heart)

In searching for any good dating advice, most of you might be expecting some do’s and don’ts or come across at some articles or videos of David DeAngelo or Neil Strauss. Surely they can be a lot of help. Knowing the basics of dating will help you get through it successfully and will have a better chance of having a second date with the same person. Though some men may need other kinds of dating advice. If you are not sure what type of advice you need, you may check on the following:

1. Beginners. These are the types of advice that are suited for beginners like the one mentioned above, the basic do’s and dont’s of dating. Like who gets to pay the bill, where to take your date, and the likes.

2. If you think you’re not a guy whom girls would likely to throw their attention at first sight, then you should check those dating tips for guys on how to improve yourself. Examples of this is how to improve your scent, to be clean or tidy looking, etc.

3. If you want to learn how other guys, especially the pickup artist, can sleep with girls on their first date, then you should be looking for seduction tips. Though these kinds of advice are more advanced.

4. Relationship advice. Some men are seeking a more serious advice and not just about dating some girls. They are looking for advice about winning a woman’s heart.

5. Understanding women. Though you will not really search for advice on how to understand women, you may still find some stuff about them. Sometimes, or maybe most of the times, it helps to know how women thinks. An interesting example of this is Julian Foxx’s explanation on how the women’s menstrual cycle affects their preference of men.

If you are really serious on improving yourself and developing some dating skills, then finding some tips may not be enough. Try attending some trainings and bootcamps. You’ll be more exposed on how things really work in the dating community. Learn from the experts.

Don’t Stop Believing – Glee Cast Version

november notables:
~i got the job at ruby! as of tomorrow, i’ll be a ruby receptionist. its a beautiful thing. i’m excited to go to work. nervous and scared, but still excited. less afraid of talking on the phone, thanks to vesta. but this is slightly more complicated and challenging but its a fantastic environment. i just hope i really fit in…and don’t worry, i love cupcakes

~i bought the glee soundtrack…shhhhhh! don’t tell frankie. he’d just give me a reality check that i already gave myself in my head…but i feel bad. i stress out about money and then buy glee. but it was only $11.99! have the songs stuck in my head anyway…i ♥ glee…i’m all about music anyways, i have an unhealthy addiction to tv shows (most of them not too embarrassing), and glee is just so good! anyways, glee = happy.

~developed an intense desire to puzzle it up. started at the cabin, reinforced by vesta (i mean who doesn’t want to make a picture of tigers, or pigs, or rivers while being yelled at or repeating yourself over and over for hours?), and the relatively cheap prices of freddy’s puzzles. found a crazy cool 1000 piece one. scrapped the black and white cat. we’re not at the level yet. currently working on some tigers and sky. only thing left to complete is the left side of the sky, all black and dark blue.

~have eaten an inordinate amount of mini poppyseed muffins.

~finished The Game. very intriguing, insightful, and absorbing. sub-cultures have this strange attraction signal they put out i’ve decided. not in the mood to offer a book review (gotta get to bed soon), and i need to let it sink in. but it does seem to me that neil strauss came to the same essential conclusion that many others have come to: life is meant to be lived; it is unhealthy to become overly obsessed or entranced by any one thing, person, lifestyle, etc.; the only person or thing that can fill the hole inside you is yourself and your own discovery–women, men, drugs, obsessions, work, etc. don’t work; the real value of your life lies in the people in it.

~you are never too young  to feel love–romantic or otherwise.

~i want lightman group (on lie to me) to be real and i want to work for them.

this makes me happy:

throwback halloweeners

Recap of Day 1:

I forgot to mention yesterday that Mission 2 of Day 1 involved me opening five strangers.  While that never really seemed to be a problem for me, I figured if I’m going to do this I might as well follow step for step just to see if this works.  So I cheated a little bit.  My job calls on me to open complete strangers, sometimes at least 20 a day.  I did try to take it a step further though and create small talk conversation and there really is nothing worth mentioning.

I did open this one HB 6-7, (Question: Are they still called HB’s if they are 6?  Because that seems kind of contradictory.)  who was in her 20s and talked to her for a while.  I did receive a few IOI’s as she was initially working with someone else but ditched him for my assistance.  I tossed in a few negs here and there but nothing really too serious.

The highlight of the exchange was that there was this man who knew the girl, I assume he was a friend’s father.  As I type this I realize now that I should have said, “How do you two know each other?”  But I think I picked that up when they were talking.  I did continue the conversation with both of them for a few minutes but I really didn’t close at all.  I couldn’t help but think that the father was trying to get some from his daughter’s friend since he stuck around.

Well, lets get on with the show.

Day 2 involves answering more questions.  This time goal related:

1.  What three accomplishments would you like to achieve to make you happier?

Getting my career started in something that I want to do.

Moving to the west coast where girls don’t need to layer their clothing to stay warm.

Getting my social life back in order.

2.  What are the reasons these accomplishments will make you happier?

(Shit, I know this routine.)  I will become more independent and I would be doing things that I enjoy and that I want to do.

3.  What is your personal mission?

I will become my greatest self (my role) who will take on the world (my claim to fame) with 3 days/weeks/years. (I don’t think I did this one right.)

4.  List three specific results that will let you know that you’ve accomplished your mission.  (For example, “I will have earned $200,000,” “I will have lost thirty pounds,” or “I will have won five Academy Awards.”)

1. I will have earned (action verb) $1,000,000 (number) by the time I am 30. (aspect)

2. I will have hit up (action verb) at least 2 (number) HB 10s.  (aspect)

3. I will have found (action verb) 1 job (number) that makes me want to be there.   (aspect)

5.  Why are you now fully committed to pursuing your personal mission?

Life is too short to let it pass you by without trying to get the most out of it.

Because if I don’t pursue it now, I will continue to suffer over the next years and

• my social life will decrease/get worse/fail
• my career will decrease/get worse/fail
• my impact in this world will decrease/get worse/fail

But if I do pursue it now, I will enjoy the next years and

• my dreams will increase/improve/come true
• my quality of girlfriend will increase/improve/come true
• my impact on the world will increase/improve/come true

Off to meet 5 more strangers.

In this Issue:

Aaron’s World: Why I love the Re-Store and why you will, too

Special Report: Are you prepared for survival? 

Featured Article: Focus on investments you control 

Recommended Resources: “Confessions of a Real Estate Mini-Mogul”

Aaron’s World

Have you ever been to the Habitat for Humanity Re-Store? If not, you need to check it out. The Re-Store carries used (and in some cases brand-new) items from and for home remodels, and at steep discounts. I’ve been sending my own clients to the Re-Store on Bassett Drive (one block behind Madison Ave, near Wal-Mart) since they’ve opened, yet I never managed to venture through the doors myself until this weekend when I did a few projects around the house. Not only are the staff of volunteers helpful and friendly—the prices are tough to beat. Next time you’re looking to do some home improvement projects, and don’t want to spend a bundle, check out the Re-Store…and tell ‘em Aaron sent ya!

By the way, if you’d like to be my Facebook friend, head on over to http://www.facebok.com/aaronjgardner and add me. In the Notes, put “Real Estate Hotdish” so I recognize you.

Special Report

Are You Prepared for Survival?

Recently, I’ve read a couple of columns that predict the recession is not easing, as some are saying, but that instead the worst is yet to come.

I think that reasoning makes sense in some ways. For example, the fact that gold continues to rise indicates that investors are betting that inflation will become an issue, despite what the feds are telling us. It also makes sense that as our aging population moves wealth from the young to the older people in our society, the large percentage of “savers” rather than “spenders” in the U.S. population will slow any recovery.

All the talk of “the worst is yet to come” and the “next financial disaster” reminded me of a book I read — “Emergency,” by Neil Strauss — earlier this year.

Now, I firmly believe there is opportunity to add to wealth during these tough economic times. Don’t get me wrong. But I also believe there are steps we can take to prepare for the worst, just in case. I am big on backup plans. So amid talk of the next financial disaster coming, ask yourself:  

Can I survive a financial disaster?  

In Neil’s book, he details his own story, how he went from fearful of events largely beyond his control to self-confident in his preparation for such events — controlling what he can.  

Instead of remaining in this fearful state, he decided to prepare himself for what he feared. I found this to be very educational. Today, many people are worried about their financial futures.  

However, they don’t seem to be taking any action to prepare themselves. They worry about their jobs. They worry about their retirement. They worry about having enough money to pay their bills. They worry about funding their children’s’ college education. They worry, worry, worry….  

I certainly understand this fear. What I don’t understand is the lack of action to mitigate these challenges. Why don’t more people do more to prepare?  

Think of this in a different way. Let’s assume that for some reason some deadly gang were out to get you and your family. Would you just sit in your home and wait for them to come crashing through the door? Probably not.

You would probably take several precautionary steps to prevent or avoid their attack. You might get an alarm system. You might get new locks. You might arm yourself and have the police department watch your home more closely. You might go on an extended vacation. Hell, you might even move.  

If you felt this concern for your safety, you would take action, wouldn’t you? Well, how come people don’t take the same action when they have the same threats to their financial well-being?

I honestly don’t know.

The only way to eliminate worry is through preparation. Neil Strauss learned skills that would help him in the event of a physical crisis. He is now prepared.

Here are a few questions you should ponder:

1. What skills do you need to survive a financial crisis?

2. What would you need to be able to do in order to have complete peace of mind over your financial situation?

3. What would you do if you lost all of your money tomorrow?

You need to ask yourself these tough questions. And come up with answers. I predict that, like Neil Strauss, doing so and being prepared for the worst will give you the courage and confidence you need to make your current situation better.

Feature Article  

Focus on Investments You Control  

Control is a very, very important part of wealth-building. There are lessons all over right now about what happens when you don’t control your investments. The Bernie Madoff ponzi scheme and the failing of some 529 college savings plans are a couple of recent examples of what can happen when you give up control.  

Let’s start out with my definition of control:  

Investing Control: The ability to influence or impact the future value and net income of the investment.  

Investing control is important for almost any type of investment.

For the stock market, this means controlling a majority of a company’s shares. Now, this is extremely difficult for average people, like you and me. This is why we should invest a smaller portion of our money into the stock market.  

However, you could invest and obtain control of smaller, non-public companies. By having control, you can directly impact the growth, income and expenses of your investment.  

For real estate, the best investors want active control over their properties. Active control can be obtained in partnerships and individual investments alike. Most people would rather be passive real estate investors. The tiny few who grow wealthy prefer to be active investors.  

The majority of families focus their investments into assets they do not control. This is why they struggle to accumulate “real” wealth. This is also why many people will not have enough money accumulated when they retire.  

In fact, it boggles my mind that most people prefer not to be in control of their investments. They would much rather have an mutual fund planner, stockbroker or someone else control their money. “Done for you” wealth is not available. You are going to have to do much of it yourself. You do it by controlling assets.  

It is perfectly fine to invest a small portion of your money into investments you do not control. But I would be very careful investing large sums of your money into uncontrollable investments. I have investments into assets that I do not control. However, these investments represent a small portion of my net worth. I have control over the assets in which the majority of my money is invested.

These same assets also represent the largest portion of my net worth.  

If you study wealthy people, you’ll quickly see that they do the exact opposite of everyone else. They desire, fight for and cherish control. Everyone else desires, cherishes and pays big money to have no control. Notice the difference.  

I remember reading a biography on Kirk Kerkorian, a billionaire. In every single investment Kerkorian made, he fought for control. When he didn’t have control over an investment, he quickly divested himself of the investment. Same goes for Wayne Huzienga, who built three separate billion-dollar companies (Waste Management, Blockbuster and Republic Industries).  

I believe most people prefer passive investments because they are easier. Passive investments allow the investor to invest without having to take any responsibility. Passive investments do not require the investor to be decisive. Passive investments do not require the investor get his hands dirty.  

Control requires that you take responsibility for your investments. Control requires you to be active. Control requires that you pay attention. Control requires that you be decisive. Control requires you to roll up your sleeves and get dirty every once in awhile. Some believe control is risky. I believe lack of control is risky.  

Once you have control of your investment, you should work hard to increase its value. You increase value by increasing its income.  

One of the most valuable wealth-building skills you can have in life is the ability to increase the net income of your investments. With this skill, you can literally write your own ticket.  

For example, Kerkorian purchased enough stock to control MGM Studios in the late 1960s. By the early 1970s, he had built the MGM Grand hotel in Las Vegas. This hotel and casino dramatically impacted the value of MGM’s stock. Guess what happened to Kirk’s wealth? Within three years, his wealth was in excess of $100 million.  

This is how powerful control can be. Could Kerkorian have created $100 million if he wasn’t in control? No.  

You must strive for control over your investments. Control is critical for true wealth. Don’t be lazy. Don’t copy the masses and happily turn over control to your hard earned money.  

Recommended Resources 

Confessions of a Mini Real Estate Mogul

 I highly recommend Jim Pockross’s book titled “Confessions of a Real Estate Mini-Mogul.” In the book, Jim shares his journey building an apartment-building empire, encompassing more than 270 units.  

He details his first few investments, how he raised the funds to acquire each one and the results of the investment. In addition, he shares stories of challenges with building inspectors, pit bulls, ghosts and more.  

Jim started investing in the 1980s when interest rates were in the double-digit range. Sellers were motivated, and buyers and investors weren’t interested in real estate. In other words, it was a down market, somewhat similar to today’s real estate market.  

The properties he acquired during this time turned out to be enormously profitable for him and his partners. He bought when others were selling. In many of his investments, he got partners to help raise funds to buy the property. He also had sellers finance purchases so he didn’t have to qualify for a loan with a lending institution. Something investors today should consider doing, too!  

If you’ve ever thought about real estate investing, or if you just want an entertaining and educational look at real estate, pick up a copy for yourself.  

Have a great week!  

Aaron Gardner, Realtor®

Realty Executives River Valley

Direct: 507-344-3383

I’ve been hearing a lot from desperate friends who are looking for significant partners. Both males & females alike. Myself included.

Its a problem for many which, in turn made “dating guides for men” one of the best sellers. Books like “The Game” classifies these hungry lovebirds as AFC – Average Frustrated Chumps. Man who don’t get what women wants, and get frustrated every time they see a beautiful lady.

Here’s what I think.

Looking for a lover, is very much like looking for a job.

Do you know what that means?

How many people are really happy with their jobs? Not many.

And how many people really get what they want? Not many.

Maybe you like to sing or you enjoy dancing. What about taking care of animals? Or perhaps you are like me, someone who’s into arts. What are the chances of you doing what you want?

Here’s why I think people don’t get their jobs.

1) They are not desperate enough

2) They are not good enough

How does this apply to “finding love”?

1) If you’re desperate, you sent out hundreds of resumes hoping that someone gives a hoot about it. Your resume is what makes the first impression

When it comes to dating, your profiles on social networking sites are your resumes. You probably need to choose your best photos to attract. People won’t even click on you if they aren’t attracted to how you look.

Its like your cover letter. Its the first impression. It has been proven that ladies who show off their cleavage gets more friends and requests. Similarly these ladies won’t take interest in a guy who doesn’t appeal to them.

In a nutshell, be desperate enough to decorate your profile. People judge base on how it is. If you have little photographs like myself, people assume that you’re either ugly or simply a geek who doesn’t go out.

2) Everyone wants a hot girl friend like Megan. If you hear a guy telling you otherwise, he’s trying very hard to make a good impression.

So, how many out there are good enough for Megan? Dating guides talk about looking your best, and being your best self. To be confident and naturally charming. WTF is that?

Some men are born with good looks. These are the assholes who doesn’t need to do a thing for women to flock over. Others have a natural talent to flirt with the opposite sex.

What about you. What do you have?

If you’re rich, use it. If you have a 6 pack ab, show it. lol. I’m kidding.

Basically we all have to think twice about what we want, and be practical with ourselves. The bottom line is this, if you want someone perfect, you’ve to at least be half as good. If you want to work in a reputable firm, you better have alot to offer.

Just like a job interview, you have to sell yourself! Dress smart, no tight or oversized T-shirts. Speak with confidence &  laugh at everything that’s supposed to be funny.

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To sum it up, looking for a partner is  like looking for a job. It doesn’t pay to work hard.

Work smart, and get laid paid.

- Loyalover

Disclaimer:

Above post is an attempt to be funny while relating back to  “New Media Technology” and “Professional Preparation”. I’m not an expert in dating nor do i claim to be.

Cheers~!

Superstar – Taylor Swift

1) thinking about this song…its funny how you can break all your rules for the right people. ok, well maybe not all the rules all the time, but most of the rules at least. not saying its a bad thing…

2) i’m an english major. er, i mean, i have an english degree. hehe. but my posts are filled with bad grammar, random and incorrect punctuation, basically zero capitalization, and a general lack of decent writing skills. ¿por que? honestly, i can’t stand grammar (which i don’t even remember how to spell half the time, even though i’m decent at spelling), capitalization is overrated in my personal life, ditto for punctuation [unless its elipsies (...) or dashes (---)], and i’m generally pretty informal outside of essays and school work (which is no longer a part of my life…at least until i finish my application and hopefully get accepted to portland state for the summer). buuut, notice all my fancy punctuation, i.e. parentheses and brackets, in that last sentence? also, i’m a fan of adding extra letters to words. its the inner author. who may never actually see the light of day unless i take some more writing classes. another blog for another time. entitled, well subtitled, classes i wish i would have taken/will find somewhere to take…hopefully.

3) Next book on my list: The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss. why? because i need to pick up women on the side, obviously. not so much, as i’m in a very happy and healthy relationship. its really about psychology, which i love…and wish was a double major in. also another blog. anyways, back to mr. strauss’s book. frankie told me there was a lot of psychology in it. figured if the first few pages of the book captured me then i’d try it out. so they did, but i was trying to finish The Beet Queen by Louise Erdirch—which btw, took me FOREVER to finish. partially because of time and partially because it didn’t quite draw me in like her other books. at first yes and at different parts, but some parts i just wasn’t that invested in. but back to The Game. gonna try reading some more tonight. started in peet’s coffee shop in lake o where frankie and i spent the later part of the afternoon, reading, talking to parentals, and working our way through my family tree. then to best buy, the apple store, and kelly’s to say hi, see a little bit of Hocus Pocus, and apparently get halloween costumes. nice day off.

4) not in the mood for transitions, hence the numbers.

5) themes in taylor’s songs: jeans, eyes, 2am, little black dress, fathers, rain, pebbles/rocks at the window, invisible, summer,  tuesdays (that’s really only 2 songs), breath/breathe, night.

catch up on medium time. turtle out.

]]> http://pickupartistguide.wordpress.com/2009/10/26/mystery-worlds-greatest-pickup-artist/ Mon, 26 Oct 2009 20:11:43 +0000 Taylore http://pickupartistguide.wordpress.com/2009/10/26/mystery-worlds-greatest-pickup-artist/

If you’re watching VH1’s The Pickup Artist Reality Show, then you may well know Mystery the pickup artist.  Aside from being featured in the VH1 reality show, he is also a main character in the book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss.

Mystery regarded himself as the “world’s greatest pickup artist” although some may disagree. There are a lot of pickup artists in the seduction community and some of them may be greater than him when it comes to picking up girls. But that can really be a subjective matter.

Though some guys (or even girls) would not agree with Mystery as the world’s greatest pua, his works and contributions in the community are indeed remarkable. The Mystery Method, for one, has been proven to be very useful and effective in pickup. He has also contributed some terms or jargons in the community:

* Set – A group of two or more people which a man would have to approach and befriend in order to be able to woo his “target” girl. “Beautiful women are rarely found alone.”

* Peacocking – Dressing to stand out, or to have an item of clothing or an accessory that looks interesting, allowing the girl to comment on it if she is interested in starting a conversation with you.

* The 3-second Rule – If you see a girl you are interested in, you must approach her within three seconds or you will over-think things and create too much approach anxiety and analysis paralysis, and you will risk her seeing you staring at her.

* Neg – A backhanded compliment intended to snub a potential mate (“target”), telegraph a lack of interest (“false disqualification”), encourage the target to prove her worth (“qualify”), and simultaneously disarm ‘obstacles’ such as protective male or female friends.

source: wikepedia.org

Mystery is one of the founders of the Mystery Method Corporation. In 2006 Mystery left the company and ventured on his own company called Venusian Arts. The Mystery Method Corp. has since changed its name to Love Systems.

Another contribution of Mystery in the community is his book, The Mystery Method: How to get Beautiful Women into Bed.

All the popularity of a pickup artist may go to Mystery but in reality, there are a lot of great pickup artists in the community who gives trainings and conducts bootcamps to help guys in developing their dating skills. Some guys would prefer to go with underground puas because of Mystery’s overexposure and too much commercialization.

Mystery is not the only one who has had great contributions in the community. Dating coach, David DeAngelo, had significant contributions in the community as well as Neil Strauss.

The beauty about having an open forum policy on a blog means the comment section can be run on autopilot. The patrons of In Mala Fide are a passionate but civilized lot, who know to not put their feet on the furniture and to respect the rules of the house. As I’ve been strapped for time lately, I didn’t notice that Susan Walsh had responded to my post last week criticizing her until I spotted a trackback on this post. Not wanting to see my reply lost in the shuffle, I’m responding to her response to my response right here. (Try saying that five times fast. I dare you.)

Ferdinand, coming back from two weeks abroad and finding your post is like sitting down to a good crossword puzzle. I enjoy the dialogue, as well as the challenge. Let me say right off that you have my respect. I recently stumbled across your blog through a Google alert, and found it well researched and well written. I follow you on Twitter because I am interested in what you have to say. Although I don’t agree with all of it, I believe you’d be surprised how frequently we’re on the same page. I had no need to bite the bullet to validate Game. We’re fighting for the same thing in different ways, with different populations. You’re on the getting laid side, I’m on the relationship side. For what it’s worth, I consider you a formidable force to be reckoned with.

I don’t really see you, Roissy and T. Max as an unholy triumvirate, though the religious symbolism is appealing. You are indeed a disciple, working tirelessly to spread the gospel of Roissy (or is it Mystery?), a doctrine that has successfully captured the hearts and minds of a great number of youngish men (though not all of mankind, as one might suppose from reading your blogs). And why shouldn’t you spread the Word? As I acknowledge in my own writing, Game works. It is awesomely effective. When a guy writes to me and tells me all he wants is to get laid, I’ll be more than happy to point him to Roissy, or you.

A little bit about where I’m coming from: As roosh pointed out, I’m a management consultant. My background is primarily in economics and marketing, two disciplines that lend themselves very well to analyzing relationships. I’m 53, mother of a 22 year-old son and 20 year-old daughter, married for 25 years to a man who was most definitely born beta. His high IQ, work ethic, and education enabled him to climb the social ladder and enjoy high mating value in his mid-20s, which is when I met him. It was parenting that got me interested in hookup culture (and Tom Wolfe’s “I Am Charlotte Simmons). I write Hooking Up Smart because I love to do it, and because a lot of people respond to it. Not so much for the pennies, though I’d be happy to buy you a cup of coffee next time you’re in Boston. One reader told me I’m like “a mom without the “I told you so.”” That sums it up pretty well.

Game is marketing. Plain and simple. As a strategy, it is effective in helping men to get laid. I believe one commenter on Roissy said, “this blog is all about screwing.”

Reading this made me feel like radio talk show host and lesbian Bill Cunningham who, whenever a caller refers to him as “a great American,” responds with a haughty, egotistical “Yes I am.” Though I protest your characterization of me as a mere “disciple” of Roissy’s. While his ideas have influenced me considerably, I was aware of and was studying and perfecting game well before I encountered his blog.

You describe yourself as an average-looking guy. Let’s say you’re a physical 5 and a mental 9 or 10. (I won’t ask you if your teeth are white and straight, or if you have six-pack abs, or a great head of hair with no sign of recession, because I don’t want to hurt your feelings.) You went through high school and college feeling like you didn’t exist for girls. Maybe you even got laughed at. You were a virgin a lot longer than you’d like to admit. Frat rats and dumb jocks got all the ass. Eventually, you got mad as hell, and you decided you weren’t going to take it anymore. Who could blame you?

There seems to be this meme running around claiming that guys who got into the game did so because they were “mad as hell” virgins or envious of “frat rats and dumb jocks [getting] all the ass.” In fact, what I noticed before discovering game was that many guys who were physically unremarkable and all-around losers saw more action then guys who had everything going for them, and the pop culture explanations for this phenomena didn’t fit. I was curious and sought answers. I lost my virginity in high school, and had had girlfriends prior to discovering game, but all of those instances were the result of dumb luck rather then any conscious action on my part. By learning game, I was able to take my romantic life into my own hands, rather then being at the mercy of the capricious god known as Serendipity.

Enter Roissy. Roissy has the answer. Women like being dominated. It’s true. We all do, to some extent, at least some of the time. Though Roissy was inspired by The Story of O, my favorite example is Lina Wertmuller’s Swept Away (1974, don’t bother with the Madonna remake). Though this film infuriated feminists, I’ve never known a woman who wasn’t seriously turned on by the working man’s debasing treatment of the socialite when the tables are turned and she must rely on him for survival.

Women do penalize guys for being too kind or respectful. See “Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like:”

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/06/11/hookinguprealities/why-nice-guys-ignore-the-girls-they-like/

We’re agreed, a good dose of game is good strategy.

No arguments here.

What I don’t understand about Game is how it could possibly work in the long-term. It’s one thing to spend every night having sex, swearing off marriage and exulting in your dominance over women when you’re 25.

All of the critics say this, and all of the critics are wrong. Dave from Hawaii, one of my colleagues at The Spearhead, has written extensively on how learning game saved his marriage and improved his relationship with his wife. His most relevant writings are here, here, and here. Another example is Sweater from Neil Strauss’s The Game, who entered the seduction community because he wanted to get married and left when he found the woman of his dreams. The principles of game are universal, irregardless of whether the man is looking for easy sex or a wife.

Do you really see yourself pulling ass in bars for the next 40 years? Who do you think will lap up your technique when you’re 50, assuming you’re not worth millions? Even Roissy, pretty boy though he is, will have trouble in a few more years if he’s not showing up in a limo.

Do you not want sons? For that matter, do you not want smart sons?

It’s difficult to pull that sort of thing off, but it is possible. That said, I plan on cashing out and getting married somewhere down the road. Those little Ferdinands and Ferdinandettes aren’t going to sire themselves. I wouldn’t be able to do that if I didn’t have game.

If you had a daughter, born in this era of equalish rights for women, would you celebrate her being utterly degraded sexually? Would you applaud her limping home with a bloody rectum? Would you endorse some guy tossing her a towel and telling her she needs to wipe his cum off her face?

“Bloody rectum”? Remember the old adage about sex – if it hurts, you’re doing it wrong. And if I have a daughter, I’m either outright arranging her marriage for her or having her join the LDS church to marry a nice Mormon boy, as those are the only ways to guarantee she won’t fall into the hands of some scumbag.

Do you feel any desire to be loved in this life by a woman, and to love her unreservedly in return?

As I once said, “all romantic love starts down below.” Unconditional love is a myth.

Do you not understand that the best, mind-blowingest sex requires more than a physical joining?

For chicks, yes, but that’s not my problem. Simple insertion comprises half of what guys consider good sex, and the rest a girl can learn with an instructional video and a spare zucchini.

Do you ever crave the companionship of a female who is smart, interesting or funny?

Game works most effectively on smart and interesting women, because dummies are incapable of grasping its nuances. And contrary to the myths of our time, the beautiful are generally smarter then the ugly.

Someone, in other words, whose IQ may top Roissy’s limit of 120?

Hogamus, higamus,

Men are polygamous,

Higamus, hogamus,

Women, hypergamous.

Women are hardwired to prefer men who are higher in status then them. This includes IQ. Much like how economically independent women are hampered because the number of men who are richer then they shrinks as their own wealth grows, exceptionally smart women are hampered because the number of men smarter then they (or even just as smart as they) is smaller then women with average IQs. Blame female biology. It’s also worth noting that high-IQ people in general are handicapped romantically because they tend to be awkward and lacking in social skills (e.g. nerds, geeks). This mostly harms men, but smart women are afflicted too.

Do you not have women friends who are all these things but only average looking? And do you never develop feelings of any kind for them?

Men fall in love with their eyes, women fall in love with their ears. So sayeth the wisdom of the elders.

Wake up guys, for the geek shall inherit the earth. Geez, look around you. Who do you think is running the show? In the 23 years I have spent raising my children, I have been surrounded by other couples, most of whom have only been married to each other. Many of them met in graduate school. Almost every single successful man in my own social milieu is a beta. They’re the professional class and the thinkers. They are socially dominant and have considerable economic resources. Most of them are average looking. All of them are smart. And they didn’t have to spend ten years as man whores to find good sex.

Susan Walsh, 2009: “Almost every single successful man in my own social milieu is a beta.”

Susan Walsh, 1972: “How did Nixon win? Nobody I know voted for him.”

Extrapolating how society works from your own limited social circle is a scientific FAIL. I’ve traveled in and out of many crowds during my life and for every single successful beta you can name, I can name two or three betas who have given up on the other sex and have retreated into a cocoon of video games and masturbation. The geeks in your social circle are few in number and are being outbred by beta religious fundamentalists, and the alphas are even catching up on them. Again, if your social circle was representative of society at large, there would be no market for the Mysterys and Roissys of the world.

(By the way, as an interesting aside, some very ordinary looking people have absolutely gorgeous kids, and some very unathletic dads find themselves with jocks for sons. Betas sire Alphas, and vice versa. The genetic dice are wonderfully unpredictable.)

Any unathletic dad who has a jock for a son would be well advised to get a paternity test.

As I said in my post, Roissy sums it up best:

“You get what you give, ladies. Give your pussies to assholes, you’ll get nothing but assholes in return.”

That’s what Hooking Up Smart is all about.

And as F. Roger Devlin says (wait, wasn’t that Cary Grant’s character in Notorious?):

“For an ordinary man to mate with a woman, either (1) he must work himself into her field of erotic vision (e.g., by amassing wealth and achieving status — not by demonstrating that he is “kind” and “respectful of women”); or (2) she must take off the blinders and widen her own field of vision until it includes him.”

You’re working on number 1. Hooking Up Smart is all about number 2.

We both want the same thing.

Mrs. Walsh, wanting is irrelevant unless you know how to get from point A to point B. I can want to have a threeway with Sarah Palin and Kirsten Gillibrand (now there’s an image you’ll take with you to the grave), but unless I know how to get there, I might as well forget about it. You may want to help girls, but if your advice is grounded in faulty reasoning, you’re not going to aid anyone. You seem like a forthright and earnest individual, but I’ll be sticking with the ladies over at Girl Game for my estrogen-fused relationship advice fix.

After studying the responses in the open thread, I have now constructed what I believe is a complete and logical definition of game that can serve as a reference. The definition and seven principles contained here are the core of game, or inner game as some call it. These are qualities that all attractive men, irregardless of personal morality and goals, sexual behavior, ethnic origin, or epoch of history possess to some degree, with the apex among them embodying them in full. They are qualities that all women find attractive, also irregardless of the aforementioned factors. So, based on my own opinions, observations, and research as well as your contributions, here is what I’ve got. While I’m almost one hundred percent sure that I’ve got everything down, if you have something more to add, feel free to chime in in the comments. I may end up revising this in the future.

Asterisked names refer to outside sources I used to write this post, a list of which is appended.

game (\ˈgām\), noun – a set of male behaviors, attitudes, actions, and strategies designed to win the sexual attraction of females. SYNONYMS: seduction. (credit: “Game”*, Obsidian)

Principles

• assertiveness – The ability to project your will on the world. The capability to direct situations to your benefit, insert yourself into the center of social interactions, and act on your own volition. (credit: Dave from Hawaii*, Josh Xiong, Roissy*, Strauss*)
• calmness – The ability to remain unaffected by the emotional storms of those around you. The will to be a pillar of stability in a world of chaos. (credit: Dave from Hawaii*, Lupo*, Roissy*)
• confidence – Complete faith in your ability to navigate the world. An unshakable belief in the righteousness of your actions. (credit: Bhetti, Dave from Hawaii*, Lupo*, Roissy*, Strauss*)
• independence – The willingness to carve your own path through the world, while remaining mindful of those connected to you. (credit: “Bowen Theory – Differentiation of Self”*, Eumaios, OneSTDV, Roissy*)
• indifference – The ability to avoid being overly invested in individual outcomes. The foresight to keep your eye on the bigger picture. (credit: Anakin Niceguy, Roissy*, Vörek*)
• presentability – The ability to groom yourself and look good. The possession of style. (credit: Obsidian, Strauss*)
• sociability – The skills to interact with other human beings. The capability to understand, relate to, and engage those around you. The ability to smile when appropriate and not take things too seriously. (credit: Strauss*, Vörek*)

Works Cited

“Bowen Theory – Differentiation of Self.” The Bowen Center.

Dave from Hawaii. “Relationship Dynamics.” Hawaiian Libertarian.

“Game.” Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary.

Lupo. “How to keep your wife happy from a man who knows.” The Butcher’s Block.

Roissy. “The Sixteen Commandments of Poon.” Roissy in DC.

Strauss, Neil. The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. P. 21.

Vörek, Roosh. “Putting Women on a Pedestal.” Roosh V.

Vörek, Roosh. “The Two Things That Tight Game Comes Down To.” Roosh V.

There are many popular pickup artists in the dating community. Most of them gives trainings and organizes bootcamps.  Among these pickup artists, Julian Foxx is said to be the fastest rising star.  Main reason could be the fact that he has beaten Mystery in a friendly Pickup challenge.  The video has surfaced all over the internet and there were even rumors that Neil Strauss and/or Mystery is going to sue him. But that remained to be just a rumor.

You may have been impressed with the works of David DeAngelo or Mystery’s live video footage but you will be more impressed with Julian’s dating techniques.  He has already proven his efectiveness as a pickup artist in his pickup challenge video with Mystery.  His “7 Killer Dating Tactics You Haven’t Heard Before” newsletter has been very helpful to guys who have subscribed in them – and that’s for free.  Check it out at his website, julianfoxx.com.

Julian Foxx is also one of the top speakers at The 21 Convention, the leading men’s success convention.  Speakers share their knowledge and expertise to help men succeed with women.  He also had collaborations with his fellow pickup artist, Vin DiCarlo. You will see some of their videos discussing about phone game and getting rid of “flakes.”

While some men still doubt his pickup techniques, more and more guys actually believe that he’s good and he’s got unique strategies in pickup.

Plan and simple the best way to be successful in a seduction is to be in the right state.  I know I’m sounding like those other Pick Up Artist I can’t stand but it one of the few things that I found consistently works to actually help in your quest for girls.

What is the right state some of you maybe asking.  Well, plan and simple its the state if mind you get when you are having fun, living in the moment and not worried about the outcome.

Here’s the thing, I can’t tell you how to get into state.  I can tell you just to do it.  For me, I listen to music and use the my nervousness on a first approach as a way to focus my mind.

Being nervous in my opinion is a great thing.  I’ve read many books on being in the “The Zone”, and they all say a small amount of nervousness can push you into that zone.  When you feel nervous take a moment to feel it and use it to push you into go mode as I call it.

But, the bottom line is try anything to get in state.  Walk in and high five people or chest bump your buddy.  Remember in the end seduction in the end is supposed to be fun, for you and her.

Whats up guys,  I am the anti-pick up artist.  This blog will tach how to go from a PUA to a natural.  I hate the term pick up artist and I hate the outdated shit that is still being taught but you’ll learn that as I post more.

my hero, the one-day memoirist

This past Wednesday, The Huffington Post reported that Joel Stein, reporter and columnist for TIME, has written a memoir.

The catch? Besting Sarah Palin’s quickie four-month turnaround for her forthcoming autobiography, Going Rogue (excuse me while I vom — and refuse to link), Stein pumped his out in a day.

“What took her so long?” Stein muses in his column in next week’s TIME. His wisecrack that “introspection doesn’t need to be time-consuming” certainly rings true based on reading the 49-page book (downloadable here, or read it embedded via DocStoc on the Huff Post article), which he turned out with the help of ghostwriter Neil Strauss.

(Hey, if Palin gets one, the guy doing this for a lark does, too. And I bet her ghostwriter didn’t also pen an ultra successful — and sleazy – guide to picking up women.)

I won’t divulge too many details about the book, since it’s so short, but suffice it to say, it left me smiling and satisfied (that’s what…well, you know). I’ve been a fan of Stein’s for years, and fondly recall the days when he was the back-page columnist for Entertainment Weekly.

(Side note: I really miss The Joel Stein Show — and wish EW had it more thoroughly archived on their site. Google it if you want to find the actual column. Apparently people didn’t appreciate it during its time. Those people are fools.)

Reading about Stein’s mulleted misadventures will certainly take you back to your own misguided hairstylings of yore (I’m guilty of a perm circa grade one. *Shudder*), but really, it’s his self-deprecating tone that will win you over in the end. I saw much of myself in his insecurity and nebbish worries (and certainly wouldn’t sneeze at his career, writing for both Time Out New York and TIME magazines, among others).

If you enjoy wit, snark, and taking potshots at both Palin and the cliched structure of the rise-fall memoir, check out Stein’s tongue-in-cheek tome. (Can 49 pages be considered a tome? I’m saying yes.)

Its no secret that a lot of guys need help when it comes to dating. Most of them may not show or admit it. The internet is a good source of information and good thing about it is that you can keep your identity. In searching for different dating tips for men, a lot of you could have found out some secrets on dating, the dos and don’t, facts or trivias about girls, and of course different techniques.

Perhaps you may have also known or maybe even met some of the popular gurus like Neil Strauss, author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Societies of Pickup Artists and David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating ebook, and pickup artists like Mystery and Julian Foxx. Each of these personalities have different ideas, techniques, or tips on how to pickup girls.

The tips that you can find in the internet are mostly basic. If you really want to learn and develop a more advanced dating skills, you have to go to the professionals – dating gurus or pickup artists. They usually have schools, organize a bootcamp, provide materials for learning, and other stuffs that would help their students improve in dating.  Working with the professionals, especially with the pickup artists, will give you an edge in dating.   Not only that you will learn advanced techniques but you will have the chance to see a live demonstration from them.  Another advantage is for you to be able to practice those techniques.

In all this hype about dating and pickup, I think its not all about learning those pickup lines or advanced techniques on how to attract women. It is also about developing yourself – boosting your confidence, improving your communication skills, and eliminating some of those old, not to mention, bad habits.

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by George Rockwell

What if I told you that there was a game that you could play
that could unlock a womans hidden desires? What if I told
you that this was a game that everyone played as a child,
but never thought to use it to seduce a woman? The game is
truth or dare.

Unlike when you were a child or teenager, truth or dare has
entirely new dimensions to it when you play as an adult. You
want to build on comfort gradually, slowly getting the woman
you playing with to trust you. Start by telling her that the
first rule to follow is that this is just a game, and
whatever happens in the game stays in the game. This way the
game takes on a level of fun and fantasy. Fun games
encourage people to respond truthfully.

How Truth Works:

Truth is comfort plus trust. The idea is to build a high
level of trust and comfort, progressing as the game goes
into the night. The key is to escalate slowly with each
truth question and then take it up a notch when you start to
ask the dare questions.

How Dares Work:

Once you are comfortable with each other, and you sense that
she trusts you, its time to start asking dare questions.
Escalate your dare questions slowly. Be patient. Shes
already comfortable with you. Make the dare questions fun,
with a hint of flirtation, that leads to sexual later.

Try to avoid asking one girl to kiss another or one girl to
kiss you. Also, try and avoid just asking them to take
clothing off. Make sure that these acts are prizes in games.

Truths:

* Who in this group are you most attracted to and what is it
about them that you find most attractive? The catch is that
you can’t talk about any of our good looks.

* What is it about your friend that you like the least? And
you have to answer truthfully, no funny girly B.S.
responses.

* What quality should the opposite sex do more often to turn
her on?

* Where would she want to have sex the most?

* Ask her to tell you her story about when was a time she
felt guilt about having sex, and be specific.

* Have you ever had an embarrassing sexual mistake, that
made you can now laugh at?

* If you have ever masturbated, what did you think of? And
when was the last time?

* If you were going to hook up with your celebrity crush,
paint me a mental image of what you would do to her/her.

Dares:

* Test of trust: Close your eyes. Stand behind her and tell
her to fall backwards into your arms.

* Pretend my hand is the man of your dreams. For 30 seconds
pretend to seduce my hand as though this guy was right in
front of you.

* Hold your friend’s hand. Now I want you to say the most
messed up pornographic stuff you have ever imagined to it.
You have to keep saying these things for 30 seconds. Feel
free to slap the hands ass if it gets you into character.

* Pretend you have a devil on one shoulder and an angel on
the other, they are both going to grant you the power to do
one thing that is absolutely the kindest act that you could
ever imagine and the most horrible evil demonic act of
depravity that you could ever imagine. The catch is you
can’t choose one, you have to do both. What two actions
would you take? (make them role play talking to the devil
and angel on their shoulders.)

* Dare her to imagine that she is bankrupt and need to make
money fast. Dare her to imagine herself as a prostitute.
Persuade me to buy you for the night and describe in detail
what I can get for my money.

* Pick a spot on my body, other than my mouth, to make out
for 10 seconds.

* Have a staring contest. Dare her to start at you as you
both move closer to each other until your nose to nose. The
person who backs out first, gives the other person a kiss.

* Prop dares: Get them to do something with whip creme,
chocolate or anything else that is sexy.

* Tell a girl that she has to take her top off but there’s a
catch. She can’t show any of you her boobs. She has to hide
them by pressing them up against your back and taking her
top off, then she has to put it back on.

* Have them try to unfasten their friend’s bra/bikini top
with their teeth.

* Have them try to get a ring off of someone’s finger by
sucking it off.

If done right the dares will lead to an increase level of
sexual tension.

Remember, they are going to be asking you truths and dares
as well. Be prepared.

(http://www.stylelife.com/phase2xl/) Neil Strauss and his
Stylelife Academy have the tools to make you a master
(http://www.stylelife.com/phase2xl/about/) pick up artist by
teaching you how to get the girl by mastering the game of
truth or dare!!!

“EMERGENCY” BY NEIL STRAUSS

American author, Neil Strauss a.k.a Style, is very popular in the PUA community. His best-selling book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, is a great hit and contribution in the community. He’s got a video with Julian Foxx wherein Foxx was challenging him in a friendly pickup contest. Strauss refused and passed on the challenge to Mystery.

Here’s Julian Foxx’s opinion about Neil Strauss:

In spite of his success, Neil was aware that there was one part of his life where he had dealt with constant failure: he just couldn’t seem to get any action from the opposite sex. His obvious talent for writing wasn’t of much assistance when it came to dating. He started researching online and found that there was a ’secret society of pickup artists’ who consistently held meetings in order to sharpen their skills with women.

Strauss signed on for a bootcamp held by Mystery, and thus began the short journey that would very quickly transform into the best selling book: ‘The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists’. The book was essentially a ‘who’s who’ of pickup while the community was still in its infancy. It describes Strauss’ rapid rise within the pickup community, morphing himself from Neil Strauss, well known writer, into ‘Style’, master pickup artist. Using the varying techniques he acquired from Mystery and a host of other gurus, Style eventually became known as the “No. 1 Pick-Up artist in the world” shortly after the books release.

‘The Game’ went on to become such a tremendous financial success that in late 2007, Neil wrote a sequel; ‘The Rules of the Game.’ Wanting to pass on his seduction knowledge to the community, Neil also created a school for pickup artists. Although it is extremely rare for Style to do ‘live demonstrations’ he shares his pickup ideas with the community freely.

Neil Strauss’ contributions to the overall growth of the Seduction Community are undeniable.

source: http://www.julianfoxx.com/neil-strauss

Neil Strauss is undoubtedly a good author and his books have made a huge impact in the PUA community.  It would be great also if we can see live video demonstrations from him using his knowledge in pickup.

J’ai résisté autant que j’ai pu. Depuis le temps que j’entendais parler de The Game, l’histoire vraie d’un moche à calvitie précoce qui devient un pro de la drague. Typique le genre de bouquin qui fait bien envie sur le papier. D’ailleurs les médias n’ont pas hésité à s’en emparer, à faire de Neil Strauss, son auteur, un bête de foire médiatique. Rôle dans lequel il se complait depuis. Plusieurs de mes potes ont déjà lu The Game. Cela aura pu changer la vie d’un ou deux d’entre eux, les autres m’auront conseillé le pavé pour ses qualités intrinsèques. Cet été, comme les médias n’avaient rien à médiatiser, on nous a ressorti les pros de la drague. Peut-être à force d’être bombardé de papiers et autres notes de blog sur ce milieu, j’ai cédé, et commandé mon exemplaire de The Game, en bon mouton.

Neil Strauss est avant tout journaliste et nègre, même qu’aux USA on dit ghostwriter histoire d’être politiquement correct. Un jour, pour un reportage il décide de s’immerger sur les forums du net à la poursuite des pros de la drague, les pick-up artists. De livres recommandés en ateliers pratiques, il développe son jeu et commence à plaire à toutes ces filles qui jamais ne l’auraient remarqué auparavant. S’appuyant sur des principes de programmation neuro-linguistique, d’hypnose légère et de réponses préconçues, Neil devient un tueur. Durant des mois il enchaîne les filles, s’immerge de plus en plus dans le Game, multiplie les rencontres avec d’autres dragueurs. Mais comme ce serait trop beau pour être vrai sans une bonne morale à la cool, Neil va petit à petit réaliser les limites de son nouveau milieu, et ce qu’il risque de perdre en persistant sur cette voie.

Bon. Clairement, The Game est un bouquin intéressant s’il on le prend comme un (très) long article de reportage en immersion. La logique des pick-up artists ainsi que leurs techniques se tiennent et peuvent effectivement lancer des vocations. Pour connaître un ou deux disciples du Game, je confirme que oui, ça fonctionne du feu de dieu. Après, l’intérêt littéraire m’aura paru fort douteux. La structure est ultra répétitive. Neil rencontre un nouveau mentor, étudie ses techniques et sa personnalité, devient meilleur et part chercher un nouveau mentor. Cette construction narrative constitue une bonne moitié du bouquin, qui paraît du coup fort long. Surtout que la quasi-totalité des personnages sont antipathiques. Les mecs poussés dans le milieu de la drague sont tous un peu atteints, et à part Neil, j’ai eu du mal à en avoir quoi que ce soit à foutre des autres. Niveau conclusion bien-pensante, on la sent venir à trois kilomètres, ce qui achève de nullifier toute tension dramatique.

On apprend moult trucs dans The Game, c’est sociologiquement et psychologiquement sexy pour quiconque est un peu curieux des relations entre les sexes. En tant que bouquin, je l’ai cependant trouvé trop long, trop plat et parfois pénible. Tout dépend donc de ce que vous recherchez.

Demain, chocapics !

So the moral of the story is…

If you can’t dance…DON’T.

Now on the surface, that seems like a nice little piece of  dating advice. But it goes much deeper than that…

It is a powerful metaphor that MUST be applied to every aspect of your game.

You see, as pickup artists we all have our own individual strengths and our own individual weaknesses.

Having a good sense of humor is obviously a strength and one which can be exploited when related to dating and relationships in general.

But right now I want to focus on our weaknesses… because we all got em.

There are the kinds of weaknesses we can change and there are the kinds we can’t. And it is up to you to decide which of your weaknesses are worth devoting time to improving.

But what I’m asking you to do is to make a list of your weaknesses and then go down that list and check off whichever ones are HIDEABLE.

For example, as previously stated, I am a terrible dancer… But I have the option NOT to dance and therefore not reveal that weakness. I am also a very messy eater… But I have the option NOT to take my date out to eat. (Or at the very least, I can avoid ordering the spaghetti.)

Identifying our own weaknesses is crucial, but by identifying which of our weaknesses can be masked and then doing so, we are taking our game to the next level.

So just remember…If you can’t dance…

Don’t.

Peace,

Julian