I love this essay in The Washington Post by Susan Bonifant: “Our college son invited us to a beer pong party. Here’s why I accepted. 55 more words
I wonder if he likes taking long walks at night, or jogs in the morning I wonder what his favourite colour is, or what comes into his mind when it starts to rain, or if he’s into reading books or playing video games I wonder what kind of music he listens to, or the kind of books he reads (if he’s into books), or if he’d rather go to a party instead I wonder if his friends tease him about the girl he likes, or if he even likes a girl at the moment, or if he’s even into girls I’ll never know how he looks like while he’s sleeping, or when he wakes up and his eyes open for the day I won’t get to experience his touch, or know his scent, or wrap my arms around him I can’t run my fingers through his hair, or stare in his eyes, or feel his lips against mine We’ll never get to walk together at night, or take jogs in the morning We’ll never stay up late watching movies, or fall asleep in the middle of the day because of a concert All I want to do is lie down with him and count the stars, or go to the beach and sit by the sea But realizing this will never happen hurts me a lot because you’re so far away and there are other girls out there who are so much better You might’ve even forgotten me and moved on, even if there was nothing to move on about It’s just that I couldn’t imagine anyone else but you that I’d want to spend my life and grow old with I know one day you’ll find the love of your life and eventually marry her and she’ll be the luckiest girl in the world But you’re the love of my life, and I want to marry you too, and be your only one But I can’t. 33 more words
Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind.
We cultivate that capacity for “negative capability.” We live in a culture where one of the greatest social disgraces is not having an opinion, so we often form our “opinions” based on superficial impressions or the borrowed ideas of others, without investing the time and thought that cultivating true conviction necessitates. 57 more words