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Self-Reference: Just Be

The day I learned that victims of emotional child abuse view life (behaviors in others & themselves) through a distorted filter, my perspective shifted. Like those memes floating around Instagram & Twitter (the mannequin project?), I felt the past 36 years of my life pause while I had a 360 degree view of what’s going on around me. 850 more words


Self-Reference: One Way

I woke up this morning, tired. I hadn’t slept well and when I did, I dreamt anxious dreams. Recovering from emotional child abuse — which is what this blog is about — involves quite a bit of emotional surfing. 676 more words


Self-Reference: Defining Values

I was given a task in my last counseling session to use my skill in quilting to make a “f*** you” quilt to help process some of the tougher emotions that were surfacing. 570 more words


Rounding the Corner

Today was my last day of work before a 5-day extended weekend surrounding Christmas.

This is the first year I’ve ever looked forward to spending Christmas alone, and I know it’s because I finally understand the root of my loneliness (emotional child abuse) and I’m finally rounding the corner in my recovery. 659 more words


Self-Reference: Rebuilding Worth

Emotional abuse is the systematic diminishment of another. It may be intentional or subconscious (or both), but it is always a course of conduct, not a single event.

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Demystifying Writing Myths

You don’t need to believe everything that goes through your head. This also applies when it comes to your ideas about how you should be as an academic writer, how the writing process should look, or how the text you produce should be. 1,244 more words

Being A Writer

A mind anticipating everything… A human mind… God’s mind.

Scientists have shown how the brain anticipates all of the new situations that it may encounter in a lifetime by creating a special kind of neural network that is ‘pre-adapted’ to face any eventuality. 80 more words