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Don't Go It Alone: It's Okay to Ask For Help

There’s a strange attitude that many people seem to have drilled into them from a very early age that asking for help from the people around them is somehow a sign of weakness. 530 more words

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Don’t Go It Alone: It’s Okay to Ask For Help

Be honest with others that you're struggling

You don’t have to be a lone wolf. Friends and family can help you. Pexels, CC0 License.

There’s a strange attitude that many people seem to have drilled into them from a very early age that asking for help from the people around them is somehow a sign of weakness. As though the only way to live your life properly is to never need anyone else and be completely independent all of the time. Sure, there’s something a little bit romantic about the idea of being a lone wolf who doesn’t need anyone else to get by, but actually living your life like that is not only difficult but it’s also incredibly lonely. A good life is one where you’re willing to reach out to other people and understand the importance of accepting help when it’s offered to you. However, because of how we’re all trained to want to be independent, it’s not always easy. In order to get past that, here are some ways to make it easier to ask for help.

Be honest about the problem

If something is wrong, then you’re never really going to get anywhere until you’re actually able to admit that fact and identify what the root of the problem is. One of the things that can strain many relationships, both romantic and otherwise, is the inability for people to be open and honest with each other when they’re struggling. This isn’t just a matter of people not being truthful with each other, but it’s also a matter of not being honest with themselves either. Before you can reach out to the people around you, you’ve got to take the time to really understand what it is that’s causing the issue in the first place.

Point to solutions

It’s one thing being able to understand a problem; it’s something else entirely to know what the solution is. There are often plenty of different solutions, and many of them can only really work with the support of those around you, but if you don’t understand what you want to do in order to make things better, no one else can either. Whether it’s understanding that you’ve reached the stage where something like methadone treatment is the only option left for you, or even simply being aware that you need to start cutting certain things and people out of your life, only when you know can you help the people around you understand how they can best support you. Your friends and family might want to help in any way they can, but until they understand what you really need from them, there isn’t much that they can do.

Learn to listen

It’s important to be aware that, even if they have your best interests at heart, sometimes the things that your friends and family have to say aren’t going to be easy to hear. After all, no one likes to hear that some of their problems are their own fault and responsibility. But if you hide your head in the sand then things are only going to get worse. Make sure that you’re willing to listen to the people who care about you, even if the things that they have to say might sting.

Jury Hangs In The Retrial of Ray Tensing

Ray Tensing, the former University of Cincinnati police officer who fatally shot 43-year-old Sam DuBose in July 15, 2015, first went to trial for voluntary manslaughter and murder in 2016. 463 more words

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Obscene: Bill Cosby Planning To Tour Country Teaching About Sexual Assault | Alternet

According to two of his spokespeople, Bill Cosby is planning to tour the country holding seminars on sexual assault, and more specifically, how to avoid going to court on charges. 66 more words

Sexual Assault

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Obscene: Bill Cosby Planning To Tour Country Teaching About Sexual Assault

Just what we need.
 According to two of his spokespeople, Bill Cosby is planning to tour the country holding seminars on sexual assault, and more specifically, how to avoid going to court on charges. Cosby flacks Andrew Wyatt and Ebonee Benson appeared on "Good Morning Alabama" on Tuesday to announce that Cosby is “ready to get back to work” following a mistrial in his sexual assault case. He plans to do that by lecturing young people about the best way to avoid being accused of sex abuse. “We are now planning town halls, and we’re going to be coming to this city sometime in July,” Wyatt said in the segment, below. “We’ll talk to young people, because this is bigger than Bill Cosby. This issue can affect any young person, especially young athletes of today, and they need to know what they’re facing when they’re hanging out and partying. When they’re doing certain things that they shouldn’t be doing.” Wyatt chuckled as he stated that the lesson “affects married men, too.” Kudos to host Janice Rodgers for walking right through the door Wyatt accidentally left open. “Is it kind of a do as I say and not as I do situation?” the host asked, leaving Wyatt visibly stunned and too taken off guard to come up with a quick response. Benson contributed by pushing the bunk idea that rape and sexual assault are overprosecuted, with accusations made in cases that clearly don’t meet the bar. She also suggested that since whiny rape survivors are so insistent on seeking justice, days and even years after their lives have been irreversibly affected by sexual assault, people have to be wary. “Laws are changing. The statutes for victims of sexual assault are being extended,” Benson added. “So this is why people need to be educated on a brush against the shoulder—anything at this point can be considered sexual assault, and it’s a good thing to be educated about the law.” The outlet Deadline spoke about Cosby’s planned tour with Gloria Allred, who is “representing several other women among the more than 60 who have said that Cosby drugged and sexually assaulted them.” She didn’t mince words in calling out the ridiculousness of the undertaking. “Mr. Cosby’s so-called workshops appear to be a transparent and slick effort to attempt to influence the jury pool from which jurors will be selected for his second criminal trial,” Allred told the outlet. “Mr. Cosby should understand, however, that this is not about optics...It is about evidence and according to news reports at least 10 jurors out of 12 voted to convict him on one felony count.” “Under the circumstances Mr. Cosby should not be conducting sex assault workshops, but if he does do them then the best advice he can give to those attending is that if you do not drug and sexually assault women, then you need not worry about being charged with a crime,” Allred added.
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Kali Holloway is a senior writer and the associate editor of media and culture at AlterNet.

RANT: Police are killing black folks, and I have the right to be pissed the fuck off!

WARNING: There will be shitloads of profanity involved, but I’m just exercising my muthafucking freedom of speech.

I’ve been following the story of Philando Castile’s murder… 586 more words

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RAY TENSING RETRIAL - MISTRIAL DECLARED AGAIN

Published on Jun 23, 2017

Ray Tensing judge declares mistrial in Tensing's second trial in the shooting of Sam Dubose.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kag0-iN0Vfo&t=20s
Cincinnati city leaders discuss second mistrial in Ray Tensing case
Published on Jun 23, 2017

Mayor John Cranley and Cincinnati city leaders addressed the public Friday after a second mistrial was declared in the Ray Tensing case.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YZ91NCCq9k0&t=21s
Yvette Simpson reacts to Ray Tensing's second mistrial
Published on Jun 23, 2017

Cincinnati Councilwoman Yvette Simpson reacts to the mistrial of former University of Cincinnati officer Ray Tensing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzJHzlRLLAE&t=20s
Ray Tensing's jurors said they were basically split
Published on Jun 23, 2017

The Ray Tensing murder retrial has ended in another hung jury, meaning jurors were unable to reach a unanimous verdict in the case.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXJimkP8ylM&t=21s Second mistrial declared for Ray Tensing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m34LfE5Q9l0&t=37s

Jury Deadlocks in Ohio Cop's Murder Retrial

Published on Jun 23, 2017

A second mistrial was declared in the case of a white University of Cincinnati officer who killed an unarmed black motorist during a traffic stop. (June 23)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yjscobjsogc&t=16s

Police are killing black folks, and I have the right to be pissed the fuck off!

murdered-by-the-police WARNING: There will be shitloads of profanity involved, but I’m just exercising my muthafucking freedom of speech. I’ve been following the story of Philando Castile’s murder and the expected yet disappointing acquittal Jeronimo Yanez, the cop who shot him. In fact, I’ve kept an eye for similar police slayings of unarmed black folks, and most incidents always come from the basis of “fear”. “The officer were scared as hell and reacted by pumping rounds into the defenseless bodies of thugs.” And the reason is always justified by letting those killer cops go free, never facing a harsh prison sentence or any sentence at all. We’ve seen this bullshit with Betty Jo Shelby when she shot Terence Crutcher to death. We saw this when Timothy Loehmann shot Tamir Rice, a 12 year-old child, by the way! And we saw it with Randall Kerrick who he shot Jonathan Farrell. And these are just a few examples, examples of the bitchassness that eventually gave rise to the Black Lives Matter movement. But fucktards who think the movement is anti-white and anti-cop will not allow the simple ass premise of causation to be held in account, because that will go against their political and racial philosophies. They will engage in the usual victim blaming crap we have to deal with every fucking time this happens. “But if blacks weren’t so violent…If blacks didn’t look threatening…What about black-on-black crime?” To them, I say SHUT UP! SHUT UP! SHUT THE FUCK UP! Your victim blaming only shows your cowardice proving you’re the scariest people on Earth. And don’t even try to argue with your ploy to bring balance to the conversation. Most of you only want to tell us what to think and feel and expect us to be happy about it. Fuck that and fuck you! Black folks…well, MOST black folks, are sick and tired of that shit. Black people are telling you not to be such douchebags and develop a human soul. We’re asking you to listen to us and try to understand why we’re mad as fuck. Some of us do it in a way that doesn’t hurt your fragile fee-fees while the rest of us don’t give two fucks and will say it however the fuck we want to. The latter doesn’t have any more time or patience to bend over backwards to keep your goofy asses calm while our people are being gunned down and murdered excessively. FUCK THAT CIVIL AND RESPECTABLE BULLSHIT! Besides, we’re just using our First Amendment rights, isn’t that right alt-right, or is that something only you deplorable dickheads can use because you’re supposedly so oppressed? Dafuck outta here! The numerous police murders of black folks and other groups of people including white folks should get you upset. But no, asking you to use your conscience is like requesting you to cut off your foot. You can’t do it. To some of you, that’s something only bleeding hearts, liberals and snowflakes do, amirite? This blog and this article alone is enough for you to rain down your pestilence of hate-fueled condemnation. And you wonder why the world thinks your kind is beyond pathetic and ponder about if your knuckles bleed or not when you walk. This article is contains my thoughts and opinions, and I’m angry that another cop walks away for killing an unarmed black person, because he was so scary. If you don’t get why I and many people are fed up, you can go to hell. I’m sure you’ll feel right at home there.

MAKER FUN FACTORY VBS 2017

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