Our washing machine broke about 10 days ago.  Since then we have been able to take our dirty washing to 5 different people’s houses to be washed for us.

Last night Rada and I needed to go out.  James came and babysat* for us.

Life is worth living when you are part of a community.  It is more than just the practical help.  It is knowing that there are people out there who look out for you and think you are worth something.

*Sorry Anya I believe the correct terminology is ‘girlsat’.

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I’d like to tell you a story about someone I know.  It may turn out that you know her too.

Laura^† is a young woman with a lot of wonderful skills yet is currently out of work.  We all know that looking for work stinks but, luckily, in Laura’s case opportunities are arising.

Laura has knowledge that other people would love to know themselves.  She has talent and she has dedication.  I look at Laura and think:  Now who wouldn’t want to hire her?  She’s fantastic.  It appears to me that others who know Laura also think the same thing.

Through my work we have offered Laura an opportunity and I know she is going to accomplish it with flying colours.  Others are starting to offer her bits and pieces of work too, and still others have more ideas for her as to how she could put herself out there in an entrepreneurial way. 

But Laura looks at us and says: “Wow, you guys are just so confident in me!” with a hesitation that makes me think that we may be more confident in Laura than she is in herself.  How do we make her see how wonderful she is?

I was chatting at work today about Laura with someone else who had this to say: ”Why is it that we women have so much more confidence in others than we do in ourselves?”  And why indeed?  Why is it easier to see the skills that others bring to the table yet have blinders on in terms of our own?

Ask me about my friends and I can rattle on for hours about their best attributes.  Jocelin is an amazing goal-setter and ‘do it’ person; Trish is a fantastic theoretical thinker.  Tara M is a great idea generator and Winnie has an exuberant personality that makes people want to be her friend.  Elaine isn’t afraid of a challenge and Michelle B is always willing to try something new.  Christa is so full of zest that she’s a joy to be around and Tania always appreciates the beauty in life.  Shelley sets lofty goals that would scare the pants off of others yet accomplishes them with ease and Lori is interminably positive.  Tara G has a natural talent for fashion and Michelle P is a wonderful Mom.  Jill makes me laugh and Sharon is a genuine woman that isn’t afraid to show others who she really is.  (And those are just a few of the amazing women I know!)

But being good at something and being confident in that something are entirely two different things, aren’t they?  How many of these women do you think truly realize their worth in the ways I’ve mentioned?  Would they have said the same things about themselves?  On the flip side, would I be able to accurately name all the good things they see in me?  I’m not sure I could.  (And I almost said there that “hopefully” they see good things in me…another loss of confidence!)

I don’t know how it became natural for us to doubt what we can accomplish.  I don’t know how we can see so clearly where others have amazing skills yet can’t fully appreciate where we ourselves excel.  All I know is this:  don’t we all know a “Laura”?  Aren’t we all a “Laura” ourselves?  How do we move beyond our doubt?  How many things could we ourselves accomplish with flying colours if only we’d believe that we could do them?

^{†Not her real name.}

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£2.50

That’s all i got for putting a mobile phone up for sale on eBay, for not one of mine, but one of Mum’s friends! My (valuable) time, my energy, & if i’m feeling petty-my petrol!

Evidently, commission-wise, that’s all i’m worth.

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To posses self-esteem is to have self-confidence. Each go hand in hand.  You cannot be confident in yourself if you have low self-esteem. How do you know if you have low self-esteem?

Well, here are some signs:

• Bad body image. Whether you are overweight or thin, your body is not how you want it to look. Or you feel it is not up to the standards of your significant other. You pick out any flaws and over look everything else.
  
• You constantly put yourself down. This is not someone else putting you down, this is about you finding ways to put yourself down about anything.
• Family, friends, or a lover putting you down. If someone tells you that you are not good enough, your ugly or fat, you can never do anything right, this is something that will lead to low self-esteem.
• Doubt. Having doubt that you will ever be successful, find love, that your life will turn around, or that you will be chosen for a job.
  
• You compare yourself to others. It may be based on looks, money, love, family, class, success, luck….something someone else has that is better, you find it. You don’t accept who you are.
  
• Your very shy. Whether you have been that way your whole life or became this way for some reason, you have a fear of being judged or rejected by others.

These are some characteristics of having low self-esteem. It doesn’t necessarily mean you do, if you feel that you are confident in yourself, then most likely you have high self-esteem. If you are reading this it means you are aware of your low self-esteem and you want to take steps to fix that, or at least begin to.  Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves, enjoy their lives to the fullest and not dwell on the little issues of life.

How you can begin rebuilding your self-esteem:

1. Respect yourself. People will only treat you as well as you treat yourself. If they see that you have no self-esteem or respect they will see no reason to treat you any different. They feel as though they can walk all over you and get away with it. Demand more for that for yourself. You deserve it.
2. Respect others. It is very likely that if you treat others well, you will get treated the same in return.  Not always though. You will be seen as a warm caring person and are more likely to be treated warm.
3. Be the best YOU can be. You will never be anyone but yourself. You have to realize that if you try to change who you are or how you look you will never be truly happy. Take action to change things about yourself without changing who you are to make yourself happy and complete. Boost your confidence. Go get your hair done,go shopping,  get a new wardrobe with clothes that accentuate your own body type instead of the body type you want. People will see the difference in your mood and personality and in return see you as a more approachable, fun person.
4. Work out. It’s a proven fact that people who work out are happier. Doing just a half an hour of cardio a day will boost your mood, get your blood pumping and release “happy” endorphins, causing you to be uplifted. In return, you will be healthier and maybe even shed a few pounds.
   
5. Rid yourself of unhealthy affairs. Friends or a boyfriend who always put you down are going to continue to dwindle your self-esteem. The faster you realize that you are worth more, that you are better than them and want to feel better about yourself, the faster it will happen. Either stick up for yourself, or GET THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.  Don’t let them back in unless they agree to and prove that they will help you with your issues. If they don’t, it’s clear that they don’t care about you, so why would you want them in your life anyway?
6. Alone time. Spend time by your self, doing things you love. Write, read, go fishing, take a road trip, blast music, sing out loud, take your dog for a hike, treat yourself to your favorite desert. Do something that makes you feel happy.
7. Friends. Surround yourself with people who love you, care about you and treat you well.
   
8. Talk. If you feel like you need help becoming a happy, self-confident person you may benefit from talking to someone even if it’s just with a loved one. You will learn that you have support and people who are there for you and care about how you are feeling. That may be all you need to push yourself a little further.

Self esteem is critical in living a happy, healthy life.  I think everyone wants that. If you have people in your life who can help you or know the facts of how to recover yourself then there is hope of having everything you want.

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I’m writing this post because so many well-meaning, conscious, spiritual people are missing some significant information and tools when it comes to Law of Attraction and being a conscious cocreator of your life with Spirit.

One of my wonderful Facebook friends recently wrote a post:

“If you examine your history, you cannot help but repeat it! Law of Attraction says it is so:

‘Whatever I am looking at, I am including in my vibration.’ — Abraham”

This sparked a controversy with 19 people weighing in, many fully agreeing and many others, myself included, objecting to this as an oversimplification and stating that, even though it is true that our focus does permeate our vibration and thus create, it is actually NECESSARY to understand and heal our past in order to learn what we need to from it and be able to truly free ourselves from its hold on us and move on into something even better.

We have to put our attention on our intention BUT if we are not aligned strongly and consistently enough with our intention, if we are trying really hard to make it happen but it’s just not working, that’s a sure sign we need to do some inner healing work before we do any more manifesting and attracting and creating. It’s inner, not, outer time, first.

I feel so strongly that so many New Age, metaphysical folks are so hyped up about positive thinking and “just focus on what you want,” they are missing something vital:

For most people, with most long-term issues, simply striving to be positive and focus on their intentions is NOT enough to bring about the desired results. We need to learn from our past, and use that wisdom to create our best future, while living in and enjoying the present.

So here I go on my soap box again.

The Abraham work and all the other good Law of Attraction stuff out there is not intended to be interpreted as “Ladeeda, we can just be positive 100% of the time and only good things will come to us. All that yucky stuff from the past – I’m done with that now and all I have to do is think good thoughts and I will attract all my desires. Abracadabra!”

So allow me to bust that myth and empower you with a much more in-depth and practical approach:

1- Our past is important. Just as our current emotions are indicators of the distance between where we are at and where we want to be, our past is one of our teachers as well. We can – and indeed need to – turn our wounds into wisdom. Some of our life experiences we may label “good” or “positive,” we feel we were successful and these we can apply to continue to utilize and build upon what worked for us, while the so-called “negative” experiences or failures are also useful in several ways.

For one thing, we can clarify more clearly what, exactly we DO want by contrasting it with what we do NOT want anymore. This applies equally well to health and lifestyle choices, work, home, community, as well as relationships.

Secondly, we can learn psychologically and spiritually: What was my lesson in this?

Thirdly,we can discover, with proper reflection, which may include prayer, meditation, journaling, counseling, or even insightful conversations, that there was truly a silver lining, a gift in every experience we have had. Sometimes we don’t see it at the time, it feels horrible, we may even be devastated that that relationship or career didn’t work out, that we had that disability or lost our house, but ultimately, when we see through the eyes of Spirit and Love, we will always find that everything happened for a reason and we can find something to be grateful for, even if it’s just the ability to make a different choice next time.

2- Until we learn our lessons from the past, we are going to UNCONSCIOUSLY repeat them. This is true of humanity when we look at larger societal choices as well as on the personal level. Ignoring our past and zapping it like it didn’t even happen is not the solution. In fact, ignoring our past and stuffing it over there, oh, that’s too messy, I don’t want to deal with that right now, does not free us from it, it actually dooms us to repeat it.

3- The Abraham work says that our DOMINANT thought is the one that runs the show, and I agree with this. The catch is: Our dominant thought is seldom a conscious thought, so we cannot expect to simply push a button and “There, I’m only going to think good thoughts, feel good feelings and make good choices from now on.”

We have to heal all those billions of subconscious beliefs that we are carrying around which arose out – what? Our past experiences and programming, of course.

I do agree that many people spend far too much time simply repeating their “story,” which actually keeps them stuck in it and keeps giving it energy. There is a big difference between looping an old version of a reality we no longer want, whining about it, being a drama king/queen, vs. actually being willing to visit the past (with support if necessary) with the intention of looking in the mirror, releasing what no longer serves, with forgiveness, finding the lesson and gift in it, and moving confidently forward into a better life we are creating for ourselves, from the inside out.

Do we need to look at our past? Absolutely.Do we need to keep telling it over and over? Absolutely not.

4- We need to process stuck emotions. Sometimes we need to move some rage. Shake off some old energy. Sometimes we need to express ourselves to someone, forgive, be forgiven, and it doesn’t matter if they’re alive or dead or whether their human self is willing to hear a word we are saying. We just talk to their Higher Self, soul to soul. We look in the mirror and show them a mirror as well. I have an extensive guided meditation and energy healing journey that I guide people through called the Healing Past Relationships Journey (soon to be available as a CD/MP3 audio) which facilitates this soul-to-soul communication, energy exchange, forgiveness and healing. Or you may be able to do it for yourself, perhaps by writing a letter or through ceremony. We need to visit our past just enough to learn from it and to heal it, not rehash it or keep talking about it for decades.

We also need to forgive ourselves. And forgive God!

The work I do as an energy healer, intuitive, hypnotherapist and life coach focuses on identifying the current condition of your Body, Mind, Heart and Soul and creating a complete, intuitively guided healing program that empowers you to remember who you really are, to love and heal yourself completely, and to clarify your vision and reawaken your passion, power and life purpose — to create the life and love of your dreams. I am a Law of Attraction coach, and people often begin working with me when they realize (see with Real Eyes) that they are working so dang hard on themselves, have been for years, yet something is still stuck. They are willing, finally, to do what it takes to really succeed, so we go places, often in the first session, that completely amazes them.

5- We need to heal core issues and heal on all levels.

For example, some of my recent clients have improved their relationships, found lasting love, launched their heart-centered business, created more harmony in their parenting or other family relationships…..In every case, we needed to do some deep CORE ISSUE healing at the level of the SOUL and the ENERGY FIELD, the kind of healing that is more difficult to do by one’s self when we are emotionally caught up in our “stuff,” scared, frustrated and depleted.

I do sometimes have clients who try to turn the sessions into talk therapy and keep going on and on about their problems. They are stuck in their story. So I ask them, “Do you want to talk about it or do you want to heal it?” If they keep wanting to talk about it, they are not ready for the kind of healing I do. If they want to heal it, I can help them heal themselves but we have to go much deeper than just talking. Deep omnidimensional energy healing at the soul level i.e. soul retrieval, regression, rebirthing, hypnotherapy/NLP, ceremony, forgiveness work, can be extremely helpful, especially if a person is unable to break free of an old belief/energy. We shift the energy & belief at the original cause and core. I channel empowering self-healing techniques they can do on their own to continue the healing and keep building the positive energy.

We don’t ever have to be 100% healed, nor is that even possible so long as we are human. But we need to be healed enough to be free to focus on what we do want, move forward and create from an aligned, clear, positive state of being and love.

6- ALIGN, ATTRACT, ACT.

People so caught up in the Law of Attraction who simply read a few books, go to a few workshops, watch a couple of movies, often fail to understand that trying to get into ACTION mode before you are ALIGNED does not work. Law of Attraction works – once we are aligned with our desires. If some part of our subconscious mind or energy field is still playing the tape of a limiting, negative belief, we are not going to be able to just attract what we want, no matter how many affirmations we say or vision boards we make!

7 – I want to make one more point about the past and this concept of time. We can only live in one time: the present. We need to heal and learn from our past and draw upon its power, we need to envision and align with our best future, and yet we can only live right here, right now. All times exist in this moment of choice: now.

I personally feel we need to spend MOST of our attention right here, where we live. In this body. On this planet. Enjoying this life to the fullest. Mindful. Heartful. Soulful. Bodyful. Beautiful! When we work with the concept of time as fluid and simultaneous and quantum rather than linear, we find that every moment is a portal home.

We can also change our past shamanically, redream it. This helps us create our best future as well. This can be done through shamanic trance healing and/or conscious dreaming.

We each have the power to facilitate miraculous healing and success beyond our wildest imagination. We don’t have to spend years healing the past. We can heal it in an instant, or it may take several months or longer, but if we go deep enough and work at the level of the soul, core beliefs and original causes, the quantum and cosmic fields and on all levels, if we do this work with a vibration of love for ourselves and all beings, we will grow into being who we came here to be.

I love the Abraham work but sometimes a phrase taken by itself does not present the complexities of the spiritual nature of the Universe. True healing and conscious creation of our lives will always involve navigating the territory of our past with loving kindness and forgivness, with an open mind and a willingness to learn and grow so we can create an even better future. And we can do this today.

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Hey guys, I just got this today

and personally I found this to be very heartwarming.

The title of the post is a little section I took from this story.

It’s worth reading, so READ it

Hope you like it as much as I do ^^

I was introduced to the concept of “let it go” as it relates to success and money by a young entrepreuner who is a successful multimillionaire. He is half my age and yet, at such a young age he understands that wealth and success are transient.  Most of us are conditioned in just the opposite way of thinking. Some of the most wealthy people in the world, are the most insecure. I believe it’s important to “go with the flow” of universal intelligence. For example, we take in a breath and inhale oxygen and then exhale CO2 which is then utilized by trees to produce more oxygen for us to take in our next breath. It’s a cyclic process of life. The more we are in harmony with this process, the easier our life is….

How much is my heart worth?

Do the walks and talks pay my debt?

Do the hours of poems forgive my rent?

How much is my heart worth?

Do the I love yous let me free?

Does my priceless love for you carry over to me?

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