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When self-help can be social harm

Self-help is not a bad thing per se. Don’t get me wrong. But the very core of its ideology – that you need to look inwards to improve things for yourself, can be damaging. 985 more words

The Mothercoaster


I’ve realized a problem I have.

Today, a dear friend and I made plans to go see a movie tomorrow. About an hour ago, she texted me saying she couldn’t talk, but that she might not be able to make it. 344 more words

Mental Health

If You Have Survived...

Sometimes, the critical voices from all sides can be overwhelming to abuse victims (and non-victims, for that matter).  Other times, the criticism of a single loved one will become the inescapable voice in our heads. 275 more words

Child Abuse

Narcissistic Behavior 1: Sees Himself as Victim and Avoids Responsibility

The next few posts will be dedicated to illustrating the characteristics of narcissistic behavior and to pointing out how those characteristics were mirrored in my relationship with Mr. 1,506 more words


Effects of Being with Mr. Unavailable 2: Self-Doubt and Self-Blame

This is definitely going to be one of the most important posts I will write, given the fact that I’ve been dealing with self-doubts and low self-esteem for most of my life. 1,202 more words


Mindful Monday: Forgive and Forget

For years, I’ve carried the weight of self-blame for so much, whether or not it was “deserved.” I’m worn out and worn down. It’s literally making me ill, and so it must stop. 127 more words


there is a limit to what one can undertake

I am overwhelmed because of the things I need to take care in my life and mostly because of the things I need to take care of at work. 346 more words