It’s 3pm and the crying starts again. My 3-months-shy-of-3-year old son, Jason is having a rough day. This time he’s upset because he wants Mummy, and not Daddy, to wash him up after using the toilet. 555 more words
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Imagine you have an argument with a friend. They are standing in front of you, angry, maybe raising their voice, clearly upset. And you just hand them a newspaper, point out an article about deep-sea corals and say “here, see, isn’t this interesting?”. 112 more words
As most of you who read this blog know, I’m a stickler for words and definitions. One of the places in which this comes up most frequently is in regard to “consequences.” It’s not that I like being annoying, it’s that I just can’t help myself from commenting on this. 2,435 more words
I acknowledge it is so difficult to be the unruffled strong leader that our children may always trust to be their guiding star... We, parents, are human (not Supermen) and human often means having weaknesses: our own experience as children, traumas, everyday stress, irrational emotional reactions and inertia in our parenting style. As a mother I often find myself struggling to apply what I know is right versus what I've learned or internalized from my own experience as a child and the reactions resulting from an emotional turmoil at a particular moment. It is not easy to free oneself from reacting in an automatical way and apply parental wisdom instead. Not for most at least. And that is why (appart from ignorance) we often resort to punishmets when children are "misbehaving" (or maybe just doing what they are supposed to do at their age: like exploring how gravity works in practice through food throwing experiments...). However, our own experiences with kids often prove punishment is not really preventing children from repeating undesired behaviors. So then... what to do instead? This article is explaining the difference between using natural, logical and illogical consequences of children's behavior as parenting means. I must admit one would need more preparatory reading if one has not encountered the concept of "natural consequences" before so I intend posting a link to articles that would be helpful for understanding this one better. However, I found this article really worth sharing with you earler than that as it does capture the essence of the core differences between allowing natural or logical consequences to happen and benefits of such parenting approach versus punishments. I always appreciate such reminders on my parenting journey - I have still such a long way to go untill being a mother my wonderful children deserve (not only the one they happened (or chose - depending on your beliefs :)) to be born to). So join me in collecting some useful knowledge that we could use as a map on the way and read on!