My Mom is calling me up to six times daily now and we have a varied conversation about the mail. On one call she will say in a disgusted voice “I’ve only gotten two letters about Dad’s passing” and then a half-hour later she’s adamant that “I’m not getting ANY mail.” Each time I direct her back to where I stacked all the letters I found dispersed throughout her apartment. 351 more words
Like Kay, I am also an introvert (on the extreme end of the spectrum). I very much enjoy one-on-one or small-group interactions with deep and meaningful conversations, but even those suck up a lot of energy and I need recharge time afterwards.
Big groups of people, especially in non-business settings (for some reason, I can handle that better because it doesn't require anything but me being a SME [subject matter expert], which doesn't tax my energy reserves because what I need is automatically there and doesn't require a great deal of effort] just overwhelm me - too much going on, too much noise, too much of everything. I get zapped quickly and easily and just want to find a quiet corner to regroup and be invisible in.
I also highly recommend Susan Cain's book. There were points reading this where I suddenly felt tears running down my face because I realized that she was accurately describing me and that it didn't mean I was crazy, odd, weird, or any of the other negative descriptors that the western world, which places a high value on extroversion, while considering introversion to be undesirable and abnormal - and changeable (it is not!) - ascribes to introverts.
Ironically, introverts understand extroverts (even if they drive us crazy), but extroverts, through no fault of their own other than temperament and personality, are pretty clueless about introverts. In their cluelessness, they can often be insensitive, offensive, and abrasive. Introverts will take all of that deeply to heart for life sometimes while extroverts (a) don't even realize what they've done and (b) forget it as soon as they've done it and move on to the next energizing thing that catches their attention.
This book will help both extroverts who want to understand introverts and will help introverts understand themselves better.
To Kay's question, I'd venture to say "yes" as long as they have an active social network and excluding all other health/life factors. Mama was more of an extrovert (although she had some introverted tendencies at times) and I'm glad she was able to have a big social network as long as she was able to handle it. However, too much of noise, people, activity as her vascular dementia, Lewy Body dementia, and Alzheimer's Disease progressed as well as becoming even more hard-of-hearing made a lot of social activity way too overwhelming and confusing for her.
As an introvert, will I have a shorter life? If so, no complaints from me. The quality of whatever life I have left and the character I develop with God's help is all that's important to me, not a bunch of Ecclesiastes 12 years.