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An Open Letter To The "Pastors" and "Elders" In Classis NM

Note: I have been advised to tone down the invective a bit as my father still needs to be “approved” for ministry by the men to whom this is addressed. 1,467 more words

Christian Reformed Church

How To Leave a Narcissistic Environment 

This video brought so much clarity to my situation and helped me understand why I didn’t leave my unhealthy environment earlier than I did.  I thought a “meeting” with talking points was the way to get out.   460 more words

Real Community

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 ESV

Two years ago, our family packed up all that we had (which was a lot!) and moved to a new place almost five hours away from the place we’d called home our entire lives to start over. 1,111 more words


Pumpkins and Purple Hearts: October for the Wounded Minister

About a year ago my father preached his last sermon at A. Christian Reformed Church. The clergy-killing undertaken months before was then nearing its completion as far as the church was concerned (it continues in his treatment by the Classis), with him being “suspended”, then fired, shortly thereafter. 2,687 more words

Christian Reformed Church

Dabbling in doubt: a plea to my church

Weeks ago, it was announced that the next small group study would cover a series of “pressure points” – that is, a series discussing difficult questions and circumstances that cause many Christians to stumble and question their faith, following the Sunday sermon on the same topics. 1,060 more words



This piece of paper–and the promises here–has been on my desk for the last many weeks as I write Soul Scents: Flourish. It’s the deepest journey I’ve been on in many years. 800 more words

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