I’ve had many learning experiences over the last several years, both good and bad. About a year ago, I was over the past outside broken relationship and more importantly, everything was solid on the homefront. My wife was beginning to explore polyamory more actively and we were able to relate better than before to the ups and downs of being poly and kinky.

Many of my learning experiences gave me a foundation of what I felt comfortable with, what I could give of myself, what I expected from someone else, and what I could never accept in someone else. One very important thing was respect, that to get it, you had to give it. If it was going to be an ordeal to find time to meet, then don’t keep me waiting. By no means should I necessarily be the first, second or third most important thing in my submissive’s life, but I’m not going to accept being the 20th or 30th in line. Being way back in priority should have only happened once, if at all, but it happened a second time earlier this year.

By mid-summer I was wary, but still interested in seeing whatever might be “out there”. My wife was justifiably protective of me — she wants good in my life and she wasn’t terribly impressed with what I was experiencing. I envied her growing connection with her submissive. I started talking with someone new, and as the days went on, it was becoming apparent that something was different. There was respect and concern. There was care, said with more than just words.

We took time to get to know one another and I wanted to make sure I didn’t let my heart get ahead of myself, like I have done many times in the past (with both good and bad results). I wasn’t going to position myself for more hurt.

This time, it was different. It’s much better. I’m now addressed as Sir by one who I shall refer to from here on as pet.

I hope that you and your family enjoyed the Thanksgiving Holiday with your family.  I enjoyed my time with my family and was able to relax and recharge my batteries for a strong finish to 2009.

There are so many topics that I want to write about.  It was difficult for me to choose which one to write first, but in the end I chose to write about Respect. I chose this topic because I am astonished at the lack of basic Respect for others in our world today.  Can you imagine what this world would be like if everyone respected each other?  Would there be a need for police officers, lawyers, armies, etc.?  I sincerely doubt it, but of course this utopia will not exist until we are in Heaven.

While there is not much that we can do to change the level of Respect on a global or even national scale we can have a STRONG IMPACT IN OUR COMMUNITY!  How?  By being respectful to others.  By treating them with a basic level of respect that it is due to every person.  As parents we much encourage and teach our children to be respectful of others.

A great example of respecting others with a different point of view is the current Health Care debate.  While I am firmly rooted on one side of the issue, I respect the right of other people to view things differently from me.  In fact, I have learned much about the American health care system that I didn’t know by talking to others with a different perspective than mine. We are so blessed to live in America where we are free to debate issues that we may disagree on. While I may or may not agree with you, I do respect you as a person and your freedom to believe and act as you wish.

Begin each day with the objective of being respectful to everyone you interact with that day.  While it is impossible for us to be perfectly respectful all of the time due to the imperfect nature of our humanity (Romans 3:23), we must strive to be respectful nonetheless.  When you make a mistake, acknowledge it, apologize for it, learn from it, and move on.

Remember that the more that we respect others the more they will respect us!

“Men are respectable only as they respect.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Toti vrem sa ne dam cu parerea despre orice si sa aratam ca ne pricepem la toate. Si chiar daca nu vrem, de cele mai multe ori suntem obligati. Pentru ca ar fi rusinos, nu?, sa ni se reproseze ca nu suntem in stare sa avem o opinie. Dar, desi o opinie, are nevoie de mai multe date pentru a se putea forma, foarte putini sunt cei care recunosc ca nu si-au putut forma una si le trece prin minte sa ceara informatii in plus. Asta si pentru ca nu e un lucru usor sa formulezi intrebarile corecte.

Oricum ar fi, trebuie sa avem o parere pentru ca altfel ne facem de ras. Pana si tataia din varful muntilor comenteaza si critica si opineaza. Singura deosebire, insa de tataia din varful muntilor e ca el mai are inca umilinta si respectul de sine pentru a recunoaste atunci cand a gresit si pentru a-si asuma aceasta greseala. Pentru ca el nu are de aparat o reputatie construita cu multe compromisuri. Pentru ca pe el nu il duce mintea intortocheata atat de departe incat intr-o dezbatere sa se invarta dupa copac cu afirmatii de genul “nu spun ca ai gresit, spun ca ar fi trebuit sa faci asa sau altminteri”.

De cele mai multe ori lucrurile sunt mai simple decat le vedem noi. Si, de cele mai multe ori, cei care le vad simplu sunt cei care au dreptate. Partea cea mai grea si grava, din punctul meu de vedere, pe care mi-l asum, e partea cu ASUMAREA. Pentru ca toti avem opinii intr-un fel sau altul, dar nici 0,1% din creierele care le produc nu si le asuma. E oare mai simplu s-o tot dai la intors? E oare mai complicat sa ai caracter?

homo sum, humani nihil a me alienum puto

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Not even sure why I’m doing this, but I think this one will require plenty of commentary. Oh well, here we go…

9:00PM Wait so Toni Braxton plays the piano? Can someone tell her that’s reserved for Alicia Keys and Lady Gaga in ‘09? She’s playing like 3 keys so she must have had the Lauryn Hill crash course on instrument mastery. *Forgive me Lauryn!* So Trey Songz is the object of Cougarella’s affection? She just kissed him. Was that necessary? This award show screams broke. I’ve bought Farmville fences that cost more than this show.

9:05PM Soul Train announced the lineup and not a single person on the roster sold a record this year. Now Terrence Howard and Taraji P. Henson are singing a duet. Is this a joke? Reunited to be hosts. Broke.

9:08PM These two are the worst hosts. With the level of terrible humor going on I almost forgot the Wayans brothers weren’t hosting.

One of the best days of your life for you. It's finally time to retire. They have so much to say thank so many people, but you're not quite sure how they all fit in a short speech to retirement.

To play your retirement speech project, meaning, depth, and especially who you really are and how you feel. Millions of people are faced with this same dilemma every year. The good news is that there are a few basic tips you can use to make your retirementQuestion one, that make a difference to win and respect among your employees.

The first 3 seconds …

The first thing you want to do when retirement is giving your speech in order to ease your nerves. Most people do this by saying, I'm nervous or is it difficult or a variety of other methods. Unfortunately this is not the way to begin a memorable retirement speech. The best thing we do is in the first 3 seconds, to say nothing at all. Simply step on the podium and a deepBreath and exhale.

The next 5 seconds …

Once you have taken a deep breath and relax your nerves, you will want to smile. Yes, for the next 5 seconds, you give your audience a big smile and maybe a laugh. Not a false smile and laugh, but a joy. You must realize that you really enjoy something that only happens once in a lifetime, most people at the time, so this time have met!

The 8 Second Ride is Over

OK, now you have eased your nerves and relax the tension in theRoom. A bull rider must stay on the ride for 8 seconds to win the battle. Congratulations – you've just ridden the bull. Now the rest is easy. If you are disciplined enough to just enjoy the moment your retirement speech a success. One, the significance and depth, as you had imagined it would.

Try to discuss this issue and you will be amazed at how professional the people will think you are. It may be too simple. What will you say or how you say it. The truth is – you willnever say that everything is in order, or get everything, but what are the first few seconds of those who most people are talking about judges. If they like you in the first 8 seconds can be confused, and they will still be moved.

Yesterday I posted a Facebook status that said “Elton John saved my life.” This isn’t really something to be taken literally (as I think that suicide is a selfish thing to do, and I’m also too much of a coward to attempt it) but it is quite figurative. During some of my lowest points I always end up listening to a lot of Elton John music. Don’t ask me why, because I’m not actually sure… Anyway, last year during my rough patch, I was super low. Songs like “Someone Saved My Life Tonight”, “Sorry Seems to Be The Hardest Word”, and “Don’t Let the Sun Go Down on Me” always make me feel better. Even if they are slightly depressing songs. However, songs that will really lift your mood are songs like “Bennie and the Jets”, “Philadelphia Freedom”, “Saturday Night’s Alright For Fighting”, and “Bitch is Back”. He is a true musical artist, and a fantastic performer. (Though I have yet to see him live…)

A friend texted me after that Facebook post, and we got to talking about what it would be like to meet Sir Elton randomly one day. Because I have an overactive imagination, I actually did daydream about meeting him (because I’m a fangirl) and here’s what I came up with. ***This is in no way realistic, because Elton and David (Furnish, his partner) probably never have to walk anywhere, or eat in any sort of random London cafe. Don’t hate- I’m just being imaginative.***

I have plans to go to London this summer. I imagined that while I was there, just walking the streets with my friend, when we decide to pop into a small cafe to get a quick bite to eat before setting out on our next adventure. Before going in I see two people who look familiar, and get an anxious feeling in the pit of my stomach. We enter the cafe, and with our backs to the two gentlemen, I can’t make out who it is and why I recognize them. We receive our food, and turn around to find a place to sit. Upon sitting down, it hits me: It’s Elton John and David Furnish! Oh my God! Oh my God! AHHH! (I obviously freak out a bit.) I whisper to my friend who it is, and upon realizing it, we both have mini-strokes. How is this man who is so great eating in this small, badly lit cafe? We eat a few bites, but our stomachs are so unsettled.

It looks as though the two gentlemen are finished eating, and as they get up to leave I suddenly have a problem- Do I get up and ask him for a picture and autograph? Do I leave him alone, which is probably what he wants? If I ask him for anything will he be rude and say no, and leave me embarrassed? What a dilemma… Without a lot of thought, I decide that since he has no idea who I am, risking a bit of embarrassment might be worth it. I get up, say excuse me, introduce myself, my friend introduces herself, and we ask for an autograph and picture, if it wouldn’t be too inconvenient. He obliges us, thanks us for listening to his music, and asks if there is anything else he can do for us. In my mind I’m thinking, “Well… I’d like to see you in concert…” But I keep my mouth shut. As though he had read my mind, he asks us where we are from, and says he can arrange to fly us to see him live and hang out with him backstage.

A few months pass by, and I receive a phone call from Sir Elton’s agent. He says Elton is having a concert in St. Louis, and is personally inviting my friend, myself, and a guest each, to come see him perform. Of course we all go, have a good time, and from then on, Elton and I are BFFs.

This is an example of how my imagination works. There are always more of these stories around… Do you have any stories like this? Comment below and tell me!

I have been asked why I write all these horrible things on my blog, why I write about consenting to murder, misogynity and other moral and ethically questionable material.
Why dont I go blabbering about this IRL?
Partly because I have no interest of medling my personal private views in the everyday life, that is the way of the whining, stuck up attention whore, and partly because there is a thing called respect; and though I may be a very angry and satanic fuck here inside my own domain, there are basic social laws that abide all people.

I use this blog as a sort of personal record, and a way to release myself of all my daily aggrevation.
There is so much hatred, anger and rage in this world already; why should I contribute to it all by being a disrepectful sonofabitch to my fellow friends and everybody else?
No,  respect is what one must face and understand in the presence of others, no matter how much you might hate a person or dislike a situation, if you act like a fucking ass all the time; what good will that do anyone, and especially yourself?
A personal opinion, about anything is something shared very personally within a consensual socialgroup, or if it is very radical and extreme; not at all.
I do share my opinions here, but to enlighten those who do not understand and do not accept, that certain truths are undeniable.
Plus, I want to wake up discussion, because I want to write about things many people do not wish to speak of, whether it be racism or such.
It doesnt only contribute to our own need to pass our opinions and thoughts, but it broadens our persepectives and thus leading us closer to understanding the world as it is.

But for those who know me, I ask you what am I really?

Some people however, are very inconsiderate, loudmouthed and all round loathesome; what makes them believe this behaviour is tolerable, accepted, attractive or appreciated?
Does this image their personality positively in any way? Does this give a goodperception of their hearts and minds?
-No, I dont think so.
It is very pityful and I cant stand such people, therefor I choose to keep myself away from them because they irritate and enrage me.
But do I act like an ass to them because of that?
No, even so it is better to ignore and be conscious about yourself, rather than others, because again; what good will it do if I sink down to their level?

See, most of these people, who dont realize the aftereffects of their mental and physical, worldy actions, never do, until it is too late.
One must take time at some part in their life to really think over the past and the present, to determine their future; because if you are still a stupid numbnut after the age of 20, you´ll probably stay one for the rest of your life.

I am neither a bad person on the inside or outside, but what we percieve with our eyes often dont make up for what is reality, you have to look beyond.
We all have darkness in our cores, but either you can understand it or you can deny it, if you deny it, then you are living in ignorance, and that will taint and show in both appearance and acting.
As for some people, it is very easy to see through whatever fasade they have, no matter how nice or cool, or even how ‘badass’ they try to be…they are weak both psycologically and physically.
Bad actors…
Cast your judgment upon me as you wish, I dont care.
If you have followed my blog for a while I hope you and I think on the same level, then you will understand me.

Im Tomio.

Ronald is lovin’ them maracas..lmao! Big Rudy got them claps to a science..Ernie was and will always be a pure BEAST (in my Top 5 Greatest Guitarist EVER next door to Eddie Hazel/Mike Hampton..Van Halen and Slash are decent..). What’s cool about this clip is that it’s the rarest of clips with all six brothers and The Great George Moreland on drums. They brought the amps and all..poor roadie..

Im STILL trying to find The Isleys Live @ Yankee Stadium (71′) DVD..I have the original vinyl (good luck finding it..super rare).

FREE RON (he deserves the Roman Polanski deal..)