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NRE and the end of the world as we know it

The musings o’day, because relevancy: the nature of real love and the end of new relationship energy (NRE).

I have a newish relationship in which that joyous, heady, sexy NRE bubble recently burst. 591 more words

Compersion & Envy/Jealousy

Compersion is a complicated thing for me.

Let’s start out with the simple stuff.

The definition of compersion according to Wiktionary is:

  1. The feeling of joy one has experiencing another’s joy, such as in witnessing a toddler’s joy and feeling joy in response.
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The Two Sides of the Metamour Coin

When I first began my polyamory journey, I wasn’t equipped to be the primary partner in a non-monogamous, long distance, BDSM relationship, nor was I equipped to be a metamour. 936 more words


Meeting Her

I met Feathers’ former primary partner. They were together 5 years.. same time span Spouse and I were together. They are still trying to navigate what their relationship looks like now. 407 more words


Trust & Personal Boundaries

Trust is one of the most important aspects of any polyamorous relationship. Well, of any fulfilling relationship really. I’ve written a little bit about it before but lately it’s been popping up again and again like it’s a lesson that needs to be remembered by rote learning. 652 more words


Apartment Hunting While Poly

E and I are trying to move. Don’t get me wrong, I love my apartment, but between commuting to work everyday, commuting across town every time I see D, and my insatiable rootlessness it makes sense to move to a different neighborhood. 505 more words

The past 2 or so weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about T and missing his quiet, level-headed presence. On Friday night, The Cream got together at T’s house to catch up. 249 more words