Eeek! A condom!

Sorry, I just can’t help myself. It’s time for another Tiger post. Already??? Sorry, yeah.

I’m worried about The Tiger. I mean, what will he do to make a living if his endorsements get dumped? I’m worried about him going hungry. And his wife no doubt will lay claim to some of his fortune. They were married in 2004 and the initial prenuptial agreement was worth $20 million after 10 years of marriage. I’m sure all bets are off on that by now, though.

So what will he do if Nike, Gatorade, Gillette and Electronic Arts no longer want any part of the Tiger Woods image? Here are some of my ideas:

Condoms – My advice to Tiger: Strike now while the iron is hot. Pick a brand, any brand, and tee off a new television campaign.

Red Bull – This one seems like a no-brainer to me. If I was an executive at Red Bull, right about now I’d be saying, “We be gots to gettin’ us some Tiger. He must already be drinking our stuff. I mean, just look at him go!” The campaign practically writes itself, too. “Red Bull gives you swings!”

Viagra – Another no brainer. If he’s already on it, then it’s a match made in heaven. If he’s not, it can only bring a whole new level to his game. Either way it’s time for “Smiling Bob” to take a hike.

Female Viagra – What the? Is Tiger even attractive? I certainly don’t think so.So what is it about the man that makes him someone the women so desperately want to bag? Oh yeah, he’s on TV a lot and he’s rich. That’s about all it takes, right? Of course, it is kind of hard to be sponsored by money itself. Perhaps Money magazine?

Can you come up with any other sponsorship ideas of your own for Tiger? We may be the only chance he’s got!

By Steven G. Mehta

Some of you may have seen the mediation in Wedding Crashers.  For those of you that didn’t, you can see it along with some negotiation advice in my post about Wedding Crashers Negotiation and Mediation Lessons.

I saw an article by sports writer Kevin Hench about a hypothetical mediation with Tiger Woods and his wife about their prenuptial negotiations, with Wedding Crashers as the backdrop.  I thought it was interesting, and thought you might enjoy.

The Florida Highway Patrol has issued a $164 citation to Tiger Woods for careless driving, meaning the incident will cost Tiger roughly $80,000,164.

Suddenly Vanessa Bryant’s $4 million diamond ring seems kinda chintzy.

Tiger’s “transgressions” have brought about a hasty renegotiation of his prenuptial agreement with wife Elin Nordegren that will quadruple the originally agreed upon $20 million as long as she sticks it out for another couple of years. So how did the sides arrive at this new figure, roughly halfway between Kobe’s bejeweled “my bad” and Michael Jordan’s reported $150 million settlement with ex-wife Juanita?

Channeling the opening mediation scene from Wedding Crashers, we now try to piece together how that negotiation might have gone down.

Fade in:

Tiger and his attorney sit on one side of the table in the family dining room, Elin and hers on the other. A mediator sits at the head of the table. You can cut the tension with a 1-iron.

Mediator: Okay, gang, let’s get started. I am here to mediate. Like Rocco. (Nothing.) Rocco Mediate? Anyone? No? All right, uh, I believe Mr. Woods’ attorney has an opening statement.

Tiger’s attorney: What my client does for a living, what he does better than anyone else in the world, is by its very nature a monotonous occupation. Literally working for hours upon hours to replicate the exact same swing over and over. In his field, variety is not good. Metronomic consistency is what makes him the best. We do not feel it is reasonable to then ask him to enter into that same level of monotony in his personal life.

Mediator: Really? That’s your opening move?

Ms. Nordegren’s attorney: So, for the record, Mr. Woods views life with the mother of his children as “monotonous.” Tedious, if you will. In light of this, we would ask that the original prenuptial agreement be augmented by $5 million.

Mediator: Yeah, that sounds about right. (Aside to Tiger and his attorney.) Word to the wise, monotonous and monogamous may share a Greek root, but you use them interchangeably at your own peril.

Ms. Nordegren’s attorney: Furthermore, it has come to my client’s attention that her husband’s extra-marital dalliances began while she was pregnant, a violation of their marital vows so egregious we believe it merits an additional $10 million to the original agreement.

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Sex and money are the biggest and most powerful aphrodisiacs. Tiger Woods is giving new meaning to the layaway plan after he was caught cheating.

Have sex and pay later seems to be the Hollywood celebrity motto. It happened with Kobe Bryant and it’s happening again with Tiger with rumors that he has paid off one of his mistresses to keep quiet. Tiger’s wife Elin has been reportedly offered a hefty multimillion dollar incentive to stay with him.

So what’s going on here sounds like everyone has their price for sex and the bigger celebrity, the bigger the payoff!

Personally, I think that Tiger should have gone on the David Letterman show as soon as he got caught and admitted it his infidelity publicly like David did when he was being blackmailed for having sex with some of his staff. David Letterman did not pay anyone off to keep quiet and I doubt that he had to renegotiate his prenuptial with his wife.

Details of Elin Woods’ newly-rewritten prenup emerge

Elin and Tiger Woods had a prenuptual agreement, as expected. The couple is undergoing marital counseling, as you’d also expect. And now The Daily Beast is reporting that Elin Woods is renegotiating that prenup to get an immediate $5 million payout from her husband and as much as $55 million more to stay with him for two more years.

The initial prenup was worth $20 million after 10 years of marriage. However, the Chicago Sun-Times’ Bill Zwecker has reported that Elin Woods will receive an immediate payment “into an account she alone controls,” and that the 10-year timeframe — which began when they married in 2004 — has been shortened and the value increased “substantially.”

– Read full article…

You think she deserves more money?

What is a Caddy to do whose boss can’t keep his Dick in his pants???  Without Tiger Woods playing on the Lynx, it will be hard for his caddy, Steve Williams to earn any Money. I hope he has a Good Pension Plan!!

While it’s true that Steve can caddy for others, the “others” don’t make nearly as much money on the PGA Tour as Woods.

I think Caddys work on a Percentage. While it is too early to see what will happen with Wood’s career, Steve may want to go out into the Job Market and see what’s available, just in case Woods is Sidelined for a while. It is obvious that Woods will need time to repair his Marriage, or he just may need time to go thru the Divorce Proceedings. Either way, Woods will be out of Commission for Months is my guess.

I hope these Broads were worth it Woods. You will lose Millions in Tour Wins, and YES, Endorsements, even though Nike and Gatorade are Standing by their Man for now, I feel that won’t last, when all the rest of this Shit comes pouring out into the limelight. They will drop Woods like a Hot potato. There must be a Clause in his Contracts regarding leading a Clean Life or something like that. Unless of course Woods stipulated in his Contract that he could Fuck all the Broads he wants!!!!

Btw, Woods picked some real losers when he chose to fuck around with the girls he did. A couple of them aren’t real lookers in my opinion. They must have had some sort of talent  for Woods to Fuck around with them, such as Sucking a Golf Ball Through a Garden Hose!!! You get the idea!!!

So to Steve Williams, Good Luck to you Sir, as you may soon be out of a Job. Believe me, Woods really ain’t even given you a second thought right now, with all the Shit he is dealing with. And we haven’t seen anything yet!!!!

Hey Steve, did you have a Prenuptial in case Tiger Left You???

we were supposed to shoot this engagement pictorial at villa escudero, but on the last day, the couple has changed their plans since they met an unfortunate accident the night before. pity them…

but, all is well that ends well.. and these images are sure to be one of those images that will linger on your mind for quite a long time.

see and enjoy!

Wedding Date : November 29, 2009

Full of fun, loving and most of all “God Fearing” couple, finally decide to tie the knot, here in the Philippines.

I was sitting at my desk at work reading news articles, which is actually a part of my job. I read the political, sports and world news articles but try to steer clear of the fashion and entertainment ones. However, some of the are like reality television shows; I just can’t look away. One thing that manages to crop up time and time again are idiotic people who act without proper thought. This brought me to the idea of proclaiming my personal IDIOT OF THE MONTH award.
This one was hard actually. This past month, I have seen Richard Heene, the Balloon Boy’s dad, who deserves an honorable mention.
This month’s runner-up has had my fascination as the IDIOT OF MANY MONTHS for few months. I think that Jon Gosselin is a first class douche. Just when I think to myself “He just can’t get any worse”, he always does. I am sure he will do his best to be reseated in the number one spot again. He just can’t seem to screw his head on straight and get his act together. Step out of the light, Jon, step out of the light.
As award-winning as Jon is, this month belongs to Mr. Lamar Odom. The 6-foot, 10 inch, 208 pound foward for the Los Angeles Lakers has been in the league for the last decade. However, in the dating league, I am not so sure. This past month, Lamar Odom married Khloe Kardashian, the older sister and reality television co-star of Kim Kardashian. Now my views on the Kardashian trio are what they are and we will leave them buried for now. No doubt, like Jon, there will be a need for a blog on them in the future.
Let’s look at the Kardashian-Odom story simplified. Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl for thirty days. Boy marries girl. Three weeks after the ceremony, prenuptial agreement is signed. Boy agrees to terms of prenuptial agreement. Boy and girl get matching tattoos. Boy and girl live happily ever after. You think? Here is where I qualify Mr. Odom for his trophy.
While meeting, dating and marrying the love of your life is always great, a thirty day courtship should be cause for question. Yes, there is true love. Yes, love at first sight may exist. However, a little investigation of character flaws and personality analysis may take longer than that. It should when signing up for what’s supposed to be a lifetime contract. Yes, he’s a professional athlete and she is a socialite and “TV star” but where in this month did he start ignoring the flashing, bright neon sign that says GOLD DIGGER. How does she not know that he isn’t abusive? Oh well, that to the side, let’s move on to the next point.
Lamar’s next questionable move, to me, is a two-parter. First, let’s discuss prenuptial agreements in general. Correct me if I am wrong, but doesn’t PRE mean BEFORE! Last I checked, that document should have been signed before the “I DO”s. I know in this day and time there are Postnuptial agreements so I will let this go. I applaud Lamar for wanting to protect his interest but…when telling his bride-to-be at the time that he wanted a prenup, the first thing she did was lawyer up. I don’t think that I would like to be married to someone that I need a contract with. It defeats the words “for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health”. However, that’s just my thinking.
The demands that Lamar Odom agreed to give Khloe in case of divorce are: $500,000 for every year the couple were married, $25,000 a month in general support, ownership of their new home (not even purchased yet), a new luxury vehicle at the end of every lease cycle, $5,000 a month for shopping, $1,000 for beauty care and lifetime courtside Lakers tickets for her family. Call me crazy but I don’t think Lamar is getting the better end of this deal. Hey, love means more than money, right?
Well, the icing on this particular cake for me are the matching tattoos that the couple got on their hands. The tattoos are very nice monograms of the couple’s initials. Odom has gotten “KO” tattooed on his hand and Kardashian received “LO” on hers. I may be a skeptic but I once again think that Lamar drew the short straw. If ( and I hope for Lamar’s sake the question never occurs) the couple parts ways, Khloe’s “LO” could serve as a derivative of her own name of course. On the other hand, Lamar’s “KO” can serve as an abbreviation for the Knock-out this marriage just may give him.
Let’s hope the loving couple remembers ” to love and to cherish” until death do them part. Let’s also hope that death is in old age. Does any one know if O.J. was invited?

Prenuptial agreements aren’t for everyone.  They’re also not just for the rich.  I visited Bankrate’s Prenup Information Page for more information on something that I didn’t know a lot about.

The website says that prenups are not just for the wealthy, in fact, there are many reasons why it would be a good idea to sign one.

My fiancé and I will not be signing any kind of prenuptial agreement for two reasons.  1. We don’t fall into any of the above bullet points.  2. We’ve been together for eight years and have almost nothing anymore that just belongs to one or the other.  At this point, we have made every purchase together.  We didn’t have combined banking until recently but just prior to doing so, we both blew all of our savings on down payments for new cars (which were necessary, not planned).  We have made every purchase together and plan on doing so forever.

On the other hand, a family friend of mine did sign a prenuptial agreement.  She is an older, widowed woman and he had been a family friend for nearly 50 years before they were married.  When she told me why she would sign a prenup when marrying someone she was deeply in love with and trusted more than anyone, I was curious as to why.

She told me that they both have a fair amount of savings because they are both doctors.  They signed prenups because they wanted to make sure that all of the money that they wanted their families to have (children and grandchildren) will go to them when they pass away.  She explained that signing a prenup isn’t always about not having trust in the person that you marry, it’s about protecting your family.

I’ve also seen quite a few situations where people were ‘madly in love’ and trusted each other fully and then one day, the one with less money at the beginning had a change of heart, left their spouse, and took half of everything.  That whole situation could have been avoided if they had just signed the prenup and protected themselves.

After researching about prenuptial agreements, if I had even ten dollars that was in my name alone, I would make sure that I protect the little bit that I have. 

Signing a prenup has nothing to do with not trusting someone, it is about protecting yourself, your assets, and your family in the event that things don’t work out and the laws take over.  There is no reason why you can’t have love, trust, money, hope, a prenup, and a lasting marriage.

Without a prenup, assets could end up in the hands of your spouse’s children from a previous marriage instead of your own kids, or they could go to a slothful mate who did nothing while you toiled away at a business or book that eventually became a big success.

“If you don’t want a divorce court to make the final decision about how your assets will be divided, a prenuptial can protect you,” says Dunnan. “Without a prenup you’re letting your financial future be determined by a third party.”

If you’ve decided to file a prenup, you can visit the US Legal Forms.

Sources

(2009). Prenup. Retrieved from   
          http://www.bankrate.com/brm/prenup.asp

(2007). Premarital agreement. Retrieved from  
           http://www.uslegalforms.com/premarital/new-jersey-premarital-agreements.htm

Until next time, here’s a poll.

Romance is on the way back in according to an international men’s survey that showed 71% of men believe in marriage and 36% believe in soul mates.

While the “modern man” may not be easy to identify – is he ”macho” or is he “metrosexual ,“  the Ask Men website survey canvassed the views of 50,000 respondents from around the world. The published results are analysed according to the responses from Australia, the US, the UK and Canada.

According to the 2009 Great Male Survey:

Marriage:

71% of men believe in marriage.

36% of men believe they have a soul mate, and are still looking for her.

39% don’t believe it’s important to sign a pre-nup.

The perfect girlfriend:

46% think that women put too much value on financial worth

33% think that a beautiful wife or girlfriend is the ultimate status symbol

The most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material” is a sense of caring/nurturing, which came above loyalty, sense of humour and intelligence.

22% of men said if they could change one thing about their wife/girlfriend, it would be her sexual appetite followed by her attitude/moodiness and then her looks.

44% would dump a girlfriend if she became fat.

50% of men prefer a C-cup size breast

Dating:

44% of men believe they should pay for the dates until the relationship is established.

72% of men would snoop in their partner’s email or other electronic messages

90% of men say a couple should live together before marriage

42% say they are comfortable with their girlfriend keeping in touch with her exes.

4% of men wouldn’t be comfortable with dating a woman with a higher income than they.

Sex:

18% of men have lied about how many sex partners they’ve had to protect their ego.

40% of men have fantasised about their partner’s friend.

53% of men use condoms.

60% of men would take the male pill if it were available.

86% would be offended if a woman faked an orgasm during sex.

26% of men have faked an orgasm

33% of them have masturbated at work.

50% of men would change their penis size if they could.

Only 1% of men admitted that they cheat on their partner.

84% have lied about the number of sex partners they have had

Frequency of Sex in Relationships

40% were “somewhat satisfied – there is room for improvement”

14% were completely satisfied – wouldn’t change a thing about it and the rest were dissatisfied because of the quantity or quality of sex or had no sex life at all

79% believed that to have a happy sex life couples needed sex “multiple times a week”

33% engaged in sex “multiple times a week”

At home:

33% of men own seven or more pairs of shoes.

39% admit that real men cry.

62% cook at home and enjoy it.

Before beginning this post I offer the following quote in defense of my babbling on interminably about myself—it’s by a writer who, for many years, has been one of my favorites:

“I should not talk so much about myself if there were anybody else whom I knew as well.” Walden—Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862)

This posting is extracted from the plethora of memories I’ve retained of my mother’s second marriage and of the stepfather she allowed to enter my life. I relive those events frequently in my memories, and I feel that many, or at least some, may strike a chord in the memories of any viewers who might stumble on my blog. Some of the memories are pleasant but others are painful—whether pleasant or painful, they’re my memories and I’m stuck with them. By relating and passing them on to others, perhaps I can enhance some of the pleasant memories and diminish some of the hurtful ones.

I must say, as always in the interests of full disclosure, that viewers will need to accept the accuracy of my memories as I relate them—none remain to support or deny them, and none is left who can, with any certainty, diminish or embellish them.

All are gone.

They exist only in my memories.

I am the last one standing.

When I was born, “I came into this world cold, naked, wet and hungry, and things have been downhill ever since.” I would cheerfully attribute that lament to the comic who said it, but I don’t remember who it was.

My birth occurred soon after my mother (Mama) divorced my father—at any rate that’s how the story goes. I accept that because I have no way of disputing it. I have documentary proof of my birth-date, when and where and to whom I was born, but I have no way of knowing when, or even if, the marriage was officially dissolved.

I suppose that since I was born out of wedlock, I came into the world, at least technically, as a little bastard (according to the accounts of some, I still am). In fact, during the early years there were various times when I disobeyed Mama and engaged (and got caught) in some forbidden enterprise, and she would sometimes exclaim in exasperation, “Oh, you little bastard—even if I must say such a word!” The exclamation was forcibly voiced, but always stemmed from pure love and was voiced with pure love, with humor lurking in the background.

Mama was 44 when she married her second husband. He was 48, a big man with a big stomach which significantly preceded him. He usually dressed in khaki pants and long-sleeved khaki shirts, with a black or brown tie held in place with a western-motif tie clip. The ensemble was grounded by western-style boots and topped with a broad-brimmed Stetson hat. He was 6-feet tall without the boots and Stetson—with them he presented a formidable appearance and took up a lot of space. He was born and grew up in Alabama, so his affinity for western garb probably stemmed from having lived and worked for several years in Texas, a state to which he would return a few years later with his new family.

A special note: The photo above shows Mama and my stepfather in later life, shortly before his death in 1970. I took this picture in 1969 during a visit I made prior to starting a combat tour in Viet Nam. Their on-and-off marriage spanned 28 years, from 1942 until 1970. That 28-year span included several lengthy separations, plus one divorce and one remarriage, all of which are excellent subjects for more postings. Apparently their relationship was one of “can’t live with and can’t live without.” In 1980 Mama died, having lived “without” for another 10 years.

My stepfather had bushy eyebrows, piercing dark eyes, almost black, and an ample nose under which, in permanent residence, was a broad black mustache. He always carried a heavy knob-handled wooden cane—not for support but to use as a pointer, to give directions to someone, for example. If necessary it could be used as a weapon, either for defense or offense. I witnessed its various uses as the years passed, and I noticed early-on that people tended to step aside as he neared them on sidewalks or in hallways, regardless of width.

When Mama’s second husband entered our lives I was nine years old and living in Columbus, Mississippi with my mother and two older sisters. The younger sister was just 18 months older than I—another sister (the eldest of three living sisters) was older and worked outside the home. The third sister was married and living with her husband in south Alabama. Mama’s first marriage yielded a total of seven children—five girls and two boys. One of the girls died at birth or shortly after she was born, and another died under the wheels of an auto driven by a drunk—I have no memories of either child, nor of the auto incident. And finally, there was a brother who would figure prominently in my life at a later date. He was little more than a shadowy figure at the time—I hardly knew him. When Mama remarried, my brother was overseas on duty with the US Navy, continuing a six-year enlistment which began in 1940.

My stepfather’s name was John, but during his brief courtship of my mother he insisted that my sisters and I call him “Uncle” John. My younger sister and I readily acquiesced to the name (there had been other “uncles”), but the elder sisters called him “Mister” (not Mister John, just Mister). They had numerous other names for him which they frequently used in the presence of others, but never in his. After the marriage he told everyone to call him “Papa John,” or “Papa.” I had no problem with the terms but my sisters, except for the youngest one, never used them—they continued to use the term “Mister.” The youngest sister resisted strongly, initially refusing to use any title, but finally became resigned to using “Papa.”

The couple married in summer, at the end of the school term. Soon after the brief civil ceremony, with the required minimum number of people present, the newlywed couple departed on what was, ostensibly, a honeymoon. If I ever knew where they went and how long they stayed I must have forgotten it, but I clearly remember where I went. I was shipped off to a sister who lived with her husband in Pritchard, Alabama, a small town near Mobile. I was told that the visit was my “summer vacation” and I believed it, although I wondered at the time why it was necessary for me to take all my clothing.

I would learn years later that my sister had agreed to accept me in her family in order to relieve my mother’s new husband of that responsibility. He had insisted on disposal of the two minor children, in one fashion or another, as a provision of the marriage—a prenuptial, so to speak, and one to which my mother apparently agreed.

Bummer.

So I was off to Pritchard and my sister, the other minor child to be disposed of, was similarly banished but not quite as far away—her “vacation” trip was to Vernon, Alabama, a small town 30 miles east of Columbus, to live with an aunt, one of my mother’s sisters who had made the same agreement with the newly-weds. Neither my sister nor I had any inkling that we had just been cast away, discarded, left on the side of the road like a couple of unwanted pets.

Our bogus vacations began when our school terms ended, but that status was reversed three months later. Shortly before the next school term began, we traveled to Long Beach, Mississippi, a small town near Gulfport, to join our mother and our new step-father. We thought the move was simply the end of our vacation, but we learned many years later that our mother had violated her “prenuptial agreement” to have us reared by relatives. She insisted that she had to have her children with her—I never knew what promises or threats she used, but they were successful. Her new husband relented and allowed us into the family.

Our travels and travails began in 1942 and would continue until 1949, the year that my youngest sister married and I enlisted in the military.

I’ll get back to you later with more details.

Tyrese Gibson, who is definitely NOT a struggling artist, requested a prenuptial agreement before his marriage to Norma Mitchell 10 months ago. If the prenup is valid, Norma won’t be getting much. Norma, naturally, is contesting the validity of the agreement.

According to the terms of the prenuptial agreement, Norma has no claim to any property and she won’t get half of Tyrese’s assets earned during the marriage. It is also important to know that any assets owned by Tyrese before the marriage isn’t considered community property anyway.

Apparently the prenup provides Norma with a lump sum of $50,000 for every year the Gibsons were married, up to 10 years. Since the two didn’t even make it to a year there is a question whether the $50,000 could be adjusted for the 10 months they were married.

It is reported that Tyrese Gibson made about $1,000,000 last year. Norma had no income but stayed at home with the couple’s young child. Tyrese currently pays temporary child support of $6,230 a month plus Norma’s rent and car payment which total another $3,500 a month.

I can only hope that they are going to negotiate a settlement that considers the best for the child. Tyrese could certainly do better for his child than a single payment and a good-bye, and Norma better not assume that she’s going to get a penny more if she fights the prenuptial agreement!

The case is set for trial in August.

It looks like the divorce for Kate Walsh and Alex Young is getting ugly, even though the couple was only married for 10 months, according to TMZ.

Alex is claiming that accounting firm London & Co. is refusing to release a full accounting of all joint assets. Young says a month before they got married back in 2007, they bought a multi-million dollar house together and furnished it with expensive stuff.

In California, and without a prenuptial agreement, it doesn’t matter who made the money, who is seeking the divorce or why. Both parties are required by law to give a full accounting and “disclose” all Community Assets. So the fact that Kate made the lion’s share of the down payment really doesn’t matter. Also there’s probably not much value there considering the house has gone down in value since they bought it — so there is no equity to split. Also not important is the fact that Alex walked out on Kate…

Also according to TMZ Kate is now requesting a trial date, which is not always a good sign for settlement purposes.

Considering the state of our economy and the fact that the major asset is probably not worth that much the Parties should truly consider negotiation AND maybe a prenuptial agreement next time.  I always like the see the Parties work out their differences instead of fighting it out in court…

Here at Engagement 101 we try not to talk about the negative side of relationships. Sometimes we do, but since we’re writing for soon-to-be-engaged couples, the last thing we want to do is be harsh and pessimistic about your future marriage plans. But since we live in an age of rising divorce rates, some couples might think a prenuptial agreement before tying the knot is the smart option. But it’s…kind of unromantic, yes? Why would anyone want to think about the possibility of splitting?

'But I was gonna use that money to fund Passion of the Christ II: Christ Strikes Back.'

But the problem still remains the same. How can you discuss signing a prenup with your fiance/ee? Now I’m no attorney, but with some help from eHow.com are five tips you can use to discuss the unflattering subject of prenups:

1. Every couple has the talk about their future together, whether it’s about marriage, children, living together, etc. During these talks is a good time to suggest the idea of a prenup. A prenup is not something to throw all on the table at once, it should be discussed throughout the duration of your relationship.

2. When discussing the prenup, try to explain that a prenup is not about giving one person a financial advantage over the other. Explain that a prenup can help aid pre-marriage debt, can safeguard trust funds and inheritances for children, and is a binding legal contract that accurately explains both the equal roles you’ll play in the marital union.

3. Discuss a prenup in a neutral environment, like a restaurant, where both of you feel casual and relaxed.

Love,
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I’m thinking of launching a pre-marriage project – a blog site (or maybe a page within this little bloggie site of mine), focusing on the journey prior to a wedding, or marriage. I truly believe, one has to make preparations not just for a wedding-of-the-year thing, but more on the marriage itself – you know what happens after the ceremony and merry-making.

Here goes a title recommended to me by an OMF Literature Staff (or editor, I’m not sure)

A Preparation Manual for Couples by H.Norman Wright

Right now, I’m still officially single – and I want to make the most out of it. I’d like to know the life mission I will pursue. Of course, one of that is raising a God-centered family. I’d like to raise kids who will be an asset in their own generation. Most important of all, I’m thinking of the kind of passion that I will dedicate my life to, aside from motherhood and family-raising (which are definitely full-time, unending missions in life).

What would be that one thing that I can say I have made a mark in this world. Much to the influence of the late Master Rapper Francis M, who is not only a husband and a father to 8 kids, but also a legendary music icon of the Philippines. Truly, Cancer is a cruel disease.

I think this journey before marriage is about self-realization – what you want to be in the years to come, along with the family that you will build. It’s an evaluation of where you wish to be headed, and what kind of contribution you want to impart in this world.

However, I think once you commit yourself to family-raising, there isn’t a more important passion to look forward to. I often hear successful women say, that it isn’t their career that’s most legendary of all their contributions in this world – it’s their kids who have turned out much better than they are, and are productive citizens in their lifetime. That’s really inspiring. I bet one is with her own family, it will no longer be about you all the time… but more about your children, your family as a whole. What would make them the best that they can be.

- Pablo Neruda -