Hey Guys,

This will be the last update on my end for a while as I fulfill the final commitments of my travel schedule and take the necessary steps to make this the most amazing December of my life. As I prepare for another Masterclass weekend tomorrow, I thought I’d write a post for everyone out there.

Challenging Assumptions

“Maybe she’s with her boyfriend.”

“Maybe she has better things to do.”

“Maybe she’s busy.”

“Maybe she doesn’t want to talk.”

Sound familiar? It most certainly does to me. These were the excuses that I gave myself again and again when I hesitated upon making an approach. I am not going to lie : there is no denying that the Asian culture here is not as used to dealing with interactions from complete strangers and as a young man living within the Singaporean society, all the more these excuses actually seem like valid reasons for me to not approach a woman.

Back when I was still starting to make sense of the dynamics between men and women, I found myself giving lots of excuses. Like one of my early mentors, Val, would tell you, I would go out for 4-5 hours on some days and not do a single approach. I was always waiting for the right moment.  My inexperience was what caused my mind to wander and make me nervous. The truth is, in those seemingly “perfect” moments, there was a very real chance that things were not as perfect as I thought they were. It was very possible that a girl who was alone and bored (2 positive requisites for a successful interaction) was actually having some alone time and does not want to be disturbed.

In my experience thus far, I’ll strongly believe : There is no perfect moment.

So what should I do?

There are many ways in which a person can solve this problem (drink alcohol, getting someone to push them, drug abuse etc.). But I want to share with you my personal and most favorite solution.

Challenge your assumptions. Developing a good understanding of the dynamics between men and women (which is what TDD specializes in) will help immensely. The more knowledge I had, the clearer things became and the more confident I was. With this new found knowledge and confidence, it was a lot easier to approach a woman despite these assumptions I had in my head.

Be comfortable with success and failure. There is no such thing as PERFECTION. If you have been thinking that there will be a magic pill out there that will bring you instant success with women, let me smash that belief for you right now : There isn’t. As rare as they are, I am not ashamed to admit it : there are times where I did not have a successful interaction. These times are usually due to logistics and matters I can not control. What I do is this : Celebrate from the successes, learn the lessons from the failures and move on.

And here’s where it gets better…

The more I actually approached women successfully, the more it cemented the lesson in my head that all these assumptions were just my mind’s way of protecting my ego. I realised that most of the time, all these assumptions turn out to be false. In fact, as I practiced further, I realised that even if my assumptions proved to be right, by the law of X=X, it turned out that my undeniable good-vibe made the woman commit to an interaction with me. With the addition of my high-level awareness, I was more than capable of continuing the interaction very smoothly because I knew the dynamics of a good Macro Plan thus enabling me to make spontaneous decisions and enable me to give the women what they wanted : DIRECTION.

I adopt this same belief to all aspects of my life. Challenging assumptions also helps your life become less complicated. Most of the time, we already know whether or not we want to escalate things with women or with a task at hand. It is all these assumptions that cause unnecessary worry and hold us back. Knowing that there is not perfect moment and that failure and success are all very realistic possibilities no matter what, I choose to act. It is better to take a chance and gain a learning lesson from it than to not take one at all and regret.

You know what you want. Now push aside all these assumptions and just take action to make it yours!

Live and Love,

Xavier

xav@troydizondating.com

http://alife2love.com

Locatie: Muzeul Taranului

ISO: 800

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Timp de expunere: 1/30

Nikon D90

Uma prova sinistra e o feriadão na sequência complicaram a vida das nossas pick ups, não é mesmo? Estou devendo, confesso. Mas começo a pagar a dívida de maneira espalhafatosa e irresistível. A gente se esforça para conseguir o perdão…  E tenho certeza de que ele vem com a seleção de Jorge Lz e sua Geleia Moderna. A escolha de nosso DJ é ainda a cura certa para a ressaca pós-Zumbi.

Trabalhar neste calor ninguém merece, mas Jesca Hoop pode ser um refresco.  Conheci a moça por causa de meu amor incondicional por Tom Waits,  seu padrinho musical e ex-patrão, mas a história dela daria um filme. Quem conta é o próprio Jorge Lz:

“Jesca Hoop nasceu na California entre mórmons. Começou cantando folk music e acabou largando a família para trabalhar com crianças. Jesca tirou a sorte grande quando foi ser babá dos três filhos de Tom Waits. Assimilou bastante o trabalho do patrão e voltou a se aventurar pela música. Lançou seu primeiro álbum, ‘Kismet’, em 2007 e prepara o próximo para o início de 2010. Waits deu força e definiu a música da moça como ‘um mergulho num lago à noite’.
O clip é bem bacana e cheio de influências surrealistas”.

Reparem que o arranjo, cheio de invenções e sutilezas mecânicas, não deixa dúvidas do pedigree da moça. Waits está aí. Mas também não está, o que enfatiza o talento de Jesca.

O Ipod de Romulo Fróes

Devo muita coisa nesta vida a Romulo Fróes,  mas o principal motivo de minha gratidão é que a música dele abriu meu ouvido para o novo som que é feito em São Paulo.  Cantor e compositor desta (ainda) jovem geração paulistana, Romulo, de 39 anos, mistura em seus três discos – “Calado”, “Cão” e o duplo “No chão sem o chão” – influências aparentemente díspares: da música de Nelson Cavaquinho à atitude do brit pop (duas melancolias em tons distintos); das letras de Nuno Ramos à voz barrenta de dona Iná, eterna pastora do samba da garoa.

Romulo traz o show de “No chão sem o chão” para o Rio neste sábado, dia 27 de novembro, no Cinemathéque, em Botafogo, com participação de Domênico Lancelotti e Kassin. Programão. O Ipod dele, como não poderia deixar de ser, revela um pouco mais desta cena de São Paulo.

Fala aí, querido:

“Minha dica são duas em uma,  na verdade. A primeira e mais importante é o Rodrigo Campos, ele lançou um dos melhores discos deste ano, se não for o melhor: ‘São Mateus não é um lugar assim tão longe’. É um disco lindo, falando da periferia de São Paulo de um jeito muito original, com uma delicadeza imensa, muito diferente do rap, por exemplo. Acho que é um novo samba paulista, diferente de tudo o que foi feito nesta terra que é o túmulo do samba”.

Olhem que bonito o clipe do Rodrigo:

A segunda dica do Romulo é o próprio site que  produziu o vídeo, Música de Bolso, que ele define como “um troço muito sério que tá mapeando a nova música brasileira”. Achei incrível, cliquem aqui para conhecer.

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My nephew Xander may still be a child, but he is already turning into quite the ladies man!  I’m not sure what his father has been teaching him, but I was able to witness his confidence with the women on a Chuck E Cheese outing.  I spotted a cute little girl in a T-shirt from his elementary school and asked if he knew her.  He got a devilish grin on his face and gave me a confident “Not yet…”  What a little flirt!

Just wanna share with you guys a funny DHL commercial. Thanks to my friend Harry for sharing this.

This is Bird Gang, Honey!

Fashion’s all aflutter this season with feathers adorning everything from headbands to handbags to heels. As a matter of fact, you may have spotted my feathered fro in a picture or two. I’d never hold out on my homies, so here are a few plumed pieces that have given me heart palpitations:

These Pippa pumps by Lovely People easily boost the "fly" factor of any look. (Available at Endless.com)

Let a Peackock feather cocktail ring be your signature accessory at holiday parties. (Available at VieModerne's Etsy Shop)

Feathered hair accessories are Hollywood favorite. The jewels and netting give it an extra pop of opulence. (Available at 1000markets.com)

Chain strap bags are another fashion necessity, and Foxcrow's addition of feathers was pure genius. (Visit Foxcrow.com for more info.)

Since leggings are probably this year’s #1 trend, you can’t go wrong with these Embroidered Metallic Feather Stretch Leggings by DG2. (Available at HSN.com… go figure.)These Pippa pumps by Lovely People easily boost the “fly” factor of any look. (Available at Endless.com)

It all starts with listening. You’d be surprised how much you can tell about a girl just by listening to her. Not because what she’s saying really matters, but because there is always an underlying tone to everything. You start to take note of her true personality.

I was out with a friend a few weeks ago and after noticing one of the two girls at the other end of the bar giving me the ol’ eye a few times I went over to initiate the conversation with the other one. They turned out to be somewhat guarded and made a few sarcastic remarks, but they were playful and, in the end, quite friendly. One of them had a stunning body. Voluptuous but firm with a lovely, taut stomach…

As the night progressed we escalated the physical contact and neither of them seemed to mind it. After a while though, I started to pick up on some of the things The Body was saying -mostly related to money. It seemed to come up more than in the usual conversation, she started “charging” for each part of her body he touched and he was probably a good 10 grand in the whole by the time they’d left. When I grabbed her ass and gave it a good squeeze her only remark was that it would cost me $100 instead of the usual $10 for the more PG parts of the body.

If you guessed Stripper like  I did, you’d be wrong. She was an escort. I found out when they got picked up by a pimp in a Land Rover I recognized from one of the condos I deal with.

The moral of the story here, obviously, is if a girl talks about money, she’s a probably a hooker….proceed as you wish.

Since we’re still a few months away from the launch of the TR20 and the TR40, Mahindra’s compact pickups designed for the US market, let’s take a look at what they built for the Indian market. The Mahindra Gio is supposedly India’s first compact truck and is a half-ton, diesel-powered 4-wheel pick up that’s loaded with much more features than their standard 3-wheelers and designed for moving goods in and around the city.

The Mahindra Gio is made for a whole new category in the Indian automotive industry, being in between the 3-wheel and 4-wheel utility vehicles. Its 9.1 horsepower engine was built by American company Kohler who typically makes them for mowers and tractors, paired with Mahindra’s 4-speed transmission. Other features worth mentioning are its 5-foot cargo box, 3.8-meter turning radius, “car-like” controls and trendy looks.

It comes out in 4 colors particularly Peacock Blue, Royal Red, Golden Yellow and Sporty Green. Probably the best thing about the Mahindra Gio is its bang for the buck. Its Suggested Retail Price is 1.65 to 1.68 lakh, which is just 3,578 to 3,643 USD converted.

While the idea of a 9 horsepower 4-wheel diesel truck may sound odd and its appearance a bit peculiar, bear in mind that the Mahindra Gio was built for the Indian market. That’s not how the Mahindra TR20 and TR40 will turn out. Don’t cancel your test drive appointments, people.

There is no technique out there better than push pull. Its genius-

Art Of Push Pull

that’s the only way to describe it! Its one of those concepts that’s deeply rooted in psychology. People want what they can’t have and people want to know what they don’t understand. That’s why it works.  Later I will give you a few examples of how to make it work.

Push pull is teasing, it presents something to someone then you pull it away as the person almost has it. By definition push pull is pulling in a girl emotionally, by a certain action, and then pushing her away with another.

Swinggcat is known for his practice of push/pull and the idea of Prizability. Push/pull is actually an amazing skill and works with pretty much every girl I’ve met. Below are some of Swinggcats examples of push/pull. Check out his amazing ebook. Get it here.

Examples of Push/Pull by Swinggcat

Push-Pull Example #1 (Pick Up Example)

I grabbed a woman’s hand and said, you have the most amazing smile I’ve seen tonight It makes me feel so happy inside!

She responded with, thank you!

Then I counted the fingers on my other hand and said, you know what: actually there were four other girls with really amazing smiles tonight as well. Out of them, you have the fourth best smile. I’m going to call you number four.

And then I pushed away her hand.

She demanded, Nooo! I want to be number one!

And I replied, Alright, I’ll promote you to number three for being feisty.

Push-Pull Example #2 (Sarcasm)

A woman replied sarcastically to something I said.

So I said to her, “You know… you’re pretty sarcastic… and some people might think you’re mean because they don’t get your sarcasm. But I think your sarcasm is cool because I’m the same way. I’m also sarcastic. And that’s exactly why you and I could never hang out. ‘Cause if we did we’d have the best time making fun of everyone in our environment at their expense. And that’d be karmicly bad ’cause then all the people we made fun of would have low self esteem.”

She responded with, “Nooo. We have to hang out. You’re giving me your number right now.”

Push-Pull Example #3

I challenged a woman to kiss me… and she did.

So I said, “You’re more adventurous than I thought. You get an A-. And you have permission to cook me dinner.”

She retorted with, “What type of food do you want me to cook you?”

Women Get Aroused Differently Than Men!

For most women, it’s a huge turn on when a man gets them all hot and bothered… and then stops touching them, making them anticipate his touch… and then starts again, exponentially increasing their arousal.

This is exactly the same as the underlying structure of Push-Pull…

And probably why many women are natural Push-Pull artists.

LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN. Woman are natural push-pull artists!

And as you saw with the examples above…

Push-Pull can be used to generate arousal and attraction inside women before you ever become intimate with them (A truism most men don’t realize).

I want you to do something…

Touch your arm with your hand very lightly, as if it were a feather… and then take your hand away.

If you did it right you’ll feel an itching sensation.

Touch your arm again lightly… and then take your hand away.

The itching sensation should have increased, yes?

Push-Pull has the same structure.

Whenever you emotionally Pull a woman into you and then Push her away… and then Pull her in… and so on, you’re creating inside her a sexual and emotional itch to want and reach and chase for more of you.

If you do this in a playful way, women won’t see you as a manipulative jerk.

They’ll instead…

* See you as charming and attractive.
* Perceive you as a Prize they must possess.
* Know that you’re one of the few coveted men that understand what arouses and attracts women.
* Be itching with attraction toward you.

There are a few examples Here

But if you want to full course get hold of real world seduction here,

What’s up people!

I am back again from China after making an urgent trip so thanks to everyone for their patience when it came to me responding to your e-mails and queries. I will be following up closely with all the enquiries that I have received since last week so check your mailboxes and Skype for my response soon.

In light of all my recent enquiries, I have received a few very ridiculous questions. If you are thinking of taking a program and you are still asking ridiculous questions, let me make one thing clear to you : The fact is, You want in.

Listen up.  If you think you can get a better program out there then by all means, sign-up with them, become a PUA today. You live your life being “safe” all the time, you are going to achieve only normal, “safely” results. This problem is bigger than you think it is. Not being good with women is only one small problem, the NEED to control an outcome by avoiding risk will make you move a lot less in life and that logically and naturally gives you less results.

If you haven’t already noticed by now, there might be something seriously wrong with you. What I teach is different from PUA stuff simply because I am not a PUA… and what I teach works. That’s why I have a blog and there is TDDReview that is constantly updated with real-life results from real people. The truth is, if you want what our successful clients have, you will have to take the plunge, the first step. No one can guarantee you anything. If you can find someone who can, please tell me so that I can sign-up with them too. As far as I’m concerned, no one in Singapore and Asia can even sniff the kind of success we have when it comes to training men (as proven, time and again). This is why we are plastered all over the media, from ChannelNewsAsia to MTV to Radio shows etc.

The last thing I wanna say is this : Manage your expectations. Believe me, I have the ability to train you to date almost all kinds of girls. Models, celebrities, socialites, you name it. But whether you can do it or not is another thing. I didn’t get to the point of dating 8-9 girls at one time immediately. It took time and a lot of discipline to improve. X = X, a quality man will date a quality girl and vice versa. You cannot expect to be that be-spectacled turd with bad hair and over-sized clothing and still expect to hold on to a quality girl. If you say other people can promise you that, go to them. But one thing is for sure, I can train you to make that happen, without a doubt.

Risk-takers win more by simply taking more chances.

Look what Masterclass Alumni "MILFton monster" got for taking risks

I don’t know about you but as the year draws to a close, I am eager to make this one of the best and most unforgettable festive seasons of my life and I know I can because I know how to. I have celebrated a lonely festive season before. It sucks immensely. I didn’t have someone to share my joy with. I sent text messages to girls at those happy moments, only to feel crushed within minutes when I didn’t get a reply back. And as much as I tried to deny it, watching others around me have that privilege really hurt me inside. Which is explains why Troy, Julian, Nash, all the TDD Instructors and myself are selling out programs months ahead. The choice to sit on your ass and waste more of your life away is yours. But so is the choice to step it up and make your life skyrocket from here and you know you can trust TDD to help you make that jump.

And your first step can begin next week. Allow me to present to you :

Triad Of Champions : Triad Thursdays

Oh boy, where do I even begin!

After months of discussion and audacious planning, I am excited to finally present to you readers of A Life To Love and Troy Dizon Dating, my passion project, Triad Of Champions. My draft plan for the project is ready and I am excited to realese a lot more info before the weekend begins.

Stay tuned for details coming up in the next post. The first Triad Thursday is scheduled for next week, 26th November 2009. Triad Thursdays is a FREE event for all TDD and A Life To Love enthusiasts. Feel free to bring your friends along.

If I were you, I would clear out my Thursday next week and come on down for this event to experience first-hand, a 24/7 Attractive Culture.

Until then, watch this space!

Live and Love,

Xavier

xav@troydizondating.com

http://alife2love.com/

Harga 1 Spull/Pick Up Gitar Akustik Strings/Nylon Rp 50.000 (Menerima Grosiran dan Eceran).

Spull/Pick Up tersebut buatan Indonesia dan sangat cocok digunakan pada gitar akustik anda.

Spull tersebut bisa menghasilkan bunyi seperti Gitar Elektrik,hanya dengan dijepit pada

Lubang Gitar Akustik kemudian kabel dari Spull Gitar tersebut dicolok ke Amplifier.

Guys, for the love of god, STOP BEING PUSSIES. I’m not referring to shyness around women or hesitation to even approach people. That’s an entirely different realm of self-confidence and mental bolstering. What I’m talking about is being a doormat. Just rolling over and letting a chick walk all over you.

Case in point, Jawsh has been trying to set me up with his roommate, Andrew, for over a year now. If it didn’t happen in the first month or so, it’s certainly not going to happen now 14 months later. This guy has done everything for me and continues to do so with or without me asking and without ever making a move. He buys me drinks. He makes me pasta at 4am. He has carried me to bed and slept on the living room floor when I pass out at their apartment!

This is not to say that I take advantage of this but I’m not going to say no to another vodka red bull or an opportunity to satisfy my late night drunk munchies when I’m not sufficiently sober enough to be around kitchen utensils. Point is, if he had been assertive at all I wouldn’t have been so quick to place him in the friend zone. Now he’s there and can’t get out without a lot of work which, at this present time, he’s not prepared to do.

Lesson: It’s fine to be less aggressive but don’t let it slip into pussy-whipped mode. Be assertive by the 3^rd week or you’re going to create an easily avoidable uphill battle for yourself.

Soccer is definitely something to be thankful for! Here’s the invite I received this morning- feel free to contact me if you’d like to get a team together.

Thanksgiving Indoor Soccer Tournament @ Bay Club Marin

We would like to invite you for a fun Thanksgiving Indoor Soccer Tournament on Saturday, November 28th in the basketball gym of the Bay Club in Corte Madera from 11 AM on. We will play coed in a 4 on 4 format with an emphasis on team game and fair play. The rules are designed specifically for indoor soccer in the Bay Club gym. We are also applying them for our pick up games on Mondays and Thursdays.

The Tournament is open for members and guests from 14 years up. You can sign up a team of 6 players for $100, or as individual player for $20, and we will find a team for you. Please let us know if you would like to play on the same team with a friend. Each team will play a minimum of 2 guaranteed games. We will decide on the length of the games according to the number of teams that will compete.

The Bay Club Management will provide snacks and refreshments between the games (and beer after the finals).

Please let us know if you are interested and if you have any further questions regarding the Tournament. The deadline for sign up is Thu, Nov 19th. You can sign up through your Bay Club account online, on the Front Desk, or by e-mail.

When constructing or upgrading a Strat, people often get lost when it comes to pick-ups and for good reason. There are all kinds of pick-ups out and it can difficult choosing the one that is going to work best for you. Before this process evens begins you need to know, there are many, high quality pick-ups available both online and in stores so don’t get too bent up if you can’t decide if the brand and model you picked out is the perfect combo. That said, you’re going to want to know what you want out of a pick up. You should decide first whether or not you want actives or passive pick-ups.

Actives require usually 1 9-volt battery to be housed inside the guitar in order to boost the signal of the instrument. This creates a louder guitar and sometimes a “fatter” tone but the trade-off is maintenance. Since most of us are not celebrity rockstars who have our strings and batteries changed each time before we play, replacing your battery can be the last thing you think of when something goes wrong with the signal. Passive signals seem to be standard. They require no internal power from the guitar. Minimal volume loss is made up by the low maintenance of never having to change your batteries because they’re not there. The body of the guitar has an extra cavity in order to house the battery so make sure you check your guitar before trying to install the actives. Making the change from actives to passives is possible through the use of new volume and tone pots. After that is figured out, you begin to narrow your choices.

Hot, Noiseless, 50’s, 60’s, Highway 1, Lace Sensors, Artist series, Humbuckers, the options are there! Decide whether or not you want the old school hum a single coil traditionally produces or if you want to go with something more smooth and modern. The best way to decide is to go to your local music store and play as many different pick-ups as you can and take note of which models you like and making this seemingly tedious decision rather fun.

No matter whether you call it TXT/SMS/TEXT game… they all have the same thing in common.

Chances are you met a girl out on the sarge, you built enough attraction and you smoothly number closed her in the hopes of seeing her again.

What you are about to read will completely change how you view TEXT game. There is not a standard TEXT to sms but rather  astandard way to respond….. the Swinggcat way.

Its all about being the prize, when you TEXT a girl you have got to have the mind set that You are giving her the chance to know you, and you are the prize. Im not sayong be arrogant, but rather confident.

Example of an opening text would be,

“Hey, whats up? Awesome meeting you the other nyt, I struggled to get the picture of your red “hooker” heels out my head.”

Whats important is that you wait a few days- ideally 2-3days before you TEXT…. THIS SCREAMS I am the prize, basically you are showing the girl you arent desperate to TEXT her. but you rather texted her because you were cored.

Notice how my TEXT could be taken as charming/cocky funny/cheeky/sweet….. the girl really wont know what to do with it…. she’ll probably laugh and send something cheeky back.

From there you want to be playful, and a little more sexual as she gets more comfortable with you, (Be warned dont build too much comfort or you might find yourself in the dreaded “friendship zone”)

A few phases that suggest that you are the prize

“You would love that wouldnt you “

“If your lucky”

“Im pretty busy this weekend, how about Sunday evening”

“I can be pretty fussy when it comes to girls”

“You better know how to cook/clean”

“If you cant you can make it up to me”

Why Email Game- Firstly its really easy to get a girls email,  girls will more likely give you their email than a phone

Score with Email Game

number. Secondly- email game is more under the radar, people generally only check their email when they want to recieve a mail.

Check this link for: how to be cocky funny.

About Email Game- Email game is very similar to text game- but the main difference is that people only check their email when they are bored. It less invasive than getting a text. Add the fact that you can put in a little more detail and its pretty much the same.

Here is an example of email game with a chick I Kiss closed at manhattan. This was setting up the 1st “date” via Email. ITS IMPORTANT NOT TO TRY TO HARD! Keep in chilled with a subtle underling meaning of I am the prize and I can pleasure you.

You do something nice for me and I’ll come over and reward you. Notice how calm and AFC I start off and how I turn up the sexual tension.

Her>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Heya This is my e-mail address. So tell me what do you do at ******? You studied maths right? If I remember correctly? I used to be a teller at *****…part-time while at campus Take care

Me>>>>>> Hey u I studied economics….. Im employed by a consulting company So here at ************ I Help build models That’s what I do in short…. It gets a little more complicated. You still stay at home?

Her>>>>> Home is in Durban….that’s where my mum and brother still live I moved to PTA in January for work….and I remember telling you that I live with a house-mate…. You say build models and I get lost…haha…it does sound complicated….

Me>>>> Yeah u did tell me a lot of things, but all the loud noise and music effected my memory I do remember you saying you were a pretty good cook…. Am I right?

Her>>>>> yeah you are….spent the whole weekend baking stuff to bring for the guys at work….they really liked it so I must be a good cook….. I really don’t wanna go to gym today. I’d rather go home and sleep…

Me>>>>>>> Modest hey? Think I should put your cooking to the test…. U up for the challenge?

Her>>>>>>> you just trying to get me to cook for you….depends……on how nice you are to me…..only my close friends get that privilege

Me>>>>>>> I’ll swap you a hot oil massage for dinner….. Yes its worth it especially when you are stiff from gym!

Her (the next day)>>>>>>>>>> morning…..What do you want me to cook?….I’m still thinking about it by the way….

Me>>>>>>> Goodmorning I just crawled into work….Im so tired! Cook what ever your specialty is ….What massage do u want?

Her>>>> I don’t have one speciality….I can cook anything but won’t be able to decide what…..so you pick? And I like back massages…..

Me>>>>> Cook me something traditional from Durban…. Just don’t make it too hot….Us JHB boys have sensitive taste buds…Ok back massage sounds like a Fair deal…. Then next week we can change rolls….. I’ll cook and u massage!

Her>>>> what can you cook? and wait you talking about the next time but this time hasn’t even been confirmed yet…..

Me>>>>>>>> Should we organize something for tomorrow night….. I’ll drive though if you keen.

Her>>>>>> hey sorry….had to go for a talk in midrand yesterday so left early…. what do you wanna organise for tonight? I might be keen

Me>>>>> Hey u Hows it going? I was thinking about leaving my place between 7-7:30 to miss to traffic….. Will you send me directions for the N1 north xxooxx

Her>>>>>>>>>>> heya I’m good thanks….It’s a bright and beautiful day so I have a spring in my step…..lol yeah that’s fine…..erm even if you leave at around 6:30, you should miss the traffic okay so do you know how to get to the Menlyn offramp? or even centurion? if so then it’ll be easier to give you directions……. oh and what kind of movies do you enjoy? haha xxooxx?

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

How did the Story End????

I Went over to her house she cooked me dinner, put on a DVD and closed her on the couch. She asked me to stay the night and I said no, she has been emailing/smsing me ever since then.

Important things to remember is that I was just very chilled with her, even though there were stages where I made my Intensions known. As soon as I got to her house I kissed her… just to make her feel comfortable… the rest is history. Hope u get some value out of this

Cheers

Même, si en hiver la baignade est réservée au plus courageux parmi nous, vous n’avez pas nécessairement besoin de cacher votre bassin. L’eau de votre piscine qui brille matin et soir dans un jardin hivernale c’est quand même très beau.

Selon votre région vous avez le choix d’un hivernage dit passif ou actif.

En mode passif, vous arrêtez tout comme indiqué dans notre article accessoires d’hivernage.

Autrement, en mode actif, vous continuez de traiter votre piscine comme en été mais votre besoin en produits chimiques sera moindre sans les baigneurs car source de pollution principale. De plus, la température basse ralenti la prolifération des algues, et ainsi votre eau restera belle plus longtemps.

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Les passages sont plus précis dans la piscine grâce à un système étudié pour une meilleure rigidité. Régler la dimension du manche devient d’une grande simplicité avec le nouveau système de blocage à manette qui permet de le déverrouiller  d’une main.

Enfin, son confort d’utilisation est accentué par sa composition en fibre de verre au contact très agréable. Modèle déposé.

Nice article and some thoughts about why this change was made.  His ideas make sense to me.  Click here to read.

. . . would have a perm and drive a pick-up.

I share my first name with both my father and grandfather.  Actually, it’s probably more accurate to say that my grandfather shares his first name with both of us, but you get the picture.  In my dad’s case, he also bears the same middle name as my grandfather making him a full-blown junior.  Me, I’ve got a different second name, though it starts with the same letter,

From left to right: M-, M- and M-

meaning I don’t have to append ‘III’ to my name or declare myself to be ‘the third.’  That would, I think, have been absurdly pretentious and I’m grateful my parents decided to give me the middle name I have.

In fact, that middle name has been useful as more than just a justification for not following my name with any numbers.  Because there are three of us with the same first name the potential for confusion is great, especially when we’re all together.  For much of my life my family has called me by both my first and second names together.  Before that I was apparently so fixated on my middle name that was what I demanded to be known by and hailed as.  The only people in the world who call me by both names are relatives and a few of my parents’ friends.  In other words they are a group who’ve known me as long as I’ve known myself, possibly longer, and I find something solid and reassuring about their use of my two names.

Outside my family, in my professional and social life, I’m known simply by my first name.   I do include my middle initial in my signature and on various documents I’m the author of,  but the people who know me in any capacity just call me M-.  This has been the case since I started first grade at a new school following my family’s move from Illinois to Massachusetts.  When I introduced myself to the class by the name I share with two other people I did so impulsively.  My five (or was it six?) year old brain hadn’t thought through what I was doing, or what I wanted to be called.  Instead, when Miss Savoy asked me to tell the class my name I just blurted out ‘M-.’  I then went on to inform her and the class, having been asked, that I didn’t have an accent because I wasn’t the one who sounded funny when I talked.  They were the ones with the strange way of speaking.  I bet she was thrilled to have the new boy at the school in her class.

So why did I suddenly shorten my name that first day?  Does it even matter?  I think it does, because in my childish way I was groping after something.  I wanted others to take me as seriously as I took myself  and applying what I saw as an adult label to myself was a step in that direction.  I was playing a metaphorical game of dress-up with my father’s and grandfather’s name, similar yet different to mine, in the same way I might have played at being an adult by slipping into my father’s business shoes or wanting to watch baseball games with him and his friend.  It was also at this age that I liked to find any excuse I could to wear a tie.  I wasn’t sure where I was going, but at some level I was in a damn hurry to get there.

I’m not sure that anyone who doesn’t share a name with a parent or grandparent, who doesn’t use that name on a regular basis, can really understand what it’s like.  I can see how, for some people, that a shared name might be a source of exasperation or even feel like a burden.  It doesn’t work that way for me.  I’m proud to have the the same name as my father and grandfather.  I’ve never felt any pressure to live up to my name.  Instead it’s made me a member of a little club of three.  There are no secret handshakes and no special rituals, but there is some additional, understated current of recognition that comes from us all having the same name even when, at large family gatherings, someone wants a picture of the 3 M-s together for the 15th time in 2 hours.

I don’t believe that our paths through life are predetermined but I do think that in some case, mine included, a name can actually play a role in shaping the kind of paths we have to choose from.  Names are powerful things largely because they are one of the first and primary ways we hear our distinct, individual identities identified.  In turn they are a primary means for our articulation and declaration of our identity.  They  allow us a strongly suggestive way of finishing the fundamental statement ‘I am . . .’

A rose by any other name might smell as sweet as some guy who wasn’t called Bill once said, but I honestly don’t think I’d have the same odour if my parents hadn’t decided to give me my grandfather’s and father’s first name.  They almost didn’t because my father was, so I’ve been told, worried that I might be saddled with diminutive nick names that I wouldn’t like as a way of distinguishing me from the two ‘M-s’ already in the family.  Instead they’d planned to call me Jesse.

There’s nothing wrong with the name Jesse, but I’ve always suspected that my life would have been different had I born that label.  For starters it would have been a source for the endless amusement of others here in England as jesse is a an unflattering slang term.  I probably could have found a way of living with  that.  The thing is I’m not sure I ever would have made it to England had I been called Jesse.  I can’t imagine that name on the title page of my doctoral dissertation, nor can I imagine myself delivering lectures to students who knew me as Jesse.

Why do I think these things?  Well, it’s because I suspect that being known as Jesse would have emphasised other traits of my personality, accentuated different aspects of my identity.  I pretty sure that I would have liked the person I would have been had I been known as Jesse and that he’d be the kind of guy I’d like to have a beer with on a regular basis.  We’d both like cowboy boots and be fans of the St Louis Cardinals.  At the same time I also suspect that I would have followed a rather different path through life than the one that’s led me to where I am now.  When I imagine myself as a Jesse I always see some guy with permed hair and a pick-up truck.