It was a normal morning, I had woke up and completed my morning routine of getting ready to leave the house for work. In the mornings my wife has a habit of watching the morning news for weather and traffic. This morning was slightly different because as I was preparing to leave a big news flash hit the bottom of the screen. Former NFL Running Back Chuck Muncie has passed away. That was unbelievable news. My heart sank, the news was all bad for me because Chuck Muncie was a dear friend and mentor to me when I was in college. He helped me regain my focus on the field after my academic issues with the University of Minnesota.

I credit him for giving me a second chance at life. Three things I remember about Chuck Muncie that impacted my life in a positive way.

He was a leader. (From the first day I met him, he was looking for ways to meet our needs and make sure we were taken care of.)

He was encouraging. (He gave me the confidence to continue in spite of adversity, he allowed me to see adversity as opportunity, something he had experienced himself through his struggles off the field while in the NFL and after.)

He believed in me. (I believe people refer the ones they believe in. That’s exactly what he did, he put me in the hands of some of his best friends that gave me an opportunity to maximize my potential.) He put his name on the line for me.

As you see, he was very influential in my life as well as others. He ran the Chuck Muncie Youth Foundation in California. He has impacted thousands of young men and women in drug rehabilitation, tattoo removal programs for gang members, sports camps for underprivileged youth and mentoring programs for gang members and former gang members. Check out his work: Chuck Muncie Youth Foundation

Much Love to Chuck Muncie and his family. I really believe he completed his purpose for living. Now his legacy lives on in the lives of so many people.

Rest in Peace

Courses like Economic Hons. and BCOM Hons. From North Campus, Delhi University require really good percentage. But only a handful of students from 2-3 colleges are able to get a job, that too a low paying job. Shouldn’t such bright students have chosen engineering and gotten into a tier-2 college which at least ensures job guarantee in an IT firm?

ANSWER

There is a vast difference between  Economic Hons.  and that BCom Hons. In fact few universities stopped the courses in B Com (Hons) That is one point.
2. Economic (Hons) is a good qualification and most of the channels like NDTV Profit or CNN Money requires people like that, and most of the News Papers also take them apart from that that online jobs are plenty if the person has got real subject knowledge expertise.
3. Degrees alone ( the paper ) will not get you jobs.
You should not compare Economic Hons with IT jobs.  Economic Hons jobs are more about intellectual content and based on the expertise of the individual.
Take a product like Lux Soap and take also the Nirma Washing Powder and also some other washing powders.  They are spending millions on advertisements even though their sales are increasing. The reason being that they need to be in the market.  That means you should know the market or evaluate the market before you start taking a course. And you mindset is more :
I just visited Naukri web site and collected few profiles for you:

Content Manager -social Media by CLARITY CONSULTING hiring for is a leading BPO in Bengaluru/Bangalore Day to Day : Identify key topics which are trending and short list existing content for repurposing or create new content related to trend Create content to support the campaigns created by the campaign manager Review and sign off on all repurposed content for the social channels Should be the custodian of best practices, do’s and don’ts for various channels of social communication Creative Director – No1 Media House  Translate business and communication goals, into unique and creative brand solutions for clients Lead strategic brainstorming session, campaign development, creative brief development, execution in line with client’s goals, briefs and desired results Social Media Brand

Executive Executive Secretary (To Chairman) / Client Relations Manage Profile:  manage and maintain executives schedules, appointments and travel arrangements arrange and coordinate meetings and events prepare and edit correspondence, communications, presentations and other documents file and retrieve documents and reference material design and maintain databases record, transcribe and distribute minutes of meetings monitor, respond to and distribute incoming communications answer and manage incoming calls receive and interact with incoming visitors liaise with internal staff at all levels interact with external clients co-ordinate project-based work review operating practices and implement improvements where necessary supervise, coach and train lower level staff Personal Secretary TO Directors by National Oxygen Limited in Chennai These jobs are high paying jobs and so far qualification is concerned they say “ANY” and being an Economics Hons  you should have a good understanding of the business / economics etc and once you get into any of these jobs your life will be better.
It requires a kind of inclination and imagination to look for suitable job, and innovation to make yourself suitable for that. I was accountant for 20 years and moved to the position of Art Director of an ad agency. Visit my web site : zubram dot com and understand how you can unearth your capabilities.  The Delhi University and economics Hons are brands.. you should know how to use them.

What should be The Best Resume Headline for a B.Tech Fresher?

Answer

If you have good CGPA or percentage that can be an advantage, but then I suggest you don’t write the headline and also do not include “objective” instead at the place of objective you include “about me” a sub heading and within 4 (maximum 5) lines you speak to the hiring manager or the person who is reading it directly – in writing!  This is only applicable when you are sending a resume for a good organization where you wanted join.  What I mean is that you need to change this “about me” for every important job you apply, where you want to send just your resume – you can send usual one but when you want “that” in “that” company – then you need to write rather speak to the hiring manager in a way, when you are called for interview the first or second question should be on those lines you have written at ” about me”.Below are few real “about me” samples:

one: My resume speaks more about my performance and little about my qualification. Though I am doing by MBA in HR, (first year) I have the potential, I have the zeal and what I need is just a toe-hold. I proved myself that I can push myself to the next position by my qualitative performance without any gestation period. I am aware that whatever the natural leadership skills I have, I need the support of a document to move further on the ladder. I am confident that given an opportunity for a personal interview, I will be most suitable person with all the competitive skills inbuilt in my personality.  I would be delighted if an opportunity to meet you in person so you will be delighted – I am sure – to give me an opportunity to prove myself.

Two: “Most wonderful things come from unexpected places”. My resume speaks more about my performance and little about my qualification. I have the potential, I have the zeal and what I need is just a toe-hold. I proved myself that I can push myself to next position by my qualitative performance in a very short time. With this kind of attitude I am looking for a challenging position to contribute and grow in an environment, which gives me an opportunity to prove and enhance my creative skills.

The thing is that you should show you are different from others at the very beginning itself, through your resume.  I have a web site – zubram dot com.

When it all gets too much, our whole body naturally falls into submission as we proclaim, ‘I surrender’. Exhausted from trying so hard to find the answers that lead a person to that inner peace.

Our quest for Love never stops; some find it in people and others, in things. For whatever reason we fail to turn to the one who is capable of removing what was placed before us and that is ‘the Most High and Most Merciful’.

As my journey of self-love continues and my lessons of love evolve, my greatest lesson of all finally arrived. I learnt that loving is truly a skill that must be mastered in order to achieve that peace and tranquillity in life.

I begin by investing everything I have to the one who gave it, Allah (SWT). In Arabic its called ‘Tawakkul’, total reliance and dependence on Allah. In doing so, I no longer have to rely on myself alone to make the right decisions, but rather give it all to Allah (SWT) and ask for guidance in this realm we call the dunya (material world).

A very heavy load has been shifted and I give praise and thanks to Allah for everything. As I now see, ‘my pain had a purpose’. To be continued…

Do you want it?

I mean really.

Do you really really want it?

I hope you do because I really really really really really want it.

I gotta have it.

I just cannot live another moment without it.

And you know what else.  If that doesn’t have you shaking in your pants already, I just want you to know I get off on beating you.

I get off on winning.

Whatever you want in this life you have to take.  You have to take it, because someone else probably has a good grip on it.  You have to rip that shit out of their hands, you have to stare them in the eye when they shit test you to check if you are a real man or a posing pussy ass bitch.

If you want it, you better come and get it motherfucker.

Lets say that one more time.

IF YOU WANT IT, YOU BETTER COME AND GET IT MOTHERFUCKER.

You can sit around at home and worry about what some egg head fat motherfuckers have to say to you, or you can get up and attack.  In this life, you will get blasted, you will get humiliated and dragged through the mud 11/10 times.

Its up to you though, to want it more than you want to breathe.  

This is the only way.

This is the ONLY way to succeed.  You cannot succeed without the impetus, without the rage, with the power of mind, without the psyche of a champion, because without this you will get ROMPED by someone who does.

Everyday a young man or woman wakes up with one thing on their mind, to be great.  They ride to school on a broke down bike and fall asleep with their notebooks under their pillows so they can wake up studying.

Get addicted.

Get addicted to winning.

I want for you to walk into rooms and think to yourself, the fucking bad man is here.

I want you to elicit a strange cocktail of fear, respect and love out of everyone you see.

I want you to want to be the strongest version of yourself so bad you literally get the shakes when you cannot pursue that goal.

It has to be overwhelming, it has to be a core directive, it has to be YOUR LIFEBLOOD.

Your everloving sustenance, your oxygen, your dharma, your reason, your purpose, your addiction.

Love this life you live, it is your golden opportunity to EXPRESSSS yourself in any which way you choose.  I want you to push yourself, to expand into the darkness and NEVER EVER live in fear.  For you are indeed the lightbringer, the chosen one, as has every single cell in your body for millennia.

You are imbued with the very essence of constellations.  You are the very hand of god, the heart of mother earth and the light of Zeus.

How dare you aspire to be anything less than a God.

Blue sky (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For too long I lived in my head

Thrown back into a past long dead

Foraging in a future, too far ahead

Enough said.

Too afraid to face the now, to see

What is there before me

A bit of blue sky, the sea

A butterfly, a bird, a baby.

Then a bolt, a flash, a word

Driving in a car and I heard

That small voice that I feared

Called me by name, and said:

Stop imagining your future, it

Does not exist,

Let go the past, let it not persist

This time is your present, it is my gift.

I now hear the better for that

I see your miracles

I live your dreams

I am the better for all that.

©Millicent Danker

21 May 2013

Text to self:
Shaken soda. Overfill. Overflow. No. Stuffed. Clogged. Full. Unfulfilled.

Mastin Kipp, the founder of DailyLove.com said in an interview with Oprah that when he found himself living in his no longer soon to be in-laws pool house, he asked God
“Why here? Why this 8×8 room?” and God told him,
“Because that’s the exact size of your faith.”
I’m paraphrasing, but you get the point. That story has stuck with me for such a long time now…I tell it often. I get it. I relate to it. I live it. Except my bathroom is probably even smaller than a 8×8 pool house, but I’ve spent a lot of time on the floor there and I can honestly admit, 64 square feet of faith would have been a welcomed boost to the size of my faith during those times…During most days lately. I once wrote that God is practical. That the Universe doesn’t ignore intentions of the heart. I still and will always believe that, but let me tell you, I’m an expert at cutting myself off from both of them…in some of the most unsuspecting ways. Not only are they Both responsive and practical, but they don’t force and they are patient…They know, I’ll be back.

The day I sent myself that text I was really struggling with my audio books. I listen to something every day, all day. Yes, I can see now that it’s become an addiction- a way to drown out the noise of life. Not just my life, but all life. It’s a form of isolation. I didn’t see that until I tried to stop, but found that I “needed” it. And then, that day, none of it was helping. I don’t mean I’d listen to it and think, No, that’s not what I need…I mean I’d listen and think, Good Lord, my ears are going to start bleeding! What in the hell had happened? This was also around the time Louise Hay and I started our courtship. Let me explain something here;
I wanted Louise to save me. I wanted what she said to work for me and a lot of it I could relate to, I could see how it pertained to my life and I was fully aware that my resistance to self-love was not only realistic, but most definitely my problem…but I wasn’t craving Louise. I was listening over and over because she said to. I was listening because I was resistant to loving me. I was listening and I was becoming increasingly pissed of and depressed. Louise Hay IS a pioneer and I absolutely adore her and her work, her lifestyle…but as my Healer pointed out today- you can’t skip steps and Louise’s books seem to be step 15 on the path from 1-20. I’m not there. I’m more like step 10-13 maybe- When we want self-love, parent love, forgiveness and release, but …. but we’re pissed off! I don’t want to imagine my parents as tiny, helpless children right now. I’m still caught up in what they did and didn’t do when I was a tiny helpless child. As usual, my healer was right.

Also, I doubted myself. I had lost faith in myself, God and the Universe- so nothing was working. That’s the practicality of things. I cannot work without them anymore than they can work without me…it’s good to be needed. So, there I am; ears bleeding, angry, frustrated and faithless and I think, I’m going to explode. I’m clogged up. I have so much inside of me now to process and I can’t…Louise was to my psyche what my four-year old is to a bottle of soda with the lid on it- dangerous. But here’s the thing, I didn’t quit. I told myself that I was wrong, and I kept plugging in. I’ll give Louise this- I love myself a little more every day, but my past needs an ass kicking- not a hug.

I had to let go. Unplug, unclog, unstuff, unblock and find a way to be fulfilled.

“I have been and still am a seeker, but I have ceased to question stars and books; I have begun to listen to the teaching my blood whispers to me.”
— Hermann Hesse (Demian)

I’m not sure if I expected anything when I started to shut down and shut out the world because I didn’t think I was doing that. I was going within. I was self reflecting. I was learning to be alone…or as codependents go- I was trying to control the whole damn world by shutting it out. Rest assured- nothing we do to others goes undone to ourselves. Somehow shutting everyone else out, led to shutting myself out as well. I couldn’t hear anything. Not them. Not you. Not Him. Not It. Not me. What? I didn’t hear you.

Luckily it has been creeping in slowly for weeks now…I’m always doing, reading, listening, but there’s this nagging sense of…a voice in my head that makes it through the deafness of my soul and says, Hey. Shut up and listen to me. And it’s me. It’s me, the one who gives fantastic advice, wants to write and dream, teach and heal, hope and learn and give…Me that finds God in the sky, the clouds, the world around me. But I had gotten so far into my pain, into my past and I was lost. I know that Love really is the ONLY thing that will heal…And I know that FORGIVENSS is key…But there’s a step in there that must be taken first and no one in my life had ever told me it was okay except my Healer, who’s told me a hundred times before…but I couldn’t hear it. Today though, I heard it. Today I heard what I knew, but my need for validation lingers on and so I had to hear it from someone else too. My Healer says to me,
“So- that’s just not for you. You need to get angry.”
And she’s right. That’s how she came to be my Healer. She knows how to get my blood moving again and today, I heard the whisper.

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…”
— Nicholas Sparks (At First Sight)

I want to say that I find it ironic that what I found to have broken my heart, has led to my healing more times than I can count, but I can’t say that. I can’t act surprised because somehow, I know that this is how it is and will always be. The irony is how I choose to forget the one thing that could save me from the pain I endure when I get to this place in my life. It’s by looking at what has taken us down to our knees and caused us our pain, our hurts, our broken state of being, that allows us to see how we can heal and mend…how we go from a state being to a life of living. I still spend a lot of time feeling like death. Once I had rid myself of the surface layers of life- the drama of money, relationships, work…once I changed my diet, my health, quit the bad habits…I wasn’t at the end of the journey- I was merely ready to handle, and just barely so, the one I needed most to take. If God and the Universe had chucked this at me a year and a half ago, I would have jumped from that parking structure for sure. See? Practical. Supportive. Looking out for their number one player, me. That means you too.

Knowing these little bits helps to add square footage to my faith- or lack of. Knowing that what breaks us is the foundation that we can build on allows me to believe that I am about to become a fortress in the kingdom of me. I hope that helps everyone out a little. If you think you’re broken, try to remember this;
You’re just under construction.

And shift.

These words don’t come on command

the door unlocked with the turn of a key,

an open invitation to come inside 

this tangled web that is my mind

spinning stories that rewrite the past 

setting me free from these chains,

these self inflicted wounds 

that have left scars to remind me 

not to go where I am not welcome

I’ve tripped 

I’ve fallen

I’ve lost my way, 

gotten out of my way

and now

found my way back home

Copyright 2013 Betty Larrea

Saltoun Big Wood. One of the largest forest blocks in East Lothian, and a very pleasant place to walk. Has a reputation of being one of the toughest orienteering areas in Scotland, but walking slowly avoids the worst of the brambles. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Slow me down, O Lord!

Slow down the furious race

The frenzied frazzled pace

The chaos of my days

The machinations of 21st century life

The monster of this life

The loss of my life.

Slow me down, O My God!

Will that I take you walking

A little pathway with foliage above

Will that we hear the singing

The flutters from your treasure trove

When I touch your earth so bare

I learn to softly, softly be

And feel the tenderness in your air

And know that in the slow, I am me.

© Millicent Danker

31 July 2009 / 21 May 2013

Do you know what your character strengths are?

I took my character strength test (yes, all 240 questions of it!) and these are the results I got:

Wow! Is that me? Put it like that, it makes it sound quite “grandious”. I wonder what the people who know me in person think of this. My child minder years ago told me that she had found it difficult to mind me as a child as I asked far too many questions to which she did not know the answer. So she’d probably agree with the first two strengths. Update (21/05/13): my sister commented “it definitely matches you”

In any case, try out the test yourself here: VIA Survey of Character Strengths. But please note that the test results are only as good as the accuracy of your answers! So do your best to answer as accurately and truthfully as possible.

Let me know about your results. Do you think they match you? Will they help you have a more meaningful life?

Live long and prosper

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Sorry I’ve been AWOL for the last couple of weeks.

But…

To make up for it, what I have for you today is KILLER!

What I want to talk about is the subject of Games.

“Uh, I thought this was a business blog, dude…” Well, it is. But the point of ‘inner game’ for entrepreneurs is to give you the tools and technology you need, to make your Ideal Scene become real

(If you’re wondering why I’ve used the term Ideal Scene and capitalised it…it is a definite workable idea, and perhaps the most important thing I teach. It’s out of scope for this post in any detail, but it is (in a sense) having a picture of what you are aiming for; a goal).

Anyway…

When I talk about Games as an ‘inner game’ concept, I mean the viewpoint of seeing your situation and approaching it as though it contains the elements of a Game. When people talk about not taking things seriously and treating it like a game, they are PARTLY RIGHT.

But…my aim in teaching is to get down to the core, workable truths that allow you to take these concepts and use them to change your life.

Now, the reason that treating things as a Game is right is because….

SERIOUSNESS IS SOLIDITY

When you take things seriously, things become more solid. You lose flexibility. And you lose the ability to think up solutions.

Let me give you an example. Say you’re a guy going to ask a girl out. You ask her if she wants to get a drink on Friday evening, and she says “Oh, I can’t…my sister is coming over for dinner.”

Now, seriousness makes this obstacle seem solid. In other words, she probably doesn’t want to go out with you, she’s blowing you off, she’s not attracted to you etc etc

However…

The less serious you are, the more flexibly you can approach the obstacle. “You’re busy Friday? Okay, how about Saturday then?”

Do you follow?

By approaching things as a Game, it allows you, by taking it less seriously, to approach the obstacles and barriers that you encounter as less solid. When that is the case….

…you can think up ways around them!

Don’t dismiss this as obvious or silly.

Seriousness is, in my experience, one of the three biggest barriers to achieving success. You become stuck and unable to develop the flexibility to move past your obstacles.

ESPECIALLY when those obstacles are your mental fears and doubts!

****

Are you currently facing a problem that you can’t move around? Is your business stuck or not taking off?

Take a step back and think about your problem as a Game that you are playing.

Think about your obstacle and, especially, re-focus on what your Ideal Scene is.

That last sentence actually contains the outlying elements of what the biggest obstacle to success REALLY is. (It’s not what you might think)

But that’s for next time.

Any questions, feel free to email me or, if you’re reading this on the blog, comment below!

Will

P.S. For those of you who asked, I do have a consulting website. I’m revamping it, so it will be online fairly soon.

P.P.S. I’m working a lot of these ideas into a step-by-step full curriculum online digital course. It’s coming along nicely, but if there is anything people want to see, problem areas you would like me to address, tell me!

Sorry I’ve been AWOL for the last couple of weeks.

But…

To make up for it, what I have for you today is KILLER!

What I want to talk about is the subject of Games.

“Uh, I thought this was a business blog, dude…” Well, it is. But the point of ‘inner game’ for entrepreneurs is to give you the tools and technology you need, to make your Ideal Scene become real.

(If you’re wondering why I’ve used the term Ideal Scene and capitalised it…it is a definite workable idea, and perhaps the most important thing I teach. It’s out of scope for this post in any detail, but it is (in a sense) having a picture of what you are aiming for; a goal).

Anyway…

When I talk about Games as an ‘inner game’ concept, I mean the viewpoint of seeing your situation and approaching it as though it contains the elements of a Game. When people talk about not taking things seriously and treating it like a game, they are PARTLY RIGHT.

But…my aim in teaching is to get down to the core, workable truths that allow you to take these concepts and use them to change your life.

Now, the reason that treating things as a Game is right is because….

SERIOUSNESS IS SOLIDITY

When you take things seriously, things become more solid. You lose flexibility. And you lose the ability to think up solutions.

Let me give you an example. Say you’re a guy going to ask a girl out. You ask her if she wants to get a drink on Friday evening, and she says “Oh, I can’t…my sister is coming over for dinner.”

Now, seriousness makes this obstacle seem solid. In other words, she probably doesn’t want to go out with you, she’s blowing you off, she’s not attracted to you etc etc

However…

The less serious you are, the more flexibly you can approach the obstacle. “You’re busy Friday? Okay, how about Saturday then?”

Do you follow?

By approaching things as a Game, it allows you, by taking it less seriously, to approach the obstacles and barriers that you encounter as less solid. When that is the case….

…you can think up ways around them!

Don’t dismiss this as obvious or silly.

Seriousness is, in my experience, one of the three biggest barriers to achieving success. You become stuck and unable to develop the flexibility to move past your obstacles.

ESPECIALLY when those obstacles are your mental fears and doubts!

****

Are you currently facing a problem that you can’t move around? Is your business stuck or not taking off?

Take a step back and think about your problem as a Game that you are playing.

Think about your obstacle and, especially, re-focus on what your Ideal Scene is.

That last sentence actually contains the outlying elements of what the biggest obstacle to success REALLY is. (It’s not what you might think)

But that’s for next time.

Any questions, feel free to email me or, if you’re reading this on the blog, comment below!

Will

P.S. For those of you who asked, I do have a consulting website. I’m revamping it, so it will be online fairly soon.

P.P.S. I’m working a lot of these ideas into a step-by-step full curriculum online digital course. It’s coming along nicely, but if there is anything people want to see, problem areas you would like me to address, tell me!

Optimism opens a door in difficult or hopeless situations. Optimism knows that there is always a way, no matter how many doors have been shut. Optimism believes that there is always a useful alternative. No matter what the crisis, an optimist maintains the outlook that it is a sign, time for a different way of thinking, or a new way of doing things.

Take care,

Deepak
http://www.deepaklodhia.com

As a result, the spiritual and the secular have often seemed at odds in my life. My spirituality started out and in many ways still is very secretive and private, and it felt as though it jarred hugely with the rest of my life and my personality. This jarring feeling was what caused me to swing wildly back and forth between my interest in Paganism and witchcraft and theism, and a staunch materialistic hard atheism. My discovery of pantheism and naturalistic Paganism helped to ease this jarring, but it remained a mainstay in my life for many years.

I still somewhat see my spirituality as my shadow, or a part of my shadow self. It feels sometimes like an outpouring of everything I have been rejecting as I mature – irrationality, reverence, magic, possibility. I become, in ritual, a version of myself that nobody else ever sees, something that is quite opposite to much of what I feel makes me myself. Through ritual and reverence, I reach out a hand to that part of me that revels in mysticism and the unknown, that thrills at the thought of dark mysteries. I experience the dark joy of life.

In recent months, perhaps since I began to talk to my boyfriend about my spirituality, the strange dichotomy has somewhat lessened, and I feel more and more that the spiritual can be a part of my day-to-day mundane life. Incorporating things like meditation, daily practice and tarot into my spirituality has helped this symbiosis occur. I have reached a point where I can feel spiritual or connected to the universe as I go to work, as I do the grocery shopping, as I buy new clothes or make-up.

When I look at the two of cups in tarot, I see the change that has happened in me. I see the meeting of two very different parts of my personality, and the eventual acceptance and embracing of that spiritual part of myself into the whole. It’s a difficult thing to pin-point, and I think there are myriad reasons for why this symbiosis is finally happening for me. Self-acceptance and letting go of fear have had a lot to do with it.

The ceremonial tones of the exchange that is depicted in the card seems representative of this change. My full embracing of my spirituality into my life has felt in some ways like a formal decision, like an acknowledgement. The caduceus in the image makes me think of transformation, creation, and spiritual awakening. In allowing the spiritual and the seculr aspects of my life to fully intertwine, I have entered into a new stage in my life. I feel it is allowing me to grow and become stronger both spiritually and in the rest of my life. It is, perhaps, a step towards engaging with and embracing my shadow. I am at the beginning of a journey into the depths.

A lot of you are wondering, what I can do to make a difference in this world and matter? I am just an ordinary person. I am not special. I am really shy.  What do I have to offer others, the world? WRONG!

You are special! In fact, you are extra-ordinary like everyone else in this world. You have skills, ability, talents, experiences that you can share with others!

Be bold! Dare to stand out! Dare to be noticed! YOU DESERVE IT!   HOW????

Listen again, if you haven’t listened the first time, to my May 10  talk show topic Making a Difference in this World- You Matter then listen some of my guests and how they are special, how they are sharing their skills, abilities, talent, and experiences and making a difference for others and how they matter!

You will find they are just people like you. Yes they are extra-ordinary but that is because they care about others and want to give back. They want to share themselves with others because they want to matter!

Who and where to listen: http://lifecareerbusinesscoach.com/visions-of-success/programs/

Here are some of those people you need to listen to  at my link and who have been on my talk show sharing themselves with others and wanting to do more for the world, one person at a time.

Tom Ohawa-Community Development Success-Kenya-3/15/2013

Mr Tom Ohawa was born to a peasant farmer and a pastor in a rural home in western Kenya. He now heads AROMA COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT in Kenya.

Aroma community development project is an integrated development that exists to address the social problems of poverty in the rural community set-up. A community where children, youth and women face a large number of health and nutritional risks which are amplified by disadvantages related to their home environment. Children can’t go to school, girl headed households are rampant and widowhood escalated by HIV/AIDS is high.

Karl Logan-Mankind Creations-3/29/2013

Karl Logan is the author of “Taking the Right Road-Guide to a Wonderful Life”. Following the instructions in his book and practicing the eight steps daily and in 30 days your life will begin to change in many different ways. You need to let the spirit of giving take you to your next level in life.

Jacqui Iwu – Single & Happy-4/5/2013

Jacqui IWU is a BODY IMAGE CONSULTANT, LIFESTYLE COLUMNIST with THE SUN NEWSPAPERS LTD Nigeria, and a WOMEN EMPOWERMENT ADVOCATE, and FOUNDER OF BEAUTIFUL WOMAN (BW) REFORMS ABUJA, Nigeria.

She is an Independent/Self Employed Body Image consultant these 8 years and her career has enabled her to reach out and interact with lots of people all over the world and ”REFORM” lives in Nigeria. She is assisting single women in Nigeria to become self-reliant by becoming entrepreneurs in Nigeria where women are looked upon as only individuals that need to be married.

Dr. Rob Burbellla on Hope-2/22/2013

Dr, Rob Burbella, in his 80s, and the Hope Ministry Ukraine providing food money to 40 families on a monthly basis, working with orphans, drug rehab programs, and soup kitchens in the Ukraine. He goes back to his beloved Ukraine once a year to help even though he has lost his wife several years ago.

Leni Miller-Finding Right Work-3/08/2013

Leni Miller, is the Founder and President of E.A. Search, a premier search firm specializing in executive support recruiting and consulting with over 30 years experience and a passionate mission for finding the “right” Executive Assistant to leaders in all industries. Leni’s high rate of success reflects her years of expertise in creating strong partnerships.

Leni’s commitment to “giving back” is apparent through her many professional and volunteer affiliations, including her roles as the former Director for Junior Achievement, National Association of Women Business Owners, World Business Academy, and the “Center for Attitudinal Healing”.  In addition she is a member of the Association for Corporate Growth, Women President’s Organization; San Francisco Chamber of Commerce, Sausalito Chamber of Commerce and was one of the first women in the world to be admitted to the Rotary Club as a member of the second oldest club in the Rotary World; San Francisco.

Sonya Pelia-Maitri-5/17/2013

Sonya Pelia has lived and worked in the high tech industry in the San Francisco Bay Area for 28 years. Her passion for changing the world and grassroots activism in the South Asian community has kept her involved as a volunteer, board member, general secretary, and president in Maitri since 1993. Currently, Sonya serves as the President of the Maitri Board of Governance and is also an official spokesperson for Maitri.

As people might know that domestic violence crosses all socio-economic barriers of wealth, poverty, education, blue-collar/white collar, religion, and ethnicity boundaries. The South Asians have a long history in the West, starting with immigrants from the Punjab in India in 1880s. Now, there is a robust South Asian community in the San Francisco Bay area, home to Silicon Valley. Today, we chat about issues that are not commonly discussed or raised in most communities, such as domestic violence, emotional abuse, cultural alienation, human trafficking and family conflict and she and her organization are turning minds and turning things around daily to more positive experiences and helping these victims.

How about me – Dr. Fred (Docfred) Simkovsky

The Director of LifeCareerBusinessCoach.com and the host of Visions of Success Talk Radio Show, a certified master coach, organizational development/learning consultant, and speech mastery trainer with over 35 years of experience in multi-disciplinary environments both nationally and internationally in the USA, Canada, Germany, Japan, India, and China. DocFred has successfully guided over 750 individuals, at all levels, to their Visions of Success in the last 14 years alone guiding people to making their difference in the world and mattering.

Contrary to what you might be thinking, we are all ordinary individuals making our way in the world!

Each of these people I have met, talked with, interviewed for my talk show (Visions of Success) are ordinary people like you and me. What makes us different? We all have the belief that people matter regardless of who they are or where they live!

Each of us have decided to dedicate our lives, or at least a portion of our time, helping others find out how they matter, how special they are, how we can assist them to their Visions of Success.

It’s all about giving back in this world! It’s all about knowing you make a difference! It’s all about knowing you matter!

So where can you get started? Go to back to my show of May 10, Making a Difference in this World – You Matter: http://lifecareerbusinesscoach.com/visions-of-success/programs/

Listen to the show again. Participate and follow my lead. Then start really assessing what you can do to give back.

YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU NEED TO DO THIS! WHY???

When you have found your niche and begin knowing exactly who you are, regardless if you are an entrepreneur, under-employed, or unemployed, you will start giving back in your own way. Once you get started, it is better than drugs or sex. It is a feeling of accomplishment you will never get from your work. You will enhance your health and well-being in extraordinary ways.

How do I know this?

Back in June 2012 on Father’s Day (I am a father of 4 with 15 grand children and a wonderful wife of these 45 years), I went into the hospital in an ambulance unconscious, convulsing, choking on my vomit, with a breathing tube I was rushed to intensive care. For the next 10 days in ICU in an induced coma the doctors were trying to figure what the devil was going on in my body. With all the tubes, wires and machines attached to me, they could find almost nothing until they determined it was a severe case of pneumonia which came on like gangbusters. After 7 days in ICU, my vital signs tanked and I almost died but the doctor’s and hundreds of people who know me, who I have touched over the years, prayed for me as the doctors worked on me. I am here today because of all those people I touched and it came back to me!

I know what you are thinking! This guy has become a religious fanatic. Wrong. The experience showed me who my support groups really were. It taught me that there is something different I should be doing in my life. It taught me I am a special person who needs to share his largess.  So I retired and direct my time to my talk show Visions of Success where I can give back and help others. I also coach individuals and groups to their success part time.

I also know you are thinking – really DocFred? Give us a break! Are you trying to get us to believe this BS? You are trying to sell us something!

I am not selling anything but asking you what are you doing with your free time, your life besides griping about the world, sitting around and watching TV way too many hours or sleeping on the couch every weekend?

First it is true and like others we all have our moment of truth. I won’t suggest you have your moment in the way I have but this is how I came to my conclusion of how am I giving back? How am I making a difference in this world? Does anyone think I matter? Since June 2012 and my episode in life, I have met so many people in some many places; Canada, Great Britain, Kenya, Nigeria, the USA over the internet, doing my talk show and finding out their stories and causes.

Back at the end of September 2012 as I started to recover from my hospital bout and almost died, I met Dr. Phil Harris on the internet. He helps people become successful entrepreneurs. He was on my show on Oct 5, go to my website http://lifecareerbusinesscoach.com/visions-of-success/programs/archives/ and listen to him. He was coming off his third round of chemo-therapy for cancer and insisted on doing his interview with me. It was so great. It was because he loves to give back and nothing was going to stop him. Today he is doing great and we keep in touch. You can’t make this stuff up! This is true life going on around us.

That’s what it’s all about- giving, giving and giving more. You will get it back in ways you cannot believe.

Do you want to have that satisfied feeling of accomplishment, success, and peace in your life? Do you want to know good health daily and wake up refreshed and excited about the day? The only way to make that happen is to:

Make a difference in this World because You Matter!

Want to discuss any of this and/or get assistance from a certified master career and life coach who has helped over 750 individuals in 6 countries in the last 14 years to reach their happiness, stress-less lives with peak performance and learning how they make a difference and matter? Call me, DocFred 210 540 8608, bet 9-4, M-F, CDT or email: fredsimkovsky@yahoo.com or

Better yet, so we don’t play telephone tag, schedule a call with my scheduler: https://my.timedriver.com/WBZYQ

Want to learn more about Docfred?
http://www.lifecareerbusinesscoach.com/meetdocfred.html

Listen to DocFred’s Visions of Success Talk Radio Show every Friday at 10AM and again at 4PM. Go to each Friday:
http://amazingwomenofpower.com/radio/amazing-men-of-power/ and on ITunes, AWOP 24.7

In today’s article I’d like to share with you guys a powerful philosophy that will bring you the ultimate freedom in life. The philosophy that I’m talking about is SELF-RELIANCE, and depending on YOURSELF to get everything you want in life.

So how does depending on yourself to get what you want bring you “ultimate freedom”? Well a majority of people in today’s society are caught in the habit of DEPENDENCE. These people are constantly LOOKING OUTWARDS, and depending on other people to get what they want in life. The problem is the people they depend on naturally have their own self-interest, and don’t fulfill their desires. The result of this constant dependence is frustration, and a feeling of helplessness. Ultimately if you are dependent, you are not free.

Instead of looking outwards, and depending on others to get what you want, LOOK INWARDS, and realize that you have everything you need to get what you want in life. An amazing thing happens when you go for something you want ON YOUR OWN. If you succeed, you will realize that you don’t need anyone to get what you want in life. You will be freed from waiting on others to give you what you want in life because you can get it yourself.

Another freedom that self-reliance brings you is the freedom of emotion. In today’s society many people look to others to decide how they should feel either because they don’t trust their own emotions, or their stuck in the habit of dependence. The creators of sitcoms understand this dependence of the masses, and use it to their advantage by placing things like “canned laughter” into their shows. People depend on the “canned laughter” to determine when to laugh rather than just depending on their own judgment to decide what’s funny.

When you are self-reliant YOU  decide what’s funny. YOU decide when you are going to feel a certain emotion, because you are not looking to others for permission. YOU GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION.

This goes for taking action too. A person who is self-reliant does not depend on circumstances or other people’s approval to take the action they want. So many times people will procrastinate taking a certain action because ”IT’S NOT THE RIGHT TIME”. “It’s not the right time” to workout…”it’s not the right time” to ask that girl on a date, or “it’s not the right time to start a successful business”. These people are depending on the perfect scenario to take action, but this is irrational because THE PERFECT SCENARIO DOES NOT EXIST. However, if you become reliant on your own abilities and trust have trust in your faculties it won’t matter what the scenario is, or what obstacles stand in your way… YOU WILL TAKE ACTION.

The last very important thing that self-reliance will bring you is an accurate perception of your SELF-WORTH. When someone is dependent they often look to the opinion of other’s to decide their on self-worth as a person. What you must understand is that know one knows you as well as you do, and their opinions of you will be inaccurate. The ONLY opinion that should matter when determining your value as a human being, IS YOUR OWN. That’s not to say that you should not reject constructive criticism in order to improve yourself as a person, but rather that you should never depend on other’s to feel good about yourself.

That’s all I have for you guys today, but I’d like to close the article with a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after your own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”

Profoundly sums up everything I talked about in today’s article. I’m sure many of you have heard of Emerson’s essay Self-Reliance, but if you haven’t I highly recommend it, very inspiring (I’ll leave a link below). Until Next Time!

LINK TO SELF-RELIANCE ESSAY: http://www.emersoncentral.com/selfreliance.htm

 If I can think of a person

Who hates and despises me

With love

That is Nirvana.

Good afternoon, 

A bit of a breather in my blog updates of late

Quite simply I haven’t taken heed of my own advice and actually procrastinated greatly due to other commitments taking precedent. Apologies if you have been missing the updates but good news, I will be re-establishing as a minimum 1 blog per month.

So moving onto my current topic of choice ‘compounding’. As the image above dictates, compounding is a very powerful concept when applied to growth of our money over time. So much so that Einstein credited it as being the eighth wonder of the world! 

However today, I don’t want to concentrate on the implications compounding has on our money, more how the concept can be applied to all aspects of our lives for improved results.  Whether it is growing your money, learning a language, losing weight, everything can be compounded for amazing results..

Compounding, in it’s simplest form consists of small regular steps to create a longer term, greater end goal and its a principle we can apply to so many aspects of our lives.

One example is going to the gym. We go to get fitter. But sadly it doesn’t happen in one session. But, if we stick to it, we are compounding our efforts each and every time so months later we have a decidedly better fitness level. I use this example a lot but its a great illustration of the point. When I ran the marathon I couldn’t run 26 miles in my first run. I had to build gradually….several runs at 5miles…I then gradually got fitter…then 10 miles…then after 6 months I was touching the 15 mile mark…those small yet regular efforts had compounded my fitness…and seeing and feeling my body respond and adapt was quite amazing and highly motivational. This gradual development is a key reason of being in an educational / mentoring / coaching role as a large amount of my job satisfaction comes from seeing people achieve results as a by product of their consistent, compounded efforts. And this can be highly infectious, once you see results in one aspect of your life I can assure you that you will be highly motivated to replicate this in many other areas of your life.

On the flip side however, one area I haven’t used compounding to benefit me is with learning to speak Spanish. I have been sporadic with my efforts to say the least and not gone to the small regular effort that is needed to see development. This is an area I need to compound over the next few months if I am to see the results I desire. And we can no doubt all think of many a time where we have wanted to do something, but not backed it up with the action. More often that not, it ends with a half hearted attempt and no real progress is made. This is then often accompanied by excuses as to why we didn’t achieve what we set out to (I talk from experience here!). 

So give compounding a try. It starts with a goal. Break that goal down into smaller sub goals i.e. your small steps, then START! And finally, and most importantly, we must persevere!

So go and give compounding a try. You will be astonished with the results and will no doubt start applying this technique to many areas of your life.

Best wishes as ever

Tom

Welcome back to the #20DayCountdown, I’m pleased we’re back on schedule today with this post.

Before we jump in here’s a little update on Kama hele; his name is Hawaiian for ‘Traveller’ which I felt was appropriate given what I do. He’s in the hiding stage, however I’ve seen him use the litter and eat something so he’s settling in. There are a lot of very worthwhile charities for abandoned animals such as Kama hele, as such I’d like to encourage each and every member of #PhoenixNation to look at their homes and see if you could home one of these animals. You never know what kind of an impact that can have, and I don’t just mean to their lives.

And so on with today’s post; we have reviewed the footage shot yesterday and unfortunately much of its proving un-useable, we’ve made some amendments today and the results speak for themselves. The schedule for the first batch of video content, the content supporting ‘From the Ashes: volume one’, to be released is Tuesday and Thursday each Week for the next five Weeks.

In related news; a further chapter of ‘From the Ashes: volume two’ has been finished and this means we’re on track for a June 1^st release through the same channels as last time. Once again, for those of you who decide to purchase it directly through Phoenix there’ll be some bonus content.

Work on the redevelopment of the Phoenix Evolution site is continuing and we’re approximately 8Hours away from completion. The aim is for the new pages to be live by 0:00 tonight and the updates include:

Updated Page for ‘From the Ashes @ Phoenix’ including a digital delivery option for those purchasing ‘From the Ashes: volume one’ directly from us.

Updated link Page to online content for those members of #PhoenixNation who have purchased ‘From the Ashes: volume one’ directly from us.

Remember; if purchasing ‘From the Ashes: volume one’ directly from us you get exclusive bonuses including access to a 10Part online series of Video Content designed to interlock with the eBook. If you haven’t already purchased a copy here’s the link again; https://www.facebook.com/PhoenixEvolutionCoaching?sk=app_196248510415671&app_data

Pre-order Page to register your interest for a copy of the signed / numbered limited-edition ‘From the Ashes: volume one’ due 1^st August (subject to a minimum number of pre-orders).

Pre-order Page to register your interest for a copy of the ‘From the Ashes: volume two’ eBook, due 1^st June.

As reported Work on ‘From the Ashes: volume two’ is proceeding to schedule, we are presently a Week away from the first draft of the manuscript being ready for proofreading. Once this has been concluded and signed off we hope to have the preview chapters out to those of you who have purchased ‘From the Ashes: volume one’ directly from Phoenix.

Mahalo, and until next Time with much Aloha