Purpose as we have also discovered, is, in some people, revealed by their talents, bent/inclination or learned skills. No matter what, every living being is expressing or living the meaning of life. The deliberate choice to live in a certain fulfilling way is living with purpose. In this post I will share four (4) methods by which you can find out your life’s purpose.

I. Talent

This first one is blatantly open. If you have the knack for playing the guitar, and you already play it for recreation or in a band, you may have found your purpose. One cogent key is that your purpose will always directly or indirectly add value to the lives of those around you. So, if there is any skill you have, that comes so natural to you, i.e. you don’t work too hard at it, like the average person, then that could be your talent. And it may be your purpose.

II. Learned skill

You may have developed, or desire to develop some skill. It could be that for some reason you have fallen in love with this one skill-set. If it is something you could see yourself doing, regardless of what the pay is, then you may have found your purpose.  Another key is that you will be passionate about your purpose. Mother Theresa’s passion took her to India for the sake of helping the downtrodden to salvage the little dignity they had left. That was her purpose.

III. Discovery Questionnaire

For this exercise you must be in an environment where you with no distractions.  No TV. No radio/mp3. No phones; just you, a pen, and some pad to write on. As you write, do not change your mind. It’s alright. Allow the first answer that comes to mind. Write it. Spend ONLY 40 seconds, maximum, on each question. For question 5, you may add to it later, if 40 seconds runs out on that one.

1. What makes you cry for joy? (Events, people, hobbies, ceremonies, etc.)
2. What makes you angry instantly? (Injustice, false advertisement, unhealthy habits, ideologies, etc.)
3. What do friends, family, co-workers, etc. say about you? What do they consult you for? People know you for something. What is it?
4. Who are your heroes? Which exact qualities inspire you, in each person? Write them out
5. Do you have talents, skills, gifts, abilities – past or present, hidden or obvious. All those things you can do and no one knows about, they count too.
6. If you had three more days to live, what would you do? What must absolutely happen in your life before you are ready to leave this planet?
7. Is there a way that all these directly or indirectly enrich and add value to  the lives of others ?

The answers to this group of questions will form a theme. From that theme, you will be able to come up with a sentence that embraces what you have learned. This is your life’s purpose.

IV. Go with the Flow

If none of the methods above yield a satisfactory definitive answer, then continue with your life as it is. However, be at your very best in what you do. Remember that you are already living the meaning of life. Purpose is just details. As you allow yourself to live happily and gratefully, you may discover that being you – the way you are, is your own purpose.

You have learned four ways to discover your purpose. It may all seem like a coincidence, but the Architect of this universe did not place you here without a reason. You count. Keep that in mind as you go about your day. Know that you were well thought of before you got here. Your presence is welcome and needed.

Selamat malam…aku mudah tersentuh hati….menangis adalah perkara yang aku akan selalu dan sentiasa cuba elakkan daripada orang lain melihat atau mendengar tangisan ku…

Alu juga senang untuk keraskan hati,untuk sesuatu perkara…Aku juga lemah hati nya…

Hari ni,aku menangis…xtaw kenapa….mmm….teresak2…aku cuba untuk tenang kan diri…tetapi air mata ni lebih suka turun daripada duduk diam,…

Apakah yang sedang berlaku…..sedih kerana tak dapat balik? mungkin…aku sedikit rasa tertekan,bosan….tak taw nak buat apa…assignment…kehidupan yang aku lalui setiap hari,adalah benda yang sama…aku tidak juga berjaya terbang bebas…bukan fizikal ku,tapi hati ku…tidak merasa bebas…

Kenapa…..apa yang perlu aku buat….apa yang aku perlu persiapkan…tiada,,,…kosong menjelma lagi…..adakah ini yang aku cari…..mungkin kau tidak mengerti…..mungkin kau tidak merasainya…

tidak perlu..aku hanya mahu bercerita tanpa mengharap balasan komen….

Purpose of my life…???

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A Pretty Awesome List!

The essence of any good bucket list consists of overcoming fears, achieving goals, realizing dreams and even simple pleasures. Whether it’s an exotic adventure half-way around the world or something simpler, like spending more time with your family or friends, what matters is that you experience all the good and phenomenal things Earth offers.

Here you’ll find 225 things to do before you die. Sure, a few of them are what some might consider to be cliché, but we made it a priority to think mostly outside the box.

So, without further ado…

1. Throw Tomatoes at La Tomatina

La Tomatina is an hour-long festival in Bunol, Valencia (Spain) where an estimated 150,000 tomatoes (a whopping 90,000lbs of juicy, pasty awesomeness) are flung everywhere and at everyone. The action begins at 11 a.m. sharp and ends an hour later: a water cannon usually signals both. Afterwards, those who’ve experienced La Tomatina claim that dark red covers the entire town square and that tomato juice abounds more plentiful than air. What better way to kick off your bucket list than participate in one of the world’s largest food fights?!

2. Hang from Toronto’s CN Tower

For acrophobiacs in need of curing their fear, one of the ultimate solutions has to be EdgeWalk—a terrifying “walk” on the I’m-gonna-to-die edge of the ledge of the 1, 800ft-tall CN Tower in Canada. Towering that high (1,168 feet/356m for the EdgeWalk platform) over the grand Toronto harbor, the CN Tower is the world’s fifth-tallest free-standing structure. Take the EdgeWalk challenge and for God’s sake, per the traditional wisdom (especially when you’re dangling at over 1,000ft via only a couple of cables), don’t look down!

3. Eat at One of the World’s Best Restaurants

How do you qualify “one of the best restaurants in the world”? Consider the following Über-fine (and, you guessed it, Über-expensive) eateries, and any and all guesswork will likely be eliminated from the equation: See Restaurant Magazine’s list of the world’s 50 best restaurants. Yours truly’s favorites among the top 50? Alinea, Per Se (U.S.), and Hof van Cleve (Belgium).

4. Visit Area 51

Area 51 is a highly secretive, mysterious military base (which everyone knows is a U.S. Air Force base, despite the U.S. government continually denying its existence even to this day) located in Nevada, on the southern shore of Groom Lake. It’s rumored to have hosted (and could still) anything from alien remains and/or alien spacecraft, to super-top-secret Air Force aircraft and warcraft, to bio- and chemical-warfare laboratories. Locals say that it’s safe to travel up until you see ‘Government/Restricted Area’ signs. Pass those warnings, however, and you’ll be greeted with, well, far less than red carpet hospitality!

More is listed below on this site.

Bucket List: 225 Things to Do Before You Die – StumbleUpon.

If the family were a fruit, it would be an orange, a circle of sections, held together but separable – each segment distinct.  ~Letty Cottin Pogrebin

What consist of a family? Is it the traditional mom, dad and kids. Friends you have known your whole life? It is easy to define for some people. Other’s have a hard time with the concept.

For me – family is my first priority. I had a family I adored. We were a complete unit. But, as life does – it throws a curve ball and you lose something you took for granted everyday. The simple things like your love one coming home to work – and you being excited about it. Cooking dinner and eating around the table talking about your day. Helping the kids with homework and kissing them every night as they vanish to dream land. And cuddling up with your love one for at peaceful night of sleep.

My parents are going on 35 – 36 years of marriage. I grew up with a wonderful family unit. My parents always did the best for me and my siblings. I grew up with that instilled in my soul. That is what I want. I have been on my own going on 7 months on my own. Supporting myself I am beyond proud of myself and I know I can make it in this crazy world. But I am missing that important part of my life.

I just turned 34 yesterday. Yes, I thought I would be in a different area in my life 10 years ago. I never thought I would be divorce and not see my kids but a few times a week. Yes, this kills me. I have found out that I have the love – and I really have nowhere to aim it until now.

God has a funny way of working your life out. He has taught me a lot the last year and a half. I am a stronger person that I ever thought I could be.

I am not in a hurry to get married or engage – but it is something I do want in time when time is right.

I spent a week at my boyfriend’s house. I forgot how important family was. I cooked, cleaned and made sure the kids were happy and not ripping each other’s head off. My daughter helped me cook dinner – and the boys did the dishes.

I felt like I had a purpose again. I miss being a mom. I miss having someone to share life with. The cuddle and watch tv ( even the men shows). The best thing is getting in a soft blanket and tucking my toes under the man I love as he wraps his arms around me.

We are going over some mountains now. We are getting our gears where they fit and work in tune. We talked and we are both ready for the next step next year. I am determined to get through this year just to build the confidence of surviving on my own.

I think what is the best part of this blog – is the man I love wants the exact same thing. He is the most caring loving man I know. He is a good worker. He needs help and encouragement as I do to. We make a good team. No, we make a good team.

Our hearts are the same – together we are whole. It just amazes me how we feel like we are made for each other.

We both want what are parents had – a complete life and to grow old with each other. And I can’t wait till the day … and where do my kids fit in.. they are the missing puzzle piece.  I want to provide them with mommy having a great happy life. To have an older brother to look out for them. Mommy is going to do the best for them to have what my family had.

Movie nights and pizzas – big birthday parties – family trips.. family to me is a unit that has unconditional love…

Let’s do a flashback from a year ago. I have to see the path God has brought me through. Remind myself how far I have been through.. and look forward to see how short it is till the end.

Last year this time, I got mixed up with someone I know now that was just a band aid for my newly divorce. I latched onto something I know I shouldn’t of. Everyone around me was screaming for me to not do it. But I didn’t listen. I went ahead and one day – I knew I had to make my first step to leave the job I loved. I had a deep feeling inside me that this was something I needed to do. To prove to myself I can be a big grown up and do everything myself to find a full time job.

Now, I had left my apartment and moved in with my best friend and her family. Her cousin leaved there and we were seeing each other. I now know I didn’t have my head on straight if not even plugged in.

You know those loop-t-loops on rollar coasters. I was at the part when the coaster was just about to go into the loop. My life was thrown every direction. I literally could not find my standings on life.. where I was headed. If it was on the darkest moments in my life – and I have had A LOT of start overs in my life. I have had chance after chance from God and my family. They never had given up on me. I know my family wants me to only be happy as much as God wants to see my heart overfilled with joy and love.  I had this illusion that I had that. Boy, was I wrong. I call it my after divorce crisis .. something to hide the pain of losing everything I had in my life and try to attach myself to something familiar. Being in a relationship built on illusions vanish like wind hits fog. It just disappears and what is left is the distruction of seeing the truth for once.

My life now is on the top of the loop-t-loop on the coaster. I got settled in my new apartment.. I was not ready for the drop down because it would make my stomach turn. I was scared and most of all had the fear of falling out the coaster- I did not want to fail again. I needed to prove to myself I can be a single woman and support myself.

A couple of days after Valentine’s., I decided to hop on a dating website to see what was out there. I was on it for 4 hours and I got hit up tons of times with guys that started emails like we were passing notes during class. I just blew them off. I was about to give up and I got an email ..saying someone wanted to be my friend. For some strange reason – I opened it.. and saw a message from TxBoy.. oh boy.. So, I linked to his page and first thing I saw was an adorable picture of him and his son. Now, Clifford has a lot of names.. you can call him Scott, Scotty, Clifford, Clif or CAS. I was so confused at first.

But anyway – back to the point – by chance I messaged him and we just exchanged message than moved to text than to the phone.. which is now like meeting someone in person. Hearing someone’s voice or personality can be the hit or miss.

Well – it was a hit – we talked for hours.. than once we past that stage – we decided to have our first day – but that is for another blog -

The point of this blog is looking back and see life gives you the loops you know are ahead. Right now I am headed straight down that loop. I am excited, scared, and have tears just streaming down my face. It is exciting, scarey but you are just sad because you want to get out of the loop and finish the ride.

That is what my life feels like now. God gives this loops that are HUGE.. we look for ways out.. where are the loop holes you always here about. Where are the short cuts???? My heart is in my stomach right now.. my knees are weak.. and my brain is cloudy at times. I don’t want to be off this ride – no- I want to get off the loop to where the track is straight.. and it would slowly come to the stop.. and we both can get off hand in  hand and head home together forever.

Louisiana Trip July 12

We live for weekends, right? Some people have different reasons they look forward to them. I have two main reasons I look forward to them…. My kids and spending time with my new family Scott and his son. Honestly, my weeks are so busy with work – I focus on my job all during the week. I give my all at work. And I do have some good outcomes because of my work ethics. I recently got recongized for having perfect customer WOW scores. This is a survery our marketing department does. We do get an added bonus for good WOW scores. So far, I have had 6 shops with all 5 stars. I also got a key chain and 10 dollar gift card to Chilies. I know this job is a stepping stone for something… I won’t be here forever. I am looking into tranferring when my lease is up in my apartment. Scott and I do have plans in set for our future.

My prize from my district manager.

We will be working on our 5th month together. And it has been a whirlwind of romance. Every time we are together – we get more connected and fall more in love. He is everything I wanted in a man. The kisses for no reason – telling me I am beautiful out of the blue. The caresses on the face.. and holding my hand where ever we go. I have always seen couples so connected.. seen the actually hearts floating around these couples. I was always like.. why can’t I have that.  Don’t get me wrong – I loved my ex husband very dearly. But we both agreed that we did the best because we were not happy in our marriage and it was best to break it off. Yes, it has been a year since my divorce. But I have learned so much about myself in the last year. My weaknesses and stregths. My goals are going where I want to be going. I see that light at the end of the tunnel. This time it is different.

We do have those hearts over us

The timing of Scott’s and I’s relationship couldn’t be better. He does live about 45 minutes away. We have to squeeze that special time together when we can. We have no issues with our kids with each other.. He is very stern about me staying in my apartment till my lease is up. He wants me to have to sense of independence. He wants me to learn to support myself in life. To pay my bills on my own. To be motivated in myself in my life.

He wants my self confidence to grow in myself. He came in my life when I was in the lowest part. I found myself not having an direction in my life. It isn’t the man that changed it. It was the man that open my eyes of myself showing how great I am and can be. His wisdom keeps me sane. His love keeps me full. His actions make me feel like I am the only girl in the world. His first goal is making sure I am safe and happy.  He told me today that there is a reason we are going down this path. A reason for us to be far apart.. we cherish each other more when we are together.

I find myself being different with him. I do things for him that I actually haven’t done even in my marriage. I put a lot of stuff on the back burner in my marriage. Cooking is one of them and house work and being that supportive person I should of been. I learned a lot from my last marriage. Now, I know my disease of bipolar had the huge claws in our marriage that made me not motivated to do anything. Now, I love cooking big breakfast in the mornigs. I am not even a morning person. I clean the apartment before he comes over because I want him to have the sense of peace as a home when he stays here. I do anything for him when he is here. And what is different about him – he sees it – he thanks me for my work – he appreciated it. We find ourselves having the puzzle pieces fit together. I can’t wait to see the person I am capable of doing in my future. I am still young and I am at the stage of my life where I can make it the way I always wanted. I am so happy to know my kids will always love me and support me. This whole relationship with Scott is going to change my kids life for the better too. We can provide so much for my kids as a team. I know one day we will become a family. Scott is at the stage of his life where he wants to have that special person with him all the time. I am excited to see where our lives go.. I just know it will be a beautiful journey.

Things will fall into place. He says I am the one.. that the last couple of weekends he has fallen even more in love with me. I have found myself still getting butterflies before I see him. I get goosebumps when I hug him. He steals my breathe when I smell his crease of his neck. Everything he does for me.. is to make me feel good about myself. He has such a given spirit. He understands all my handicaps and my past. He still sees my heart..

Life is wonderful now. I am so happy and content in my routine. I am blessed to have family issues finally straighten out.  I do have an idea that God brought Scott as a bridge in my life. He has made me cross a lot paths that I was scared of crossing.  God’s timings is perfect – and God is in control of everything. I thank God for showing me a man that has the heart of God..

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My Kids Are My Purpose Of Love

Weekends with the kids are a precious gift God has blessed me with. I don’t see them as much as I would like. Due to our visitations schudules and how much I work during the week – I find a size of a needle to squeeze them in. It isn’t enough for me. When they are not with me – I feel like  a piece of me is missing. When they are with me.. they show so much love to me. Natalie always wants me to be cuddling with her – holding her hand – she is my lil me. We are getting closer. I don’t want to loose that connection with my daughter. I want her to know how much I love her.

Natalie’s baby motto: Our lil squishy forever

Nicholas is my sweet loving boy. He just randomly runs in the room to give me a kiss. He always wants to be around mommy. He has a lot of love in him. He will be turning 7 this coming month. He is very excited about it. He went to toyrus and made a wish list with 64 items.

Nicholas obsession with lego’s and military.. he always plays with these.. he makes a full movie out of the toys.

I am at the point in my life now where I can afford to take them out and do stuff with them. We went to the movies today to see Men In Black.

Fun in the sun

It is fun doing things with the kids. I know they will remember little things with mommy. We always try to have fun. We had a great weekend of swimming and walking to feed ducks. We got a little sun.. but it makes them look healthy since my son is a ghost. But we had a great weekend.

The bad part of this.. when I drop them off – I do into instant depression. I know I am providing as much as I can with my kids. I am not a full time mommy like I was. Which is a shift for me since I was home with them until they went to school. I raised them since they were babies. Now that they are getting bigger – I feel like I miss on a lot of them. I will be working on a new job idea where it won’t take all the time away from them. I have a plan for the next year that will make us closer. I know God is putting me through this so I can learn to be strong. But during that path of becoming strong – you break a lot.

I just want my kids to grow up knowing how much mommy loves them and I am always here for them no matter what.

Time will show the love I have for them through the years. This is just a glitch for me to overcome some obstacles I have know in life……

In a matter of hours, it was all finished.  He was so proud of it.  I applauded him, patted him on the back, and let him know how well he had done with such a difficult task.  He “flew” the ship around the room once and then landed it on the coffee table.  It’s been sitting on the same spot on the coffee table ever since Christmas Day.

Some people live like Daniel’s spaceship.

I fear my life becoming that way.  I don’t ever want for my life to be a trophy or a showpiece that sits on the table gathering dust.  I don’t want to look back one day, pat myself on the back and wonder what my life was about.  Sometimes I need to take all the pieces of my life apart and rebuild them in a new way.  New life.  New purpose.

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under Heaven:  a time to break down, and a time to build up (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 3).

What do I want?

Why am I here?

Last night I finished Tony Robbins’ Get the Edge program. It took a few weeks, but I enjoyed it from beginning to end. I learned a bunch about myself and feel a bit more prepared to take on life in a more proactive way.

The last assignment was writing out the “purpose of my life”. Which is was pretty darn difficult if you ask me. This was the first thing that came to mind. I feel like I have more on than one purpose in life, but I think this one is a solid statement for now.

- When Evil Smiles
Remember that the forces of evil are always ranged against you. They know the power you can become as a channel for God-Power.
I had to conquer them in the wilderness before My Life of Healing and Helpfulness could be all-powerful.
Not by great falls but by little stumbles does evil seek the downfall of My friends. Your Mountain of Transfiguration can only come after your conquest in the wilderness. Temptations at which your whole nature would shudder are no temptations for you.
Beware the smiling face of evil, it’s seeming innocence, its hand of friendliness.
Fail Me not. Will you not walk the path I trod?
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hope that you are touched by this message,
just one thing i want to point to.. just feel the love of God in the last sentence “Will you not walk the path I trod?” .
God bless
December 27