You are such a victim that you do not recognize the others that share your pain. Instead all you observe is privilege around you even where privilege does not exist. 129 more words
I can relate to this article by OM so much right now. There are people who wear their victimhood as if it's a trophy and for that reason can never move on from their past and heal from abuse. I feel sorry for them because they don't realize they are letting their abusers win. The best revenge is to reject your victimhood, because that's exactly what your abusers DO NOT want to see. They want you to remain a victim all your life because they know their toxic message to you became internalized and is eating your soul to shreds. You being happy and well will drive them insane. For the record, I am not anti-victim, having been one myself for most of my life, but it shouldn't become a way of life either. There's a time to put it to rest and focus on becoming happy in spite of your past. Tragedy and abuse should never define who you are. The past can be used as common ground to connect with others who have suffered but then we should move on from it by learning from it and helping each other, but you are not your past. You weren't born to suffer in spite of what your abusers have told you. If you want to hang onto your victimhood forever, that's your right of course, but it's wrong to judge those who reject such a depressing and unhealthy philosophy.