Why is this even being allowed to happen???

I can understand wanting to hide or rid of a scar caused by an accident, or even some hideous birthmark.  However…

Plastic surgery for teens

THE M.D.

January 12, 2009|Valerie Ulene 

“The American Society of Plastic Surgeons estimates that more than 330,000 adolescents — most of them female — underwent cosmetic procedures in 2007. The most popular surgical procedures were nose jobs, breast augmentation, ear reshaping and liposuction.”

“Of course American teens want to undergo these procedures: They face tremendous pressure to be attractive, and they’re constantly bombarded with images of beautiful men and women who are held up as the norm. “We’ve made a decision about what beauty looks like in this country, and everybody — teens in particular — wants to fit the mold,” says Diana Zuckerman, president of the National Research Center for Women and Families, a nonprofit organization that works to improve the health of women and children.”

 Pay close attention to the way they make it seem as if this is the most bizarre thing for a teen to ever experience.   Haven’t we all gone through some form of doubts about our body image and self-esteem? 

When I was growing up: 

1. My eyes were too small.  Guess what?  They still are small ( I got ‘em from my Mama) and I ADORE them!

2. My lips were too big because my head did not grow into them yet.  LOL!! Yes!  I did get teased.   Today, I get compliments and I just love them!!

3. I HAD A JERRI CURL!!!  Now that was TRAUMATIC….every time I think about it, even today, I just want to cry.   That pain has not left me…

But!!!  I was able to change that and get rid of my jerri curl.   Notice how that painful event, which I was able to change using chemicals and heat, still effects me today.  It is still taking me too much time to get my hair back to the way it is SUPPOSED to be and the curl has been out for almost 20 years!!!

Read on….

 ”Many plastic surgeons argue that cosmetic procedures aren’t just about improving appearances; they make the case that surgery can improve teenagers’ self-esteem too. Because teens take every imperfection (real or perceived) seriously, physical differences, however minor, can influence what they think of themselves and how they behave. Teens can be tough on one another too, and a feature outside the perceived norm — be it a large nose or a flat chest — can be the source of teasing and ultimately self-imposed isolation. But no well-designed studies demonstrate that cosmetic surgery significantly changes teenagers’ quality of life. “Although patients who have undergone a cosmetic procedure often do feel better about that particular body part, there’s really no data to suggest that it improves their overall body image or self-esteem,” Zuckerman says.”

“Teens need to be mature enough to understand what the surgery can and cannot do for them. A nose job may eliminate a bump and liposuction might slim their hips, but these procedures won’t eliminate problems in their lives.”

Before I start this story I must say that I called my sister yesterday to confirm that my memory of this incident was on target. After all, we laughed about this only last year. Well, it seems Peggy is suffering from CRS and now has no recollection at all. (Maybe this will jog her memory!) Anyway, I thought hmmmm…this is the chance that I can make it up anyway I want. But I know my sister and she probably remembers and is testing my character, you know seeing how bad I make her sound. So, instead of really pepping up the tale, I am going to tell is exactly as I remember.

Growing up, I more or less drove my sister crazy. And vice versa. While we loved one another, we also lived to torment each other. She openly and relentlessly teased me. I was a bit sneakier. I hid and got the goods on her and her best friend. And I was a horrible tattletale.

We often got off the school bus at a local store which was about a mile from our house. We’d then walk home the back way which consisted of a dirt/rock road and a stretch straight up a hill and through the woods.

My sister is five years older than me. At this time, she was probably fifteen which put me at ten.

This particular day, my sister’s best friend came home with her. They proceeded a few feet ahead of me. They turned around and yelled “cinco” at me and commenced to laugh their heads off.

I immediately flushed because I had no idea what the word they were calling me meant. But I knew it had to be horrible. They continued chanting, “Cinco! Cinco! Cinco!”

“You guys better shut up or I’m gonna tell Mama on you!”

“Go right ahead you big crybaby! My sister yelled and then added “cinco” with a laugh. Just for good measure. By then I was crying my eyeballs out.

They continued their calling me cinco when we got home. We fought back and forth for the full hour before Mama got home.

I ran out to the driveway to meet her when she got there. I wanted to tell my side of the story first. And I wanted my sister to get what she deserved. How dare she call me such a nasty name!

Me: Peggy’s calling me bad names! Make her stop!

Mama storms in the house.

Mama: Damn it! How many times do I have to tell you to stop picking on your sister?

Peggy: Did she tell you what I called her?

Mama: I don’t care what you called her. Just stop it!

I gave Peggy the smug – ha ha-I got you I in trouble-look. I was sweetly satisfied.

Peggy: Mama I called her cinco.

Peggy laughed. I cried.

Me: See, there she goes. She’s still doing it!

Mama: I told you to stop calling her bad names.

Peggy: Ha, you don’t even know what it means. It’s not bad. It’s the number five in Spanish. Cinco!

Mama: Damn it! I told you to stop calling her names.

Peggy: Cinco. It means five.

Mama: The hell it does!

Peggy: Cinco! Cinco!

Mama: I told you I didn’t want to hear that word in this house again.

Peggy: Well, it’s going to be a little hard to do my Spanish homework if I can’t count in Spanish!

Mama: Enough already. I know you’re just trying to get away with something, so just stop lying!

Peggy: Uno. Dos. Tres. Cuatro. Cinco. (shoves Spanish book in front of Mama) See, it’s numbers in Spanish.

Mama: (Pushing the book away) You heard me. I don’t want to hear that word again. I told you to leave your sister alone. And I mean it.

Peggy: Well, if you don’t believe me, you can call my teacher.

Mama: Just don’t call your sister that or any other name again.

After Mama was out of hearing, Peggy told her friend that we were just a bunch of idiots. We didn’t even know Spanish. Then she added that I was a brat. And I was.

She showed me the numbers and words in her book. So, I believed she wasn’t calling me anything nasty. She was just being mean. But not as mean as when she and her friend rolled me in a quilt and stuck me in a closet. I’m sure I deserved that, too. I truly was a brat!

The rest of the night and for a long time afterwards, Peggy would mouth under her breath “cinco”. I ignored her.

After all, I was an idiot. I didn’t even know Spanish.

And how fitting is it that I grew up to have a child born on Cinco de Mayo?

A couple of days ago I bought a Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator from LoveHoney. I’ve never heard of Tracey Cox but apparently:

“Tracey Cox is an international sex, body language and relationships expert as well as a TV presenter. She is well-known for her TV shows on sex and relationships as well as her range of best-selling books.”

Here’s Tracey:

So, I’m expecting a Tracey Cox vibrator to be pretty hot shit! LoveHoney (like Amazon) encourage customer reviews and there were 107 reviews for this little toy. Almost all were a variation of: “small but very effective”.

We haven’t really played with toys so it was a bit of an impulse buy based on the idea that C should be enjoying herself even if I’m denied. LoveHoney were amazing – it was delivered the next day and they included a free vibrator ring thing that I haven’t looked at yet.

The vibe came with a spare battery (nice touch) and certainly is powerful. It’s about the size of a lipstick and vibrates like a washing machine on spin cycle. I thought this would do the trick and secreted it under C’s side of the bed.

As luck would have it, C decided that she wanted to be orally sorted out last night and I was able to bring the vibe into action. She almost jumped out of her skin when I ran it over her clit. Initially she was moaning like a thing possessed but it quickly became too much for her. The trouble is that it’s a one speed vibe and that speed was a bit much for C. I changed tack and used my tongue but pressed the vibe under the base of my tongue and this seemed to do the job.

After she had come, she informed me that she would be using it on me and “see how you like it”. She then told me that if I wanted to come I could “mount her”. There was a moments silence as I stared into her eyes and then we both collapsed into laughter. “I’m sorry” she giggled, “I just couldn’t think of any other way of putting it”.

So I mounted her. It was lovely.

Vous regardez-cette affiche et en vous les interrogations fusent … Votre imagination est stimulée. Pour quel annonceur ai-je bien pu créer cet univers mystérieux et mythique. Un petit scroll et votre soif de réponse sera assouvie ….

PS : Toi mouton derrière ton ordi, va te chercher un Big Mac, achète toi un ipod nano, au cas ou ton I.Phone te lâcherai  et embrasse les vitrines de chez Colette avant de retourner te morfondre dans ta routine facebook !

From McSweeney’s, a list of cruel names for overweight vampires:

Snackula
Undead Weight
Count Chocoholic
Vampire the Buffet Slayer
Cholesteratu
The Vampurgler
The Vampire Lestop For Some Tacos
Vlad the Inhaler
Child Of Candy Cain
Quiche Lilith
Ghoulash
Queen of the Hammed
Taco Bela
Bela Obesi
Transylvania 6-5000 Calories
Dick Cheney
Das Vhoppyr

Cruel Names for Overweight Vampires [McSweeney's]

There is no technique out there better than push pull. Its genius-

Art Of Push Pull

that’s the only way to describe it! Its one of those concepts that’s deeply rooted in psychology. People want what they can’t have and people want to know what they don’t understand. That’s why it works.  Later I will give you a few examples of how to make it work.

Push pull is teasing, it presents something to someone then you pull it away as the person almost has it. By definition push pull is pulling in a girl emotionally, by a certain action, and then pushing her away with another.

Swinggcat is known for his practice of push/pull and the idea of Prizability. Push/pull is actually an amazing skill and works with pretty much every girl I’ve met. Below are some of Swinggcats examples of push/pull. Check out his amazing ebook. Get it here.

Examples of Push/Pull by Swinggcat

Push-Pull Example #1 (Pick Up Example)

I grabbed a woman’s hand and said, you have the most amazing smile I’ve seen tonight It makes me feel so happy inside!

She responded with, thank you!

Then I counted the fingers on my other hand and said, you know what: actually there were four other girls with really amazing smiles tonight as well. Out of them, you have the fourth best smile. I’m going to call you number four.

And then I pushed away her hand.

She demanded, Nooo! I want to be number one!

And I replied, Alright, I’ll promote you to number three for being feisty.

Push-Pull Example #2 (Sarcasm)

A woman replied sarcastically to something I said.

So I said to her, “You know… you’re pretty sarcastic… and some people might think you’re mean because they don’t get your sarcasm. But I think your sarcasm is cool because I’m the same way. I’m also sarcastic. And that’s exactly why you and I could never hang out. ‘Cause if we did we’d have the best time making fun of everyone in our environment at their expense. And that’d be karmicly bad ’cause then all the people we made fun of would have low self esteem.”

She responded with, “Nooo. We have to hang out. You’re giving me your number right now.”

Push-Pull Example #3

I challenged a woman to kiss me… and she did.

So I said, “You’re more adventurous than I thought. You get an A-. And you have permission to cook me dinner.”

She retorted with, “What type of food do you want me to cook you?”

Women Get Aroused Differently Than Men!

For most women, it’s a huge turn on when a man gets them all hot and bothered… and then stops touching them, making them anticipate his touch… and then starts again, exponentially increasing their arousal.

This is exactly the same as the underlying structure of Push-Pull…

And probably why many women are natural Push-Pull artists.

LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN. Woman are natural push-pull artists!

And as you saw with the examples above…

Push-Pull can be used to generate arousal and attraction inside women before you ever become intimate with them (A truism most men don’t realize).

I want you to do something…

Touch your arm with your hand very lightly, as if it were a feather… and then take your hand away.

If you did it right you’ll feel an itching sensation.

Touch your arm again lightly… and then take your hand away.

The itching sensation should have increased, yes?

Push-Pull has the same structure.

Whenever you emotionally Pull a woman into you and then Push her away… and then Pull her in… and so on, you’re creating inside her a sexual and emotional itch to want and reach and chase for more of you.

If you do this in a playful way, women won’t see you as a manipulative jerk.

They’ll instead…

* See you as charming and attractive.
* Perceive you as a Prize they must possess.
* Know that you’re one of the few coveted men that understand what arouses and attracts women.
* Be itching with attraction toward you.

There are a few examples Here

But if you want to full course get hold of real world seduction here,

Despite the arguments made by old Heinz Ketchup advertisements and by young fundamentalists trying to convince their partners of the merits of abstinence, waiting is terrible.  It doesn’t matter if you’re waiting for water to boil or for George Lucas to admit he made some mistakes, it hurts and will continue to hurt until the wait is over, or until you forget you are waiting.  Let’s be honest: how quickly can you forget the voice of the first lover who said, “Not tonight”?

Some people, like Lucas Southworth, claim that waiting is “interesting,” since, regardless of how long you suffer in anticipation, you forget it all as soon as the wait is over.  Sadly, some people, like Lucas Southworth, are wrong.  Waiting isn’t interesting; it’s suffering, even if you try to downplay the degree, and all suffering becomes a part of you long after it has been soothed.  Try waiting on line for the bathroom in your local dive after taking a few Ex-Lax pills and see if you ever forget, or anyone else either, the consequences of that queue.

Still, the main concern with waiting isn’t memory, it’s the fact that you have to live through it.  Waiting for this site to get off the ground has been miserable, not unlike the mild agony of sitting through a Third Eye Blind concert to please my younger brother and pleading for the speedy arrival of the glorious moment when the music would stop.  Now, I may grant that the euphoria of having our needs and desires fulfilled after waiting remains among the true pleasures left to us.  Likewise, teasing is an art to be admired.  But then again, too many people think they are cunning teases, when they’re really just making us wait for something not worth the trouble.

-Jeremy Allan Hawkins

Currently the boy is away on business for a longer trip. Under normal circumstances this would mean that he would be wearing the CB . However the circumstances of this trip are different. The strain on him is such that a CB would not be a good idea. It would be rather counter productive.   So the boy and I went out for a nice dinner and we discussed the trip. He admitted that he had been thinking about the CB and the purpose of the trip.

He clearly and factually stated his case as to why he felt that the combination was an issue, but he also indicated that the choice, as always, was mine. I contemplated his case. He was sincere in his reasons stated. The boy knows I will always listen and will always make up my mind.  Just as I know he will comply with my wishes.

So after some thought I decided that the trip was to intense and too important to push him with the CB. The CB would not serve any other purpose than a certain level of routine and that in itself is not a good enough reason for me.  So instead I told the boy to pack some ladies panties and to wear it on the trip.

Panties are less intrusive but by their itch can still give him sufficient focus on me and d/s He will see the panties every time he goes to the toilet and will then of course remember who made him wear them. For this trip the perfect solution. When I told him, he made clear that he was most appreciative of my decision. I could also sense the relief in him.

I think it is the dominants responsibility to know when to push routines and to know when to hold off. To realise what is required when and to always take every situation into consideration and to judge it on its own merits. Not decide what we want, just because we want it. After all my boy is my treasure and one protects a treasure even if we like to play hurt them at times.

I did tell the boy that upon his return we will have another play session, involving bondage and some pain. For him that is, not me Of course I am going to tease him mercilessly with that whilst he is away, by means of the electronic highway. That I am looking forward to.

I’m not really a fan of traditional up-dos. You know, the ones with the spiral curls that are pinned neatly together and sprayed with enough hairspray to destroy the ozone. Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve never really been into pageant hair. I prefer something a little sleeker and sexier, not to mention something that doesn’t quadruple my carbon footprint.

When it comes to formal or special events, I’m all about taking risks with hair and makeup.

The bigger the risk the better the payoff, right?

That couldn’t be more true with this look. If you’ve got a formal coming up (or you just want to try something different on a Saturday night), this fauxhawk is sophisticated, fun and super easy to do.

We don’t know the origin of these points.  Nonetheless, these are timeless truths worthy of rehearsing to ourselves.  The best plans for our lives are compromised, even sabotaged, by destructive behavior that becomes the norm in too many marriages.

Take a look at what follows and ask yourself “Which of these are true of me?“

1) Lack of Respect

Don’t badmouth your spouse to your friends or associates. Spouses need to be thanked. They need to know they are appreciated.

2) Not Listening to Your Spouse

This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or television set, ignoring body language, and interrupting.

3) Lack of Sexual Intimacy

This is a death knell for a marriage. Seek medical counsel and therapeutic counseling if necessary. Don’t leave your spouse wondering why you aren’t interested in sex.
 
4) Always Having to Be Right

This includes lecturing your mate, or having to have the last word. Very few people can love a know-it-all forever. Admit once in awhile that you made a mistake or that you don’t have all the answers. Don’t answer every simple question with a long-winded dissertion on the topic.

5) Not Walking the Talk

Actions do speak louder than words. When you say you’ll do something, do it. When you say you won’t do something, follow through.

6) Hurtful Teasing

If your spouse says the teasing is hurtful, considers it a put down, or thinks that it is inappropriate, then stop it. Claiming that your spouse doesn’t have a sense of humor or is too sensitive is being inconsiderate and unkind.
7) Dishonesty

Having lies and secrets in your relationship can create distance and lack of trust between the two of you.

Being Annoying

This includes continuing to have gross personal hygiene habits, or always being late, or nitpicking everything your spouse does, etc. It is when you know you are annoying and you continue to annoy.

9) Being Selfish or Greedy

This is when you spend money on yourself, but make a big deal if your spouse spends a dime. This is not wanting to open your home to friends and family because you prefer to be alone and don’t want the hassle of entertaining. This is hogging the remote, only going to cheap restaurants when you could afford better, or not watching movies your spouse wants to see.

10) Having Temper Tantrums

Every couple needs to be able to handle conflict in a constructive way. Having an angry outburst so that you can win an argument will make you the loser in the end.

Et j’ai des nouvelles chaussures. Elles ont bien 2 mois mais on en avait pas parlé. Et comme j’ai du les mettre 3 fois en comptant la fois où je les ai essayées et cette photo, on dira qu’elles sont comme neuves.

Asymétrie...

Elles sont assorties aux yeux du chat. Mais je sais pas trop quelle couleur c’est. Une espèce de kaki, vert de gris qui va avec rien dans ma garde-robe.

*Y’a du jeu de mots à tomber dans ce titre…Donc oui elles sont pas lacées pareilles mais je viens de m’en rendre compte. Et je suis en pyjama avec la fièvre au corps. Et un nouveau thermomètre. Qu’est pas nouveau d’ailleurs vu que j’en avais pas. On en recausera dans 2 mois. On fera un tag de “Dis moi comment tu prends ta température…” Alors la Miss Fr@amboize elle s’en contentera. Demain on mettra un t-shirt pour Manu. Ce teasing pour un t-shirt déjà vu c’est affligeant…

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Even Alan Harper does that stupid thing.