Despite the existence of a prenuptial agreement, an Ontario Court ordered a husband to pay his wife temporary support of $5,ooo and $50,000 for interim fees and costs.   The husband was also ordered to pay retroactively $8,819 per month for child support.

The husband and wife were married in 1999 and separated in 2007.   The court attributed income to husband at $568,664.   The husband’s payment of the household carrying costs was insufficient to meet his children’s needs and did not offset his child support obligation.

The court ordered the husband to pay his wife temporary spousal support, despite the existence of a prenuptial agreement, since there were triable issues regarding the validity of the agreement.

For more information and details, you can review the court’s decision in Gold v. Gold at my website www.russellalexander.com

Nas may be loaded, but it makes no difference. He’s just filed legal papers asking the judge in his divorce case with Kelis to block her from getting spousal support. In the papers, filed by his lawyer Mark Vincent Kaplan, Nas is also asking for joint custody of their two-month-old boy. Kelis is asking for $72,728 a month, which means they are now exactly $72,728 apart.

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Immigration to our shores is running at record levels and so too is the boom in illegal immigrants.

Some are scamming permanent residency is to catch and marry single Aussies. Immigration officials are cracking down on fake marriages, but  sometimes impossible to know when love is true or false. 

Over the last ten years spousal visa applications to Australia jumped from 26,000 to 40,000 a year. Many phoney fiancés and spouses were kicked out last year. 

Less than three per cent of applicants are investigated. 

The process requires foreign spouses to live with their partner for two years and they may be tested on their truthfulness by the Bona Fide units, set up in states across the country.

Differentiating between love and fraud is not a given, what we are interested in determining is that the evidence and the paperwork and the documentation put before us is true and accurate that it is not a forged document. 

They’re even more brazen in India where migration agents and internet surfers state plainly what they want, with posts including: “Paper marriage for Australia” and “Looking for a girl to do a paper marriage just to get residency in Australia.” 

The Times of India newspaper detailed how brides and grooms are contracted to marry, just so they can move here. 

If they are operating in India, or in China, or in Canada, or in the UK or anywhere overseas, our laws don’t control their activities

Act, under visa fraud it can include cancellation of the visa, and ultimately removal from the country. In the least we can refuse and we often do in 3000 instances to grant a visa in the last financial year. 

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Article is from MSN Lifestyle. (H/T Andrew)

If your wife attacks you and the police are called, it is often the law that they must arrest the man:

Four Sacramento County Sheriff’s cars pulled up in front of David Woods’s house. He tried to explain to them what happened. But the lead deputy cut him off: “Yeah, that’s fine. Put your hands behind your back.”

David said, “No, wait, she stabbed me … there’s the knife. See the knife? See my neck wound? See?”

“Put your hands behind your back. Turn around,” the deputy replied.

“No,” David protested. “She stabbed…”

The deputies drew their weapons.

Women use the element of surprise and weapons when they assault men:

She had a serrated vegetable knife with a blade about seven inches long. She turned around and she stabbed at me.

“I tried to block it, but I was surprised. I was off balance…the knife went right through my collar and gave me a little nick on my neck.

“She reared back to stab me again. I tried to block it again…I hit her in the mouth. She dropped the knife, ran to the telephone, called 911, and told them, ‘My husband is hitting me! I think he’s gonna kill me.’

State employees, including police, social workers and judges, have been brainwashed to believe that women can never be violent:

After 15 minutes, the female deputy returned from the bedroom after talking to David’s children. She told the other deputies, “It’s true. Both of the daughters saw it. She tried to stab him with the knife.”

They took the cuffs off David. “Your wife obviously needs help,” the lead deputy said. “She works for Kaiser, you’ve got health insurance that covers mental health, you need to call the emergency number and get her an appointment.”

David says there’s a double standard when it comes to charging men. “Now, isn’t that strange? When she had a fat lip, it was a felony and I was going to jail. But when they finally realized that she tried to stab me in the neck, it stopped being a crime, and instead it was a mental health issue.”

Taxpayer money is spent used to fund feminist research and a bevy of social programs exclusively for women:

“The violence really began in our family about 10 days after Ruth realized that she had all the power [financially]. I knew I had to get my kids out. I called the largest domestic violence shelter agency in Sacramento County several times. They told me, ‘Men are perpetrators of domestic violence; women are victims of domestic violence,’ and hung up.

“I had no way out. I had no money. Whenever we bought a car, Ruth insisted that the car be in her name only, so that if I took it and went to the movies without her approval she would call the police, and report, ‘I’m estranged from my husband, and he stole my car.’ She did that several times.”

Worst of all is what David’s children endured. One daughter says, “No one would help. Teachers, parents of friends, anyone I tried to talk to about what was going on at home told me I didn’t understand, that my mother couldn’t possibly be the violent party. When the police came to our home, they would always be ready to arrest my father, sometimes putting handcuffs on him. It was up to me to scream as loud as possible that it was my mom and not my dad, so they wouldn’t take him away and leave me alone with her.”

That was all just an example. The article goes on to explain the real domestic violence statistics and laws. In this country we have a massive budget to pay for a collection of social programs just for protecting women from violence committed by men. There is nothing remotely comparable for male victims of female violence.

All of these discriminatory programs are authorized by bills like the “Violence Against Women Act”. There is no “Violence Against Men Act”, and virtually no social programs for violence against men.

The take-home lesson for men is this: women have been trained by feminists for decades to view themselves as the victims of male discrimination. This state-sponsored resentment makes every woman prone to rationalize anti-male behavior up to and including domestic violence. Every woman is a potential batterer.

Additionally, women have been trained to view unborn babies and their own children as parasites who restrict their careers. This state-sponsored resentment makes every woman prone to rationalize anti-child behavior up to and including abortion and child abuse. Every woman is a potential murderer and child abuser.

Men: stay away from women until these anti-male laws and social programs are repealed. They have to learn somehow that hating men is not OK. Vote with your feet.

My previous posts on domestic violence are here.

Our society commonly views women as victims of domestic violence–rarely as perpetrators. Many men would rather suffer in silence at the hands of their abusive partner than seek protection or legal assistance. When a woman defends herself against her male partner, society will normally support an appropriate defensive response. When a man defends himself against his partner…Read the rest here

Dr. Christina Hoff Sommers

This story was sent to me by ECM, but I also saw posted at Dinocrat.com, Jennifer Roback Morse and Muddling Towards Maturity.

How reliable are the stories you read in women’s studies textbooks? Does violence against women really increase on Superbowl Sunday? Or is it just a ploy to create a made-up crisis to justify transferring wealth from taxpayers to feminists for research, social programs, etc.?

Excerpt:

One reason that feminist scholarship contains hard-to-kill falsehoods is that reasonable, evidence-backed criticism is regarded as a personal attack.

Lemon’s Domestic Violence Law is organized as a conventional law-school casebook — a collection of judicial opinions, statutes, and articles selected, edited, and commented upon by the author.

…in a selection by Joan Zorza, a domestic-violence expert, students read, “The March of Dimes found that women battered during pregnancy have more than twice the rate of miscarriages and give birth to more babies with more defects than women who may suffer from any immunizable illness or disease.” Not true. When I recently read Zorza’s assertion to Richard P. Leavitt, director of science information at the March of Dimes, he replied, “That is a total error on the part of the author. There was no such study.” The myth started in the early 1990s, he explained, and resurfaces every few years.

Zorza also informs readers that “between 20 and 35 percent of women seeking medical care in emergency rooms in America are there because of domestic violence.” Studies by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the Bureau of Justice Statistics, an agency of the U.S. Department of Justice, indicate that the figure is closer to 1 percent.

Sommers is a Christian equality-feminist who writes against activist “gender” feminism. I have her first two books. She is a professional philosopher who understands men and tells the truth.

You can read more about what constitutes feminist research in this article by Rod Dreher.

Further study

My previous story on domestic violence showed that female-instigated DV is rising in Australia, and that rates of DV are similar in Canada and the UK.

Previously, I blogged about a new study that shows the importance of fathers to the development of children.

I also blogged about how government intrudes into the family and about the myth of “dead-beat Dads”. And about how the feminist state’s discrimination against male teachers is negatively impacting young men. And there is my series on how Democrat policies discourage marriage: Part 1 is here and Part 2 is here and Part 3 is here.

Dr. Linda Kelly Hill

Here is a related research paper by Dr. Linda Kelly, a professor of Law at Indiana University School of Law.

I noticed this story in Australia’s Daily Telegraph.

Excerpt:

Shocking figures have revealed that the number of women who have been charged with domestic violence-related assault has soared by 159 per cent over the past eight years.

The figures, from the NSW Bureau of Crime Statistics, show 2336 women faced court on charges of domestic violence in 2007, mainly for bashing their husbands, compared with just 818 in 1999.

….The figures show that although the number of women prosecuted for general assault remained stable between 1999 and 2007, there was an increase of 11 per cent a year in the number of women prosecuted for domestic violence.

During the same period, domestic violence charges against men rose by 2.3 per cent a year.

I am at a loss to understand why this is. Does anyone have a theory about why this is happening? Leave a comment if you do.

I wrote before about the problem of domestic violence against males, on the first day I started my blog. It turns out that these Australian numbers are echoing the numbers in Canada and the UK that I cited in that post.

Excerpt:

UK numbers:

In the event, the CASI method found relatively high levels of male victimisation, to the extent that men appear to be at equal risk to women of domestic assault (4.2% of both sexes reported an assault in the last year).

Canada numbers:

An estimated 7% of women and 6% of men in a current or previous spousal relationship encountered spousal violence during the five years up to and including 2004, according to a comprehensive new report on family violence.

Here is a related research paper on the problem of domestic violence against men, writen by Dr. Linda Kelly, a professor of Law at Indiana University School of Law.

We just heard the wonderful news that our daughter-in-laws father Joe Sword and his new bride to be will be getting married today at 2:30 p.m. in a small private ceremony surrounded by their close family and friends. Anthony and I would like to add our best wishes to the many you will receive.

Fondly,

Anthony and Sheila Metcalf

The book Im reading calls it an “indirect form of violence” which all of us see in our relationships and often acquiesce under the guise of tolerance. Victims are often unaware of their manipulation as the common techniques of abusers are in innuendo, spiteful allusions, lies and humiliating remarks.

People who get swallowed up in it (the victims) often are blamed for being too weak as their identity is swallowed up in trying to please the abuser (who is rarely satisfied) and the abuser is allowed (tolerated) to go on to victimize other people.

It is effectively possible to destabilize or even destroy someone with the seemingly harmless words and hints, inferences, and unspoken suggestions and usually those close to the situation will not intervene.

A narcissistic abuser grows in stature at the expense of the other as he avoids any inner or spiritual conflict by shifting the responsibility for what is wrong to the other person. Thus, if the other person (victim) is responsible for the problem, wrong-doing, guilt, and suffering don’t exist.

This defines emotional abuse.

Read more and post discussion or debate: Emotional Abuse

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In last week’s teleseminar I responded to the avalanche of questions regarding “What’s Holding You Back?”  In addition to lack of money, fear, procrastination, and no time – I received an unexpected category – that of no spousal support. 

Comments like this:

– My problem holding me back is my husband. ….When I want to do something, I take off running, deal with the problems when they arise but my husband is the most negative person and always picks apart everything and tells me all the reasons why it won’t work. I think I have some very good ideas but he won’t even listen. I am 46, deep in debt and he says my ideas are stupid.

Not having the support of those closest to you is a major deal.  I know this may sound cheesy but the most amazing thing I’ve ever done is to marry the women I married.  She’s my biggest cheerleader – she’s given me the freedom to try and fail – and yet continued to love and support me.

We got married very young – and our first home was an 8′ x 42′ foot trailer.  Our first child was born while we lived in that trailer – I built his first bed over the wheel well in the middle room – which was really just a hallway.

At 17 years old, shortly before we got married, Joanne gave me a little romantic book with this quotation highlighted.  It became one of the important reference points for our many years together:

Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.   Dinah Craik – A Life for a Life, 1859

Years later when I lost everything in business and we owed hundreds of thousands of dollars – Joanne reminded me that we were totally happy in that little trailer and if we needed to go back to that it would be perfectly fine with her.  That attitude and unconditional support has been invaluable in allowing me the freedom to really find my path – and the ultimate success we know today.

I say that as a way of acknowledging that lack of spousal support is a major deal.  When I work with guys who are going through transition – and they get excited about something innovative and non-traditional – if their wife is not on board – I encourage them to just go find another job. 

Now – that being said.  What can you do if spouse or family and friends are not supportive of your new ideas and the direction you’d like to go.

One of the hallmark characteristics of highly successful people is that they spend time around people who are already performing at the level at which they want to perform.     

Some quick tips:

1. Join 2-3 organizations with like-minded people.  Chamber of Commerce, Rotary, TEC, Inventors Group, BNI, are just a few of the possibilities.
2. Form your own mastermind group.  I have a group that has been meeting every Wednesday morning for over 8 years now.  We share ideas, study books together and support each other in many ways.
3. Read good books.  You can open the door to positive, exciting ideas and environments immediately.  Here’s my Recommended Reading List.
4. Seek out a good counselor.  Even if you have to go by yourself, find a compassionate listening ear to provide feedback and guidance.
5. Be the person you know your were meant to be.  Don’t pass blame on anyone.  Hold your head high and be someone who exudes confidence, boldness and enthusiasm.

And yes, that’s Joanne and me on the RR tracks.  We took our oldest grandson on a train ride last week and were showing him the best way to walk the tracks (holding the hand of someone you love and trust) – as he was taking our picture.

Tell me Lee doesn’t look like he beats Ann Marie with DVD boxes for not having the precise amount of raisins in his bowl of cereal!! <– click for link

I’ve seen plenty of eHarmony.com commercials in the past. All of them seem so contrived and fake it’s more amusing than anything else. Did you know that Dr. Neil Clark Warren is a clinical psychologist that has spent the last 35 years as a relationship counselor? I’m willing to bet that people are paying HIM to be a part of his secret case study.

edit: due to Viacom’s bitchassery aplenty, Google has decided to disable embedding of numerous videos. I guess i’ma have to get my geek on and host these bitches somewhere else. oh well, click the link to view Lee and Ann Marie.