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Senggama dan Islam

kchihui — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 07:27:14 +0000

Menurut syariat Islam senggama atau hubungan sexual perlu dilakukan pasangan pasutri karena memiliki tujuan mulia. Tujuan itu ada yang bersifat individual maupun kolektif diantaranya adalah :

1. Mengeluarkan Air Kotor yang Membahayakan Badan.

Menurut Ibn Qayyim al-Jauziyyah dalam kitab at-Thibbun Nabawi, salah satu tujuan senggama adalah mengeluarkan air kotor dari dalam badan dan tidak baik bagi kesehatan bila disimpan terlalu lama. Hal ini tentu saja berdasarkan pengetahuan dan pengalaman pada zaman itu. Dan berdasarkan kajian ilmiah di jaman sekarang sudah banyak ahli kesehatan yang mengkaitkan kesehatan jiwa raga seseorang dengan kegiatan hubungan seksual. Bahkan hubungan seksual dijadikan salah satu sarana terapi kesehatan bahkan penyembuhan penyakit.

2. Memuaskan Hawa Nafsu dan Mengapai Kenikmatan

Ajaran Islam tidak mematikan hawa nasfu birahi para pemeluknya dan tidak pula membiarkan pemeluknya melampiaskan hawa nafsu sesukanya.

3. Memenuhi Hak Istri

Pada dasarnya senggama itu bertujuan untuk i’faf an-nafsi atau menjaga suami dari perzinahan baik zinah badan, mata ataupun zinah hati serta menjaga dari perselingkuhan maupun perkara haram lainnya.

Namun suami tidak boleh egois atau mementingkan kepuasan diri, ia juga wajib memuaskan kebutuhan istri. Dengan pemenuhan nafkah batin itu diharapkan istri dapat menjaga diri, termasuk pandangan dan kemaluannya dari perkara yang diharamkan Allah Swt.

Persetubuhan adalah mu’asyarah bi ma’ruf atau pergaulan baik dari suami yang diperintahkan Allah Ta’ala terhadap istri yang merupakan hak istri untuk memperoleh kepuasan dan kenikmatan.

4. Memperoleh dan Memelihara Keturunan

Hubungan kelamin itu untuk memelihara kelangsungan hidup manusia diatas permukaan bumi. Dan jelas ini sangat mendasar dan penting.

Islam melarang umatnya hidup membujang alias tidak bersuami atau tidak beristri.

Artinya : Dari Anas bin Malik katanya: Rasullulah Saw menyuruh menikah dan melarang hidup membujang dengan larangan keras dan beliau bersabda:

“Nikahilah perempuan yang penyayang dan subur, karena sesungguhnya aku berbangga atas para nabi dengan jumlah (pengikut) yang banyak pada hari kiamat” – HR. Ibn Hibban

Amin Ya Rabb.

* sumber : Hakim, al-Mustadrak ‘alas Saihan, (Beirut: Dar al-Kutub al-Ilmiyah, catakan pertama, halaman 114, 1990 – Ust. Dr. H. Muchamad Ichsan, Lc., MA).

Sex & Islam 2.More About Sex In Islam by Lea Zaitoun

naboulove — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 07:30:48 +0000

More About Sex In Islam
Information taken from Questions and Answers About Women’s Rights In Islam, Compiled by Lea Zaitoun

The Right to Adequate Sexual Relations

Since the purpose of marriage is to be a mutual source of comfort, peace, and enjoyment for each other, like a garment that protects and covers, the sexual aspect of marriage is an extension of this. The husband is asked to be gentle, considerate and loving with his wife, and to try to satisfy her needs.

The wife must reserve herself exclusively for her husband, and make efforts to be attractive, as well as making herself available to him whenever he is in need of her. This latter obligation also applies to the husband.

In Islam, any sexual relations are reserved EXCLUSIVELY for the confines of marriage. Both husband and wife are also obligated to honor the privacy of the intimate relations between them, and should not speak of them to anyone.

The Prohibition of Sex when She is Menstruating

It is forbidden for a Muslim man to have sexual intercourse with his wife when she is menstruating. The Quran is clear on this subject:

“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they have purified (from menses and have taken a bath). And when they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allah has ordained for you (go in unto them in any manner as long as it is in their vagina)…” (Al-Baqarah 2:222)

The Prohibition of Sodomy

Allah (SWT) will not look at the man who commits sodomy with a man or a woman (reported in Sahih Al-Tirmithi (Al-Baaniy) Vol. 1 No. 341).

Malik related to me that he asked Ibn Shihab about someone who committed sodomy. Ibn Shihab said,

“He is to be stoned, whether or not he is muhsan.” (Reported in Malik’s Muwatta)

It is forbidden for a Muslim man to enter his wife in her anus. Allah (SWT) says in the Quran:

“Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow you pious offspring) before you for your ownselves. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers [O Muhammad (SAW)]. (Al-Baqarah 2:223)

What is understood from the above verse is that a tilth can only refer to a place where something might grow. Therefore, what is meant here is the entry which produces children.

Other sayings of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) on the subject:
“He is cursed who has anal intercourse (with his wife).” (Reported by Ibin Maja)

“Whoever has sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman, or woman in her anus… has disbelieved in that which was revealed to Muhammad (SAW).” (Reported by Al-Tirmithi)

It can not be stressed too strongly that even animals do not satisfy their sexual urges in this unnatural way. Human beings who are guilty of sodomy are, thus, even lower than animals.

Purification between 2 acts of Sexual Intercourse

In Islam, when a husband has had sexual intercourse with his wife in the legal manner, and then wishes to return another time, it is preferable that he first performs another ablution (wudu).

Meaning: it is better if he does not commence sexual intercourse in an unclean physical state. In the words of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW):

“This way is purer, cleaner and better.” (Reported by Abu Dawud)

Sex & Islam 1.Sex Is Good For You by Muhammad Al-Akili

naboulove — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 10:13:02 +0000

Sex Is Good For You

Information Taken From: Natural Healing With the Medicine of The Prophet, Translated & Emendation from original Arabic by Muhammad Al-Akili..

The sexual aspect of life has three basic purposes:

1. Conservation of the human race, and continuity of its kind until it reaches the total number of human beings intended by Allah’s (SWT) leave to experience life in this world, to fulfill the divine purpose, and to show gratitude to its Creator.

2. Ejection of bodily fluids from the body, otherwise, suppression or retention of congested semen can cause various kinds of serious illnesses.

3. Fulfillment of one’s desire, satisfaction of one’s sexual pleasure, and enjoyment of this blessing.

The latter is the only pleasure of such intercourse which is also provided in the heavenly paradise, whereby, therein three is neither ejaculation, natural discharge of bodily fluids, nor reproduction.

Sex is Good for You

Learned physicians find that sexual intercourse yields essential health benefits.

Galen attributes semen to the elements of fire and air, and describes its humors as hot and moist. This is because semen is rich in prostaglandins, which are hormonelike fatty acids found throughout the body and particularly in semen. Prostaglandins are primary nutrients that affect essential body processes, including blood pressure, metabolism, and body temperature among others. Hence, understanding the value of this most unmitigated and purest form of blood an its preciousness requires great consideration in discharging it.

This means to wisely value the reasons behind dispensing of this precious water of life for either conceiving a child, or emitting it through lawful sexual intercourse upon congestion.

In fact, congested semen which are retained for an extended period can cause various illnesses and infirmities, including obsession, habitude, lunacy, and even insanity, and sometimes, engaging in lawful sexual intercourse may aid in the recovery from such illnesses.

On the other hand, congestion and prevalence of semen for an extended period can cause its corruption, and turns it into a harmful toxin that the body cannot easily dispose of. However, sometimes, nature produces a spontaneous and involuntary emission of excess semen, usually during sleep, and without sexual intercourse.

Some learned predecessors have concluded that the human being should pledge:

1. To walk at least a certain minimum distance every day.

2. To feed his stomach at regular intervals, and not to extend fasting from food beyond the religious requirement.

3. Not to abstain from having lawful sexual intercourse, for a water well drains out if its water if its not used regularly.

Imam Muhammad ibn Zakariyya once said:

“Abstaining from sexual intercourse for an extended period weakens one’s nervous system, can cause obstruction of the urethra, and shrinks the penis.”

He added when he observed some people who vowed temporary abstention from sexual intercourse, that their sexual energy diminished, they suffered general weakness of their bodies, became doleful, lost their desire, and their digestive system became corrupt.

Hold on….Only Lawful Sex

Other benefits of lawful sexual intercourse include protecting one’s eyes from looking at what is unlawful, preserving one’s chastity, controlling one’s desire and lust against what is unlawful, and providing the same for his or her spouse. This will certainly provide the believing man and woman with innumerable benefits in this world and in the hereafter. Imam Ahmad alluding to abstention from sex, once said:

“I exercise patience when fasting from food and drink, though it is still difficult.”

He also reported in his collection of correct prophetic traditions that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) encouraged the believers to get married, saying:

“Get married, and conceive many children for I shall take pride in your number on the day of judgment.”

Ibn Abbass (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

“I get married, eat meat, sleep, stand up in night prayers, fast, and break my fast. Whoever disdains from my traditions (Sunnah) is not one of my followers.”

He (SAW) also said:

“O young men whoever among you has the means to establish a family, he should get married, for marriage preserves the chastity of one’s eyes and sexual organ, and whoever cannot afford to establish a family, he must fast from desiring sex, for abstention in that
case will protect him from sin.”

Ibn Abbass (RA) one said:

“We recognize that marriage is the best solution for two people who are in love.”

It is also narrated in the two collections of correct prophetic traditions that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

Allah’s Messenger (SAW) also encouraged people to choose the young and fertile. On this subject, Mu’qal bin Yasar related that a man said to Allah’s Messenger (SAW):

“I found a beautiful woman from a noble family but she cannot bear children, should I marry her? Allah’s Messenger (SAW) replied, “Nay.” The man came back and asked a third time and asked the same question, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) turned to his companions and said: “Choose in your wives the fertile and the affectionate, for I shall take pride in your number on the day of judgment.”

Hmmm…So how about some Tips?

Imam al-Tirmithi narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

“It is among the traditions of Allah’s Messengers to marry, to brush their teeth, to anoint themselves with perfume, and to be circumcised.”

Prior to engaging in sexual intercourse, it is necessary for the husband to express his affection and love for his wife by touching her, caressing her, kissing her, and sometimes sucking her tongue. Jabir bin ‘Abdullah narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) enjoined upon a man not to engage in sexual intercourse before caressing his wife.

It is also a prophetic tradition to take a complete ritual ablution (ghusl) after engaging in sexual intercourse and before retiring to sleep, and at least, to take a ritual ablution (wudu), should that man desire to reengage in sexual intercourse anew.

Upon climax, the innate heat transfuses throughout the entire body, and by taking a complete ritual ablution, the water refreshes one’s spirit, and ensures cleanliness and ritual purity. It also rejuvenates the body’s innate heat, musters its caloricity, and helps the gametogenous process. Almighty Allah (SWT) says:

“Verily, We have created man from Nutfah drops of mixed semen (discharge of man and woman), in order to try him, so We made him hearer, seer. (Al-Insan 76:2)