This week on The Pickup Artist, the guys show how far they’ve come, and man, they sure don’t look like the same nerds we met six weeks ago. They were total pros out in the field and there was lots of making out going on. There was also a very Top Gun vibe what with all the wingmen – Rian and Greg easily filled the roles of Maverick and Goose as they competed against Matt and Simeon (er, Iceman and Slider) for immunity. There was no sexy, sweaty beach volleyball, but we did get a glimpse at a new, shirtless Simeon. Umm, Simeon. . .care to explain?

When Rian returns to the house with the last of Mystery’s medallions from last week, Simeon tells the group ”We’re the Fantastic Four right here.” With Brian now gone, the guys have lost a friend, but also a rival – they’re all one step closer to being the master pickup artist, but first, in a move to see whose day game it tops, they’re are hurtled into a sea of coupon-clippers and price checks at the grocery store.

Mystery explains that day game is like a watered-down version of the pickup techniques the guys are used to – body language must be toned down and negging should be kept to a minimum. Besides, no woman is going to get with you if she has Tofutti Cuties that need to hit the freezer asap. A subtler approach is called for. While Matt starts off strong, all the Luna Bar jokes in the world couldn’t stop him from losing momentum. He ends up nervously batting around an onion, which I wish was a euphemism, and leading Mystery to joke “There’s an eight-set of asparagus right behind you!” Poor Matt just couldn’t produce. Get it? Produce? Like the produce aisle? Sorry…

Next up, Rian enters boldly and heads straight for the chocolate fountain, always a good move, because where there’s a chocolate fountain there are most definitely single women congregating. He starts off well but then starts in on some “theater exercise” version of patty-cake, yet he still manages to number close a two-set of girls. The grocery store seems to be Rian’s element.

Maybe Simeon remembered the Sesame Street episode where the food in the fridge could talk to each other, because when it was his turn, he seemed to direct his opener at a wall of herbs rather than the girl next to him, and was shocked when the ladies weren’t responsive. He then forced a girl into conversation and somehow, despite her discomfort, got her phone number, all the while causing our judges to cringe.

“What I proceeded to do is the exact opposite of everything I had been told,” Simeon said while sauntering off into the employees-only room. Meanwhile, Greg couldn’t close any deals and froze after making chit-chat and faking interest in food samples. The fake perplexed look on Greg’s face as he fakes interest in what he just sampled and fake contemplates going back for more is genuinely entertaining.

Matt and Greg may charm the ladies at night, but their day game proved lacking and Rian was named the winner of the challenge.

Back at home, Matt confides to the gang that he feels like he’s dumbing himself down when he’s out in the field. “Who’s going to a club to talk about the Socialist policies of France? Nobody is! But that’s in my wheelhouse, you know?” Well Matt, you’re right. No one goes to bars, or the supermarket or even French Socialist club to talk about that. It looks like your wheelhouse shall remain a fortress of solitude. Later, Matt references Mel Brooks and Carl Reiner so actually, Matt might want to hit up Club My Dad if this is the kind of conversation he’s looking for.

Mystery, Matador and Tara arrive to teach a lesson about being a good wingman. These lessons include talking up your buddy in what’s known as “accomplishment intros” and preventing obstacles from getting between you and your target, in other words, warding off cock blocks. With the help of a wingman, the goal of this week’s field test is to make out with a girl. As the winner of the reward challenge, Rian was allowed to choose his wingman, and he decided to pair with Greg, leaving Matt and Simeon together.

Out in the field Greg and Rian successfully manage to get three girls to come sit with them in the VIP area. Greg makes out with his target in no time at all, leaving her awed by his smooth techniques.

Rian was left to fend off the other two girls – literally. He actually had both girls offering to kiss him and each other, and one of the girls even apologized saying her kissing was out of practice. Rian went in for an innocent “little brother” kiss with her and while it wasn’t a full-on makeout, for a guy who was trying to diplomatically handle a threesome without ever having kissed anyone, he did well.

Later when it’s Matt and Simeon’s turn, Simeon and His Magical Cowboy Hat get some action right out of the gate.

Matt and His Suit spend too much time talking business and he doesn’t make a move on his target until after Simeon comes by for some wingman motivation. Watching them and seeing how much their confidence has grown since the beginning of the show is exciting at this point. As soon as Simeon leaves Matt and his girl alone, they’re playing tonsil hockey in no time.

Having a wingman has made the guys wayyy less self-conscious.

“It’s official, we’ve built four really, really impressive pickup artists,” Doctor FrankenMystery tells his assistants Matador and Tara.

Since Matt and Simeon both achieved the makeout goal, Mystery chose them as the winners. Their styles complemented each other and ultimately that’s what won it for them. On the other hand, while Greg also accomplished the goal, he proved to be a selfish wingman by not helping in any way (perhaps he could have pulled one of the target girls off of Rian for a few minutes so Rian could collect himself), and now the two of them would be fighting for the last medallion.

We haven’t heard much from the guys in the way of playing the reality game – up until this point they’ve all been grateful for the lessons they’ve learned from Mystery – but now that it’s down to four, it’s getting competitive. “At this point, I really wanna win this competition and strategically I think Greg poses more of a threat than Rian does, therefore I would actually like to see Greg go home,” Simeon says. Cold, Simeon, cold. But this is an elimination show and there’s been no cattiness thus far, so it’s refreshing to finally see some strategy employed. We’re so close to one of the guys saying “I didn’t come here to make friends, I came here to win!” I can feel it.

Each guy was allowed to make his case for staying, and Rian made his point by saying that he doesn’t even kiss his family, so to have kissed one girl on the lips, even if it wasn’t a makeout, was a success. That tugged at the old heartstrings until Matador pointed out “You don’t kiss? That’s what we do man!” Touché. This guy must’ve killed at debate club.

Greg sealed the deal though when he said “I feel like I’ve grown one thousand percent, and I feel like I have the potential to grow another million percent.” How can you say no to that? That’s some solid math right there. Had Rian only played the numbers game, maybe he wouldn’t have been the recipient of this week’s Fuzzy Farewell Montage.

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After watching this season of The Pick Up Artist, it’s obvious that Brian might be the show’s craziest contestant. He has made out with mannequins, admitted to practicing his kissing technique on ham slices, and coined more than his share of slang (”smokin’ balls,” anyone?). Turns out, Brian in real life is exactly like Brian on the show, and when we talked, our conversation had equal amounts ADD and TMI – that’s just how Brian rolls. Deep down though, he’s all about making friends with everyone. In fact, I think we ended the conversation with my promising to cook him dinner if he’s ever in New York. He may be off the show, but Brian’s not easily forgotten.

So tell me, what was it like meeting Mystery, was it exciting or did he just come across as a normal guy?

He was a bit different. When I first saw him I was like wow, he looks like a rock star. I thought we’d have to dress like him and I was like “I’m way too short to wear that trench coat,” and I didn’t know if I’d be able to pull off the Darth Vader goggles and cowboy hat. Everyone else that I’ve talked to from the show says that you’re the one person they all definitely keep in touch with.

I pretty much get along with everyone and there really wasn’t like any major drama and it’s not like a show where you get voted off, it’s all based on performance so you can do good for three or four challenges and the next challenge you screw up and get kicked off.

Read the rest of the interview after the jump.

Do you think that’s fair?

It’s maybe a little unfair ’cause Todd did really well and he just messed up on one challenge and just from his performance on the one challenge he got kicked off.

That’s what happened to you too, don’t you think? Up until that last challenge, Mystery, Matador and Tara had nothing but love for you and their reactions were always positive and they were impressed by your confidence.

I’m really confident, but I have approach anxiety that I couldn’t get over. Major, major approach anxiety. Capital major. Capital M-A-J-O-R. But now I’m still the same person, it’s just like I’m a better and improved Brian.

Have you put your training to use since the show?

Oh yeah. I’m lovin’ life right now. My results are more than one and less than one hundred. I’ve got to get to know you a little bit better before I let you know the real number.

So for your last challenge -

Which one was the last one, the one where we had to number close?

Yeah, you had to get a number from a bikini model.

Yeah, I was too intimidated by the skinny little thongs in between the girls’ butts. They were good lookin’ though.

So that made it harder?

It was so nerve-wracking, you knew there were cameras around and like, the first five-set that I walked into I said that they had orange faces and tans and all of them heard me say that and when I went around to open other sets they would be like “There’s the guy who told us we had orange skin!”

Have you learned your lesson? You should never call a girl orange.

Yeah, maybe I should’ve said they were too yellow instead. Hey, are you very experienced, sexually? I’m just wondering because I read on a blog, I was reading a bunch of stuff that people were writing about me, but then I read that semen is good for your skin and all these people on the blog were like “You should use the semen opener where you tell a girl semen is really good for her skin.”

I’m not so sure you should use that one.

I don’t think I would either. It was just coming from these crazy guys that worship me. Like all the messages I get on MySpace and Facebook are from guys, so many guys come up to me, it’s weird. I wish it was the opposite gender.

Maybe they look up to you.

But it’s like, tons of guys who add me and ask me for advice and hang out with me, it’s probably 80% guys and 20% girls, it’s horrible.

What do the girls say to you?

They say “Oh HA HA you are so hilarious. You’re so funny. I love you. Now when can I meet Mystery?” Every girl I talk to wants to meet Mystery or Matador and they wanna use me as a middle man. I took a girl to a party and she ended up hooking up with some other guy to try to get to Mystery.

Ew.

Yeah.

Do you like hanging out at clubs like the ones you went to on the show, or do you meet girls at school or in dive bars?

I like dive bars better, I went to a club on my birthday and they were only letting in one guy for every three girls and they weren’t letting my friends in so I was gonna walk out. You know where I like to hang out at? Under big tall trees and just chill, just enjoying nature. I love the outdoors, reading a good book, going to the beach.

Do you really like pickle juice?

Well, like I don’t like drinkin’ it, but I like, like, getting the giant pickles from a theme park. Have you seen that Zohan movie?

Nope.

I saw it. It’s pretty funny. Stupid funny.

Did you just see it?

No. I saw it in the theater. Adam Sandler is one of my favorite actors. And the guy from Superbad. And I like romantic comedies.

Do you want to act?

No, the thing is that I found a job on Craigslist and when I went in for an interview they referred me for The Pickup Artist and I’m like, I’m not an actor, I’ve never read scripts but I tried out and like 4 months later they called me and I was like, cool! I had very little investment in it, I hadn’t seen the first season, I don’t have cable. I don’t know anything about pop culture except that Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears are drunk-asses. I haven’t even picked up the book The Game yet, I feel like I should read it.

If you’re having fun, you probably don’t need to read it.

Really, going out is all about confidence and having fun and having a good time with your friends and projecting your true personality. Vibrating with the crowd and showing the whole room love. Just love everyone and respect them.

• Posted by OG on November 11, 2008 at 9:58am
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Talk about a creative title! =D This is something I did last night to help someone get in to a better mindframe.

Close your eyes and… take a deep breath. Allow yourself to relax. I want you to think of a time where you felt like you were the king of the world! A time where you were felt invincible! Do you have it? Good. I want you to focus in on it. Really bring it out. Can you feel it? Great! Now visualize a ball of pure energy in front of you, pulsating, growing. Let that ball of energy grow bigger with every breath you take. As it gets bigger, watch as it goes inside of you. Let that energy consume your being. Let it take over and grow stronger within you. Feel any different? Awesome! Open your eyes.

Simple. Effective. Can be anchored easily.

Enjoy!

OG

• Posted by Myxti on November 10, 2008 at 9:53pm
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So…..I’ve been thinking. Pick up is about bettering oneself and improving one’s self esteem. When does it cross the line from just that to an addiction? I feel that some people involved in PU only do it do get positive reactions from females. I know a PUA who used to be on hard drugs. He quit them, joined the PU community, and now appears to be abusing PU as if it’s his drug of choice.

Years ago, we called guys who couldn’t commit and always tried to get into a girls pants a “dog” or young. But as a female, I am disgusted when I am told that “we do it to better ourselves” but then everything that they say and do, shows that they are hurting themselves instead and these women.

Don’t get me wrong. I find the art & psychology involved in PU fascinating. When you watch the PUA on VH1, I find it inspiring that they help these guys find the tools to be confident not just speaking to women, but in all areas of life.

But when PU becomes an addiction, it becomes a problem. It makes the community seem like a cult. All you are doing is trading one drug for another.

It’s sad, actually. For those of you who use PU as an art form and a tool to better yourself….go for it. For those of you using it as a drug….get help. You are only hurting yourself and people who wanted to get close to you.

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Bikini fashion show! No, it’s not the name of a cheesy 80s movie, it’s the field challenge our guys had to undertake this week and man, oh man was it AWK-ward! Of course this outfit never ceases to surprise, so even though three of ‘em hit on the same girl, hyperactive Simeon was the only one who could close the deal and get her number. The rest failed miserably. Simeon was the week’s big winner and SHOCK of all shocks, Brian was the dude sent home.

But first, someone grab the keys to the Range Rover because we’re heading to the Scottsdale Plaza Resort! This week’s reward challenge sees the guys involuntarily signed up to be the prizes in an auction at a fancy-pants spa. Before they can even protest the idea of being paraded around like cattle, Mystery adds insult to injury by telling them they ain’t got no DHV. That’s “Demonstrations of Higher Value” in Mysteryspeak, and in layman’s terms it means selling yourself. I think. The explanation was vague, and I was left to infer the definition of DHV all on my own. Come to think of it, I still think Kino Escalate is an SUV equipped with electronic gambling machines, so I’m not entirely sure what most of Mystery’s man-lingo means. But in this case, at the auction, the guys are supposed to think of stories that will literally sell themselves to the highest bidder.

Matt takes this to mean that he should introduce himself as a high caliber, culturally elite oenophile and starts rehearsing a story about going to Tuscany to study cheese and wine. Simeon talked about the time he and his Sherpa got caught in a monsoon, and Brian seemed to glaze over at his tale.

If the snippets of these guys rehearsing their DHV stories were any indication, I worried for the charity that would benefit from this auction. Poor, poor Defenders of Children, times may be tough this month.

Brian presented himself first to the roomful of prim and proper ladies, and was purchased for a respectable price, likely because he wouldn’t stop shaking his booty at them.

Final bid: $575

With $575 as the amount to beat, Matt took the stage and continued his story about being taught the ways of the world by an Italian woman. Unfortunately that’s as sexy as it got because his lessons were about what stinky cheese goes best with Chianti. The stories worked though, Matt earned himself an $850 bid, and unless one of the other guys could top that, he might be living out “Under My Tuscan Son” with one of these charitable Arizona socialites.

Matt praises the group of women for their good sense to bid on him:

Final bid: $850

The other guys weren’t quite as at-ease on the stage as Matt, judging from their awkward physical DHVs and low bids.

Rian tried to woo with his come-hither bedtime look:

Final bid: $450

“I don’t want to brag or anything, I just want to tell you I’m a great person,” Simeon totally bragged.

Final bid: $575

On his 24-month service mission, Greg explained how he “left a boy and came back a man.”

Manly though he was, he still couldn’t beat Matt. Final bid: $800

Has Matt lost a reward challenge like, ever? As a prize, he got the company of wing woman Tara whose presence and general hotness will aid him later on when he’s out in the field.
Right Tara?

I thought so.

The field test was to pick up a hired gun, a woman whose job relies on her beauty. “A bartender…a go-go dancer…a bikini model,” Mystery says, clearly after having just watched an episode of Laugh-In because when was the last time anyone in real life referenced a go-go dancer? The guys must use different techniques to pick up a bikini model after attending a swimwear fashion show, so they tested hypothetical compliments and negs with Tara. Matt clearly felt confident after hearing Brian’s line “You are the orangest girl I’ve ever met.”

The guys watch the bikini fashion show and then are let loose amongst the throngs of thongs. What you are about to read about was shot using hidden cameras. There are no actors in the club, only real people. . .

And this was where it started to get painful. While swimming in a sea of models, Greg acted awkward and hovered, Brian’s formerly cute “I like pickle juice!” did him no favors and the moment he told one of the models she had “the orangest tan he’s ever seen”, the girls scattered. Remember those Dawn dish detergent commercials where one drop of Dawn on a casserole dish immediately repels whatever grease was on the dish? One drop of Brian was all these girls needed.

Rian, Matt and Simeon all end up trying to mack on the same girl and while she was warm to Rian and cool to Matt, she ended up being hot for Simeon. Guys, take a note from Simeon – offer to take a girl out for mani-pedis because while we can handle small talk and flirting, we can’t abide cracked heels. Simeon’s manic personality and rock-star cowboy persona finally pays off and the girls are on him like nail glue.

When the challenge was over, Mystery addressed the guys in a storage room/Ultimate Fighting cage.

He’s disappointed in Matt who, even with a wing, can’t even pull off getting a phone number but tells all the guys that, aside from Simeon, who’s the obvious winner of the challenge, they could all be on the chopping block since no one else got a phone number.

Ultimately Matt and Greg were awarded medallions and Brian and Rian were in the bottom two. Never would I have thought Brian would be here – I was sure his confidence and craziness had bought him a one-way ticket to Pick-Up City. I’m amazed at Rian’s progress too, but his lack of confidence had been a worry – he does good work out in the field, but I’m starting to think that all his crying is reversing that dry heat Arizona is so known for.

Mystery calls Brian’s persona “one-note” and Tara tells him he doesn’t listen to girls and for those reasons, Rian is awarded the final medallion. In what seems like genuine sadness from everyone in the room, Mystery, Tara and Matador all say goodbye to Brian, who can’t keep his emotions in check and takes a moment to cry before sailing off into a Fuzzy Farewell Montage.

I’ll miss Brian. . .and his hair. . .and his love of pickle juice. . .but I think it’s his spelling I’ll miss most of all, especially as he bids us farewell: “I’m a new person. I’m ready for a real K-I-S-S, infinity S’s. On my lips. Instead of a mannequin this time. Or a guy.”

My Saturday night started with a choice.

There were three parties going on:

1. One of my friends was having a birthday party. She was a really cool girl and some of our mutual friends would be there. The downside was that it was 2 miles away and I’d have to drive to a section of town that is not known for its pristine safety record.

2. A guy who I had only met once was throwing a Halloween/Birthday party for himself. Chances are I wouldn’t know most of the people there, but I knew it’d be fun.

3. Some random costume party with no attractive girls on the official guest list. This was party was only one step up from staying in and playing videogames.

I almost chose #1. I was one the phone with the birthday girl asking about the party. There was hardly anyone there, and that made my decision. I told her I’d make it if I could.

So that left #2 and #3. I chose #2, and I’m very glad I did.

I get there and the Bday-boy, who I’m going to call PowerRanger, was already smashed. He didn’t remember who I was, but he welcomed me to the party nonetheless. That was all the approval I needed. When I crash a party, the first thing I do is talk to the guys; it keeps me from developing AA and it removes potential obstacles.

People started dancing, and I started getting nervous. To combat this, I chose a girl wasn’t attracted to and started dancing with her. PowerRanger had made an announcement about it being her birthday (she was 21), which set her up as the girl-of-the-hour. I don’t know what it was, but after dancing with her I found it much easier to dance with other girls. I think one of the reasons it went so well was because I stopped asking if they wanted to dance and simply said, “Let’s dance.” I got much more compliance.

This is when the night really started to get good. I approached a set with a man dressed up as Leonidas from 300. With him were two very attractive Asian girls: one dressed as a bee, the other as a French maid. I ended up talking to the French maid. She was a freshman and wanted to know what there was to do in town. By this point a lot of my friends had walked in so I was constantly being interrupted by people greeting me—social proof out the wazoo! It was time go in for the number:

Spinx: You seem like a fun person. Here, put your number into my phone. [I handed her my phone]

HBfrmaid: [Didn’t take my phone] Wait before I give you my number, I need to test you. If you pass, you get my number.

Spinx: Okay. [I knew this was a shit test, but I had no way of deferring it. I figured I’d play along for a bit]

HBfrmaid: How do you spell my name?

Spinx: [I did not remember her name.] Uh…

HBfrmaid: My name is [her name], now how do you spell it? You get three guesses.

Spinx: [fails twice]

HBfrmaid: One more guess.

Spinx: Nevermind, it’s not worth it. [I started to put my phone away].

HBfrmaid: Wait! Wait! Don’t give up!

She eventually tells me how to spell her name and I get her number.

Probably the best part of the night was that I lost my fear of escalation. I went for five k-closes that night. They all failed, but I wasn’t afraid to escalate anymore. I did get several kisses on the cheek, but those aren’t important to me anymore.

Another interesting set was one standing by the door. I walked by to say farewell to some people who were leaving and they stopped me on my way back to the party. This set had two gorgeous girls with them. I told them about my costume and gave both some light kino.

Eventually I told them both I was an engineer and the hotter one, HBtall, asked if she could marry me. I told she’d have to wait in line, causing everyone else in the group to laugh. She feigned disappointment and walked off. I turned my attention to the other girl, HBrival (she was visiting from a rival school).

I ended up going back to the dancefloor and HBtall approached me. She asked if she was really on my list. I don’t remember what I said, but I got her number (even though she had a boyfriend). HBtall and I did some dancing and she started grabbing my butt. I reciprocated (this was actually my first time grabbing a girl’s butt). In retrospect, I should have kissed this girl, but I didn’t want to do too much with her boyfriend in the room. I danced with HBrival next. She was one of the failed k-closes I mentioned earlier. Looking back, she was in front of her friends when I asked and I should have isolated her by taking her to one of the other rooms.

Other random events from the night:

Played musical chairs and got second place.

Lost count of all the girls I danced with.

Gave lap dances to three different girls, two of them thought I was pretty good at it.

Around 4 AM, I told PowerRanger I was leaving. He was everywhere at this party and thus I didn’t get to talk to him that much. That was the best night I’d ever had, but it brought into perspective one of my main problems: general fear of escalation. I’ve gotten too comfortable with just going to a party and number closing. I already have more numbers now than I know what to do with. I need to start taking it to the next level and getting day2’s. This is what I will start working on from now on.

So overall, I got 8 numbers in one week, a new record!

I have another entry about what I did earlier last week coming soon.

Tara of VH1s The PickUp Artist And PickUpTara.com Sends Ava Something To Sweden

Tara of VH1’s The PickUp Artist 2 and PickUpTara.com discussing the pain and heartache of breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Tara also shares a couple suggestions on how to move past that pain and sends Ava Something to Sweden to console her good friend Dylan, who recently broke up with his girlfriend. Stay tuned and please visit www.pickuptara.com for additional videos and information regarding Tara, Ava and The PickUp Artist 2. Have Fun!

(“The Pickup Artist 2″ cast, courtesy of VH1)

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In the game of love, or even lust, many of us are losers, even those of us who are successful in all other aspects of our lives. Maybe we have everything else, the perfect job, the nurturing home and family life, and tons of great friends; but for some reason we just can’t seem to find that ideal partner who so many of us crave.

Why is that, you’ve certainly wondered. Is it because as men we’re too visually stimulated to select anyone who falls short of Brad Pitt? Is it because we approach dating as we do everything else in our lives, with too much entitlement and not enough compromise? Or conversely, were we so oppressed growing up that we don’t think that we’re worthy?

We could continue posing theories ad nauseam, but we think it’s time for some answers. To get them, we decided to hit up world renowned pickup guru Mystery’s wing-woman Tara (and his co-star on VH1’s “The Pickup Artist 2,” on which they aim to mold the next generation of cassanovas) to get her take on gay dating and what we can do to better our chances at winning over Mr. Right — for a night or a lifetime.

And yes, we know she’s a woman, but sometimes it’s good to get an outsider’s perspective. And let’s face it, Tara does attract guys and we’re guys who want to attract more guys, so let’s begin. Class is now in session.

Tara, please explain your role on “The Pickup Artist 2.”

On the show and behind the scenes, they call me a ‘wing-girl.’ On the show I’m giving the woman’s perspective of how I like to be treated, what I think of the pickup, and just helping them be more comfortable with women, and showing them that I’m not a scary monster out to get them and that women can be nice. So I’m a coach on and off the show.

So as a ‘wing-girl’, you help men pick up women by teaching them what women want, but how about teaching people how to pick men up?

We’ve actually had a lot of gay guys and women writing and asking why we don’t include them, because they obviously have the same trouble, too. I think a lot of the same principles can be applied, but a lot of those things come more naturally to gay men and women, like not giving your all the first time you meet, and holding back and flirting. For example, one thing we teach is the ‘Neg,’ which is a compliment that’s a little negative, like saying, ‘I like your hair, is it real?’ So you’re giving a compliment, but the other person doesn’t know where they stand. If someone approached a guy and said, ‘Hey, I think you’re amazing and I want to be your boyfriend,’ the guy would think you’re really aggressive and weird.

Which celebrities would you want to pick up?

Angelina Jolie and Meryl Streep. Your next question is probably, ‘Are you a lesbian?’ But for some reason the first thing that comes to mind is women. I don’t know… I think women are so beautiful and complex and amazing. But for guys, I’ve always had a huge crush on Owen Wilson. That goes back to the whole visually stimulated thing, because he’s not the most attractive guy — he’s no Brad Pitt — but there’s something about him. I also like Will Ferrell, because I love his humor and the stuff he does. I imagine him to have a wonderful personality.

OK fine, so you can be won over by great personalities; but aren’t guys generally all about looks?

I agree with that for men and women in that the first time they see someone, they’re not saying, ‘Hey, what a great personality, I’d really love to get to know you,’ they’re seeing someone’s physicality and what they look like. But I think that gay men are more like women in that they’re more into personality. A lot has to do with the chemistry of the two personalities and the personalities matching up. But obviously even when men are attracted to women, it’s not all looks. I think men are more visual, but if someone has a shining, amazing personality, and makes the man feel the best that he can, I think he will be attracted to them.

But don’t men want a challenge? If you make them feel too good, won’t they get bored, and start shooting for someone less attainable?

It’s about treating them really well, but not being clingy, like a leech that hangs on every word and following them around like a puppy dog. It’s about showering them with love but knowing how to have a life of your own. I always say that there are three relationships; there’s each individual’s personal relationship and then their relationship together.

OK, let’s talk about some of the places where men meet each other. Are you familiar with gay bars and clubs?

Oh my god, am I? I used to live in Spain and I loved going to gay clubs, gay after-parties at seven in the morning and it was the best thing ever, because I didn’t get bothered; and when guys would drag their straight friends there, hoping to convert them, as one of the 10 girls there, I would sweep up the ones who did not want to turn over.

How would you say that gay clubs differ from straight ones?

There’s a lot more sexuality in gay clubs, which is interesting to me, because the whole concept of sexuality stems back to society and its views of what’s OK and what’s not OK. In society, if a guy sleeps with as many people as he wants, he’s a pimp and a superstar. If a woman does it, she’s categorized as a slut and a whore. So I think there’s a huge difference between gay and straight clubs. Gay men can show their sexuality because they’re men and gay women can as well, because they’re not being judged by men. At straight clubs, people bend to society’s directions on what is and isn’t ok, so gay clubs are more fun and loose.

Are clubs a good place to meet a potential suitor?

It depends on where you go, because people should go to places where they’d meet a mutual sort of person. But so many people think they have to have a few drinks in order to hit on a person. But one of the great things about the show is that it teaches the contestants to be the best person they can be, magnify wonderful qualities, and it gives them confidence, so they don’t need five drinks to do it and can do it at a bookstore and coffee shop.

Online dating… Good or bad?

I think there are pros and cons… The pros are that online you’re able to do a pre-screening, look at their stats, and communicate back and forth, like ‘I like skiing, and you like skiing,’ ‘I like Italian food, and you like Italian food.’ You get to know things upfront that you wouldn’t if you met in person. If you told someone in a club that you’re looking for a long-term relationship, that doesn’t really go over well. On the flipside, in a club you can tell if you have chemistry with people or if you don’t, instantaneously.

What are the do’s and don’ts when you’re meeting people online?

Personally, I would not go online and correspond with someone for a month and share intimate details with them before meeting them. It should be, ‘What do we have in common?’ and then meet within a week — or don’t and stop contact.

What are deal breakers when it comes to dating in general?

A huge deal breaker for guys are people who don’t listen, and eye contact is big for a lot of people, because it’s so annoying when you’re trying to talk to someone and they’re not listening. Also, don’t be crude or overly sexual.

How should men be approached?

It’s great to approach a man, because it’s forward and shows confidence and that’s great. But you can’t be too cocky, because if you come up and are dominating, then you’ll scare him off, because he’ll feel like you’re taking over. Other no no’s are the pump and dump, because if you want to have something prolonged, you can’t be sexually aggressive right off the bat.

So no sex on the first date?

I say no, but I’ve done both. Guys say it doesn’t matter, but somewhere in the back of their head, because of society, they’re thinking, ‘If he had sex with me, how many other people has he slept with?’ so they’re not likely to take you as seriously. I also don’t think that relationships ever come from that. Don’t be sexual too soon, because then there’s nothing to build on; you can’t have a sexual relationship and then build a relationship on that. You should start with a friendship, so you have a real foundation first.

Why do guys freak out after sex?

Maybe they freak out because they think the other person is a slut or really easy. Or maybe they’re thinking, ‘I hope I didn’t go too far, because I do not want a relationship, and I hope they didn’t fall in love with me.’ A lot of guys have a fear of commitment, because of the biological bullshit of spreading the seed.

What do you think of the whole “Maybe he’s just not that into you” idea?

I think it’s a great idea. Sometimes he’s just not that into you and sometimes you’re just not that into him. I’ve listened to my friends say that their relationships aren’t going anywhere, and when I ask, ‘Do you love him?’ They say ‘No.’ But some people are more comfortable in that situation than being alone. I think you should just be upfront and not lead people on, because then it’s just a bad situation.

Well, thank you Tara for such a great interview.

Thank you, too. It was cool to think opposite of ‘The Pickup Artist,’ and focus on women and gay men approaching men. They really need to do a gay version of the show with gay contestants.

Aside from her co-hosting duties on “The Pickup Artist 2,” Tara continues to pursue acting and writing, and she’s the founder and web mistress of pickuptara.com, where she helps straight singles connect. Tara lives in L.A. and is single.

You can catch Tara on “The Pickup Artist 2,” which airs Sundays at 10PM ET/PT on VH1.

Hello Everyone!

Due to popular demand, we have released a new Chat feature for PickUpTara.com! The release is currently slated for Wednesday night. We will finalize the release time and date as we complete testing and QA in the next two days. You’ll be able to click on anyone who is online and chatting to open an instant message session and then a new tab within Chat will open for you to talk privately with this person.

If you sign into PickUpTara.com and are on a page that has the Chat feature displayed on it, it will automatically show you as online. You can choose to show yourself as offline, which will take you completely off the Chat’s Online list. You will not show up at all and Chat will remember your offline status until you sign out and sign back in or choose to show up as Online again.
A Few Other Details

There will be a set of smilies and emoticons at launch. We’ll also offer a quick tutorial on how to change or add your own custom set of smilies and emoticons.

We will not have a buddy list of your friends on PickUpTara.com who are also online and chatting in this initial version. We plan on adding it shortly.

When someone is banned from PickUpTara.com, it will also ban them from Chat and remove any chats they have contributed.

There won’t be a way to contact someone who is a member on PickUpTara.com but curently offline from within the Chat feature. The best way to contact them will be to send them a private message from the message center.

There won’t be a way to show up “offline” to the Main Chat while participating in private IMs in this initial version. We hope to address this in the future.

There will not be any type of chime or sound notification of new messages in this initial release. We hope to add that to a future version.

Okay that’s about it for now. There’s a ton more features to come so tell your friends and lets keep this party growing! Also, Gay.com just posted an interview they did with me recently. I will post a blog shortly outlining the article as wel as place it in the news section.

XOXO,
~Tara

www.pickuptara.com

SPECIAL THANKS TO VH1 FOR SUCH AN EXCELLENT ARTICLE. PLEASE VISIT THE ORIGINAL BLOG POSTING HERE!

You can view Alex’s profile on PickUpTara.com HERE!

We barely got to know Alex, The Pickup Artist’s first casualty, but we all remember his Kanye glasses and gold (er, copper) chain. Even though Mystery thought Alex had minimal potential as a master of macking, Alex believed in the maestro’s teachings and still worked on his game. In a post-elimination chat, we got Alex to open up about what he learned from his mentor, his disappointing makeover, and what happened to that chain he trashed…

Watch the latest episode of the The Pick Up Artist right here.
So you were in L.A. for the premiere of The Pickup Artist, was it good to be reunited with those guys?

Yeah, it was really great, I got to see everyone that I hadn’t seen since filming. We all email each other all the time; I don’t know how we bonded so quickly.

Friends under duress?

(Laughs) Exactly.

Did you have any idea that you’d be kicked off so soon and that first experience in the club would actually be an elimination challenge?

No, I really had no idea that it would happen like that. I really thought that there might be a double elimination the next time. It didn’t even cross my mind until they started in with the “One of you is going home tonight.” But when he started describing everything – what the person going home had done, I knew it was me.

Do you have a personal favorite for the winner, someone you’re pulling for?

After seeing some of them at the premiere, I was like, how can you have trouble talking to women? Like Greg is completely different from the first time I met him. We hung out and he’s definitely confident and not at all like he was before this whole experience.

So are any of them totally ladies men now?

There are some of them (laughs) who definitely go out for the hunt and the kill in the clubs now, but for the most part they’re all still the same good guys.

Do you think Mystery’s strategies really work?

The question I get from everyone is “Can Mystery really get women, or is it all for show? If he came up and talked to me I think there’s no way I’d give him my number.” But his techniques really do work, I was skeptical, but after watching him, they all work. His appearance definitely helps – being 6′7″ and wearing a fur top hat – that really turns some heads. I’m a tall guy but I was looking up at him the whole time, he’s an intimidating guy. I do use the techniques now though, I’m still pretty green, but I do want to get better and I think I can’t stop right now. Some of my friends don’t take it too seriously though, I mean, I don’t know how easily it would happen for Mystery in Oklahoma. It’s definitely a whole other game plan.

Were you upset to throw out your chains and do such a drastic makeover?

I was really not happy with my makeover – looking at the other guys after their makeover, they looked confident. I was even intimidated by some of them after their change. Mine didn’t really change anything. It made me feel less confident than before. Just looking at it compared to everyone else, I felt like I got the least drastic makeover.

Did you go back and get your gold chains out of the trash?

I did get them out of the trash. And I bought another one. There’s just no changin’ that.

SPECIAL THANKS TO VH1 FOR SUCH AN EXCELLENT ARTICLE. PLEASE VISIT THE ORIGINAL BLOG POSTING HERE!

This week, it was all about our young Love Jedis’ quest for knowledge. The guys get their first lesson from Mystery about opening sets and negging. They also learn that age ain’t nothin’ but a number, and sometimes you have to woo a lady even if they remind you of your Bubbe. All that, plus Brian wins over Mystery and Co., with his smooth moves!

It’s officially game-on at the house. The guys mourn the loss of Alex, last week’s surprise cast-off, but things have only just begun. Each guy thinks the elimination could have happened to them, everyone promises to step up their game and Matt thanks the powers that be that his chest waxing was not in vain. The next day, they are called to a “secret location” i.e. the Italian Club complete with velvet ropes and Secret Service.

Each of the guys think that somehow this means “strip club!” (because when a venue on the outskirts of town has velvet ropes, it’s gotta have strippers). Alas, as they enter the venue, and – RECORD SCRATCH! – it’s a room full of older ladies playing Bingo. “I was definitely ready to talk to some amazingly gorgeous women. Unfortunately I was slightly misled,” Simeon explains after meeting their unexpected target. However, this reward challenge is to help the guys work on their conversation skills and, in Brian’s case, his spelling skills, and the winner will receive one of Mystery’s own personal accessories and a lesson on how to use it, so these guys start buttering up the crowd. (If there was any butter leftover, I didn’t see it, but you know these ladies put in in their purses along with any stray packets of Sweet ‘N Low. Nana’s gotta eat.)

Matt totally gets how to relate to a room full of older ladies, what with his experience at his Bubbe’s old folks’ home. We love him more each week. Simeon and Kevin take the approach of calling out the women’s age and while Simeon’s “You look. . . not a day over 35,” might seem complimentary, it’s still a little cringe-y. Not as cringe-y as Kevin though, who, in addition to sweating when nervous, has verbal diarrhea all over the women he’s schmoozing. While they might look like people, in reality, Kevin mistakes them for modern American history textbooks and is disappointed when no one pipes up with tales of Nazi intrigue or even stories about walking uphill to school in six-foot snowdrifts in summer. Doesn’t go over so well with our ladies. (Nor does Brian’s telling them they stink, never a good move.)

As vengeance for the awkward conversation they’ve endured, the ladies are asked to ink out their favorite contestant on a Bingo card and, lest you forget, the winner will receive one of Mystery’s finest accessories.

Matt is named the winner of the challenge and adorably declares that should there ever be a Pickup Artist show for the over-60 set, he’s the man. Shh-shh-shhh baby, don’t you worry, Matt’s here and he’ll change the tennis balls on your walker.

Later that day, Mystery comes over for the guys’ first real lesson but, wait, what’s this? Last week I was hell-bent on figuring out what the text during the show opener said (tribal. . something. . . mental. . . I’m still working on it), this week I spot something even more magical, chalkboard poetry!

Yesterday ends history
Today we start anew
With the help of Mystery
Our moxie and a crew

Thank you, chalkboard poet, for your clear, legible printing. Moving on.

The lesson (or as Simeon hyperbolizes, the secrets of the universe) involves the guys trying out their indirect openers and negs on each other. From here on out, the episode becomes The Brian Show. Brian explains that a neg is any phrase that begins with “LADY!” and includes telling girls “Stop eye-f***ing me!” or “Pull my finger” – but that one is only to be used sparingly and only on really drunk girls. Is there anything this guy won’t say out loud?

Mystery takes Matt aside for his Reward Challenge prize, and Matt is told to reach into the Scrabble Bag of Love to pull out his winning accessory.

Out comes a boa that was obviously skinned from the same animal that lost its life to make Mystery’s fuzzy top hat. This is to be used as a conversation piece or physical restraint, whichever is more necessary in the field. The guys head to their field test on the Bus of Destiny which quickly becomes the Bus of Excellent Drivers. With all the rehearsing of their openers, the guys resembled a batch of club-hopping Rain Men.

Matt heads into the club with boa a-blazin’ but loses his set and walks out of the club mission unaccomplished. When Rian, Greg and Simeon all get shot down too, the Surveillance Truck of Watching and Learning fills with Tara’s rage when, in defense of our guys, she screams “There’s some bitches up in the club!” and Matador and Mystery concur that indeed, it’s hard out here for a pimp.

Enter Brian, sweet, no-filter Brian, who opens sets and introduces himself to everyone, while also randomly spouting “I like pickle juice!” and Borat impressions which make the girls swoon. Mystery, Matador and Tara cheer for Brian and it’s clear, he owns the challenge.

Finally, Kevin explains that before entering the club, he just puked and swallowed it. Last week he had swamp ass. I feel bad for his uncontrollable bodily functions and feel the need to reassure him that our gender is not worth all this suffering. He can’t seem to maintain the attention of any sets, owing to his liberal use of the F-word and not acknowledging the men he meets, and he walks out defeated.

Mystery and his gang emerge from the truck and he announces that one young suitor was head an shoulders above the rest and crowns Brian this weeks winner. Brian, along with two wingmen of his choosing, will get immunity and this sends him into a tailspin. These guys, he explains, “Are family…They’re like a hair on my butt.” How can he possibly be expected to choose his two favorite butt hairs? This leads to serious agonizing for Brian as well as off-screen vomiting, but this guy can boot and rally. He pukes and comes right back to giving his interview. What was that poem again? Today we start anew…with moxie and a crew? I think the poor crew just had to clean up some of Brian’s moxie.

Mystery reveals seven charms within the Coffee Table of Medallions and asks Brian who his wingmen will be. Brian chooses Greg and Todd. Mystery assigns the rest of the medallions. Kevin, because of his cursing and repetitive opener, is phased out. “Would you guys date a guy named Herman?” proves not to be a winning line, but now the real question is would you guys date a guy named Kevin?

Vh1 The Pickup Artist Season 2 Supertrailer Oct 12 2008

Watch VH1’s The Pickup Artist 2 Supertrailer. Mystery Matador and Tara are back with a new batch of guys to transform from pitiful to playas! Visit www.pickuptara.com for additional information, exclusive videos and insight opinions from Tara.

Tara of PickUpTara.com Interviews Alex from VH1’s The Pickup Artist 2 PART 1

Tara from PickUpTara.com and VH1’s The PickUp Artist 2 interviews Alex about his experience on the show, what changes he has made in his life and how it felt being the first person kicked off of the show. Make sure to check out part 2 of the interview and visit www.pickuptara.com. Go talk with Alex now on his PickUpTara.com profile page: http://www.pickuptara.com/profile/Alex

Hello Everyone,

Spoon, from Season 1 Of Vh1’s The pickup Artist, was nice enough to let me interview him. Enjoy the read!

• What is your idea of a perfect date?
— A date that’s as random as I am. I like to pickup my date on my vintage motorcycle. It’s a great way to get close and really enjoy the surroundings. Oregon is a beautiful state. We would just ride around exploring new areas. Sometimes I like to stop and just check out a new restaurant and see what kind of DELIOUS foods they have. Well, ok sometimes the food is shit.

• How would you describe your ideal dream woman?
— Tara, you are my idea dream woman. And I’m dead serious. I like gals who are down to earth, clever, kind hearted and have a great sense of humor. It’s really similar to who I am. But sadly we could never be. Jdog already said he has dibs on you first. Hahaha. I love that guy.

• What person living today do you most relate to and why?
— I would have to say Jdog (Co-Host of Vh1 The Pickup Artist Season 1). After I left the show Jdog really showed some heart and character. He really wanted to help me change my life. So for a month he coached me (for free which would normally cost a lot) 1 on 1 and turned my life around. A lot of people don’t even recognize me anymore. I dress differently, talk deeper, and lost a lot of weight, covered with tattoos and piercings and exude personality. Plus we have the same taste in women

• What was your experience with women before being on The Pickup Artist Season 1?
— I was a geeky guy who played video games pretty much all day. My social life was non existent. I was pretty damn depressed. Innocent and naïve, I had no concept whatsoever on how to be around women. I just plain didn’t know what to do. PERIOD! I wanted a girlfriend or a female I could hangout with, but didn’t know how I would meet them or attract them. I attempted to pick up women. I would always start out by saying something funny. I thought if I could just make them laugh all the time they would like me. I found out that in doing so I was only seen as entertainment for them. I would provide them with humor while other guys would come in with their confident, smooth demeanor and sweep them away right before my very eyes.

• What went through your mind when you were picked to be on the show? What were your expectations?
— I was totally blown away when I found out I was picked. It was always a dream of mine to be on TV. I wasn’t sure what to expect from it at first till I was actually on the show. But I knew that I needed this to change and grow as a person. I knew I was an amazing guy. I just didn’t know how to show it.

• How did it feel to go into the club that first night in Austin?
— It was horrible. It’s like you got into a car accident and then another car hits and then another hits, and another hits, etc… The longer I stayed in there the more I panicked. I’m not really the club type of guy. In the past I wouldn’t stay any longer then 10 min in a club. It’s generally not the type of people I would want to meet or get to know.

• When we were in the club that second night and you froze up, what exactly were you thinking at that moment?
— I kind of blanked out and didn’t know what to do. Thinking about it now and I don’t really have words to describe it. But I do remember you (Tara) coming and giving me the support and motivation that I needed for that one moment. That made a huge difference for me and I was able to talk to a group of women successfully. I felt alive. I didn’t think something like that would be fun and exciting.

• Do you regret your decision to leave the show?
— Yes, very much. BUT that’s only because I’m not the same person who left the show. Back at that time it was the right choice. The pressure of being on TV and doing what I feared most really put a lot of stress on me mentally. The pace was to fast for real change. I really want another chance to show everyone that I didn’t fail at change. I really feel that I actually changed the most.

• If you could go back and do it again, would you? What would you do differently?
— I would do it in a heart beat. The energy I would give out. The confidence would be at a whole new level. I want that second chance on TV again to show change and to help change other people’s lives. But mostly because I want guys who were like me to know there is hope. Plus I wouldn’t have held back at wanting to fight Kosmo. I don’t like the punk ass or how fake he was on the show.

• How is your love-life and experience with women now?
— Fantastic. I usually try and go on a date with someone new each week. I work at a jewelry booth at the Saturday Market here in Portland selling handmade women’s jewelry. So I interact with women a lot and it’s a great place for me to expand my experience with women. I get numbers all the time. Some have even bought me lunch.

• Do you think that the being on the show and learning pick-up made you change your personality?
— My personality is still the same. I didn’t really get the chance to express who I was when I was on the show. Being shy and nervous kept my true personality on pause. Thanks to Jdog I can be who I am. Myself! I am a guy who loves women.

• How is your life now, a year after the show?
— Looking back on myself then and who I have become now it brings a tear to my eye due to how much I’ve changed. I am definitely more confident and secure in who I am. I am not afraid to show my sensual side, I am more ‘touch’ oriented and I am definitely more comfortable around women.

• Boldest Pick-Up move?
— Here is the scene. A beautiful, dark haired, fair skinned woman who looked like she was from Europe is sitting in this vegetarian restaurant. I approach her and begin…

Me: The falatio here is great. I know an even better spot for it.
Her: *pause*
Me: It’s right down the street.
Her: *pause* Don’t you mean ‘falafel’?
Me: Isn’t that what I’ve been saying? What does falatio mean?
Her: That you know a great place for oral sex down the street.
Me: Shit!

• What advice would you give the new guys on Season 2 of The Pickup Artist?
— Have fun and enjoy.

• What would you tell guys out there who have difficulty with women and are in the same position that you were once in?
— If you really want to change your life you have to really want it and be ready to work for it. Commit to the change and make it happen. Contact Jdog at http://www.myspace.com/artistjdog or http://www.askjdog.com and ask for some personal help. He wants to help and I know he will help you.

• Closing thoughts . . .
— If you have any questions on what I have been doing exactly to change my life. Leave me a message on my MySpace page at http://www.myspace.com/iknowspoon because now you can say you know Spoon.

Thanks Spoon! Keep up the amazing self work!

XOXO,
~Tara

Tara of VH1’s The PickUp Artist and PickUpTara.com Interviewed by 104.1 Jack FM PART 2

Tara of VH1’s The PickUp Artist and www.PickUpTara.com is interviewed by 104.1 Jack FM (www.1041jackfm.com) Part 2 of Minneapolis Minnesota. Tara discusses the second season of The PickUp Artist, explains what her website www.pickuptara.com is about and gives a special shout out to Mystery and Matador!

Tara of VH1’s The PickUp Artist and PickUpTara.com Interviewed by 104.1 Jack FM PART 1

Tara of VH1’s The PickUp Artist and www.pickuptara.com is interviewed by 104.1 Jack FM (www.1041jackfm.com) out of Minneapolis Minnesota. Tara immediately gets hit on by the interviewer. They later go on to discuss VH1’s reality show The PickUp Artist Season 2. Check it out!

I want to throw out a big thanks to Mike Stoute and Bobby Rio of TSB Radio and TSB Magazine. We talked about lots of fun topics including:

- Whats in store for the second season of The PickUp Artist
- My thoughts on pick up artists in general
- The kissing contest we did on season one of The PickUp Artist
- My thoughts on peacocking
- How to pick me up
and much more!

Good news! There are several ways to listen to a recorded copy of the show. You can:

- Listen to it on TSB Magazine’ s website
- Listen to it on GreatSeducer.com
- Download it on Apple iTunes

I join the show at 23:16, sor the 23rd minute and 16th second.

Hope everyone enjoys it!

XOXO,
~Tara

Just released by VH1. Click here for original blog posting. Get ready to cringe all over again: your extended look at the second season of The Pickup Artist is here!

Remember: the new season debuts Sunday, Oct. 12 at 10/9c on VH1!

XOXO,
~Tara

Master Artist “Mystery” Goes Full Steam Ahead Into Season 2 on Sunday, October 12th @ 10:00PM

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HOLLYWOOD, CA, Sep 29, 2008 (MARKET WIRE via COMTEX) — It seems the Kings of the Pick-Up scene have seduced all America (and the world), as VH1’s new hit series “The Pickup Artist” — all about transformation — which premiered last year to great acclaim, has been enthusiastically PICKED UP for an all new second season spectacle!

While the spirit of the show remains sufficiently and skillfully intact, some significant shifts will be felt for certain. Building on the wildly embraced, blossoming reputation of the ever enigmatic front-man Mystery, the show boasts an all new formula that is sure to keep viewers as intrigued as those on the receiving end of Mystery’s miraculous match making methods.

Along with main man Matador to his left (a major player in the art of seduction himself), the new season has Mystery flanked by the lovely, sassy, aspiring actress Tara, who gives the boys some serious inside perspective from the opposite sex. Her presence promises to shake things up and break things down, as she reveals some sexy secrets that can only embolden the boys and add to Matador & Mystery’s inscrutable game.

Similar to the first season, Mystery & Matador, aided by Tara, share their trade secrets with a group of nine competing “loveable losers” in Phoenix, AZ. Each episode a single contestant will be declared the winner of a challenge, while one lesser artiste is sent home. The final winner is named “Master Pick-Up Artist” and awarded $50,000 — not to mention some serious media (and romantic) attention.
Kosmo, or “Don Juan De Kosmo” as he modestly calls himself, crowned the “Master Pick-Up Artist” and proud winner of Season 1, is living proof that regardless of the obstacles, transformation isn’t only possible — but plausible! THE PICK UP IS PICKED UP!

“The Pickup Artist 2″ is a production of VH1 in conjunction with 3 Ball Entertainment. JD Roth and Adam Greener are executive producers for 3 Ball Entertainment. Jeff Olde, Jill Holmes and Noah Pollack are executive producers for VH1.

To interview Mystery or Matador, please contact Eileen Koch @ Eileen Koch & Company or email at Eileen@eileenkoch.com. Please visit www.eileenkoch.com and http://www.venusianarts.com.

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This episode we tackled the myth that you should wait a week before calling a girl. Most people wait at least 3 days, and some guys will wait up to two weeks! The reason most guys wait to call is because the rule of thumb is to not seem too eager or desperate, but this doesn’t necessarily translate into waiting 4 days. PLEASE don’t go calling her six times the same day you get her number (Ahhh . . . stalker!!!), but you certainly don’t have to put it off all week either. Waiting 1 to 3 days to call a girl is ideal. Contrary to what you may have heard, if you do it right, you can call a girl the day after and she will LOVE it! The right way is based primarily on how you obtained her phone number in the first place.

The right way to do it is to make a good connection with her and excite her about seeing you again. If you have a nice connection, then she will be looking forward to your call and will think it’s great that you called her the next day. It shows her that she is on your mind so she will be flattered, and it also shows her that you are not a flake. You are confident and you like her so why play games and act semi-disinterested? Let her know you like her and compliment her by calling right away. What you say when you call is a whole other blog, but the bottom line when calling a girl to ask her out is: HAVE A PLAN!!! I can’t stand it when a guy calls and doesn’t have a plan and we go back and forth talking about what we should do. Call her with a couple of options in mind and go from there. You can definitely listen to her opinions on what she wants to do, but hopefully you will have already gotten an idea as to what she may be interested in at your first meeting.

Once I met a bodyguard who seemed really cool and I was looking forward to getting together with him. He called after about 2 weeks and left a really nice message about how he had been out of town on work . . . supposedly (I guess he was just really really “busy” ha ha). But if you are interested in some one and you are going out of town you should touch base so that you are fresh in their mind when you come back. They might look forward to meeting you even more because they can’t see you right away, but if you don’t get in touch within a few days it is bad news! The bodyguard guy who seemed very cool called me after being away for 2 weeks and when I heard his message I barely remembered who he was. Not that he was forgettable –he was actually quite rad– but it’s just that a lot can happen in 2 weeks : )!!! Needless to say I didn’t return his call because I figured “why bother” for 3 reasons: 1) Our nice connection was lost because a first-meeting impression like that can only last for so long . . . if we were to get together after that we would have had to start from scratch. That great first impression was lost because it wasn’t fresh in my mind. 2) He is obviously quite busy with work and if not work, then he has some unknown something he needs to take care of (other relationship, other women, perhaps drama, baggage, etc.). And 3) If he liked me, then why would he wait so long to get a hold of me? If he really liked me, then he would have called sooner. Of course women don’t make a conscious list like this . . . all of these thoughts subconsciously run through their heads in a second and the result is NO callback!!! Sooo . . . in the end, I just plain didn’t bother and maybe that guy wondered why I never called him back. Alas . . . we could have been great!

Another thing to keep in mind is that if YOU are attracted to this girl, she may very well have other suitors so the sooner you get in there the better!!!

This is a quick crash course on the subject but hopefully it is helpful! If you have any additional questions or just plain gossip, feel free to blog on the site, comment in the forum, or e-mail me directly on PickupTara.com!!! Thanks for watching and I’ll see you soon!!!

Love,
Tara